JONNYSPUTE:
...... This is a very difficult matter I must say.
I don't even know what to tell him but in whatever or however be plans on going about it. He should understand that lots of people will be affected.
May God grant him wisdom.

meobizy:

Fake story.

Klass99:




Fatherhood goes beyond ejaculating during sex, depositing sperm in a woman to create a foetusand whole human being. What other role have you played besides this to start claiming my daughter upandan like this?

Until Rita's husband decides to do a paternity test and eventually kicks her out because of the results, please face front and maintain your lane. This is what happens when you men take the whole slogan of "men are polygamous in nature" too far.

You knew she was in a relationship, you started one as well but both of you continued the straffing without condom.

Middleborn:


Look at the story, the timeline...it's true and its what has happened to me. The more I see that little girl, the more I see I'm the father. It's what I'm dealing with right now. Not every story you find hard to believe in untrue. I've had this bad feeling for months since I saw the little girls pictures, I just decided to post it today to know what people will advise.

JONNYSPUTE:
...... Please take it easy on him. I think he has realised that what they did then was wrong but you should also understand that
its going to be difficult for one to be aware he or she has a child somewhere yet can't get close to that child.
No be small matter oo.

Richy4:


The vibes he will create between those couple will be horrible to imagine..
And in a case it turns out that the child was not his, he would have succeeded in indirectly reporting the woman to the husband that the wife was two timing him those days... While his wife might forgive him, Rita's husband might not..

Mindlog:


Where I come from, even if the DNA results shows that OP (though a fake story) is the biological father, he can't claim the child, even if the marriage of the woman in question ends with the husband and he moves on, the child will bear the maternal grandfather's name, be it male or female.

Mindlog:


Where I come from, even if the DNA results shows that OP (though a fake story) is the biological father, he can't claim the child, even if the marriage of the woman in question ends with the husband and he moves on, the child will bear the maternal grandfather's name, be it male or female.

Richy4:


Yea.. I have heard something like that in one of the Nigerian movies we have watched some time ago..I thought that it was only a movie, I never knew it was real

Mindlog:


It is a fact. Though a painful reference, Davido had to bow to tradition by hastening Chioma's bride price in order to bury their son

Reason it is important for those who are #team baby daddy, to investigate where their intended babymama is from before setting out on a fruitless journey.

So Abuja marriage has consequences

Klass99:


My intent wasn't to be harsh but to be matter of fact with a different perspective on his situation. He allegedly has a child somewhere it has not be confirmed yet. Even if the child is his, is she suffering, being physically or sexually abused? If the answer is no, he needs to rest.

For now Rita's husband is the father of that child until he realizes he is not. Whether he realizes that in 5 years or 20 years from now, that is a different kettle of fish. But you men will continue to reap the consequences of your favourite slogan, for those who indulge every sexual urge.

Just look at the number of times he stressed how good and explosive the sex was in his post . I have asked you before, dem use sex swear for you people?

Middleborn:


I think to a great degree you do understand my situation. I feel so destroyed knowing she's my daughter and I can't care for her or protect her. I can't play a fatherly role to her. One thing Rita complained about her boyfriend then was that he doesn't have the time for her she needs....when I watch her WhatsApp status, I see that he's almost never present cos of work.

Richy4:


So Abuja marriage has consequences

Mindlog:


At least from my own part of the world, traditionally no room for baby mama, the child belongs to the man who married the mother or bears the name of his/her maternal grandfather. The girl will be married off from her grandfather's home while the boy, will also be eligible to inherit land within the family.....End of Discussion.

Richy4:

Mindlog:


Reason I laugh when I read here, suggestions by some Nairalander that if a woman's family is proving difficult regarding marital rites, the guy should sharply impregnate the lady, that would force the lady's family to agree to his terms, sha no be for my side....no pikin is a "bastard".

They do that in my hometown as well...It also serves as a measure to reduce bride price.. .

Your side got a really beautiful tradition... Especially given someone an identity.. That is the best gift ever ... When a man or woman knows that he or she has a root.. That confidence will always be there..

I wish all Nigerians can adopt that honestly...I hope it doesn't fade with time as technology is disturbing the peace of many nations around the world..

Foodqueen:
Na so.

Because she didn't practice that law of once bleeped can be refucked, or what do u guys call it.

U want to scatter her marriage, so that she will become your baby mama, so u could av access to her again all in the name of checking up on your daughter.

All those sperms you do throwaway with CDs, why not go and gather them together and look for your children among them.

GboyegaD:
When was the last time yourself and Rita got down together?
You may want to have a conversation with her. There's also the possibility of the baby been pre-term, her husband's baby etc. Stop creating confusion particularly in your head where there is no need for one.

Middleborn:


Ok, I know the possibility of the baby being her husband's and I have considered it. What makes the chances slim is that he'd travelled throughout the entire month of October, and in October, from my knowledge we had the highest number of sexual activity. He only came back early November, proposed to her and got married to her in December.

Coupled with the fact that the baby looks like me and my family and also has similar behavior with my daughter.
I know that a DNA test should be the only way to reveal the truth, but everything points the fact that she's my daughter.

Middleborn:
I'm a married man, been married for 3 years. I'm happy in marriage with a daughter who is a year and 6 months old.

Before I met my wife in August of 2018, i was in love with Rita, a beautiful and intelligent lady. I'd known her for some years but I've never been free to pursue a relationship with her, I was engaged to another, but it didn't work out. So, by April 2018, I broke up with my fiancee. I wasn't so affected by the break up cos at that time I had understood it wouldn't have worked out between us. After the break up, i ran into Rita and we hung out. I realised to my excitement that she was sweeter than I imagined. She was a beautiful soul and we kinda fit hand in glove. The problem was, she had a boyfriend and she wanted so much to end up with him. Now, she would prefer me to him in many aspects, but he was rich and I was, well, just there. That didn't stop her from giving herself to me. We made sweet love many times, mostly in my place. I was so in love cos for the first time I met a woman who loved love making as much as I did. Everytime, we had s*x raw. She was on daily pills. We would gist after making love and get aroused again and go on and on. I felt jealous each time her boyfriend would come to town and she has to go visit him. Once she consoled me by saying when she has sex with him, she's thinking about me. The thought of her being with him broke my heart, but she says to me "just enjoy all this while it lasts".

This carried on until August, at this time I realised I have to look for a girlfriend, someone I would get married to. So one time she came to my place, after we had s*x, I told her about some girls I planned to approach. She picked one for me her name was Angel. She said I should try that one. (Angel is my wife now). So I got to know Angel, asked her out and she said yes. During the early part of my relationship with Angel, Rita and I were still fu*king. Once, we lodged in a hotel and slept over, the s*x was mad, so sweet, at the time, I hadn't had it that sweet before. After then we would make love only twice before her boyfriend proposed to her suddenly. Even if I was determined to pursue the relationship with Angel, I was jealous she was engaged. But a week or two before the engagement I noticed Rita was unhappy and frustrated and I asked, but she waved it off. She got married on December 22, 2018 and I became more serious with Angel and got married to her in August of 2019.

Rita gave birth to a baby girl in July 4, 2019. This left me thinking, she was pregnant before she got married?. We hardly talk these days because Angel is a jealous wife. She doesn't like me to keep in touch with my female friends. So Rita and I talk sparsely. The thing that convinces me even more that her baby is mine is that, my daughter who is 1 year 6 months, she was born 15th of July 2021 looks exactly like Rita's daughter born 4th of July 2019. Both are carbon copies of my mum and younger sister. I think she knows and has refused to tell me. But why would she hide it from me? I don't even know what to do with this knowledge. This is my story. What do you guys think?

Middleborn:
■ Rita gave birth to a baby girl in July 4, 2019. This left me thinking, she was pregnant before she got married?. We hardly talk these days because Angel is a jealous wife. She doesn't like me to keep in touch with my female friends. So Rita and I talk sparsely. The thing that convinces me even more that her baby is mine is that, my daughter who is 1 year 6 months, she was born 15th of July 2021 looks exactly like Rita's daughter born 4th of July 2019. Both are carbon copies of my mum and younger sister. I think she knows and has refused to tell me. But why would she hide it from me? I don't even know what to do with this knowledge. This is my story. What do you guys think?

immanuelsize:
Mind your business because if you don't, both your marriage and that of rita will crash. If you want to destroy your marriage and that of rita's, tell rita that you need to do dna test to confirm whether that child is yours. After the dna test confirms that the child is yours, know that both marriages are destroyed!