I have caught my husband several times cheating on me, either he saves his concubines' phone numbers with a male name or he doesn't save but constantly chats with them even while I sleep beside him.

I would like to know if it's a common thing with men to crave for another woman and accept my fate.

No, it's not. I know men who do not cheat.


I know cheats will come and defend their colleague as usual.

folak48:
I have caught my husband several times cheating on me, either he saves his concubines' phone numbers with a male name or he doesn't save but constantly chats with them even while I sleep beside him.

I would like to know if it's a common thing with men to crave for another woman and accept my fate.

Not all men cheat, just as not all women cheat.

Anytime he cheats, he is deliberately making a choice as no one cheats by mistake.

Mindlog:


Not all men cheat, just as not all women cheat.

Anytime he cheats, he is deliberately making a choice as no one cheats by mistake.

Yes , he's been unrepentant since courtship.

folak48:
I have caught my husband several times cheating on me, either he saves his concubines' phone numbers with a male name or he doesn't save but constantly chats with them even while I sleep beside him.

I would like to know if it's a common thing with men to crave for another woman and accept my fate.

Cheating isn't general in men. You married a womanizer.

The fact here is that 90% of ladies who complain about their husbands cheating on them experienced such in their relationships, but turned a blind eye only to start complaining about it in marriage.

If you're going out with a man, pay close attention to his friends, if all they talk about is women, sex, alcohol...etc, no matter how hard your man tries to pretend to love only you, he's not in anyway different from his friends.

Same thing goes for ladies as well. This is why most guys find it difficult to marry a girl who cheated on them, they might accept her back if she's beautiful just for sex, but they won't marry her cos they know that she'll cheat again in marriage.

folak48:


Yes , he's been unrepentant since courtship.

His promiscuity was a waving red flag way back during your days of courtship but you were accepting his apologies and excuses, finally embraced it by marrying him.

Why should he change now? Manage your expectations.

No.

What fate are you accepting? He's CHOOSING to cheat because he wants to. It has nothing to do with fate, but a choice he makes. You don't have to put up with it, girl.

Trying to make yourself feel better that other men are cheating on their wives (which is false, by the way) isn't it. There are faithful men out there, but you chose to marry a cheater.

folak48:


Yes , he's been unrepentant since courtship.

He's not going to change if he has always been like this. Why did you go ahead with the marriage when you knew he was a cheater and and an unrepentant one at that? You don't see fire and walk into it.

Men and women see sex from different perspectives but self control is key, your husband lacks self control. He probably loves you and can’t trade you for anything but he can’t control his urges, you already knew that before you agreed to marry him unless you didn’t pay attention.

Solution
1. Pray for him and be patient (protect yourself while at it)
2. Leave the marriage

TheGoodAmerican:
No.

What fate are you accepting? He's CHOOSING to cheat because he wants to. It has nothing to do with fate, but a choice he makes. You don't have to put up with it, girl.

Trying to make yourself feel better that other men are cheating on their wives (which is false, by the way) isn't it. There are faithful men out there, but you chose to marry a cheater.


He's not going to change if he has always been like this. Why did you go ahead with the marriage when you knew he was a cheater and and an unrepentant one at that? You don't see fire and walk into it.

He profusely wept and begged and even came to beg me in the midnight, that was why I married him thinking he loved me.

missimelda01:
Men and women see sex from different perspectives but self control is key, your husband lacks self control. He probably loves you and can’t trade you for anything but he can’t control his urges, you already knew that before you agreed to marry him unless you didn’t pay attention.

Solution
1. Pray for him and be patient (protect yourself while at it)
2. Leave the marriage

Thank you

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ALL men are attracted to multiple women. It's natural.

The men that don't follow through on the attraction are constrained by something: religion, finances, skill or strong personal habits of decision.

folak48:
I have caught my husband several times cheating on me, either he saves his concubines' phone numbers with a male name or he doesn't save but constantly chats with them even while I sleep beside him.

I would like to know if it's a common thing with men to crave for another woman and accept my fate.

GodHimself:
ALL men are attracted to multiple women. It's natural.

The men that don't follow through on the attraction are constrained by something: religion, finances, skill or strong personal habits of decision.

Hmmm, the reason for creating the thread.

GodHimself:
ALL men are attracted to multiple women. It's natural.

The men that don't follow through on the attraction are constrained by something: religion, finances, skill or strong personal habits of decision.

Falsehood. "ALL" men are not.

A man can love and still cheat on you because he wants to taste a different kpekus not because he doesn't love you or anything.

most men are like this tho.

MrDetermined:
A man can love and still cheat on you because he wants to taste a different kpekus not because he doesn't love you or anything.

most men are like this tho.

Same old tale, a man can love you and still cheat on you.....this is the mindset being passed around and used to rationalize lack of self-control and normalizing women accepting infidelity.....very cheap.🤣🤣🤣

Mindlog:


Same old tale, a man can love you and still cheat on you.....this is the mindset being passed around and used to rationalize lack of self-control and normalizing women accepting infidelity.....very cheap.🤣🤣🤣

you can believe what you want to my dear, the above is solely based on my personal opinion.

MrDetermined:


you can believe what you want to my dear, the above is solely based on my personal opinion.

Of course, we all have our personal opinions which does not mean, they are FACTS. Women also have the capacity to cheat with different mean and still claim to love you because women also have the capacity to compartmentalize.

During my undergrad days, for my course in Human Sexuality, I had to visit a red light district for my term paper and spoke with some ladies working the streets and many claim to have boyfriends who are even well aware they are into prostitution. That aside from the money being made, the variety of men they get to sleep with is arousing BUT their boyfriends remain the love of their lives

Some of them claim that what they engage in, serves as an aphrodisiac to their boyfriends during sex

folak48:


Hmmm, the reason for creating the thread.

Madam, you knew what you are into, as Oga was and still is a prolific player. Please, allow Oga to flex.

Mindlog:


Of course, we all have our personal opinions which does not mean, they are FACTS. Women also have the capacity to cheat with different mean and still claim to love you because women also have the capacity to compartmentalize.

During my undergrad days, for my course in Human Sexuality, I had to visit a red light district for my term paper and spoke with some ladies working the streets and many claim to have boyfriends who are even well aware they are into prostitution. That aside from the money being made, the variety of men they get to sleep with is arousing BUT their boyfriends remain the love of their lives

Some of them claim that what they engage in, serves as an aphrodisiac to their boyfriends during sex

don't you think that's a different thing you talking about? Men who play a way package only have one or two but prostitues are just a different thing altogether.

folak48:
I have caught my husband several times cheating on me, either he saves his concubines' phone numbers with a male name or he doesn't save but constantly chats with them even while I sleep beside him.

I would like to know if it's a common thing with men to crave for another woman and accept my fate.

No, it isn't! It is a choice make by selfish individuals.

Not all men cheat and so if you have a mam who cheats on you it is because he does not regard you as a person worth respecting.

folak48:
Yes , he's been unrepentant since courtship.

Then why did you continue with a man who has no obvious respect for you? Do you think you will die if you don't marry this particular man?,

missimelda01:
Men and women see sex from different perspectives but self control is key, your husband lacks self control. He probably loves you and can’t trade you for anything but he can’t control his urges, you already knew that before you agreed to marry him unless you didn’t pay attention.

Solution
1. Pray for him and be patient (protect yourself while at it)
2. Leave the marriage

God doesn't answer such foolish prayers. Your churches are filled to the brim with women all saying such prayers, some spending most of their youth in vain..

folak48:
He profusely wept and begged and even came to beg me in the midnight, that was why I married him thinking he loved me.

Well, so are you going to accept that a cheater is all you are worth in life then?

MrDetermined:


don't you think that's a different thing you talking about? Men who play a way package only have one or two but prostitues are just a different thing altogether.

They are not because they both compartmentalize. It is the same "I can sleep with other people, but you are still the one I love" as it is also applicable to ladies who are in committed relationship s but have one or two side pieces by the side, to cool off.

Mindlog:


They are not because they both compartmentalize. It is the same "I can sleep with other people, but you are still the one I love" as it is also applicable to ladies who are in committed relationship s but have one or two side pieces by the side, to cool off.

if you say so.

Kobojunkie:
No, it isn't! It is a choice make by selfish individuals.

Not all men cheat and so if you have a mam who cheats on you it is because he does not regard you as a person worth respecting.

This is a valid point sir.

Mindlog:


Falsehood. "ALL" men are not.

Actually all men are attracted to other women. It's just that not all men follow act on the attraction for the reasons that quoted post gave. It's natural.

That isn't an excuse to cheat though because commitment means giving up philandering ways.

Marvyx:


Actually all men are attracted to other women. It's just that not all men follow act on the attraction for the reasons that quoted post gave. It's natural.

That isn't an excuse to cheat though because commitment means giving up philandering ways.

Human sexuality is not only split along homosexuality, heterosexuality and bisexuality. There are people who are neither attracted to the other gender nor their own gender, they are only sexually attracted to themselves.

Personal choice, not a general choice.

Marvyx:


Actually all men are attracted to other women. It's just that not all men follow act on the attraction for the reasons that quoted post gave. It's natural.

That isn't an excuse to cheat though because commitment means giving up philandering ways.

I think I'd rather leave rather than be sharing a community dick because men don't tolerate infidelity in women too. More so it shows lack of respect.
Thanks for your contributions.

Mindlog:


Human sexuality is not only split along homosexuality, heterosexuality and bisexuality. There are people who are neither attracted to the other gender nor their own gender, they are only sexually attracted to themselves.

Probably but those guys are on the divide. I'm talking generally.