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These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Nobody: 7:39pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
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Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Weirdcamila: 7:42pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Run away . This things are simple . Run I mean run first , run from the marriage . Anything that mess with your mental peace . RUN 23 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by gasparpisciotta: 7:44pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Marriages like this they tire person. Why can’t you go to that your Pastor and relay all these issues to him, he might need to invite your husband for amicable way out of your present predicament. At least he needs to improve on his family support arrangement and caution his daughter from making things uneasy for you. And if things don’t improve get family members involved. I am anti separation but it doesn’t mean you have to suffer endlessly. Try all available avenues to bring him to a round table discussion before you take any extreme measure. My sister, are you ibo? 17 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Shalommy(f): 7:52pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Chaii.. I no fit read this kind story. Abeg wetin Op dey yarn? 1 Like |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by yrhuhfy113: 7:52pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Makakween: I CAN PAY YOU 100K to slap the useless pastor for me. KAI.... so you are going through all these and THE PASTOR is not intervening anymore? This is sad. As for this marriage, you need a break, you need to vanish from the house and let the girl take care of her father. So you can have your peace. Save enough money before you return home.... let your husband beg with a written agreement before you return home.... get a lawyer on standby before you return home. Its well. You just have to be strong enough to make hard but needed choices. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by pstemma1990: 7:56pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
I believe u have family, report to ur family first... If your parents are still alive, u can go and stay with them till u put to bed.... Don't kill yourself because of marriage, because when u are no more, ur husband may not even wait for 1 year before remarrying.... There is no marriage in heaven... And finally, when u finally put to bed, make sure u don't take in again unti u are financially stable. 10 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Sweetvie: 7:57pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Marriage is not by force. Your mental health is more important. 7 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Mindlog: 8:04pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Raise money for transporting yourself and your daughter back to your family. On the day you are leaving, better on a weekday when his daughter from his first marriage has gone to school, call your husband on the phone and inform him you are leaving and tell him where you will be leaving the house keys, it will be left for him to make arrange who would take of his daughter upon her return from school. Even if he comes begging with 100 Pastors, never you ever return to that marriage because it is not even one but bondage, just negotiate with him sending upkeeps for the daughter you had with him and your pregnancy. 11 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by nicerod(m): 8:06pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Where is the pastor that said u should marry him? So mean you can't leave the church when they said you should marry ur husband? What about your parents? Your relatives nko? There was never love in the marriage when you born find ur way out of that marriage and move 6 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by phorget(m): 8:16pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Pastor palaver |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Michelle55: 8:19pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
How people stay in marriages that ain't working out no matter how hard they try these days still baffles me, does it mean that without the marriage and the need to bear Mr or Mrs, you can't survive or be happy on your own? Take a break if you need to, your mental health is paramount at this point and that should be your concern. Take the next bus home back to your family with your daughter, and surround yourself with people who are happy to have you in their lives no matter how bad the economy of the country is. Listen, marriage is never a do-or-die affair! If you are tired, get out and breathe in the fresh air and a new start of life also remember that there is no marriage in heaven so if you like die on top say you wan stay married, the man go remarry after 6 months. 7 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Foodqueen(f): 8:53pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Most step children don't wish their step mom well. They always see you as the woman that made their mom not to be present. Una de try sha.... 2 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Nobody: 8:55pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
yrhuhfy113:The pastor has stopped picking my calls but is still in communication with my husband,he even told me nobody can separate us except the pastor,I have left him for God to judge he obviously did it because of money only God knows. 2 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Nobody: 8:57pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
gasparpisciotta:No, the pastor doesn't pick my calls anymore,I just don't trust anyone bearing pastor till today I am scared of them. 1 Like |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Nazgul: 8:59pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
* You married a divorcee you didn't love. * You knew you had no iota of love for him, but because your pastor who wouldn't live with you convinced you, - you accepted and decided to marry someone you had zero feelings for. * You didn't bother to ask why he left his marriage, you didn't bother to find out why his previous wife abandoned her daughter for him and ran away, you just dived into his house. * Considering how difficult the economy is, you couldn't even tell him to open a business for you before marrying you, so that you wouldn't be 100% dependant on him. Cos from your narrative, your job contributes almost zero to your welfare. I'm going to be very honest with you. From what I read, you were just desperate to get married, and didn't care about who you were getting married to. Your attempt to blame your pastor for joining you two is pathetic cos no one pulled a gun on your head and forced you to marry him. You willingly accepted to become his wife, so accept full responsibility of your actions and stop blaming your pastor. My advice...Take a break for the sake of your mental health and leave that house, you can choose to go back to your parents house. If he's still interested in you, let him come for you, if not, focus on your pregnancy so that you can have a safe delivery. 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Nobody: 9:07pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
pstemma1990:I have told them already,I don't have much family that supports except my two siblings,they are even sad over the matter,I am still confused until today I still don't understand what happened,hmm as for the sitting him down to talk to him,he will always tell me pastor said you should be submissive to your husband,my opinions are never taken,I tried telling his family he said the day I try that I will die cos he's my husband and he's more experienced than me to tell me what to do. All the people I begged to talk to him are telling me that in marriage, there's no need for third party, just endure and pray he will change, hmmm. 1 Like |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Duchessree(f): 9:11pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
With the way you're complaining here, i can see why his first marriage didn't work. What do you mean by "you couldn't say no , because they've planned the marriage already" Go and meet the pastor that recommended both of you and complain to him. Na wa o🤐🤐🤐🤐 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Lastpharoah33: 9:17pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Mindlog: You made a lot of sense, but her leaving that house means she has the financial capability to sustain her for a long period of time. All I see is a helpless, frustrated pregnant woman. Mistaking lust for true love should be a topic for another day 🚶🚶 6 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Mindlog: 9:19pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Lastpharoah33: "I go hungry most days drinking the garri I begged for 2 days, nobody knows how I have been feeding,I feel I have been too foolish by covering up this stupid marriage".....A pregnant woman who is already drinking garri, while still with her husband...how worse can it get?🤔 5 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by pstemma1990: 9:28pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Makakween:prayers doesn't change one's character.... Since u don't have much family members, just try ur possible best and put urself in order... And once u finally put to bed, don't take in again until u are financially stable.... Arangee marriage has it's own negative sides, and don't bother reporting him to the pastor again... Because as it stands now, since it was the pastor that joined u both together, he'll want to make sure that u remain there at all cost. 1 Like |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by weslay: 9:28pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
If it's your daughter that behaves like your daughter in-law, will you treat her the same way? You heard from outside what she tells people. Did you confront her and try to correct her? Madam, you made you choice. Don't put the blame on your Pastor. |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Lastpharoah33: 9:35pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Makakween: This is not true! Your mental health should be paramount here. Osinachi, the late gospel singer endured but somehow couldn't live to tell the tale! 1 Like |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Michelle55: 9:41pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Lastpharoah33: Let her keep enduring until her name turns to Endurance Nwachukwu, it's only in Nigeria married women/men in abusive marriage tries to cover up by staying married just to be counted among those that aren't divorced yet like it's some kinda award winning trophies. They should continue, we are watching!😏 7 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Nobody: 9:59pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
You giving birth to females isn't your fault, but it's his fault since his sperms are the ones carrying the gender of the babies conceived. So don't let him make you feel bad for having daughters because it's his sperms that are giving you those daughters. 6 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by superCleanworks(m): 10:01pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
ouu |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Kasdat5(m): 10:35pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Park your load to the pastor that recommended the marriage for you &; refuse to leave on no condition , if he insist to leave , go cause trouble @ the church he pastors on a Sunday . You have to be violent sometimes 7 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by onumadu: 11:12pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Makakween: Just because someone is a pastor does not automatically qualify them to recommend a husband or wife to you. You should only listen to yourself (your own gut feelings) when making such serious decisions. Pastors don't hold exclusive license to God. God speaks to EVERYONE. The reason most people don't hear God themselves is because they don't listen. People don't listen to God, but end up listening to pastors whose standing with God is not known. God is in your gut. 2 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by mylove4God(f): 11:20pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Na WA ooo. This is so painful. I wonder how people allow a forever event to be arranged for them. The pastor has back out now and you are not happy. Please leave the marriage for the main time. Go home and have your peace of mind because I am sure that your husband will quickly remarry if you are no more. I pray God make a way for you. 4 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by TheboyGhost(m): 11:24pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Makakween: Please leave the sucker of husband and move on with your life in a different city and locality... Forget he ever existed biko... What nonsense 😠😠😠 2 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by sisisioge: 11:29pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Orisirisi! Simple matter being complicated by you. Who are the people you were talking to when there was someone or some set of people who planned or arranged the marriage in the first place? Madam, if the child were yours, you would be letting her go without feeding her sometimes? Hian! 1. Tell your pastor what is happening, let them talk to you and the husband together. They are your best bet for some sanity. 2. Agree that he buys the foodstuff and everything you need in the house going forward. You just cook and settle small bills in the house. 3. Let him give his daughter pocket money directly so she can manage her own finances by herself. 4. Never ever let a child go hungry under your roof biko and try to talk to her. Be transparent and allow her the grace to manage her own funds too. It teaches children the value of money. 5. Get proper family planning. This cannot be over stressed and it's free. If the marriage isn't working after all this....happily take a hike biko and hold the arrangers responsible by making sure the contribute to the children's upkeep from time to time. Good luck. 2 Likes |
Re: These Is Breaking Me,i Need Someone To Talk To!!! by Nobody: 12:26am On Feb 03, 2023 |
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