BloomingDale:


Probably to look after the children while she’s at work.

Princessdainty:
Nothing dey outside my brother.
You own small compared to the real marital issues out there.

I think you're threatened by your wif's earnings.
A Black man don't like to see a Black Woman at the top. And you may continue to whine, nag and think like a clown until lose your wife to a better person (man or woman).

You get wife wey dey earn 800k and you want her to have sex with you everyday?
Cook!
be mom to your two sons
be a w.h.o.r.e in bed.
be a good wife to your family members.
be all good and all you do is..what!? Remind me again!?

Y'all need to come to terms that if you want traditional values, you can't have it with Capitalism at the brisk of getting it. .

Who's the perfect person? You? Me? oh yo mama!?..

You do, you're damned, you don't do, you're still damn.
Your wife dey go church, not club o, not party with friends o.
Just a metime away from your drama and the kids.

Marry a Black man at your own peril.
These set of homosapien will take away your Autonomy!.

Without the maid bros,
Do you help with chores in the house?
Do you do Parenting your boys too? Or its just her duty alone.
King wey no fit enter kitchen cook soup for him wife and pikin. ....yeyeKing dey buy soup outside...
You got a maid, but you still buy soup outside because you're MAD at your wife.
Just dey play!

You're not Special.
She has given you the option of divorce, Dear King, Take it! Divorce your wife since you're the trophy like your Redgang make you believe..and watch yourself slip into the rabbit hole like your ancestors.

Imagine comparing your wife to your mom.
You're an entitled sicko. You need a lot of unlearnings lest you fall.

How about your tell your mama to sUck your D!ckkk. ..

Tzar:
Your wife sees you as a SIMP. She is denying you of ALL a man needs from a woman i.e, sex, loyalty and respect.
Try to Man up and watch her start craving you. Women need only 3 things.
1. Be a provider ( find meaningful things not nececerarily money all tge time, but something she values).
2. Show love to her and give her attention. Compliment her, but don’t exergerate it. Whenever she cooks show genuine appreciation and let her know how good it make you feel. Anytime she allows sex, forget about your pleasure and try to focus on pleasing her 1st. First try to court her with date, good geatures and sweet talks. Do a lot of pre-intimacy and use a lubricant to make her comfortable and pleasure delivery easier for you.
3. Never be vulnerable. Women can’t do without men who show strength and rugged masculinity. Make her feel reassured that you are the man in the relationship.

If you do all these and she is still a Jezebel? Don’t be afraid to send her back to her parent’s for better training. Some women are not just wife material.

Sadly, you guys already have kids and seperating from your kids can be very tough. But life isn’t easy buddy! If she can’t be your peace of mind, GET RID OF HER!

BloomingDale:


Depends on how much they are paying her. Are they paying her to look after the children, clean the house, do the laundry, go to the market and cook? That would be so expensive.

I know I pay my house-help twice a week to clean my house, but she does not do my cooking, nor my laundry, nor go to the market nor do any extra job cos I’m still single. My house help also does not work weekends nor nights.

My married sister has a professional cook, a cleaner, a driver, a gateman, a laundry man and a gardener that she pays separately so separation of duties.

The husband should clarify what the wife is paying the house help for.

Montaque:


Nne, you are avoiding the issue here. What plan does a wife and mother have for feeding her husband and kids on a Sunday after church?

BloomingDale:


Shey you dey whine me ni. The husband can’t fend for himself and his children? He’s handicapped?

Montaque:

Okay. You are saying the woman has no meal plans for that day?

BloomingDale:


I’m pretty sure stew and soup dey fridge. Make the man make eba or boil rice for himself and the children. He should use that time and opportunity to bond with his children.

Montaque:

I remember you said you are single. Its well.

BloomingDale:


Only the losers are traveling out. If the man is playing his role it makes the woman naturally feminine and loving. If the man ain’t, the woman becomes masculine and defensive to protect against the source of constant irritation. Imagine a man cheating and you expect the woman not to put up barriers to protect herself. You a crazy sonafabitch.

BRATISLAVA:


It's what he wanted. He wanted his wife to be insulted by people she doesn't even know. Pity her, he's not as good as he portrays in his story.

Princedapace:


It is like asking ur self is school worth it because one didn't secure a good job after school. That u didnt find exactly what u seek in marriage doesnt mean that marriage is not worth it.
The problem is compatibility. No one is fully bad o, it is just compatibility. This guy and u off course, ur partners may also not find you guys funny to be married to. Not becus u two are bad, it is just compatibility issue.
And humans make this mistake a lot.
There are husband who wouldn't see all of these this guy wrote here as a problem.
Take for instance, those very rich men who wouldn't care if their wives contribute financially or not. Those men who aren't sexually interested in sex matters and are okay with a few sex a week, etc. There is a compatible one for everyone. The problem is that we humans don't understand our selves first befofe moving into marriage.
Then, Nigerians don't want to accept divorce. Divorce shouldn't be seen as evil. U may discover who u are and what type of partner suits u better after few years of marriage, u two can decide to divorce and u seek ur self a partner that aligns with ur type of person. But in Nigeria, we are too greedy. We don't want to let go. Lol

jesmond3945:
read his post you would see it. Besides you dont live with them to know what she is doing. My mum gave me 5 million when I graduated from Uni. My dad doesnt know about it up till today.

BloomingDale:


Single does not mean relationship less and not having learnt the beauty of compromise.

freshboi88:
Your wife cannot be making such money and not contributing to the running of the home. If nah me, she go dey bring half of that money towards the running of the home.

Worse of all, she is not even performing her duties, she has given up performing her duties to make that cash at your own detriment, so she has no excuse not to contribute.

I do not understand how some men take rubbish behavior from women when we not in the abroad o. Haaa!!! Me I go scatter everywhere ooooooooo....And I don't ffing care........

The annoying thing is such a wife would also poison the mind of your kids and make u the villain in their eyes and paint herself as the saint just Incase things go wrong

Man better start putting yourself first cos as others have rightly said, she didn't marry the man of her dreams, so she is pained.

Montaque:

No relationship on earth is like that of a mother and child. That's why you don't appreciate the questions I have been asking you all the while. You think you have issues with the husband; you don't know a mother is involved. Children not more than 9 years starved by no less person than their own mother because she is beefing her husband. Single mothers should carry their trophy to your house.

BloomingDale:


The children are with the father. Why should the mother be worried? You want the children to be with the mother 24/7? How would the father bond with them? Now I’m confused.

Montaque:

Single mothers should give you their trophy. They don't deserve it.

fxexperts:
Person has decided he is not doing again and he doent want those woke women, who feels they are wiser than a man and he is giving after a woman who will value and respect him and you are here calling them losers. You are just joking i swear.

This woman again. A wife who disrespects her husband at home definitely cannot be respected outside her home. that is what it is.

You are right though, i still think base on this. the Op should divorce his wife and move on.

jubrilELsudan:
START FVCKING YOUR HOUSEGIRL AND SEE HOW YOUR WIFE WILL GRANT YOU YOUR 3 WISHES

YOU CAN THANK ME LATER

tomi4life:
I am 35 and my wife is 29, we have been married for 6 years now, we have 2 children a boy and a girl. We didnt court much during our courtship because of long distance.,.................

Connected1:
Don't give a fuvk about her.

It works all the time, be more concerned about yourself, do your duty as a husband and rest before you die of high blood pressure.

I don't give a fuvk about my mother and her manipulations talk more of my girlfriends cause I am yet to married.

I am perceived as evil, stingy and too strict but low-key they love it, all it would take you is strictness to put the manipulative woman you called wife in place.

Be Ruthless.

chatinent:
Act like there's another woman somewhere.Be out, don't disturb her for anything. If she doesn't cook, with a smile, go out and return filled. Just do whatever it is that will make her feel you aren't feeling her attitude. Do it for two months.

She'll come tracking and wanting you.

Or bro, in easy words, LET EVERYONE WHO DOESN'T WANT YOU BE WITH YOU GADAFCK! Gaddammnnnit!

As a man, you are the trophy!

baba4thegehs:
■ You have no idea how hardened the human heart can be! No amount of counseling can change a person that doesn't want to be changed, it's a temporary fix,
■ but you see understand the love of God and how we express that love to other people changes everything. See needs wisdom and help from God. A counselor who doesn't add the subject of God's love for us into the conversation will do little to no impact. Speaking from experience with "Christian couples"

Rosana13:
■ If you're the marriage counselor, you will be in for a very long thing...
■ How can you tell someone to leave God alone in his marriage? How can you advice someone to consider divorcing his wife when he already told you that he doesn't believe in divorce?
■ There is no good counselor anywhere, but God. He is the originator of marriage and holds the key to any marriage problem.
Every manufacturer of a product gives DIRECTION FOR USE in his products to guide the product user. His address is also written on the product label. It is a way of telling every user of his product, if you have any further issue with the product, ASK THE MANUFACTURER...
God made man and initiated marriage for him. He also gave him a map, a compass or a guide - the Bible. If he reads without understanding, he prays... These are the most important.
■ The Church is also there to help... Not a marriage counselor, most of whom could not keep their marriages, some have not married at all, and at worst, do not believe in marriage....
It's only a FOOL that has said in his heart, THERE IS NO GOD...!

tomi4life:
I am 35 and my wife is 29, we have been married for 6 years now, we have 2 children a boy and a girl. We didnt court much during our courtship because of long distance.

I really have a problem with my wife and not sure what can be done to address, now I must be very honest am not sure there is anything I can do I just want to use the platform to vent my frustration.

My marriage has not been very good, lately myself and my wife leave like room mates and not lovers, despite the age difference between me and my wife she doesnt really respect me. For the 6 years we have been in marriage 3 things have caused all our fights: cooking, Sex and finance

My wife rarely cooks in the house, things around welfare are not taken seriously, actually in a week, my wife can cook for me just 1 time. She cooks for the children and baths for them daily, we also have a help who does alot of cooking. She rarely askes me what I will eat, honestly I always have to go to the kitchen to sort myself, sometimes I buy food outside from eateries and bucker. Sometimes when she cooks it usually very late 10pm. I have complained severally and what happen is she tries to change, after a week, we are back to the same state. My wife can do without cooking for me for weeks. It really really pains me cos am a foody and I knw hw my mum treats matters of food. she is this person that forms busy, either she is busy with work or some church activities, she always has an excuse. She goes to work only ones a weeks the remaining 4days are remote. To address this issue I now order soups from major restaurant outlets, An example is today easter sunday, I had to tell our maid to prepare rice for myself and the kids, cos my wife was in church, we all went to church but she decided to stay back, knowing fully well no food was prepared.

Sex: [/b]our sex life is very boring, when we got married we always fight about sex, cos anytime I ask for it she always complain she is tired, so what I now do is ask for it only sat morning, brethen this is only day I get sex. If I miss that day, it is still next week. We sleep in different rooms, she sleeps with the children in the master bedroom while I sleep alone in another room. I can tell most time she doesnt enjoy it and never ever askes for it, I always ask and initiate it. She just lays like a log, even kisses is a no no, except she is really on, which rarely happens.
[b]
Finance: I have always earned more than my wife, when we got married, I was earning 3 times what she was earning, but she changed jobs and got promoted severally and we were earning the same amount. she also does alot of side runs where she gets 200-300k monthly as side hustle, there was even a time she was earning more than I did. I dint let it bother me I continue to foot the entire house bills. 95% of the enitre house of comes from me, she only pays the maid , buys cooking gas and my sons diaper. Every other thing in the house is covered by me, house rent, school fees, project, all the bills. I give her 75k as food money monthly. I have continue to question her why I should give her food moeny if I still have to end up going out to eat. I think the only reason she sometime listens to me is cause i still provide the finances for the house. The time she was earning more I could see how she belittle some of my decisions. I just prayed to God, cos I noticed the respect was gone, when I talk to her about her role as a mum and mother to the home, she says she is working, she is busy, I mentioned to her that the money she works is for her, she doesnt share with the house, I have never asked her for it and am not against her working, she however should not neglect her responsibility as a mum. That my role as a father, God helping me is to provide, and this is why I work. I also noticed when I got a new job and my salary increased she kinda off felt jealous she didnt tell me but i noticed it, she began to aggressively look for jobs.


I really dont think we have that initmacy, we are just there, my wife cant come to tell me anything bothering her, she keeps to herself. Funny part is she is a very religious person, my wife will sleep with bible on her hand, wake up with bible pray and serve in various church unit, I however dont think she really understands what she reads. She also has a very bad temper sometimes when I raise certian issues, the ways she talks sometimes I have to hold back a response if not the whole thing will escalate. There are days I will raise certain issue up, the next things she mentions is " let just dissolve this marriage as it is not working" sometimes , I just refer her to her bible cos the utterances that come out of her mouth makes me doubt her understanding of Christianity.


I have never assaulted her, we have nt had any physically fight, what happens is most times when we have issues, I dont speak to her for days, then she come back apologizing. Sometimes when am wrong I also apologies.

Am not saying am perfect, I know there are areas I can do better, like in the buying off gift, I rarely buy her gift, not cause I cant but Cos she earns well and I believe she should buy whatever she needs with her money my wife earns approximately 800k monthy.


I expect my wife will support me but it like she is stressing me. when we go see my parent or our parent, it is all smiles, they dont knw hw stressful their daughter is, she even forms trying to serve me food and all.

Dont get me wrong she has some good side, but this thing is really getting into me. I dont drink, smoke or womanise, divorce is also not on the table for me.

Heathrow44:



All women are feminists, some are much open about it, others hide in disguise thinking what would other people say, the world is changing and feminism is becoming more and more of a norm, in d future, gender roles may be reversed, as women fight for better pay, they occupy all the plum jobs cos they av brainwashed the men that they deserve gender balance in only "key jobs and corporations "and when they av climbed d ladder and there are more successful men to women , gender roles would be reversed, men would start doing tailoring, Market provisions, doing ashawo, cooking, washing pant and all that,

BloomingDale:


The house-help gets paid by the wife, meaning that the husband in no way or shape wants to help the wife take care of the house chores, yet expects her to foot some of the house bills and take care of her own personal maintenance.

Since the wife is taking care of some bills, the husband should also learn to fend for himself by doing some some house chores like cooking for himself and the children when the wife is not around or tired. He should have seen that day as an opportunity to treat the children to a Sunday outing and if possible go out of his way to buy the wife takeaway pending when she will be back. These little gestures go a long way.

I bet he is the type of man that spends all weekend watching football and going out for drinks with his male friends, while he expects the wife to slave away all all weekend.

The guy simply does not love his wife. He is just using her as a nanny, cook, house help, sleep partner and child rearer. He is only annoyed things are not going his selfish way.