Sweetie rest in Jesus name,you have disturbed me with enough mentions for today,give others chance to disturb me with mentions.

Uten9z:


Well I don't knw were you get ur statistics from but if a woman earns more and try to help without been asked or expect the husband crawls to her feet to request assist , the mate will certainly be grateful to God .

I can't say for the other 96% ur assuming to but I am sure me and probably your Dad cannot be with them.

My mother was in Health sector and earns far better than my Dad until things happens and she gladly paid our fees and I can't remember anytime there was quarrel btw them.

floret23:
What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt.

Some men have bitter experiences both in relationship and some in marriages.

There is nothing new again in this world that has never been heard. Truely, it is painful experience for husband to discover that unexpectedly. However, he doesn't need to act irrationally outside boundary to safe his family from collapse because of his children. For wife to remain humble to that extend without dragging issue further means she has already learnt her lesson because it was not done intentionally. The wife is likely the cause of the problem and not parents. Parents might not really know anything about it; they may think she is carrying her husband along. For the wife to get humbled to extent of giving back everything in her father and her name to be rename and resold means it was not intentionally done.

So far the lesson has been learnt by parents and the wife, husband should just call the wife and her families together, tell them why he was angry and settle the matter except the husband doesn't want the wife to take care of her family members. For how long will he keep nuturing the wound? As a man, he had already made point to the wife and her family. Keep taking responsibility as before if he is capable without minding much how the wife spends the money to avoid causing more damages to himself. It is the duty of man to take responsibility of wife if he is buoyant enough to do so without asking question, however; if he is not too financially buoyant, just call the wife and tell her how much from her salary she should be contributing on monthly basis to support him like 1/4 or half of her salary while the man contribute times two on monthly basis.

Lessons have been learnt by all parties involved, husband should get heal fast and forget totally about the issue as a man. He made mistakes, he doesn't even need to start selling this and tuat he already bought for the wife when the wife is not even confrontational to the division, it means he needs to grow up enough as a man to face more marital challenges that may come along his way in future. He is going extreme by not forgetting about the issue on time and move on.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Abegi, men should learn not to have eyes for their wives earnings, it's a sign of an irresponsible man

so u had done likewise? Then what's the essense of marriage,most women are wired this way,I really pity men that keep such as a wife.

Wonderful

IyaebeTheGreat:
Abegi, men should learn not to have eyes for their wives earnings, it's a sign of an irresponsible man

you re a fool,a very big one at that...mugu

doggedfighter:
This is an old story.
Shared here.



Women were torn to pieces the day it was posted.


You copied it again ?

Thank you o. I thought I was the only one that knows. The first time it was posted, it make front page and there was gender war that time

IyaebeTheGreat:
Abegi, men should learn not to have eyes for their wives earnings, it's a sign of an irresponsible man

Abeg dey talk with sense what's now the meaning of marriage 🤔

Zionmdde:
OP don't worry women are like that
Stop looking at her money, if you have kids, take good care of them, feed them, chest your bills. That's what makes you a man.

You can stop giving her monet or buying things like you did before, but you see feeding, rent, school fees and the basic necessities, please chest them like a man while you save up in case. The woman is keeping plan Bs, you too can do the same

But if that's the only issue, please don't destroy your marriage. It's easy for people outside to always tell you to divorce on every flimsy reasons, marriages that have lasted the test of time had one of the partners playing a fool

A man and more! 🙌

IyaebeTheGreat:
Abegi, men should learn not to have eyes for their wives earnings, it's a sign of an irresponsible man

So i have been seeing some of your comments here on nairaland for sometime. Two things. Its either you are here for the banter or you are clearly stupid.

njelrapheal:


So i have been seeing some of your comments here on nairaland for sometime. Two things. Its either you are here for the banter or you are clearly stupid.

Who are you talking to

floret23:


#copied

bad meet evil ☹️🥺😞😟😦

IyaebeTheGreat:
Abegi, men should learn not to have eyes for their wives earnings, it's a sign of an irresponsible man

Brother, hustle, hustle not everyone no will end up rich no matter how hardworking one wants to be, this is the sad reality. I shake my head when I see some couples the man looking scrawny and malnourish while the wives and kids look so fresh because the man is doing the job alone, he is trying to prove to be a man. That's why men die early because of stress, my friend get married to a woman who can assist you if you eventually make it big thank God.

floret23:
What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt.

Some men have bitter experiences both in relationship and some in marriages.

Reading this gave me goose pimples. I can't say this is what I would do if I were in his shoes as I pray and hope never to find myself in such a position. But if it happens, I would think it is because I slacked because if you know every penny I earn, I expect that level of openness from my wife. I wish he can forgive if he can and I hope this will open up deeper level of communication between them.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Abegi, men should learn not to have eyes for their wives earnings, it's a sign of an irresponsible man

You clearly don't understand the principles of marriage. Two becomes one. If you're a one-man Mopol, you don't need to marry then. The day you marry, you stop being yourself. You now live for yourselves. If you can't sacrifice humility, trustworthiness and togetherness, please, don't marry.

If the man built a house and never told the woman, how will you feel?

Secrets in marriage is a time bomb waiting to explode and when it does...

Oloki:




Thank you o. I thought I was the only one that knows. The first time it was posted, it make front page and there was gender war that time

Whether it was posted in ages doesn't change the fact that it happened somewhere to someone who genuinely love his wife and family. I struggle to see ladies condemn this act by the woman. Anything you don't condemn, you support!

I'm just seeing the post now and it gave lots of lessons. So, I will say, sharing or reposting it gave me the opportunity to see the story. Never think of yourself, think of others like me who never saw the story until now, what about that?

Marriage is an institution built on trust. Guide it jealously!

Zionmdde:
OP don't worry women are like that
Stop looking at her money, if you have kids, take good care of them, feed them, chest your bills. That's what makes you a man.

You can stop giving her monet or buying things like you did before, but you see feeding, rent, school fees and the basic necessities, please chest them like a man while you save up in case. The woman is keeping plan Bs, you too can do the same

But if that's the only issue, please don't destroy your marriage. It's easy for people outside to always tell you to divorce on every flimsy reasons, marriages that have lasted the test of time had one of the partners playing a fool

Women aren't like that, her altitude and actions aided by her parents were wrong. If someone is open to you in marriage, the best thing is to reciprocate

Let's learn the act of condemning wrong doings regardless of the gender, then we can now talk of the way forward

My mother whom I love so much earn far than my dad... But the respect and humility was topnotch. We only knew when we all grew up. The society today has so much put responsibility on the male child. So, just being a male child already has the pressures of life stiring at you. And if God wants to bless you for life, He gives you a good partner. As a man, a good wife and as a female, a good husband

This was posted last year but it still serves as a reminder that marriage requires honesty from day 1.

Damn.

It'll take a while to come back from this.

ahnie:
Recycled old news.as usual nairaland anti women Schmidts go carry the matter for head

. This is a serious issue going on in Nigeria. My mums tenants once confided in me as i was staying in the house at that point. Opened wine and alcohol shop for his wife but lost his job later at apapa port. His wife refused to assist with rent , he owed my mum for a long time. Meanwhile the wife’s shop was making huge sales . Many houses and land in ikorodu, ayobo, ikotun , abule egba etc were bought by women in the mid 2000s without their husband knowing. Any woman that does my money is my money and your money is our money is a devil.😜

I thought men don’t like women who rub their wealth in your face?

floret23:
What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt.

Some men have bitter experiences both in relationship and some in marriages.

Even though I know this story is fabricated, it's the sort of things an average Nigerian woman do. An average Nigerian woman believes she has an unqualified right to use her money as she sees fit, and has tremendous control on how her husband spends his money.

ahnie:
The problems of men in this Nigeria are women,lil things from the female folks give them flaccid erektion

Disregard if this is an old news, you are reffering to this as little thing? Diverting it's merits as things from women folks.

Truly critical thinking skills is becoming endangered.

udeh3:


Whether it was posted in ages doesn't change the fact that it happened somewhere to someone who genuinely love his wife and family. I struggle to see ladies condemn this act by the woman. Anything you don't condemn, you support!

I'm just seeing the post now and it gave lots of lessons. So, I will say, sharing or reposting it gave me the opportunity to see the story. Never think of yourself, think of others like me who never saw the story until now, what about that?

Marriage is an institution built on trust. Guide it jealously!

Why are you taking my post personal?

We all condemned what the woman did in it's entirety but at time repeatimg some post can be boring

Zionmdde:
OP don't worry women are like that
Stop looking at her money, if you have kids, take good care of them, feed them, chest your bills. That's what makes you a man.

You can stop giving her monet or buying things like you did before, but you see feeding, rent, school fees and the basic necessities, please chest them like a man while you save up in case. The woman is keeping plan Bs, you too can do the same

But if that's the only issue, please don't destroy your marriage. It's easy for people outside to always tell you to divorce on every flimsy reasons, marriages that have lasted the test of time had one of the partners playing a fool

How do you save up for plan B when you are cheating all the bills?

The problem I see is that a lot of people do not discuss finance during courtship before they land themselves in marriage. You can all of a sudden change the mindset of a party as regards finance in marriage.

All of these discussions will put forward the way different parties reason making crisis situations fewer during marriage.

Most most will always 'chest the bill' just as you put it but will secretly wish help comes from the other party. Why wish rather than go into discussion to make life easy for the benefit of everyone in the family.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Abegi, men should learn not to have eyes for their wives earnings, it's a sign of an irresponsible man

Not have eyes sir.

Are you married? If not, you won't understand.

The.wife would have told him and he still won't care about her money.

Listen, just be open to your spouse in every area. This creates more trust and understanding. You read where he talked about how he paid the wife the money for car. You saw the stress right?
This man is your other half for crying out loud. I'm not saying he should feed on the wife's money. With the way he talked, he won't even care about her money. But most people still places their family first before their husband or wife. It's absolutely wrong

ExudeLoveToAll:


How do you save up for plan B when you are cheating all the bills?

The problem I see is that a lot of people do not discuss finance during courtship before they land themselves in marriage. You can all of a sudden change the mindset of a party as regards finance in marriage.

All of these discussions will put forward the way different parties reason making crisis situations fewer during marriage.

Most most will always 'chest the bill' just as you put it but will secretly wish help comes from the other party. Why wish rather than go into discussion to make life easy for the benefit of everyone in the family.

I am advising the OP who is already married. All those discuss this discuss that before courtship is no longer his concern

Yes everybody will secretly need help from their partners. Infact some people will wish their partners chest the entire bill while they rest and flex. But should he end the marriage because the woman decided to be stingy and greedy? Children are now involved and he should take care of his children, it's the man's responsibility to cater for his home. It's unfortunate the woman won't help.

Oloki:



Why are you taking my post personal?

We all condemned what the woman did in it's entirety but at time repeatimg some post can be boring

Sincerely, I'm not taking your post personal. I for one never knew the post was a repeated one. You could see the numbers of traction it gave. This is to tell you the post is still very relevant. So, relevant post should be reposted for more persons to see and engage in them.

I learnt from this post cos it was reposted

U Gerrit!

cococandy:
I thought men don’t like women who rub their wealth in your face?

IyaebeTheGreat:
Abegi, men should learn not to have eyes for their wives earnings, it's a sign of an irresponsible man

..This only mean one thing”You are a compound fool..”..Them still dey talk of woman wey get money and you wey no get shishi dey talk..The post is not for Olosho’s but hardworking women

Bro you be man..No mind any uselsss bitch that says otherwise here..Broke girls have no say on this..

Oloki:



Why are you taking my post personal?

We all condemned what the woman did in it's entirety but at time repeatimg some post can be boring

Would you die if you you skip or ignore it?

This is old story now, about 3-4years ago, that emanated from twitter then...