jedisco:


Hehe... You seem to be conflating alot of people under my monicker.
Go back to replies when there were frequent posts 'educating' us on wrongs done by Nigerians in the UK. I did not cry racism. I illustrated that wrong can be done by all and today we have much less of those.

The level of tertiary education in the UK is today well higher that that of Nigeria. That's a fact. Very few Brits would pay 18k out of pocket for a masters degree. That is another fact. You need to take your grouse up with whoever made the 'lazy' comment as you've got me confused.

Need not want - this is my bread and butter. That was a statement the deputy head of GMC made when I came for my exam. I simply quoted this. At the time I questioned it but several years in, with each passing day I see the very truth in that.
As I have said for the umpteenth time, no immigrant is here on a diversity visa or via a lottery. As far back as the windrush arrivals, every pathway for legal immigration (aside sporadic refugees) were based on need and the British public has very publicly demanded the exit of migrants when need was met even if it came at the risk of economic self harm (cue: Brexit).
The recent post study visa review and even early marketing of it by Suella makes it clear. Every legal pathway is made open because someone convinced the government that Britain would benefit more by letting folks in than keeping them out. Guess what? I have little issue with that, always point the driver out and can give multiple instances where I have witnessed it. I am still struggling to see where 'I regularly disparage the UK'

aragbaboy:


According to her she opened the door thinking it was a delivery guy, he introduced himself and said he has the right to come in and inspect the property. The lady in question was new in the country about 2 months then and was not aware and familiar with a lot of things.

aragbaboy:
Hello,

Please has any one had a court summons as a result of tv license even after explaining that you don’t need it? The funny thing was that tv licence guy got into the property by pretending to be a delivery person. The lady at home was scared and put on the tv for him. He concluded it was being used to watch tv. 4 months later she got a court summons. She intend to plead not guilty but confused on how to respond

Viruses:


If she was about 2 months in the country, how long has she been in that property or did she move into the property straight from her country?

When I moved into my current place, I saw many letters inside asking 'the occupier' to register for TV licence. It's possible that those letters could have been addressed to the previous occupant. She may be able to appeal on the basis that she just moved in before the visit and didn't get such warnings (evidence needed). But again 4 months later she hasn't still registered.

Watching TV is different from watching live TV. If she does not watch live TV, she can appeal, if she does watch live TV just pay the fine.

Lexusgs430:


Plead guilty or not, the court would find her guilty + impose a fine + (or imprisonment).......

That's why we say, if you don't have a TV licence, don't open your doors anyhow or get a video doorbell.......

Goodenoch:


She cannot be sent to prison for not paying the tv license fee - only for not paying the fine that will be imposed by the court.

https://www.stepchange.org/debt-info/tv-licence-fines.aspx

Best thing to do is to try to make contact with the authority to do an out of court settlement. https://www.tvlicensing.co.uk/visit#:~:text=This%20is%20called%20an%20out,much%20you%20need%20to%20pay.

OmichaelO:
Hi Guys,

My missus has just done ambulance service interview and she did well (she was called), however, the visa status is the limiting issue due they mentioned it's not on the shortage occupation list, I could have sworn I saw it on the list for health and care visa under ambulance service and it says excluding paramedics. it's a band 4 role.

please how can I confirm if it's really not on the list or should we just let it go?


Update: they sent in conditional offer today, should we go ahead and continue with it then see if we can speak to HR?


@ZAHRA29, @viruses @justwise @lavida001

Lexusgs430:


You are right.... But in the past, you could be imprisoned.....

Viruses:
For those that have successfully sent guest that refused to leave their house packing , how did you do it peacefully. I have plead and plead. Looks like my next option now is to rent the house and give her the keys with the hope that when the tenure expire she will be forced to look for apartment. But an average room is £400 and I may have to sign 6 months contract. Where will I see £400 to pay for 6 months

wallg123:

Oga Virus hope this no be case of romantic relationship gone sore .
You can’t leave the house to her because you are legally responsible for whatever happens to the house until your tenancy agreement expires.
It’s unfortunate some people sabi abuse privilege. I’ll suggest you start informing landlord or estate agents that you don’t intend renewing your tenancy at the expiration. Look for another accommodation while you wait. No point paying rent for 2 places. Alternatively na to get locksmith to change the locks whenever your friend leaves the house. Final option na to rekindle the romance or whatever relationship una get and all shall be well again

Viruses:

She's my sister.

I and my wife didn't expect her to stay this long and without any intentions of leaving yet.

I'm on mortgage.

wallg123:

My apologies. Since she is family the only way around it is dialogue. If dialogue fails you can change the locks and put her stuff outside ( this might sound extreme but sometimes extreme measures sends clear message)… why would a sister want to put you in this situation. Don’t even think about renting a house or room for her cuz na you go still be guarantor and you know what that implies.

Viruses:


The bolded captures it all.

I'm thinking of calling family meeting whether they can talk to her. The initial complain was the deposit, I offered to pay the deposit, I later offered both the deposit and first month rent.

Her last excuse was the place she saw does not have fridge. Na talk be that? I made a mistake, I wouldn't have bought the fridge.

Viruses:


The bolded captures it all.

I'm thinking of calling family meeting whether they can talk to her. The initial complain was the deposit, I offered to pay the deposit, I later offered both the deposit and first month rent.

Her last excuse was the place she saw does not have fridge. Na talk be that? I made a mistake, I wouldn't have bought the fridge.

KOVIC19COVID20:


hopefully she is a skilled worker and not a student?
just dialogue with her.

but wait ohhh based on your own estimations, does she earn a lot enough to afford her own place?
help a sister

Viruses:
For those that have successfully sent guest that refused to leave their house packing, how did you do it peacefully. I have plead and plead. Looks like my next option now is to rent the house and give her the keys with the hope that when the tenure expire she will be forced to look for apartment. But an average room is £400 and I may have to sign 6 months contract. Where will I see £400 to pay for 6 months

wallg123:

My apologies. Since she is family the only way around it is dialogue. If dialogue fails you can change the locks and put her stuff outside ( this might sound extreme but sometimes extreme measures sends clear message)… why would a sister want to put you in this situation. Don’t even think about renting a house or room for her cuz na you go still be guarantor and you know what that implies.

Viruses:
Instead of quoting one by one, let me just answer here.

She's a student.
Actually shifts have not been forth coming so it looks like she's trying to save for the next fees for fear of the unknown.

I'm willing to pay the 6 months contract I will sign. I was hoping there'll be another approach beside this alternative rent and dialogue (which I have exhausted).

Viruses:
Instead of quoting one by one, let me just answer here.

She's a student.
Actually shifts have not been forth coming so it looks like she's trying to save for the next fees for fear of the unknown.

I'm willing to pay the 6 months contract I will sign. I was hoping there'll be another approach beside this alternative rent and dialogue (which I have exhausted).

ReesheesuKnack:


So. If you kick her out now (a student with no shifts for the 20 hours per week). What do you reckon would become of her?
She has no recourse to public funds. She normally would only rely on family for help. You are family.

If you kick her out now, what becomes of her studies?
I know this may be a very unpopular opinion (given what suggestions you have received here), but I am of the opinion that you bear with her. Please. Don’t throw her out to the hyenas. Please.
If she is a masters student, the most she can be in studies is 12 calendar months. Once she migrates to PSW, then you may do as you please. For now, please bear with her.
Or do you want to kick her out of your house, straight back to Naija?

God has been good to you. Yo have achieved (in less time than 3 years) what some of us have not achieved in more than plenty years. You now own your home. Some of us cannot even afford a mortgage even if it is 99.8% LTV.
Please bro, be the earthly Messiah in this sister’s life.

PS: my only exception would be if she is ungrateful and disrespectful to your wife, in that case, a round table nuanced conversation is required.

Viruses:
Instead of quoting one by one, let me just answer here.

She's a student.
Actually shifts have not been forth coming so it looks like she's trying to save for the next fees for fear of the unknown.

I'm willing to pay the 6 months contract I will sign. I was hoping there'll be another approach beside this alternative rent and dialogue (which I have exhausted).

Viruses:

She's my sister.

I and my wife didn't expect her to stay this long and without any intentions of leaving yet.

I'm on mortgage.

ReesheesuKnack:


So. If you kick her out now (a student with no shifts for the 20 hours per week). What do you reckon would become of her?
She has no recourse to public funds. She normally would only rely on family for help. You are family.

If you kick her out now, what becomes of her studies?
I know this may be a very unpopular opinion (given what suggestions you have received here), but I am of the opinion that you bear with her. Please. Don’t throw her out to the hyenas. Please.
If she is a masters student, the most she can be in studies is 12 calendar months. Once she migrates to PSW, then you may do as you please. For now, please bear with her.
Or do you want to kick her out of your house, straight back to Naija?

God has been good to you. Yo have achieved (in less time than 3 years) what some of us have not achieved in more than plenty years. You now own your home. Some of us cannot even afford a mortgage even if it is 99.8% LTV.
Please bro, be the earthly Messiah in this sister’s life.

PS: my only exception would be if she is ungrateful and disrespectful to your wife, in that case, a round table nuanced conversation is required.

Lexusgs430:


So her situation is complicated....... Unfortunately, you wouid have to continually accommodate her.......

What happens to her after 6 months......

What was your original plan for her......... You might have been the architects, of this unfortunate situation.........

I have family members willing to stay with us, if I am not happy with your plans going forward ...... I simply refuse to accommodate....... I have been tagged with all sorts, do I care........ NO....... 🤣😂

I no wan open thread for nairaland or open space for twitter...... 😁

Viruses:


The bolded captures it all.

I'm thinking of calling family meeting whether they can talk to her. The initial complain was the deposit, I offered to pay the deposit, I later offered both the deposit and first month rent.

Her last excuse was the place she saw does not have fridge. Na talk be that? I made a mistake, I would have bought the fridge.

abuhusna1:

That 2 letter words "NO" saves you alot of drama especially this abroad.

Zahra29:


As others have suggested, it might not the best idea to force her to move out while she's still studying....a more realistic target is when she's done with school/fees and can work full-time.

In the meantime, would she be willing to pay her way/(be less of a burden) by providing free childcare services for you or paid childcare for your friends? There must be families around who need a nanny, help with school runs etc