This post is in response to yesterday's frontpage article about things they will not tell you about marriage.

see here: https://www.nairaland.com/7773611/things-not-tell-marriage

The author practically scared the men and didn't offer any solutions for those women yet to get married, so here are a few things to consider particularly if you're in one of those long-running relationships where one person is having fun, and the other person isn't. More often than not, women tend to be the ones who want a relationship to become a family with children, yet are afraid that any talk of marriage will push the man they're dating, away.

So what do you if you're in this situation: According to this video: How to ask the marriage question without threatening him
, there are six basic guidelines for women to get married


1. Insist on it.
If you want to discuss marriage, you’re going to have to bring the subject up, because many men never will. The economy is bad enough to scare men away. If you keep quiet, he'll be fine with your silence


2. If you find yourself in a dead-end relationship, move on.
When a man says he isn’t ready, it usually doesn’t mean he will never marry. Often, it’s because they don’t have enough money. So you need to factor in the the financial readiness of the man you're with particularly with the current high cost of living. If he's unemployed or even worse, If he's still in school , he will not consider marriage until he has been working and living independently for several years.


3. Love yourself first.
Avoid eternal bachelors i.e. men who string along women but will never commit. To filter them out, insist that he commit after six months. Then stick to it, no matter what excuses he gives.

4. Commit yourself to the idea of getting married
If you reach age 30 and want to get married, you have to make finding a husband a primary goal. Again, finances have made it harder for most young men to consider marriage. And once all your female friends start getting married, they are less likely to have an active social life with you. Don’t be the last person to withdraw money from the ATM. It may NOT dispense o.


5. Keep in shape, watch your weight, and take care of your appearance
Men are attracted by the physical, but marry character. Dressing appropriately sends the message, “I am wife material.” In other words, don’t dress like a runs/hookup girl. Men see a sexy outfit as an invitation to have sex particularly since many girls are into hookup business nowadays.


6. Time is running out—use time wisely in your search for the marrying man

Women who make an effort to seek out the company of single men are more likely to marry i.e. you date more frequently even it’s Mr. Wrong, participate in masculine activities, make lifestyle sacrifices (i.e. changing jobs or moving) to meet eligible men, develop an active social life and go out on Friday and Saturday, when other single people go out.

Hope this helps


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N5A3ReRdJzI

good one

You must be a buffalo.

So you are giving ladies expo on how to marry in this shege promax season?

Creamcrest:
You must be a buffalo.

So you are giving ladies expo on how to marry in this shege promax season?

i'm an equal opportunity employer

ok

There has always been hard times.

Incredible

Still waiting for Kobojunkie's approval on this one 😅

Tayorshd87:
Incredible

What do you disagree with?

Creamcrest:
You must be a buffalo.

So you are giving ladies expo on how to marry in this shege promax season?

no mind the idiot

ideamonster:


no mind the idiot

Dimaya:


What do you disagree with?

What works for me A may not work for Mr B
.


Meaning it doesn't apply to all human rather only to some

Tayorshd87:

What works for me A may not work for Mr B
.


Meaning it doesn't apply to all human rather only to some

there's nothing that works for everybody

Just live your life and be busy with things that matter while developing yourself. The right person will find you.

ideamonster:


there's nothing that works for everybody

That's true

ImaIma1:
Just live your life and be busy with things that matter while developing yourself. The right person will find you.

Amen !

ideamonster:


Amen !

Na so the thing dey pepper you 😂

The only advice I will give to anyone will be to be themselves at all times irrespective of who is watching.

GboyegaD:
The only advice I will give to anyone will be to be themselves at all times irrespective of who is watching.

Even if the person has a terrible Character?

Dimaya:


Even if the person has a terrible Character?

Everyone knows what a good or bad character is therefore, what that means is that each should work on been the best version of him/herself.

ImaIma1:
Just live your life and be busy with things that matter while developing yourself. The right person will find you.

ImaIma1:
Just live your life and be busy with things that matter while developing yourself. The right person will find you.

that's actually terrible advice. The only person who will find you will be PHCN bill collector

Dimaya:


that's actually terrible advice. The only person who will find you will be PHCN bill collector

PHCN bill find you at your office, at the cinema or wherever you are enjoying yourself. You assume living your life means staying indoors.

Proserpina:
Where have you been? Hope you are good

I am good. Thanks.
Just been busy; taking my own advice.

ImaIma1:


PHCN bill find you at your office, at the cinema or wherever you are enjoying yourself. You assume living your life means staying indoors.

Now this is hilarious 😂

don't get married in this economy

things will get better but don't bring another persons daughter into your suffering. e get why

interesting thoughts

nobody knows

ideamonster:
nobody knows

is this dude still alive?