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| Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by SamWales(m): 10:24am On Aug 07, 2023 |
Hey guys, I've been wondering, why is it that most people don't renovate their house in the village till their old parents are dead? Is not like they don't have the money to do this, but they will rather wait till the old parents drop dead. Immediately, they will start rebuilding the house trying to complete a 1 month construction project in just 1 week before performing the burial. Is it that the old parents doesn't merit a good house? Apart from impressing the guests that will attend the burial, do you know of any other reason why people do this? What is your opinion? 109 Likes 12 Shares |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Mophor: 10:26am On Aug 07, 2023 |
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| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by taylor88(m): 10:28am On Aug 07, 2023 |
City friends validation Same thing happens during traditional wedding when you’re traveling from city to village with your friends That’s the country we have found ourselves Na why I like Muslim burial no necessary dramas When my Dad died I was crying double double not because he’s dead but because of what’s ahead as a chief in Rivers State and I know what’s required Someone who lost his parents is supposed to gain supports and sympathizers rather you’ll be into debt and have bills ahead 308 Likes 22 Shares |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Amotolongbo(f): 10:49am On Aug 07, 2023 |
SamWales: 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by yarimo(m): 12:11pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
SamWales:op read it carefully and your answer is their 60 Likes 7 Shares
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| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by depure(m): 12:28pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
Some times it's the belief of the some part of Igbos, if for instance you don't have a family home ..and you have on going construction you would want to complete it before you bury the person..... 6 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Nazgul: 12:38pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
In Igboland, parents are buried by their children in their house. So it would be disgraceful to the children of all the guests arrive and the house is looking like something that barely made it out the Biafran war. That's why they try to renovate it and upgrade the look. 42 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by blaquemyc: 1:15pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
Nazgul:But it's not disgraceful for their parents to live in a house looking like something that barely made it out of the Biafran war until their death right? 217 Likes 19 Shares |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Acidosis(m): 2:13pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
I've always been against this trend too. But for some, you really can't blame them. Many of the renovations you see were carried out with loans. Let's also not forget the fact that many old people are not hyped about fancy buildings and cars. As you age, your priorities in and about life change. Some families understand this so they channel their care or money towards other areas like creating time to visit their parents, ensuring they eat good food, prioritising their health, employing a house assistant, and keeping their space clean. The fact that you see some children renovating and painting pre-burial is not a sign of abandonment. Do what matters and what you can afford while they are alive. As long as you do what makes them happy while they were alive, what you do after their demise is completely up to you. 101 Likes 11 Shares |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Nazgul: 2:23pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
blaquemyc:Why are you directing your anger towards me, did I tell you that my parents are living in an uncompleted building and I'm waiting for them to die before renovating it? I only answered the question that was asked, cos it's common with most average and below average Igbos. And would you blame them, most of them are struggling to cater for their families in the city, so renovating a property they might not visit for years might be a waste of resources to the considering how the economy is. If you want to singlehandedly renovate your parents house, no one is stopping you. But passing judgement on others for not doing so without knowing if they can afford to do it is very wrong. Besides as a parent, it's myopic for your retirement plan to be your children. Cos they too might have their own responsibilities that's weighing them down. 58 Likes 7 Shares |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Offpoint1: 3:56pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
 it's simple! Nobody dey gree sey e get money until something happen before you go begin see money come out... That's the simple truth.16 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Triangles1(m): 3:56pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
Africa |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Akfrenzy(m): 3:57pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
 They want to show off 😆😆😆Odogwu na Malaysia wouldn't want his guests to come over and see his family house looking like ODIEGWU 😆😆😆😆😆😆 10 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by GoodRocks: 3:57pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
Damn! As an Edo niggar, I can tell you we binis are guilty of this. Na so one old man wey dey my area died some months ago and they fixed a date for his burial. His children and entire family started renovating their house, changed the windows , doors and even fixed a new gate. Then they went ahead and bought 2 cows and bags of rice. Why didn't they do all this when the old man was alive so he could enjoy their wealth? Why waited till he passed away? If you're a young man spend your money on your parents now that they're alive, not when they leave this world 🌎 you start renovating your head, buying cows etc. Help them now they're still alive. Buy them foodstuffs, send them money and take good care of them 31 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by AllenSpencer: 3:57pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
Why do they have to maintain it? Didn’t the parents put into consideration that they would have to maintain the house till death comes knocking. That’s what happens when parents fail to plan. They could as well sell the house and move into adult care homes 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Tayorshd87: 3:57pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
There choice biko |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Nevoy: 3:57pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
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| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by GoodRocks: 3:58pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
Triangles1: Not Africa but Edo state 2 Likes |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by 7demons: 3:58pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
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| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Aocvin(m): 3:58pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
Cultural belief I think |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Helpfromabove1(m): 3:58pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
That the African mindset for u Trying to show off for the visitors that will be coming to mourn the dead while the dead was not appreciated and taking care of while he was alive Appreciate me now that I dey alive no be say when I leave this world you go Dey fake am for my back 3 Likes |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by AllenSpencer: 3:59pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
Triangles1: What is about Africa? Africans even have the best care for their aged people! Western kids will boggle you to adult homes ASAP. Those kids don’t take shit! You can never disturb their life. 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by santopelele(m): 3:59pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
Yea, some do that to tell people that the deceased is well to do. That money is not their problem 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by inoki247: 3:59pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
Lol na wen people die People dey get more value now if you call someone now that you've not eaten for 1yr everybody will say they're broke die first they will be the one to contribute money for your Burial Buy Cow still buy cloth.... In this part of the world we prefer spending Money when people die than spending it on them when they're still alive..... 4 Likes |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Xscape1993(m): 3:59pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
It is because we value the dead more than the living in this part of the world. 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Segzy19: 3:59pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
The same reason why some people do not take care of their parents while alive but will spend money to feed and entertain people once the parents die... It's usually poor people that do that nonsense.... 6 Likes |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by Creamypie(m): 3:59pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
In my delta state, its d norm. Mostly poor on mind people do that |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by onoms4luv(m): 3:59pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
Reading |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by AllBlack: 3:59pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
hmmm |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by MANNABBQGRILLS: 4:00pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
People do this?! 3 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Why Do People Do This After The Death Of Their Parents? by SenecaTheYonger: 4:00pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
SamWales: For people in Anambra, it's just something that's part of burial rites, so they have to do it, else they won't |
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