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Dainy1:
So, you're justifying it?
But a man work, provide and still give s e.x without complain. Why is a woman's own different?

so man is now the giver of sex while woman is now receiver of sex. 😁

U nor fit provide for her and u de get erection, dem suppose castrate u.
All the testosterone wey u suppose use work hard, na preek u de make an stand lol

oglalasioux:
Women see sex as a commodity. They give it to the person that pays.

Passion is every thing for a human being.
The source of her passion is dead. For many (male and female), that's money.
A dead-beat husband can kill a woman's passion fast.

Most Nigerian women were raised to believe their husband will be the sole provider in the marriage. And some men actially promised and assured their wives this. And words mean a lot to a woman.
So when for whatever reason tables turn and the Man isn't providing and she finds herself having to provide, the lady feels cheated, frustrated and out of her comfort zone.

If this festers for long beyond the threshold she can handle, the passion dies.
She may begin to reconsider her loyalty and might seek sex elsewhere especially in this generation where the fear of God is just a religious statement to so many.
We really need to take this weight and load off men. Parents need to train their daughters to be prepared to work. The irony is how you spend so much to send your daughters to school only to inculcate the virus of not working or providing in marriage.

God will continue to expose and deliver Nigerians from some of our cultural and societal norms that are negative and teach us the better and appropriate way.

How many minutes the man wan knack ?
If I touch you and you do any how I don leave you sleep.
If you no beg and cry for knack you would never eve get it from me again .....
With money in my hands lol outside party don start ...
If a woman loves you she would do everything to make you happy even in her dying bed..

Dainy1:
But is it supposed to be so?

Maybe not supposed to be so. But nature has wired it into their heads.

It’s all about communication and understanding.
I would hope that if a man allows his wife to further her career that she is making more money than he is. That she understands that because she is making more does not mean she is the man of the house . And that this is communicated between each other.
That said some of the responsibilities that she would normally do around the house would fall to him to do.
It will take a generation for this to be widely acceptable in our society but I know male doctors who due to their schedule are able to make dinner and pick up kids from school . While she takes the kids to soccer practise and puts them to bed. It’s all about love , communication and putting the needs of the other before one self.
Now why a woman may deny their husband are a few reasons
1. Despite her busy schedule she still had a lot to deal with . Making lunch for kids , laundry etc so she infact tired.
2. He isn’t picking up the slack .
3. It has to be planned it can’t be spontaneous anymore due to their busy schedule.
4. Age of the woman - As they age their sex drive wanes.
5. Stress can reduce one’s desire for sex. I was once in a mood for sex only for me to get an email that one of the tenants wanted to see me urgently - my mojo went from 10 to -10. My girl tried all the tricks in the book , my. JT refused to rise . All because I was stressed mentally.

It's not a conclusion...There should be a level playing ground for both husband and wife...and this is not up for a debate.

Women tend to display an abnormal autocratic
behaviour whenever they have the slightest opportunity to be in control.

Staffs (mostly males) dey see shege in companies and organisations headed by Women.

Again..this is not up for a debate.

Make una try to dey calm down.

Kobojunkie:
Where do you get the idea that if the man was keeping up with his responsibility as breadwinner to his own family — a responsibility he signed up for by the way— that should give him the right to do as he pleases? How you take reach that kain conclusion?

Dainy1

It depends on how much the woman fears God. It also depends on how much the woman loves her husband. It also depends on upbringing. It also depends on the environment.

A woman who truly fears God would obey the scriptural instruction to have "deep respect" for her husband. So, based on this, some women will respect the please the husband.

If a woman has deep affection for her husband, they won't have a problem. Some men made their wives and even their families who they are today. If the man is going through any trial, the lady will stand by him and endure.

It also depends on upbringing. If a lady is brought up believing the husband must be the breadwinner, I feel sorry for such a man. The wife would have zero tolerance for a husband that can't provide for the family, and she won't disguise it. It is even worse when the woman married him for his money. Such a woman will see her spouse as less than nothing.

The environment also plays a part. We are influenced by what we see around us. Men cheat on their wives here a lot as it is common place. If you leave in a society where such is frowned on, you will check your manhood, Likewise, if a woman leaves in a society where the man is expected to be the breadwinner and the lady can be a parasite, wahala don land. Even the man's friend will warn him about depending on the woman.

All 4 scenarios above play a part in whether a man will be denied sex by his wife.

My cousin when he married his wife, he had nothing. They did a simple registry wedding. He is a pastor and did not want to fornicate. She was a corper. He was a penniless pastor with his own mushroom church. My dad let him use the guestroom.

She later got a job with Lagos state. She is a lawyer and was the breadwinner. She was humble and gave the man his respect and sex.

It was 9 years after marriage that he became an estate agent and began making money. By then he had 2 kids. Money was flowing in and he even took his children and wife overs for holiday when the money started gushing in.

So, you even have well brought up Nigerian women who will still respect their marriage vows and

sheriffindy:
■ It's not a conclusion...There should be a level playing ground for both husband and wife...and this is not up for a debate.
■ Women tend to display an abnormal autocratic behaviour whenever they have the slightest opportunity to be in control.
■ Staffs (mostly males) dey see shege in companies and organisations headed by Women. Again..this is not up for a debate. Make una try to dey calm down.

1. There is nothing "level" about your previous comment.

2. You say this as though Nigerian men are not typically known to beat up their wives. On what grounds do you make this outraged claim that autocratic behavior is unique to women alone when control is obtained by them in marriage?

3. You mean female staff dont experience similar with male bosses?

Please, cut the bull already!

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Many Christian wives are demonic. They are not aware they are.
Many will not make heaven for pushing their husbands out into adultery.

These idiotts are the ones you will see raising fake holy hands in the church, dancing like as if they are the most virtue.

They believe their husbands can't go out to have sex because they are supposed to be holy even if they starve them with sex.

Bro. I never patronized ashawo in my whole entire life even as a bachelor until the woman I married started misbehaving. Normally we do it once in a week but that time she kukuma closed her pussy for devil knows what.

I come vex that day. It was even on a Sunday. I didn't go to church. I just go to a brothel to patronize ashawo.
It was so strange. As I never do am before.

I got there and pointed to one of the women and she stood up. Na dat day I know say all those appearance of ashawo na fake.
She collect money. ₦700 at that time. When she removed her clothes wetin I see was disgusting. Stretch marks everywhere. I'm sure her Vijay too must have stretched marks. I no look am well.

She held my thing and it stood up like a soldier ready for war. She inserted condom and lay for me to enter.
For me, sex without pre-intimacy no be sex.
The boobs and everything.

She no even bring boobs out. She ask me say "she be my mother?" Wen I wanted to suck or even play with breast.

In a nutshell I made move to insert my thing into her. Na so the thing that was standing went down like rubber. She asked, "wetin happen" I tell am say I no know o.
Na I'm she wan rub am to make it stand again.
Na so I stood up, remove the condom and started wearing my boxer.
She asked, "you no dey do again?"
I said yes as I continued putting on my clothes.
"I no dey do this kind tin. Na my wife cause am,"
She com say, "okay o,"
Already I don pay now, so she no lose a thing.

Na so I commot the place.
Go my office and go plead with God make E forgive me.

Anyways,
Going to your pastor on such issue is shameful. Me, I no fit do am o.

My advice is.
Call her and talk to her for the last time. If she continues the nonsense. Go find a clean girl as a friend.

The Bible says "If you cant hold your self, go marry,"
Now that you don marry because you no fit hold yourself, the demonic wife they close yansh.

Na so these women dey kill themselves o.

The husband goes out to contact HIV and come and give them at home.

Foolishly, they think say God will punish the man only. Not knowing they will be punished too. They are the causes of all these thing.
Many don't know that sex and good food are more potent than and love charm. Give them to your husband and see how the man go dey love to be at home always.


It is well.

oglalasioux:
Women see sex as a commodity. They give it to the person that pays.

true

As usual, this being Nairaland, apparently the reason is because women are heypergameus, men are lazy, etc etc.

Well, the simple reason why the woman is depriving the husband of intimacy is BECAUSE SHE IS MOST LIKELY FREAKING TIRED.

I mean, all of you that work....at the end of the day, you come home and are tired. (unless you sleep at work, lol). For a breadwinner woman, she comes home, has to STILL do the cleaning and cooking for hubby and children, and ye expect such a woman to still have strength for night activities?

I mean, think...even a man who works from 8am to 5 pm, fights with hard traffic, is not going to be in the mood at the end of a busy day, even if his wife is. SO how do you expect a woman who is working, and is probably very busy, and still has to cook and clean at home...to be still , y'know, ready for the night acktion.?

I honestly laugh at Nairalanders. Threads like these are for women bashing. And then there are the men bashing threads too...jobless man who cannot find work (forgetting that we dey this same Buhari and tinubu economy where work is hard to find).

LOL.

Discountsempai:
■ Well, the simple reason why the woman is depriving the husband of intimacy is BECAUSE SHE IS MOST LIKELY FREAKING TIRED.
I mean, all of you that work....at the end of the day, you come home and are tired. (unless you sleep at work, lol). For a breadwinner woman, she comes home, has to STILL do the cleaning and cooking for hubby and children, and ye expect such a woman to still have strength for night activities? I mean, think...even a man who works from 8am to 5 pm, fights with hard traffic, is not going to be in the mood at the end of a busy day, even if his wife is. SO how do you expect a woman who is working, and is probably very busy, and still has to cook and clean at home...to be still , y'know, ready for the night acktion.?
I honestly laugh at Nairalanders. Threads like these are for women bashing. And then there are the men bashing threads too...jobless man who cannot find work (forgetting that we dey this same Buhari and tinubu economy where work is hard to find).LOL.

But my question remains why do such women choose to live like single mothers in marriage? Why do they choose to torture themselves so instead of demanding the marriage agreement be renegotiated since circumstances have changed?

Emaprince:
Women are naturally hypergamous ...and are not built to be providers

Forget the fake equality they are pursuing. They know the actual role of a man. And if you can't live up to the billing, you aren't man enough in her eye and all that attraction will die a natural death.

It's possible she will even start dating high caliber man and be denying you sex cos all that sweetness about you is gone. You think being romantic can take you anywhere as a man? As a man, your first purpose on earth is to work your socks off to be financially stable. Whether your wife loves you or not, your financial stability should come first. It is the only thing that can save you in tough times. No one loves you as a man. You came to the world to suffer and take care of people around you. Especially the women and kids.

Every man's prayer point should be lead by asking God to always bless the works of your hands..and put you in position to be able to provide for those dependent on you. You can NEVER depend on a woman. NEVER ever try it.

Word!

Guyman01:
A broke man should focus on how to better his life and take his mind off sex except when the woman is in the mood and he fulfils his responsibility.
As long as you don't watch porn or go to locations where women barely cover their bodies such as brothels you won't be having constant urge for sex and for your wife to use it as a tool for blackmail.
When you have money your wife will be in her toes to fulfil her sexual obligations knowing that you can get it outside but a poor man has no business with constant sex as it worsens his condition by making more babies that are sometimes not wanted

This is exactly how useless Nigerian men think...lol When you have money she will be on her toes....bla bla rubbish. If you can get ot outside...lol why do you think she can't? Because of your useless money? Nigeria men can only survive with master slave relationship because the only thing in their poor head is money because they are from a country where basic life is rocket science

Dainy1:
But why?
Once she starts providing everything for the family, the se.xua.l attention becomes zero.

What's your opinion about a woman working hard to feed the family and depriving her husband intimacy?

Especially in a situation where she sees her man as a lazy man who is not putting on more effort to take on his responsibilities.

Does it mean she don't feel Hot some times as well?

Let me not say what is in my mind, because this table will just break

Dainy1:
But why?
Once she starts providing everything for the family, the se.xua.l attention becomes zero.

What's your opinion about a woman working hard to feed the family and depriving her husband intimacy?

Especially in a situation where she sees her man as a lazy man who is not putting on more effort to take on his responsibilities.

Does it mean she don't feel Hot some times as well?

Because nab6 ha e made it feel all she brings to the table is sex. For an healthy relationship where both are working towards a common goal, it wouldn't matter.

Unless the orientation changes, nothing will change.

Emaprince:
Women are naturally hypergamous ...and are not built to be providers

Forget the fake equality they are pursuing. They know the actual role of a man. And if you can't live up to the billing, you aren't man enough in her eye and all that attraction will die a natural death.

It's possible she will even start dating high caliber man and be denying you sex cos all that sweetness about you is gone. You think being romantic can take you anywhere as a man? As a man, your first purpose on earth is to work your socks off to be financially stable. Whether your wife loves you or not, your financial stability should come first. It is the only thing that can save you in tough times. No one loves you as a man. You came to the world to suffer and take care of people around you. Especially the women and kids.

Every man's prayer point should be lead by asking God to always bless the works of your hands..and put you in position to be able to provide for those dependent on you. You can NEVER depend on a woman. NEVER ever try it.

Are you referring to some women because the most I know don't think this way.

People rise and fall and powers shift but then a virtuous woman will never use this to undermine, disrespect or take her man for granted. If his ability to provide is the only reason she sees him as a man worthy of love and respect then she should do everything in her power to ensure he never gets back up again because if that man finds his feet again she will and should be paid in full.

They feel na there them go use hold us if we don't yeld to there want.so they can time us a cheater ,while denying us,they also monitor is and our phone,so they can use it on us.

OboOlora:
U nor fit provide for her and u de get erection, dem suppose castrate u.
All the testosterone wey u suppose use work hard, na preek u de make an stand lol

When u are married u will understand,a woman want is unlimited,it's like a woman have not put u under pressure to see what u can do.

I am a married women, see finish is not the reason.for lack of sex, you people should stop talking rubbish.

Bad attitude from men is the reason for lack of sex,from any woman, women are moved by touch, When you touch their heart emotionally, they melt and open legs, you touch their pocket Financially they mealt and open legs , you touch and make them smiles with good words and character they melt and and open legs .


It is men that are move by sight, women only got moved by ovulation , and that is after period which is within seven days, What this means is that , a woman will only get Hot , 4 times in 31days, and that is during Ovalutiin , during Ovulation she can be Hot without touch. After Ovulation
for the remaining day, she must be touched ,before she will think of sex.and the easier to way to touch a woman is by treating her well.


Not like men who's manhood is moved by sight what they see..

So women do not stop sex because of see finish, women stop sex, because she is not treated well.

Why is it that when most guys meet a new girl, they do everything to touched her so she can give them.sex? They call often, they visit, take her shopping , even if it is local place, they make her smile and laugh? You will discover that when you do all these things the women get touched in her heart, she becomes weak to resist such a man, when he ask, for sex. Listen that lady is not cheap she is not cheap, that is how God created women..


Ask your mother this.

Dainy1:
So, you're justifying it?
But a man work, provide and still give s e.x without complain. Why is a woman's own different?

Good morning, it's important to disburse your mind from such a generalization, please stop it.

I know about 6 or more families where the wives earn more than the husband's and these women don't make noise about it. Our head in the office is a woman and you won't see her abuse or talk bad about her husband.

Some Churches like RCCG, Deeper Life, Mountain of Fire etc have a way of modelling their women in such a way that you may not even know who the breadwinner in the house is.

Lastly, no married woman can stay without sex, it's either she is getting it from her husband or elsewhere but generalizing that all well-to-do women deny their husbands sex is a lie, thank you.

Oloki:
After she might have run up and down from morning to evening in search of daily bread, you want her to come lay flat for a lazy man who probably didn't have anything doing from morning till evening except dreaming about which style he will teach his woman tonight?

Sex is wire to a woman's head in such a way she can switch off at will. So you need love and attention to unlock it.

it is when ur wife deny u sex that is when u will understand demerits of wat you just typed

Dainy1:
So, you're justifying it?
But a man work, provide and still give s e.x without complain. Why is a woman's own different?

Because the man is designed to be stronger than woman, that's why each person have roles, and they are helpmates, so it is allowed to switch role, therefore if the wife is the breadwinner, then the man can complement by taking care of children n home. But if he can't do that, and let the burden fall on one side, the woman will be stressed and get old even while still young, ànd eventually marrige may crash.

Na the hubby dey cause am nah, wives will accord thr hubby respect if she's aware that hubby is working his ass out to earn something for the family.

Oloki:
After she might have run up and down from morning to evening in search of daily bread, you want her to come lay flat for a lazy man who probably didn't have anything doing from morning till evening except dreaming about which style he will teach his woman tonight?

Sex is wire to a woman's head in such a way she can switch off at will. So you need love and attention to unlock it.

God bless you sire

Dainy1:
So, you're justifying it?
But a man work, provide and still give s e.x without complain. Why is a woman's own different?

in this context, women and men are not equal but become equal over plate of pepper soup

christejames:
That's why the world finds it hard to hand over leadership role to women...



Especially embittered feminists!

True, even fellow women reject it because they know themselves.

Truth is a woman's love for her man lies in how well he's able to provide for her. The moment that is lacking, the love drops. Forget what anyone says.

Most of the men I've fallen in love with, it's their ability to provide for me that made me love and respect them. This may not apply to every woman but majority are in this category.

When a man can no longer provide to the extent he's now being perceived as lazy because he too refused to get another job, really it can be very annoying and its that annoyance that will make him irritating to the woman. Most men don't really have that physical quality going for them except provisions and every luxury money can buy.
You think if Ned was a commoner, Regina Daniels would agree to marry him? Hmm .. the earlier you men realize this the better for you.

Go and hustle.