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Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by sweetonyx(m): 8:33pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
take my advice, stick to your man and put your home rite, |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by delaronte: 8:36pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
hello, i understand how you feel, while i was serving i had a friend who was in similar sitution, its alarming to find out how many women are in similar situation, its possible to have a platonic friend, i was very supportive to a woman in similar situation, i truely understand how you feel but know that no man can play the role of your husband, try to be careful in your search for a friend, there are few men who can have friendship with a lady without ideas getting to their head. When i was less busy it would have been easy playing the role but right now i work in one of them banks. but we can talk over this forum. I pray you find solace in christ |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by frgy1: 8:47pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
even if you do need such a friend. is this d right place to look 4 one? over half d people here wount take you serious.try work things out wit your hubby.am positive all will be well wit you. take heart. cheers |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by nkan(m): 9:08pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
Dear poster, I can imagine what you are passing through, but finding another man to keep you company or gine you companion is not the solution. God has the solution, go to him in prayer, you can contribute to the solution too. There is power in constant communication. With every amount of humility and respect initiate a talk with him at a convinience time and sort out yourself. Find out what is really wrong. Even if he is an addent womaniser is not enough for him not to be hungry of you. Marriage is for better for worse. |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by my2cents(m): 10:02pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
myomy, There is nothing like a male or female "friend". Rather, what such "friends" are, are people that haven't slept with each other (yet). Finding a male companion is merely a ticking time bomb for the D-day, bedmatics-wise. If you need a companion, find it in family members (those who were part of your marriage). If you are a christian, then follow the bible and do what it says (paraphrasing) - report him to the church elders. Perhaps once it comes out publicly, he will change. Finally, again, do what the bible says (again, paraphrasing) - pray incessantly for the situation to change. I hope this helps. |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by dablessed(f): 10:47pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
martin007: Nairalanders, i tire for una o, you go give good advice but scatter the whole thing with plenty polite insults. Which one be, [s]Don't you have a Pastor in your church you can talk to? what about your brothers, relations? are they all dead?[/s] Ehn? I think that was rather insultive, i am sure she would not have bothered to bring up her matter here if she could turn to her brothers/relatives/pastor alone. lets watch it guys and not make people feel bad for bringing their personal issues here. One love, |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by showbobo(m): 10:51pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
@davidyland@yahoo.com I bet your brain feels as good as new, seeing that you've never used it.People are trying to help this lady here and all you can contribute is rubbish. |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by Nobody: 11:00pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
Nairaland worry, no be small |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by Uche2nna(m): 11:02pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
Must it be a male friend? Is it not better to ask for a female friend? That way the temptation to cheat will be avoided |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by ifyalways(f): 11:09pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
Uche2nna:word sister.look for a female friend simple.engage in other ativities.time to find and utilize your talents and hobbies.get closer to GOD.keep loving your hubby.goodluck dear |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by maneasy: 11:13pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
My name is Ade. Married with children. I really understand what you going through,i will like to have for friendship, you can get to me through my Email add , which is maneasy1968@yahoo.co.uk 1 Like |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by maneasy: 11:17pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
My name is Ade. Married with children. I really understand what you going through,i will like to have you for friendship, you can get to me through my Email add , which is maneasy1968@yahoo.co.uk |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by spoilt(f): 11:31pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
There's nothing worse than a married woman whose husband pays her no mind.All his resources and energy is spent on random women outside the marriage. She just shrivels up and dies slowly. My take is that its better to be alone than unhappy. Life is too short to be wasted on someone who doesnt respect you. 1 Like |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by deor03(m): 11:37pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
please do NOT compound the problem by being close to another man. eventually you will engage ADULTERY |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by Blenheim(m): 11:54pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
I'm a man and I'd advise you to keep away from another man. This is because yu're looking for someone to fill a 'gap'. The 'filling' will definitely end up in more problems, so please seek counselling and pray for your husband. From experience, I've seen many ladies search for the 'ideal guy' and end up in tears- this is a warning to the unmarried ladies- your 'ideal guy' might give you hassles like this. |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by acidrop(f): 12:08am On Nov 13, 2007 |
na wa ooooo, what do u want a male friend for, what about your husband? |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by Pip(m): 12:39am On Nov 13, 2007 |
Baby give him 7 days fasting and prayers, he would not even believe himself. Besides did u notice all this from the begining? Talk to THE LORD. he's not changed one bit. He built the earth in 6 days not to talk of one small problem. Two wrongs have never made a right |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by Pappyjesby(m): 12:49am On Nov 13, 2007 |
Thank God that you rightly said you are a xtian, that goes a long way in resolving this matter. Your husband cheats on you, right, he has no time for you, he sleeps about with strange women, right, I would not want you to get discouraged or bored about the situation, I want to asure you there is still hope. A song writer says; Are you discouraged, and are you blue, Are clouds obscuring the sun from view Keep trusting Jesus though storms assail He's not forgotten, He will not fail It's always darkest befor the dawn Don't be discouraged but carry on He'll not forsake you the sun will break through It's always darkest before the dawn. He knows your heartache, He understands Just put your problem in His great hands, No trouble meets you but in His will, He's not forgotten, He loves you still. I want you to see what is going on in your home as a challenge, I don't blame you neither do i condemn you, I know how you feel, it may be soul scourging and unpalatable for your body, one thing I want you to think of is your position in that home, then think about your children both born and unborn ones. I know the pain may be unbearable but for the sake of Christ you have to look unto God and ask for the grace to bear it. |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by FactorChic(f): 1:27am On Nov 13, 2007 |
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO PLS DON'T DO IT! If you feel that u can handle it anymore, its better for you to go get a divorce, sleeping with another man while in a marriage is very wrong, yeah u might feel better having sex, but think about the result, it won't be so pretty, don't be so desperate as to ruin ur future, PLS get a divorce, don't do it while u're still married |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by allonym: 1:34am On Nov 13, 2007 |
OP, Your question is a little confusing. How is it that you don't already have male friends? Perhaps I'm the silly one here. For me (and most people I personally know) having friends of the opposite sex is not a big deal. We don't end up in bed with each other. Perhaps Nigerians are more oversexed than they want to believe. If all you want is a friend, I'd suggest participating in activities that put you in contact with other people. Putting an ad out looking for male friendship will always garner you responses of a different nature. |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by kooldamsel(f): 1:48am On Nov 13, 2007 |
@poster You werent forced so u can get out of it.You re only giving excuses for wanting to commit a sin.Hey why stay in a marriage u dnt want.Keep your dignity intact and do whats right.You amaze me |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by ThoniaSlim(f): 1:52am On Nov 13, 2007 |
@spoilt Word! @topic Please give her break, she's asking for advice not condemnation. |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by scorpio1(m): 1:58am On Nov 13, 2007 |
you are looking for a Guy to shag you.period. "your husband hasnt touched you for weeks" Grin You r looking for David-Jonathan relationship? what if David and Jonathan were gay? Lips sealed then better look for a girlriend right?? Tongue That's the KOKO!!!, Someone should kind of help her out, what more should i say when she should have gone to God than come to Nairaland to look for a male ****nd. |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by tflow: 2:38am On Nov 13, 2007 |
hey nice post there. but i think you need a serious prayer for him. i can be of help to you, cos have once had a sister with such predicament, and i know what she did. i'm married, and i'm a very good husband to my wife, but i can still help you, so call me on this number 08028490836. kingsley |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by theboy0808(m): 3:41am On Nov 13, 2007 |
lmao |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by PRINCEA31(m): 5:18am On Nov 13, 2007 |
think b/for you do. 4 more advise u can chat with me on my yahoo messanger id adewunmi_dny@yahoo.com or email me adewunmi.adetola@gmail.com. mind u, a word is enough 4 a wise man. |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by nelsonizo(m): 5:32am On Nov 13, 2007 |
if interested, i`m Nelson, resides in Lagos, mail me , izogothem@yahoo.co.uk or call me on 08020596361 , maybe i can show d care u needed. Hope to hear from you soon. |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by Nobody: 7:28am On Nov 13, 2007 |
nelsonizo: are u serious?, i think the story is cr**ap. never happened, just a cook-up sh***t from a bored house wife. |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by Rubbermaid(f): 8:20am On Nov 13, 2007 |
@Poster. It's horrible that you are in a marriage by yourself and I feel for you. IT IS SO UNFAIR TO YOU!! Please find yourself fulfilling relationships with friends (male and [/b]female) [b]IF you decide by all means that you want to remain married to him. This is so that you don't die of neglect. Don't do it to make a point rather do it for your own happiness. Most of these nairalanders are asking you to cope, pray, etc and not even addressing the fundamental issue that you are not really in a "marriage". They are talking like marriage does not mean companionship, companionship, faithfulness, LOVE, friendship etc. They even have the galls to advice you against potential adultery!!! This is without addressing the fact that the reason you are pining a meaningful male companionship (not to be confused with sex as some think) is that he is out committing adultery in the first place!!! In essence, a man can take a woman's life and happiness and lock them up in a dungeon without meaningful human contact all in the name of marriage while he goes out prostituting the street until one day when he comes to his senses during his old age wasted and shriveled to rescue her just in time for her to die of old age - a life wasted. Puh-lease. My sister divorce this loser so you can live a fulfilling life or go make meaningful friendships so you don't lose you marbles worrying about the fool. That or wait for him to die of aids then you can get your freedom. Lastly, ignore these prowling men giving you their numbers, emails etc - encourage them to expend the energy on their own wives and girlfriends. You go out about your business and meet people - go to the gym, take a dance/art class, go back to college whatever makes you happy. |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by akara(m): 8:34am On Nov 13, 2007 |
A very interesting thread, All this councellors leaving contact details. Una go kill am o. i don talk my own. |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by ehie007(m): 8:40am On Nov 13, 2007 |
My question is this: b4 u married him didnt u know he was a womaniser. i believe u married out of forstration or u married in a hurry, now u are in a mess and ur complaning. Its either ur hubby is tired of you. Sorry dear. Two things you shoould do: 1. Give him time to change with the help of God and urself. Try and work on urself and see if things will change. If after a while with ur effort and he doesnt change, pls go for the second option, which leads to option 2. 2. Seek for a divorce. Since u av proof that he cheats on you, your divorce will be justifyable. Do it quick before u get too old. All the best. |
Re: Im Married But I Need A Male Friend by mellow(m): 8:42am On Nov 13, 2007 |
You need a male friend or a sex partner? Go home and take care of your family. This is how you people go about developing Aids here and there.[/color][color=#990000] |
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