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cletuskpelle (m)
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How long can a man tolerate a nagging and uncompromising spouse?  |
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gina34 (f)
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Till death do them apart. because he has to keep to his vows.
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cletuskpelle (m)
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A friend who has lived with his spouse whose middle name is 'nagging' for seven years asked me for advice on what he should do. He said he was tied of being with her. His happiness turns to sorrow anytime he enters his home. The wife has turned their home into a battle ground. They've been together for that long without an issue. The woman nags so much that he has started drinking excessively and staying out late which I believe is not good for either of them. I adviced him to try as much as he can without involving any third party in talking to her. He told me that he has done everything humanly possible but to no avail.
Recently he started dating a girl. So what do you think about that?
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Seun (m)
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Even the bible says it's better to sleep on the roof of your house than to live with a nagging woman. Personally, I think I'll just go and jump into the lagoon if my wife turns out to be a nag. Because I'd need to have continuous peace and tranquility at home. On the other hand, what is divorce for? I know it's not easy, but I'll do it in the case of a nagging wife. I don't want to die young and I cannot tolerate continuous sorrow in my life due to one some woman whose mouth happens to run like Ben Johnson! |
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Chigszy (f)
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For better or worse till death do us part. That is the vow, live with it! 
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tcherokee (m)
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nagging wife....
i'll sleep in the office.
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Ka (m)
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Nagging wife?
Not a problem.
Ideally, every human being should respect the freedom that another human being has to make decisions instead of trying to force them by nagging. So I don't really feel guilty about saying that this is how a typical week would go by in the house of Mr. "Naggee" and Mrs. "Naggor" Ka:
Day one
Mrs. Ka: You should do this... you should do that... nag... nag... nag... nag...
Ka: All right darling, you are right and I am wrong. I will do exactly what you want as from tomorrow.
Mrs. Ka: Good.
(end of nagging)
Day two
Mrs. Ka: What steps have you taken to do what I asked you to do?
Ka (smiling sweetly): Absolutely nothing, my dear.
Mrs. Ka (exasperated): What! You said you would do something about this yesterday. Nag... nag... nagnagnagnag...
Ka: My sweet, you are right as ever. I promise that tomorrow, I will start doing what you have asked me to do.
Mrs. Ka: How do I know that you will?
Ka: You just have to trust me.
Mrs. Ka: OK. But I will be very angry if you don't do anything o!
(end of nagging)
Day three
Mrs. Ka: I don't see any sign that you have done anything about what you said you would do yesterday.
Ka: That's because I haven't started.
Mrs. Ka (absolutely furious at this point) WHAT!! You said you would start! You LIED to me! You are a hopeless, useless, nagnagnagnagnagnagNAGnagnagNAGnagnagNAGNAGnagNAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAaaaaaaaaaaAAAAAAAAAAAAAaaaaaaAAAAAAAAG....
(next fifteen minutes passes in this fashion)
Mrs. Ka: ...and you had better do it this time or else there will be war in this house!
Ka (smiling serenely): Oh my honey, you are so upset! What can I do to calm you down?
Mrs. Ka: YOU CAN START BY DOING WHAT I HAVE BEEN ASKING YOU TO DO ALL THIS TIME!!!!!
Ka: Sorry, perhaps you can explain it to me again? I try to understand, but it's too much to take in... maybe it's because you're always nagging me when you say it so I can't focus properly.
Mrs. Ka (throwing her hands up in despair) How can you not understand something that I have been talking to you about for so long?I give up.
Ka: That's a shame. You know I would have even been prepared to die for you if that's what you were asking. (silently to himself) Yesss!!! RESULT!
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Seun (m)
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Very funny, but it won't work. They never, ever give up. They could do it for years on end; it's like a form of recreation to them. Nagging is to a (yoruba?) woman what drinking beer is to a man. When she nags you, it actually makes her feel better for a while after the nagging session; so it's addictive.
Marriage vows or not, there are some few things I simply can't tolerate. Nagging is one.
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ruggedguy (m)
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Nagging wife the Holy bible says destroys her home. So you better <<snip>>
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dablessed (f)
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If as a man, you can't deliver your wife of her nagging spirit, then you have a problem yourself.  - Two people need to be delivered here! On a more serious note, everyman must learn to understand their wife in totality. Its a shame that most men only try to understand them in bed alone. I am sure no woman enjoys being referred to as a nag. I am also certain that a woman does not wake up one morning only to find herself a nag! It is usually as a result of accumulated unresolved issues. Why wouldnt the guy do what he says he'd do and why must he wait until the woman reminds him about what he promised to do the day before? { Knowing her incessant nature} As a man, it is your utter responsibility to understand your woman and also able to manage her weaknesses. Divorce is not the answer here. Seeking the option of divorce only shows you are a failure. |
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dablessed (f)
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Nagging wife the Holy bible says destroys her home.
So you better destroy her before she destroys you.
Have you paused for a moment to think that destorying her only means destroying yourself? Have you? Mr ruggedboy? For the Bible says "the two shall become one? |
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ruggedguy (m)
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If as a man, you can't deliver your wife of her nagging spirit, then you have a problem yourself. - Two people need to be delivered here! On a more serious note, everyman must learn to understand their wife in totality. Its a shame that most men only try to understand them in bed alone. I am sure no woman enjoys being referred to as a nag. I am also certain that a woman does not wake up one morning only to find herself a nag! It is usually as a result of accumulated unresolved issues. Why wouldnt the guy do what he says he'd do and why must he wait until the woman reminds him about what he promised to do the day before? { Knowing her incessant nature} As a man, it is your utter responsibility to understand your woman and also able to manage her weaknesses. Divorce is not the answer here. Seeking the option of divorce only shows you are a failure. Dablessed, Tell that to your son when you get one. Dont your know nagging in a woman is an incurable ailment like HIV/AIDS. If you see it run away, its got no cure. It will either consume you or you consume it. If your nagging wife will make you sin, chop her off your body. |
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dablessed (f)
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@Ruggedboy!
And if you chop off a part of your body, that important, what becomes of you?
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ruggedguy (m)
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Big sister dablessed, A nagging wife is a curse.
To save you from too much wahala and headache, put her in a bin bag alive and drop her in a desert.
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Seun (m)
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Ruggedguy, that's a little too strong! Nagging occurs when a woman has concluded that what you are is not good enough. So she keeps trying to use words to make him change. The more he resists, the more words she'll use in her campaign, and it will never stop until he kicks the bucket! Now the question is, why should you marry a man when he's not good enough for you the way he is? I can understand if I'm nagged by my mum, my sister, or a hostel roommate. But to be nagged by someone who with eyes open decided to walk into a long-tern relationship? That is the pathway to an early grave, because if you can't relaz at your own home where will you be able to do your relaxing? In the arms of a mistress?  No wonder! |
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joftech (m)
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there can always be an ammendment in the law that governs a marriage, i just don't buy the idea of "for better for worse" if the worse is something that can be corrected.
one must not subject himself to a nagging wife in the name of for better or worse. if anyone want to marry he should take time to sutdy if the girl or her mother is chronic "naggers".
i hate women that nag with a passion. nagging has more effect on the children than divorce, if you have seen children of nagging women u will know what am talking about.
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diakim (m)
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It's better to remain single for life than to be cursed with a nagging wife. A nagging woman ultimate aim is to control her husband. If the man is the quiet type who wants to avoid row at all cost, he will end up being her footmat.
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cletuskpelle (m)
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What I will say here is this. If you're unfortunate to be saddled with a nagging wife and since there is no way you can change her. Prepare yourself well. Get a new abode. Walkout on her one day after one of her nagging marathons to register your displeasure and don't bother returning. You may be lucky. No need jumping into the lagoon. This was the advice I gave my friend because she embarrassed me when I tried talking to her as requested by my friend. Man!!: She almost created a scene.
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Seun (m)
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As a third party you should be in a position to help them understand each other. Having expressed my displeasure about nagging, it turns out that it's necessary to first of all know what the woman's problem with her husband is. i am sure that this would require a lot of patience.
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nike4luv (f)
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i say u call people to talk to them..if that doesnt work, just use the 19th century treatment
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Greatpeter (m)
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Pray for her and talk to her in a lovely way and show her affection she will change.
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hot-angel (f)
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I can't stand people that nag.
But the best way to deal with a nagging wife is talk to her, be romantic, make her know you're tired of her nagging and you want to enjoy her love and also show her how much you love, Buy stuffs for her, and don't nag back at her when she nags. Don't walk out of the house when she starts nagging. if u do so, she'll say u went to meet anothe rgirl that ain't nagging (she knows she pursed u,,,,but she will still nag). Just go in the room and start speaking in tongues. (u nessecarily don't have to be praying..just start learning languages u don't know). She will realise you're tired and still didn't go out of the house. Hmmph..
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Seun (m)
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Jumping into the lagoon is more likely to work. Nags will always be nags. I've lived 23 years and I've met a lot of them and live with some, but I have never met a nag that changed her ways.
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kazey (m)
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hum Nagging wife. I better stay single And if i am blessed with one I would give her the choice of either The Pen (divorce) if she continues with her ways or the script (The agreement between me and her on the wedding day). if she promises to change in a week. I would say it in a calm way, As Simple as that. |
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cletuskpelle (m)
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Tell me something. Is nagging hereditary or its a habit learned over the years? Because a nagging woman never changes.
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kazey (m)
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I think its more of influence, learning from the mom in this case.
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Seun (m)
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Ladies, we want you to know that we hate nagging so much, so you have to stop and look for another way to motivate your man. Nagging is like taking your man and throwing him into a den of young skirts! |
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hot-angel (f)
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I don't nag. Not all ladies nag.
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IAH (f)
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But why is nagging attributed to only wives/women? Can't the men nag too? I have had male friends who just talk and talk and talk. They don't let you say a word and you just look at their mouths as they rant from A-Z. Can we also call this nagging or am I missing the real meaning of nagging here? What exactly would you classify as nagging?
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Seun (m)
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Nagging, Level 1: "I want you to do this and that, even if you don't want to, and I'll keep telling you to do it until you finally cave in or drop dead."
Nagging, Level 2: "I am not satisfied with who you are (your job, the amount of money you make, your beauty, or something else that is not under your control). And everyday I'm going to make sure to remind you that I'm just not happy with who you are!"
IAH, it is true that some men nag their wives, for example if the man happens to be a more organized/disciplined person than the wife. This is not so common, I think, because men seem to have the option of passing their point accross with threats.
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vexxy (f)
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Level 2 sounds more like unappreciative complaints and would drive me crazy.
I also think men whine (in a manly way of course) more than nag. Just my opinion.
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