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Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by DWJOBScom(m): 9:58pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
mastermaestro: No comment Kid It must be tough for you to reason my way Don't worry , you are almost there 7 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Shokoloko(f): 10:01pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
mastermaestro: Its great that you said People like me and not me per se. Go and look at my posts: I have never been left helpless and stranded in my moment of need Curses do not work if not the President would not be hale and hearty by now. OP's parents are not in need. I didnt ask OP to abandon his parents. I asked OP to send money for them to rent a good and standard place. What they require is shelter; they do not require OPs personal house. Proverbs 13:22: “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children.” (NKJV) Not a good man leaves inheritance for his parents. That house is for OP's children and children's children. He should honour his parents by providing reasonable shelter, and not by providing an inheritance for his parents. Also note that OP's wife contributed in building this home. (Please search for her own thread). If it was her parents that moved in without consent would people think they did well? 48 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Emarvel(m): 10:12pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
Shokoloko:I mean not to insult you buh keep quiet, drop your pen and think well before you write again. His parents are not dragging the property with him, unless the OP is schooling abroad, there's really no point why he should be furious about this. Even if you give birth to 20 children abroad, none of them will come here and drag the property. Living abroad and having a house in Naija, is just like saving for the rainy day, should incase you're deported, you'll have a place to stay. Buh other than that, if you live all your good life abroad, none of your children abroad will come to Naija and drag property. Logically, it makes no sense, having a house and your parents are in rent. 6 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Shokoloko(f): 10:29pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
Emarvel: Are you opposed to the teachings of the bible? 1. OP is not furious he is confused. 2. There is this pervasive entitlement mentality in Nigeria that is wrong. If OPs parents had told him before the rent expired that they were going to move into his home and spend the rent money on something, that would have been a different scenario. They would have discussed it. If Ops parents consulted him I will know that they are the type that respects his decision and when the time comes to move they will move, but they moved in and make arrangements and told him after they had finished. I am sure they are lovely people but they do not seem to have a lot of regard for what their son thinks 3. Dont assume that kids born in the diaspora do not want to return. The only thing keeping a flood of Nigerians in diaspora is the security situation in the country which by the grace of God will be resolved. 4. Even if I put down my pen and remain quiet till tomorrow the bible remains unchanged: inheritance is not for parents. This position remains except OP states that he is not a Christian then we can look to advice from another perspective 34 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Akposkibo(m): 11:29pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
Situation like this is hard to solve https://www.nairaland.com/6780662/next-decision#106409007 Be a part of the making of the next generation |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by SHOPPERS(m): 11:30pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
Funny your wife too just posted it. You both know what to do already. 2 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by TheeDetective: 11:54pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
@Op; Just to let you know that your wife is referring to your parents as being insensitive as attached from her thread below as she has also brought this matter to NL as well. https://www.nairaland.com/6784702/husband-parent-taking-property#106421014 Kehindeaj78: 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Nobody: 12:07am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Kehindeaj78:Go & Chase them naaaa What are you waiting for...? In Fact, I can chase them away for you. The WAY some Topics emerge on this forum, makes me believe we shall definitely be getting another Demented BUBU for a President. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by armyofone(m): 4:31am On Oct 04, 2021 |
An uncompleted house is an uncompleted house. He is paying for a good place for them to live! So why would they do what wasn't planned such as living in an uncompleted house and stressing him to complete it? Nigeria parents with strong head and show offism. 4 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by franklingud(m): 6:42am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Allow your parents joor! Them do you any bad thing by sending you to school? And sending you abroad? Allow them my friend. Everything na complain complain. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Blazinraj01(f): 6:46am On Oct 04, 2021 |
TheeDetective:You are evil. You are not trying to help them resolve their issue; you just want to sow a seed of discord. I don't think 'insensitive' is an insulting word. It would have been better if you actually told the husband that his wife has shared similar issue here and they should find a way to resolve it. 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by cococandy(f): 6:56am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Crossroad1: mastermaestro: Crossroad1:Where una dey see this money ? The kind of advice y’all give on NL sha “Even if na 3 bedroom bungalow”. As if it doesn’t cost millions to build. So unrealistic 20 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Acidosis(m): 7:12am On Oct 04, 2021 |
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Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by PuZZyNegro: 7:13am On Oct 04, 2021 |
mastermaestro: We Africans are too hypocritical. Why would his parents move into his house without discussing with him? Will you as a child take such critical decision on your parents' property without informing them? The essence of a house is shelter and OP's parents are not homeless. He sent them money to pay for their accommodation, what difference does it make living in a rented apartment versus living in your own house? People are advised to build because of the cost of paying rent but where the rental fee isn't an issue, I don't see why the parents should be in a haste to move into an uncompleted building without telling the owner of the house. It is wrong! 12 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by AgentGoat: 7:14am On Oct 04, 2021 |
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Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by AgentGoat: 7:17am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Kehindeaj78: My friend go build another house. At their ages leaving someone else property you think it is funny? |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by egbabiekperemo1: 7:23am On Oct 04, 2021 |
[s]DWJOBScom: O.p pls avoid this post at all cost 2 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by PuZZyNegro: 7:24am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Shokoloko: At last, someone with reason. People can be too emotional and sentimental in issues that involve family members and will give advice that they will never take. For the house to remain uncompleted shows how the poster is gradually building it with limited available resources. So, why will the parents quickly move in without informing him simply because they are his parents. I don't like people taking advantage of the relationship they have with others either as parents, siblings, friends, etc. Before the house project, they have lived all their lives paying rent. Now, it is a taboo for them to remain a tenant. The quest to look the landlord in the face and tell him "fuck_you" and the desire to answer landlord and landlady fuels this type of action. 24 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by guru90: 7:24am On Oct 04, 2021 |
THEY DESERVE THE BEST FROM YOU.. STOP COMPLAINING AT ALL.... |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by RALPHOW(m): 7:24am On Oct 04, 2021 |
And so what? Are you coming back to Nigeria to leave in the house? Thank God they build the house in your name. Thank God you build a house and remove the shame and reproach from your parent. Are you not ashamed that your parent still leave in a rented apartment. I wonder the type of children of today, when you supposed to be rejoicing that God used you to remove shame from your parent and indirectly from yourself. If you desire to leave in Nigeria ( which I will not advice you to do, just do everything to regularise your paper abroad) go and build another house for yourself. 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by AmazingELixir: 7:25am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Op...your parents just reminded you that they own you....so everything you own is there's. Op the only Solution open to you to move them out is start planning to build them their own retirement home. 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by HelpYourself(m): 7:25am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Kehindeaj78:As you judged your parents so will you be judged but more severely. As you belittle them with this ridiculous attention seeking post so will you be belittled but more severely. As you think evil thoughts spurred by pride and arrogance towards they who cared for you when you were vulnerable so will you be disregarded and tossed aside even worse when your time comes . It is not me who curses you with this but your very own deeds and thoughts, for the laws of karma are absolute. You have laid a terrible fate for yourself and for all who this ridiculous post influences to think wrongly so will you to chained in the afterlife until they come to recognition of their misdeeds I wish you strength for what is coming your way Cheers 2 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Born2conquer: 7:26am On Oct 04, 2021 |
greenie77:This is his fear, siblings will grow to assume the house belong to the family Some siblings might even end up getting married and not wanting to leave 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by NOETHNICITY(m): 7:26am On Oct 04, 2021 |
What belongs to you belong to ur parents, know this and know peace 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Nobody: 7:26am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Mumu man,so you want them to leave under bridge abi. Go and chase them out naaa make village people gather for you . As you dey build house dey get money you no like am abi, you wan make your gf and her part park into the house ? Okay whine yourself naaa you go hear scores ezi. 2 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Vikynas: 7:26am On Oct 04, 2021 |
descarado:I love this 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Bigfish121(m): 7:26am On Oct 04, 2021 |
What you would have done first was to build a house for your parents since you are not in Nigeria.This was what a friend that I am managing did and now he has built his own. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by temitope27(m): 7:26am On Oct 04, 2021 |
DWJOBScom:see you as you dey talk jagoons 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Acidosis(m): 7:26am On Oct 04, 2021 |
AgentGoat: And how's that OP's fault?? See your mouth like go build another house. Can you afford 100 pieces of blocks?? Ever bought a bag of cement in your life? 20 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by nairaman66(m): 7:26am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Emarvel: The circumstances are still sketchy! Did he told them he is building the house for them? They are suppose to inform him irrespective of their plans of moving in. It is totally unfair, and as a family they are suppose to discuss their thoughts and convictions with him. Do you know if the OP is trying to relocate back to the country to start a family? Maybe he built the house with his last savings? Put yourself in his shoes first before commenting and see if your words will be the same. 5 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Nobody: 7:27am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Kehindeaj78:Go and add this to the original post. People go just comment base on what you wrote before this. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
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