Hathor5:


There is something called confirmation bias meaning that we get to see what we believe.

Yep. It makes people set in their ways, and they refuse their views being challenged. They believe what they believe.

zed7:

You talk too much. Classic case of low self esteem.

Says the deputy of low self-esteem.

Mercychen:
To me, nothing really special about marriage because I've moved closely with married people and all i see is stress, stress and more stress!

Imagine the daily routine of a woman. Especially those who are not working.

Wake up early ( when youre not ready)
Prep the children for school.
Prepare their food breakfast.
If hubby is nice, he'll help drop them off otherwise, you do the school runs.

You get home and start putting the house in order. And attend to other chores staring you in the face. Time is ticking

Get ready to prepare lunch.
Then before you know it, it's time to go pick the kids.
Come back, freshen them up.
Serve them
Attend to their home work.

The you get set for dinner so hubby can have something to eat when he gets home. Before you know it, the day is gone and you're fagged out. Same thing continues tomorrow and on and on until....

Imagine if you're a working Mom and now have to combine all these with work...

Now tell me what will make a single viewing all these want to get married?

Truth be told, that's another thing I calculate and i relax and continue enjoying my single life.

Many married women are not happy. They are silently crying!!!
Forget all that fake smile they wear when they come out. They are not happy

Even the men are not 100% fulfilled. Responsibility wan break their neck.

Let's tell ourselves the truth. Even if you're rich, it's still not that easy.

I've seen a rich couple who both drove madly to school at the same time to pick their ward and were reigning heavy curses at each other at the gate because they both argued earlier on who's going to pick the son. So it's like non of them wanted to come and it was already evening and the boy was still in school.

I guess they called the house and the nanny who was babysitting their twin babies then, told them the boy was not home.

Omor.. see the speed they drove into the school compound with. Wify packed one side, hubby parked the other way and they both jumped out of their cars rushing Into the school and abusing each other.

Wife : " You shouldn't have come" useless man" As she stormed into the classroom

Man: ori e ko pe. why did you come? You should have remained at work"

Hmmm... So much hype about marriage. Abegi!

Jeez it's called responsibility....

With this your mindset it will difficult to attain certain heights in your career or life...

All you mentioned as stress are responsibility... Would you expect another woman or your mum to do your duties on your behalf??

Lots of you need some growing up to do

qtguru:


Well there are alot of fools in the world if that's the case.

FACTSSS!!!

Commitment, loyalty, a ride or die partner in crime, a best friend to share every day with, someone that you can learn things about yourself that you wouldn’t learn or experience otherwise, someone that you can help to grow and blossom to reach their full potential, someone that you can love unconditionally and be loved back the same.

I actually feel more importance is attached to it coz of our environment sha......
And all the "you are no longer a kid" stuff.
I mean Adulthood to some parents is marked by getting real with your lovelife but to me it's not really worth all that...
Getting married is cool but much emphasis don't have to be placed on it to the extent that anyone above a particular age not married is seen like am outcast....
After the marriage again, another topic of children an the ring goes on and on... I'm anticipating though..... Make we just taste am and see how it be�

If marriage is not important, then giving birth to you will not be important, then, you wouldnt have been here typing this nonsense.

no jokes, marriage is over hyped... I want to get married someday too, coz I beleive in love..... buh then have seen so many bad marriages it scares me... in my 23+ yrz on earth have seen only one marriage I admire.... (not my parents)....

how do you go from lovers to strangers.....

I have no answer for that.

Use geechy

@op..

Once Married..
Your hustle to achieve doublles..triples

Your s3x overdrive normalizes...

You have an eagle eye to situations...

You beg the supreme being more than before for assistance..

You carry yourself responsibly

What more?

MoneyTrees:
.
It's good to say it if you mean it
I missed you that's why

I missed you too


Send me money from your MoneyTrees

I'm waiting.

You sound like a very intelligent lady. Bravo

Hathor5:


Who is they? The people who say marriage is not important are probably not the same people who talk down on unmarried people so I see no hypocrisy here.

Whether she is getting married in her 30s or 20s people will congratulate her because under normal circumstances an upcoming wedding is a happy occasion. It means that someone has found love which is wonderful, isn't it?

Personally, I believe that Nigerians 'hype' marriage too much but I agree that being married to the right person can be a beautiful experience.

doggedfighter:


I missed you too


Send me money from your MoneyTrees

I'm waiting.

You just need to pluck my ribs dear
The Moneytrees is ever green for you
Only if Buhari no carry him Sapa Air strikes come were Imma rooted firm for you dear
Just replying you the love pot in my heart just burst open
What's happening to me

MoneyTrees:

You just need to pluck my ribs dear
The Moneytrees is ever green for you
Only if Buhari no carry him Sapa Air strikes come were Imma rooted firm for you dear
Just replying you the love pot in my heart just burst open
What's happening to me

Seems like your puffing really nice weed this morning

Mercychen:


Wake up early ( when youre not ready)
Prep the children for school.
Prepare their food breakfast.
If hubby is nice, he'll help drop them off otherwise, you do the school runs.

These are genuinely some of the things normal people do and derive satisfaction; mentally and emotionally. Helping their offsprings become better human beings and watching them grow into successful adults. How is preparing breakfast for your own kids a big deal? I do that even for strangers.

tradepunter:


Jeez it's called responsibility....

With this your mindset it will difficult to attain certain heights in your career or life...

All you mentioned as stress are responsibility... Would you expect another woman or your mum to do your duties on your behalf??

Lots of you need some growing up to do

I couldn't believe that comment and funnily it got over a 100 likes. Preparing breakfast for one's kids and getting them ready for school genuinely sounds like some of the few pecks of marriage where one gets to bond with their kids in the process.
Apparently for this utterly selfish generation that's such a mightily stressful thing to do.

doggedfighter:


Seems like your puffing really nice weed this morning

Weed of ❤️

KevinDein:


I couldn't believe that comment and funnily it got over a 100 likes. Preparing breakfast for one's kids and getting them ready for school genuinely sounds like some of the few pecks of marriage where one gets to bond with their kids in the process.
Apparently for this utterly selfish generation that's such a mightily stressful thing to do.

My brother I am tired for the ladies of this generation...

It's a really damn shame....

Men will stop chasing and disturbing ur life

Loxleyy:
1. You get a companion...sha e get some wey na thugs.

2. Free Sex till you tire

3.

Sex is overrated...

Mariangeles:


Never condemn what you want.
Be true to yourself.
Marriage to the right person is a blessing.
Children in marriage give you a sense of purpose. They make life struggle worth it. They give meaning to life.

Kedu your brand, coke, malt ka o wu beer...


Young ladies shouldn't be deceived by what some people put out here while sitting on their bed to appear woke and informed to public who doesn't care.

People who fail in getting what they admired, will never be happy watching others get it right..They Have this I can't go down in regret alone.

Again, not everyone enjoyed the love in a responsible home....

Na very younger ladies i pity most here, especially those who aren't that intelligent and strong mind of their own...Some ladies will rub their bad acts on them to appear woke only to regret in life...Na modern day witchcraft..

Munzy14:

Kedu your brand, coke, malt ka o wu beer...


Young ladies shouldn't be deceived by what some people put out here while sitting on their bed to appear woke and informed to public who doesn't care.

People who fail in getting what they admired, will never be happy watching others get it right..They Have this I can't go down in regret alone.

Again, not everyone enjoyed the love in a responsible home....

Na very younger ladies i pity most here, especially those who aren't that intelligent and strong mind of their own...Some ladies will rub their bad acts on them to appear woke only to regret in life...Na modern day witchcraft..

Nye'm malt.




The last part, not only ladies, even the guys too.

Mariangeles:


Nye'm malt.




The last part, not only ladies, even the guys too.

O wunu ya, cha cha cha ndi Malt kwenu!

Yes same to our guys too, especially the ones that are shouting redpill...Ha wunu ndi woke nke umu nwoke..ndi mgbuh

Alpha males are born alpha..And not by influence through books read or articles read online.

Loxleyy:
1. You get a companion...sha e get some wey na thugs.

2. Free Sex till you tire

3.

Point number 2 means you’re not informed. Marriage is a union with the least amount of sex

Munzy14:

O wunu ya, cha cha cha ndi Malt kwenu!

Yes same to our guys too, especially the ones that are shouting redpill...Ha wunu ndi woke nke umu nwoke..ndi mgbuh

Alpha males are born alpha..And not by influence through books read or articles read online.

When I was new on nairaland, I was really shocked at the level of gender hate that was the order of the day here.
I was nearly caught up in it until a friend called me to order.

Mercychen:
To me, nothing really special about marriage because I've moved closely with married people and all i see is stress, stress and more stress!

Imagine the daily routine of a woman. Especially those who are not working.

Wake up early ( when youre not ready)
Prep the children for school.
Prepare their food breakfast.
If hubby is nice, he'll help drop them off otherwise, you do the school runs.

You get home and start putting the house in order. And attend to other chores staring you in the face. Time is ticking

Get ready to prepare lunch.
Then before you know it, it's time to go pick the kids.
Come back, freshen them up.
Serve them
Attend to their home work.

The you get set for dinner so hubby can have something to eat when he gets home. Before you know it, the day is gone and you're fagged out. Same thing continues tomorrow and on and on until....

Imagine if you're a working Mom and now have to combine all these with work...

Now tell me what will make a single viewing all these want to get married?

Truth be told, that's another thing I calculate and i relax and continue enjoying my single life.

Many married women are not happy. They are silently crying!!!
Forget all that fake smile they wear when they come out. They are not happy

Even the men are not 100% fulfilled. Responsibility wan break their neck.

Let's tell ourselves the truth. Even if you're rich, it's still not that easy.

I've seen a rich couple who both drove madly to school at the same time to pick their ward and were reigning heavy curses at each other at the gate because they both argued earlier on who's going to pick the son. So it's like non of them wanted to come and it was already evening and the boy was still in school.

I guess they called the house and the nanny who was babysitting their twin babies then, told them the boy was not home.

Omor.. see the speed they drove into the school compound with. Wify packed one side, hubby parked the other way and they both jumped out of their cars rushing Into the school and abusing each other.

Wife : " You shouldn't have come" useless man" As she stormed into the classroom

Man: ori e ko pe. why did you come? You should have remained at work"

Hmmm... So much hype about marriage. Abegi!

Marriage just like life is in stages....
How marriage is supposed to be is that you get married, enjoy yourselves for like 8-10 years before you start talking of kids. However, men (and women) spend that time with girlfriends and boyfriends... the implication is once you marry within 2 years kids are expected.... so the couple short-changed themselves....

What you describe is the later part of marriage.

Finally not every woman is ordained or meant to be a mother - if its not something you enjoy (school runs et al), then dont force it. Maybe you are actually better off single. so many bad kids today because their parents never really wanted to be parents - rather society forced the role on them.

Overall good post - I like your points!

lastchild:
it's only in this part of the world that marriage is a big deal. I've lived in Spain (Madrid) a white woman crave for a dick to service her and a companion more than a marriage.

If she's happy in that relationship, no need for marriage

Are you sure

BigBashiru:

Marriage just like life is in stages....
How marriage is supposed to be is that you get married, enjoy yourselves for like 8-10 years before you start talking of kids. However, men (and women) spend that time with girlfriends and boyfriends... the implication is once you marry within 2 years kids are expected.... so the couple short-changed themselves....

What you describe is the later part of marriage.

Finally not every woman is ordained or meant to be a mother - if its not something you enjoy (school runs et al), then dont force it. Maybe you are actually better off single. so many bad kids today because their parents never really wanted to be parents - rather society forced the role on them.

Overall good post - I like your points!

I'm not saying it's not something I enjoy doing. I was just trying to say nothing special but the usual stressful life.
At least, with these things I've seen, I'll be well guided on the number of children to have and how to Plan our life's and routine in a way it won't get in the way of our Marital bliss.

Mercychen:


I'm not saying it's not something I enjoy doing. I was just trying to say nothing special but the usual stressful life.
At least, with these things I've seen, I'll be well guided on the number of children to have and how to Plan our life's and routine in a way it won't get in the way of our Marital bliss.

Another great point...having too many children may not be that great after all.... I also saw some points of couples who can't sleep well at night cos the child is crying etc.

Mercychen:


I'm not saying it's not something I enjoy doing. I was just trying to say nothing special but the usual stressful life.
At least, with these things I've seen, I'll be well guided on the number of children to have and how to Plan our life's and routine in a way it won't get in the way of our Marital bliss.

I have some follow up questions for you....
1. Why give birth at all? i.e. bring children into this difficult evil world? Arent the children better off where they are before being born?
2. What if the born children go to hell?

People dont think about all these things!

Any thoughts?

Ketapu:


It seems you are now ready to take the red pill.

Read the following books to start your journey.

1. The Manipulated Man

2. Anatomy of Female Power.

.

When you finish reading those books, you will understand better.

Thank you

BigBashiru:


I have some follow up questions for you....
1. Why give birth at all? i.e. bring children into this difficult evil world? Arent the children better off where they are before being born?
2. What if the born children go to hell?

People dont think about all these things!

Any thoughts?

Well.. people have various reasons why they bear children. So, it's an individual thing.

Generally speaking, I believe people should bear children because they are ready and capable of taking care of them. Not because they must have children to fulfill all righteousness.