You said it all

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Klass99:
Today, will be a good day for moi . Because, I am only coming across posts that are making me laugh. @ Supreme145, thanks for cracking me up with your post, it was an enjoyable read.

The problem with all of the characters in your narrative is that, if you are a blood relative to any of them, sooner or later you will be in trouble yourself.

They slowly but surely drag you into the cosmos of their lack and poverty. You find yourself making sacrifices or depriving yourself of things, just so you can help them, for the sake of their kids. I have a relative like this, with 5 children. If she is not calling about one financial issue or the other, her children are the ones calling.

It has reached a point where, when a call comes in and it's them, I mentally cringe and instantly feel stressed. Then my heart goes......kai ooo god, what is it now? Even before I answer the call.

This is a household of two parents, yet almost every bill payment, is becoming a matter of community effort, where other relatives have to contribute money, to bail them out. I gave up a chunk of money meant to replace my faulty washing machine, for their sake. I am still managing the faulty one, yet they called again after that, with another financial issue.

I am beginning to feel resentful towards this relative, because their life choices (she and her hubby) are negatively impacting me, whereas mine aren't. Some days I feel like, I wasn't there when you were straffing and conceiving these children, but now I am indirectly involved in their care and maintenance. In our old age, these children will cater to you first, not me!

If I am stranded and in need of 5k, I cannot get it from her. But, she has been a beneficiary of my goodwill for a while now, I am just tired! When people encourage unbridled breeding, in the name of children are a blessing, it really annoys me. Where is the blessing in 5 kids when you cannot feed or pay bills and you constantly have to tap others, to help you pay those bills?

ogawisdom:


There is no guarantee you will not be poor simply bc u choose to remain single for life.

It is not of him that runnet or of him that willet but of him that God showeth mercy.

There is always a God factor in life, work hard but don't forget to pray hard too

hummmm, real talk, I have two bestie, back then in 2012 that I wanted to get married, they were like " what have you achieved" that they weren't ready for any marriage then until they achieve their aims, to cut the long story short, they both got married late 2019 and gave birth respectively last year when I'm having 3 wonderful children and to be candid we are still on the same level because there is no any achievement whatsoever, even though there were responsible guys for both of them then. Life sometimes is unpredictable, being single doesn't determine richness and being married also doesn't determine one will be poor.

Kobojunkiee:
Ok, these are known and expected side-effects of pregnancy... and there have been over 1000,000,000 pregnancies recorded in your lifetime alone to prove these things. So why is it an achievement when you willingly submit yourself so you can fulfill your selfish desire again?

I never said it was an achievement.

I love this

JovialJune:
Well, having kids is an achievement to those capable of taking care of them, it is a burden to those barely able to feed themselves talk more of the kids, and my interpretation of their situation is that of wickedness, selfishness, and pure evil, because I can never understand how some humans still trying to make sense of their lives, will bring another to the world to suffer with them, then call it an achievement.

OP Supreme145
I understand your Frustrations and Where you are coming from
But
It is Definitely an Achievement! Infact a Big one!..

Children are the Greatest Gift God can Give to a Man or Woman!

tradepunter:
To ladies a child is the only person that gives them undiluted love and the purest love....
Something a man won't really understand...
Therefore every woman would want to experience this in their life time...
Terming it an achievement is just stupidity in my opinion.

Abeg, speak wetin you know o'jare!

So the 1000s of ladies who abandon their children on the streets, gutters, and dustbin of Nigeria each year , na undiluted love and purest love dem discard so?

It's not an achievement. It's like mocking those who don't who don't yet have children.
There are no barren in the Land. Some people have children and sell them or even abandon them. Can we say those people have achieved something. How well you train your children and not having them is an achievement.
This thread is designed to hurt some people

Any goal set forward and realized is an achievement.
Hence children are achievement for those set them as goal.

Kobojunkiee:
So, only if you bow as a slave to your parents are you an achievement, if you don't, you are not, this because the decision is your parent's to make? Interesting?

So, the over 10,000,000 children abandoned and homeless on the streets of Nigeria every day are not achievements by your measure? Since they are abandoned and no one pretty much cares for them, we take it that means they did not meet the achievement cut-off for Nigerian parents?

Will argue with you later. Gd nyt

Kobojunkiee:
So, a child who grows with no parents and has had to fend for self from a very young age, running around on the streets with other children, was socialized and taught by what parents?

What orientation is locked into such a being when the society you speak of is the same one that cast this child into the wild of streets, deeming his existence of no real worth from a tender age?

Abeg, make you dey use your head big time!

Even I don't hold to values and ideas of my parents let alone that of society. Only an imbe-cile would chose to hold on to and repeat the mistakes of his parents and generations before just because... that is no way to live this life abeg!

"Only an slowpoke will hold the values of their parents" you say? Am correct?..

I say Be carefull son..you not that intelligent. Your position is arrogance not knowledge. Be carefull with it. You on the edge already.

Different strokes for different folks. This post is almost the same thing as asking the right time for a man to marry?. What works for Obi may not work for Ada. Stick to what works for you. Our philosophy in life determines our view about Marriage and Child bearing. I wish I know the age of the poster, if the poster is his late thirties and has hustled for the last fifteen years without achieving 5 bedroom flat, car or fat account balance he's opinion about Early marriage wouldn't be the same. Issues like this shouldn't be generalilse. Having children u can't take good care of is bad but however having children irrespective of financial status is still an achievement. Stick to what works for you.

Vinnie2000:


OP Supreme145
I understand your Frustrations and Where you are coming from[b]But It is Definitely an Achievement! Infact a Big one!..[/b]

Children are the Greatest Gift God can Give to a Man or Woman!

You folks should learn to leave God out of your delusions abeg!

The same God created some Eunuchs from birth, made some Eunuchs in this life and allowed others to become Eunuchs for His sake - Matthew 19 vs 3 - 15. God never said children are His greatest gift, He would not have put a curse on mankind if they were.

So please stop dragging God's name into the muck that is the Nigerian situation and living abeg!

Adakintroy:
"Only an slowpoke will hold the values of their parents" you say? Am correct?..

I say Be carefull son..you not that intelligent. Your position is arrogance not knowledge. Be carefull with it. You on the edge already.

Indeed, only a certified fool would hold on to values of parents without question.

You should be more careful not to live your life a fool, Repeating the mistakes of your parents and their parents before them, simply because they are your parents.

Kobojunkiee:
Abeg, speak wetin you know o'jare!

So the 1000s of ladies who abandon their children on the streets, gutters, and dustbin of Nigeria each year , na undiluted love and purest love dem discard so?

Go through again what I wrote and read what you wrote..

Hathor5:
I never said it was an achievement.

Thank Goodness!

If u can have children, do so, but moderately, do say na until u gather all the money in money in the whole world, you might end up with regrets

Kobojunkiee:
What is so wrong with dying without a child? Will having a child somehow save one from the decay of death or something?

ayubaski:
If u can have children, do so, but moderately, do say na until u gather all the money in money in the whole world, you might end up with regrets

75% of Nigerians who live in poverty are still having kids....how can they moderately have children?

If making money is an achievement, same thing to having a child.

Yoruba will say! Omo lere aiye! A child is the only being a man can leave behind after his death. And the child will bear the name. Not money not friends.

Nobody owns money! But somebody own a child. Anything that you own, you achieved it.

For me My little boy is my achievement, looking forward to have more in future

Kobojunkiee:
You folks should learn to leave God out of your delusions abeg!

The same God created some Eunuchs from birth, made some Eunuchs in this life and allowed others to become Eunuchs for His sake - Matthew 19 vs 3 - 15. God never said children are His greatest gift, He would not have put a curse on mankind if they were.

So please stop dragging God's name into the muck that is the Nigerian situation and living abeg!

This KoboJunkie though!

Let's drop Sentiments and Arguments! Having a Child is a Big Achievement!

Remember Men who re Sterile, women who are Barren or have Still births!

What makes an achievement is when you take adequate responsibility over them.

Kobojunkiee:
You need children to keep the ecosystem that is 75% poverty rate with over 10,000,000 abandoned children on the streets of Nigeria going?

Let's stop producing. Are the children on the streets the cause of poverty or a few that stole the common wealth?

10,000,000 kids on the streets are not the cause of poverty please sis.

olaitonto:
If making money is an achievement, same thing to having a child.

Yoruba will say! Omo lere aiye! A child is the only being a man can leave behind after his death. And the child will bear the name. Not money not friends.

Nobody owns money! But somebody own a child. Anything that you own, you achieved it.

Nice one..

I Clearly understand the OP's point of view!

Many Young Guys rushing into Marriage and suffering in the Union!
But.
Once a Child comes in, It is a Blessing from God and Definitely an Achievement for the Husband and Wife!

What im saying is at least have one

Kobojunkiee:
75% of Nigerians who live in poverty are still having kids....how can they moderately have children?

You gerrit? We went to school for the certificate and we got it! That's an achievement because it has become your own.

A childless couple already knows that their certificate of marriage is a child. Not their jobs or wealth. Wealth can go to anybody's because it has no identity.

After a man die. If he had a child, the child will take the identity for the wealth. You gerrit? Uhhh i know you gerrit

Vinnie2000:



Nice one..

I Clearly understand the OP's point of view!

Many Young Guys rushing into Marriage and suffering in the Union!
But.
Once a Child comes in, It is a Blessing from God and Definitely an Achievement for the Husband and Wife!

No

Na the western culture wey una they copy bring una to this level

ofuonyebi:
In Africa, my fathers country, people born children like ants and cockroaches
but they are got nothing to make those children dreams come to reality
But in other civilized clime, they live a peaceful wealthy life but have one or two children
or sometimes a fine lucky dog to care for..

Kobojunkiee:
10,000,000 of those wonderful gifts are abandoned and roaming the streets of Nigeria every day with no home in sight, so na God get hand for all that?

Like I said they are wonderful gift from God and it now depends on how you treat or use the gift.... just imagine you gave some one N1m and he/she squandered it without having anything to show for it and now would you blame yourself for giving such person a gift

Poverty is in some peoples genes, they love it, it gladness their hearts to be impoverished and struggle.
And pass the legacy to their children to continue and populate the whole of africa with malnourished, unintelligent low IQ children.

ayubaski:
What im saying is at least have one

Why?

Spartachico007:


Like I said they are wonderful gift from God and it now depends on how you treat or use the gift.... just imagine you gave some one N1m and he/she squandered it without having anything to show for it and now would you blame yourself for giving such person a gift

May God give u enough gifts....

U never wise...children are no gift,it should be something u plan for according to your resources so you wont populate menaces for the society. However, a child could be a blessing to his/her family

dazzlingd:
Poverty is in some peoples genes, they love it, it gladness their hearts to be impoverished and struggle.
And pass the legacy to their children to continue and populate the whole of africa with malnourished, unintelligent low IQ children.