justwise:
@babajeje123

Does your wife and your mum get a long. i mean are they close?

Obviously they dont

babajeje123:

I can't really say

Based on this, I would suggest that your mum should stay back for now while you and your wife try and work around childcare together. When she sees how “stressful” this can be, she most likely will be the one to suggest that you invite your mum over and she will be able to appreciate her coming.

Also, It seems you have so many plans and things you want to achieve and unknowingly to you, your wife may feel like she is not in the picture and you are rushing her. Give her time to adjust to life in the UK because no matter how you’re trying to let her see from your own perspective she may never understand it until she experiences it herself; hopefully this will make her more appreciative.

Btw, how old are your kids? This may help people suggest ways around childcare for you guys without putting your home or finances in jeopardy.

eniolorunfe:


Based on this, I would suggest that your mum should stay back for now while you and your wife try and work around childcare together. When she sees how “stressful” this can be, she most likely will be the one to suggest that you invite your mum over and she will be able to appreciate her coming.

Also, It seems you have so many plans and things you want to achieve and unknowingly to you, your wife may feel like she is not in the picture and you are rushing her. Give her time to adjust to life in the UK because no matter how you’re trying to let her see from your own perspective she may never understand it until she experiences it herself.

Btw, how old are your kids? This may help people suggest ways around childcare for you guys without putting your home or finances in jeopardy.

@ eniolorunfe even if he gives her time she might not allow the woman to come . Obviously she prefers her mother coming, she would prefer spending money on childcare to bringing her in law.

babajeje123:

She hasn't started working

Work on that, she would understand the value of £ .......

eniolorunfe:


Based on this, I would suggest that your mum should stay back for now while you and your wife try and work around childcare together. When she sees how “stressful” this can be, she most likely will be the one to suggest that you invite your mum over and she will be able to appreciate her coming.

Also, It seems you have so many plans and things you want to achieve and unknowingly to you, your wife may feel like she is not in the picture and you are rushing her. Give her time to adjust to life in the UK because no matter how you’re trying to let her see from your own perspective she may never understand it until she experiences it herself.

Btw, how old are your kids? This may help people suggest ways around childcare for you guys without putting your home or finances in jeopardy.

5 and 3 years

babajeje123:

I can't really say

That is exactly the prob. You can't bring your mum here if your wife and your mum don't see eye to eye.

You will have even much bigger prob.

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justwise:


That is exactly the prob. You can't bring your mum here if your wife and your mum don't see eye to eye.

You will have even much bigger prob.

They have lived together when we birthed and there were no issues.

missjekyll:


OP, I don't know the answers to your dilemma but this is not it. This gentleman Jesmond does not give good advice. Ignore this. Let's wait for others.

lol. Okay. My friend built a house for his wife in Naija but she cannot allow her kids to speak to his mother or is the ones that would say you are lazy or is the ones that would keep there money or deny you kpekus or food. So the man no get feelings, he is not human. He was born to suffer. Lets wait for other advise.

justwise:


That is exactly the prob. You can't bring your mum here if your wife and your mum don't see eye to eye.

You will have even much bigger prob.

That’s the bitter truth,please don’t force it or else you might regret it. Just live happily with your wife and enjoy your marriage Sir. If she doesn’t talk about you bringing your mother please don’t talk about it. She will let you know when she wants your mother to come.

Thank you all for you suggestions. Apparently, she wants me to be sending her mom money every month, that is what she meant when she asked for the plan I have for her mom. Women and their wahala! You will be striving on how to make life easier for them and they will be adding to your burden. It is well!

babajeje123:
Thank you all for you suggestions. Apparently, she wants me to put her mom on my payroll, that is what she meant when she asked for the plan I have for her mom. Women and their wahala! You will be striving on how to make life easier for them and they will be adding to your burden. It is well!

Sir, I can see you are very much angry but you need to calm down. We know you are working hard to make life better for the family. Let her start working and start paying bills too then she will understand. Like someone said earlier, sit her down and talk to her. I wish you well my brother. We all have one problem or the other that we are facing with our woman. Just do as your moniker implies.

jesmond3945:
lol. Okay. My friend built a house for his wife in Naija but she cannot allow her kids to speak to his mother or is the ones that would say you are lazy or is the ones that would keep there money or deny you kpekus or food. So the man no get feelings, he is not human. He was born to suffer. Lets wait for other advise.

Yes we know women are wicked and evil we agree. We are trying to help someone's family not point fingers here.

cutelekush01:


Sir, I can see you are very much angry but you need to calm down. We know you are working hard to make life better for the family. Let her start working and start paying bills too then she will understand. Like someone said earlier, sit her down and talk to her. I wish you well my brother. We all have one problem or the other that we are facing with our woman.

I was initially angry but with all that have been said here, I am relieved. I'll find time to talk to her and hopefully she will hear. Thank you so much bro

Aprokodaughter:


Yes we know women are wicked and evil we agree. We are trying to help someone's family not point fingers here.

Lol, women must be who they are made to be

Aprokodaughter:


Yes we know women are wicked and evil we agree. We are trying to help someone's family not point fingers here.

@Aprokodaughter, could you please give your honest opinion on babajejes matter. Most responses are from men, I would like to hear from the women.

@babajeje

I might not be old enough to put mouth. But please like others have advised, let her work preferably from this winter, she will need to schedule her work around childcare and contribute to the cost.

You applying for the mum is no guarantee she will get the visa. Please encourage the relatives to continue applying and support with documents when you can. She is their primary responsibility

All in less than a month? Na wa o

Please, how many luggages are you allowed to carry? Turkish, Egyptiar, or Qatar airlines- And what is the KG per each? Also, what’s the cost for extra luggage

Aprokodaughter:


Yes we know women are wicked and evil we agree. We are trying to help someone's family not point fingers here.

i didnt say such. If the man is not doing well, i reprimand. You can see my posts in the family section.

cutelekush01:


That’s the bitter truth,please don’t force it or else you might regret it. Just live happily with your wife and enjoy your marriage Sir. If she doesn’t talk about you bringing your mother please don’t talk about it. She will let you know when she wants your mother to come.

wait wait he is own mother that carried him for 9 months. This one time she would experience obodo oyibo, he should get approval first. Nawaoo

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Logzzy:
Please, how many luggages are you allowed to carry? Turkish, Egyptiar, or Qatar airlines- And what is the KG per each? Also, what’s the cost for extra luggage

Its on each airlines website.

jesmond3945:
wait wait he is own mother that carried him for 9 months. This one time she would experience obodo oyibo, he should get approval first. Nawaoo

Sir Jesmond, are you married?

Please, how many luggages are you allowed to carry? Turkish, Egyptiar, or Qatar airlines- And what is the KG per each? Also, what’s the cost for extra luggage

Logzzy:
Please, how many luggages are you allowed to carry? Turkish, Egyptiar, or Qatar airlines- And what is the KG per each? Also, what’s the cost for extra luggage

Check the airline website, the time you use on here you will easily check and know which to use

cutelekush01:


@ eniolorunfe even if he gives her time she might not allow the woman to come . Obviously she prefers her mother coming, she would prefer spending money on childcare to bringing her in law.

This possibility exists but he won’t be able to tell unless he gives her time. It can actually go either way. She may also be eager to see his mother come due to her realizing the value of £, like someone pointed out earlier.

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Please i am going to Stirling University and i have a couple of questions to enable take appropriate decision on location of accommodation;

1. Are there job opportunities in Stirling
2. Should i rent an accommodation in Edinburgh or Glasgow (or any other commercial hub) for better job opportunities. Is this feasible putting transportation into consideration.

Thanks.

@ Maturedhustler

Welcome to Glasgow. Me I am just 1year old for UK, the other people you tagged will give better advice. Na if you de find where to buy and get good stuff I can help . Also I still de 2yrs and 3yrs arena. We never pro reach 17yrs. Last last na you go advice us when we reach that side.

Yes renfrewshire has good schools. But that area houses cost small (that’s clarkson side them), but East Kilbride no too cost and you should get a better apartment for your family size. If car is in your plans then get apartment in East Kilbride and they can school in that clarkson side, na just one roundabout and probably 10mins drive and they are in school. If na bus them go pay differently and e go con de turn money even with student pass.

For the small small questions I can answer, big questions you go wait for pro max them to answer.

Once again welcome to Glasgow and I am sure you will love it here. It’s a wee nice city.

Ehen for work since you can bake, while on isolation learn how to do some Scottish bakes like scorn and some of their rolls too. Then check indeed for bakers job. E plenty for Glasgow.

cutelekush01:



@Aproko, could you please give your honest opinion on babajejes matter. Most responses are from men, I would like to hear from the women.

I am in support of what everyone has said. No need to repeat what has been stated. Once you have reach here with your partner is there is no need going back. You have to stay to together. Problems will always show up but it depends on how you manage it.

I don't like putting mouth inside husband and wife matter. Make I no talk too much lols

jesmond3945:
i didnt say such. If the man is not doing well, i reprimand. You can see my posts in the family section.

So as this matter take concern your friend wife?

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Wahala be like Boris haircut....e can never smooth.This is a very bad sign, too early. the summary of the unspoken is simple, why your mum and not hers? Also she is only the spokesperson, the instigators are in Nigeria. Suspend any action,let mothers stay back. let her raise funds and try to bring her mum because you dont have to spare for now.....do not oppose it.

cutelekush01:


Sir Jesmond, are you married?

this year would make it 7 years.