Guy you should know what you can discuss with people and what can't discuss with people.

JASONjnr:



Good for you...

Always go for ladies you're far older than... Say 5 to 6yrs older than..

That way, you will be in control of the relationship and not give a 2oman the chance to always talk down on you because she will always see herself as someone that you should be calling aunty...

It is well

Gosh234:
my mind made up already

Great. Wishing you the best..

Gosh234:
I see the handwriting on the wall already, thanks

It's not just about handwriting. She is very insecure and her anger has revealed what is in her mind. Let her go.

You sef you no try. Next time, keep your private life away from public discussions.

Gosh234:
Is her age my problem?, Do I care about that?

If it wasn't, then you should have let the age thing be a secret between you and her. Instead you keep telling people. Of what use is it if people know whether you're older or not ?

E no mean...as far as you love her.And she respects you.No biggie.i dated an Older lady in 2012 when i dey finals.Till today it was the best relationship i had.no be all these small small girls wey too get attitude issues.

Is her age my problem?, Do I care about that?Is her age my problem?, Do I care about that?...

crackhaus:

A true legend indeed.

I think say na only me see am
That guy na pro!
Funny enough I bursted out laughing when I got to the point in her write up that you highlighted.
E no pursue am,e just set template for her to waka on her own.

crackhaus:

She doesn't love you enough.

Please NOTE, it's not that she doesn't love you. It's that she simply doesn't love you enough.
Some women have this issue, nothing new.

Just start moving on and have it at the back of your mind that henceforth, you will be dating yourself even if she claims she has forgiven you and wants to be with you.

I could somewhat agree with this statement, but I have a question. Isn't this going to be a recurring issue that keeps coming up?.

I tried to date someone older than me with a year, I can genuinely say she loved me because of the evidences I saw but omo the disrespect no be here oh. It was clear cut that she couldn't bring herself to respect someone younger.

I have asked women this questions offline too and the answer I get is that they cannot see themselves respecting a younger man.

UpInTheSky:
Idk what sort of conversations you're having with people that's making you disclose your partner's older than you, to them. You needn't tell people that, not just b/c it makes her feel insecure but b/c it's not their business to know. That said, the 5-year age difference will always exist between you two. It's not something that can be changed, therefore she needs to accept it and nip the insecurity in the bud. The unnecessary, idle conversations you've been having with people aside, you two may still still run into unavoidable situations in the future where one or both of you would have to relay that one party is older. Acceptance, on her part is key, otherwise she should find someone closer to her age.

Thanks so much, I accept my mistakes

People will still know after marriage.
Except you guys will not be celebrating your birthdays.

Biglittlelois:



Lol I'll pass

Enjoy

Hehe...

Gosh234:


Please am not playing games with her
Am not decieving her or hiding our age

Open the link on the post
Bet me you will be back here to edit your comment

Guy leave all those ones like i said take control & be a man. At the same time don't push it. That lady is clear headed & knows what she wants. Don't be desperate. If she no still gree leave her. Take a loss now for a bigger win tomorrow.

SeaTrade:
I think say na only me see am
That guy na pro!
Funny enough I bursted out laughing when I got to the point in her write up that you highlighted.
E no pursue am, e just set template for her to waka on her own.

After sampling the goodies...

truthsayer009:

I could somewhat agree with this statement, but I have a question. Isn't this going to be a recurring issue that keeps coming up?.

I tried to date someone older than me with a year, I can genuinely say she loved me because of the evidences I saw but omo the disrespect no be here oh. It was clear cut that she couldn't bring herself to respect someone younger.

I have asked women this questions offline too and the answer I get is that they cannot see themselves respecting a younger man.

Don't you think that these acts of love and disrespect in one person are contradictory?
I for one can not imagine that a woman who loves me enough will disrespect me, or find it hard to respect me.

Hence I noted that the issue is not the absence of love per se. It's usually there, but it is simply not enough and that's okay.

Yes it will be a recurring issue, so the solution then is to either not date older women, or date/marry the one you can be 101% certain loves you enough to not allow it affect her posturing especially during conflict.

Goodluck with the latter sha...

To me i will prefer marrying a lady older than me as far as we love each each other....
Older ladies don't have issues in a relationship because they are matured

I have seen guys marrying older ladies and they live happily eg wizkid is 32 years while his babymama Jada pollock is 39 years old

Who fucking cares

Richy4:
Maybe... just maybe you don't really know your girl too well...
U don't know her "no go area"...the green, red and Amber area while making certain discussion with friends..
Take some time and get to know your woman...You clearly don't know what will upset her..

Again, when next you were facing a similar situation from friends.. and u were in a tight position that warrants you to spill sensitive information, just say " I gentleman never tells"...That statement always helps to defuse bombs

Thanks so much , trying to forgive myself, actually hurt her so much, was just like proving to her that I love her and proud of her, people will still know, just wanna let her know I love and accept her

OscarJaden:
To me i will prefer marrying a lady older than me as far as we love each each other....
Older ladies don't have issues in a relationship because they are matured

I have seen guys marrying older ladies and they live happily eg wizkid is 32 years while his babymama Jada pollock is 39 years old

Who fucking cares

She is just angry that I had to let it out that she is older

Missionaire:
People will still know after marriage.
Except you guys will not be celebrating your birthdays.

Exactly what I had on mind, I was like proving to her that I love her and so proud of her, definitely people will know

VlamesIffect:


Guy leave all those ones like i said take control & be a man. At the same time don't push it. That lady is clear headed & knows what she wants. Don't be desperate. If she no still gree leave her. Take a loss now for a bigger win tomorrow.

We settled that, I feel so bad that I hurt her with that,

crackhaus:

Don't you think that these acts of love and disrespect in one person are contradictory?
I for one can not imagine that a woman who loves me enough will disrespect me, or find it hard to respect me.

Hence I noted that the issue is not the absence of love per se. It's usually there, but it is simply not enough and that's okay.

Yes it will be a recurring issue, so the solution then is to either not date older women, or date/marry the one you can be 101% certain loves you enough to not allow it affect her posturing especially during conflict.

Goodluck with the latter sha...

I feel love & respect are 2 different things sha, I may be wrong. Being with someone older will definitely cause some issues during temporary conflicts, she will refer to it from time to time.

truthsayer009:

I feel love & respect are 2 different things sha, I may be wrong. Being with someone older will definitely cause some issues during temporary conflicts, she will refer to it from time to time.

There...

Gosh234:
Thanks so much , trying to forgive myself, actually hurt her so much, was just like proving to her that I love her and proud of her, people will still know, just wanna let her know I love and accept her

Honestly, this is why I feel you did nothing wrong.

Whether you tell people her age now or they found out later, one or the other her age was not going to remain a secret forever.

She has her own issues and she needs to sort that out.

truthsayer009:


I feel love & respect are 2 different things sha, I may be wrong. Being with someone older will definitely cause some issues during temporary conflicts, she will refer to it from time to time.

Don’t you men remind women of who is older and the captain everyday? So what is wrong with reminding una once in a while?

As for young guys, especially the ones U-33, THEY DON’T HAVE SENSE 99% of the time. It is even worse in this generation.

Ordinary 22yrs old girl would comfortably and easily get a Ned to comport himself and do her bidding.

Women on the average mature emotionally faster than men (redpillers can argue this- their business). So why do you think a younger guy can make sense to an older woman? She is years ahead emotionally and very few guys can meet up. I am sure most women that have been with them would be getting the feeling because many act like they need complan abi pacifier.

On top of that they talk too much! It is like a trophy that an older woman is submitting to them. Everything is an ego trip for men. That's the only reason this one is talking chochocho. The whole Nigeria must know an older woman is coming to cook efo riro for him.

As for his babe, she should get a grip of herself. It is not going to be a secret forever.

Peace!

pocohantas:


Don’t you men remind women of who is older and the captain everyday? So what is wrong with reminding una once in a while?

Yeah, but women are more verbally abusive, so they know how to say it in a way that It will pepper the husband.

pocohantas:

Women on the average mature emotionally faster than men (redpillers can argue this- their business). So why do you think a younger guy can make sense to an older woman? She is years ahead emotionally and very few guys can meet up. I am sure most women that have been with them would be getting the feeling because many act like they need complan abi pacifier.

True to a large extent, but also from a guy's perspective, I have met women who say they cannot respect any man they are older than. So it can be psychological too. At the beginning of this thread on Sisi's comment, she was also thrown off after the guy mentioned his real age. It means he has probably been a sensible person for that 8 years that she didn't even notice he could be younger. Sometimes It's in the mind.

truthsayer009:


Yeah, but women are more verbally abusive, so they know how to say it in a way that It will pepper the husband.

True to a large extent, but also from a guy's perspective, I have met women who say they cannot respect any man they are older than. So it can be psychological too. At the beginning of this thread on Sisi's comment, she was also thrown off after the guy mentioned his real age. It means he has probably been a sensible person for that 8 years that she didn't even notice he could be younger. Sometimes It's in the mind.

He could be an exception, but definitely not the majority of younger males in a relationship.

I don’t know how you guys read that comment because I saw no part of it that said they were together for 8 yrs at a stretch. She knew him professionally and it metamorphosed into a romantic one.

I would be thrown off too and it has nothing to do with respect for me. Maybe the ladies that don’t respect them can explain how much they respect the older ones. I prefer the older male for the same reason I prefer the richer male. His ego is safe and I have peace. When I call him a mumu, it is not because I am older or richer, it is simply because I am a bad woman. Less stress for me.

Biglittlelois:


Are you gay

Your gender says female

are you now into gays


its the height of interest for me

sisisioge:


We met when we were both getting inducted into a professional body like that. At that stage, age bracket was mostly plus or minus two....it was safe to match cos we finished school same year and had a lot in common. He is all taller and more advance too . Besides, when the age discussion came up, I told him mine and guy conveniently agreed its same birth year. I wasnt really into him then but we were always in and out of each other's lives. All the while, I had been vocal about not liking that kind of relationships whenever discussed it....funny, he was always asking me . Then when we got really seriously, he woke me in the middle of the night to confess. It was a big deal for me.

It was a big deal yet you waited till morning before you left, whatever you felt that nite was triggered based on a mindset not that deep

Ishilove:

It's not just about handwriting. She is very insecure and her anger has revealed what is in her mind. Let her go.

You sef you no try. Next time, keep your private life away from public discussions.

why is it only on seperational cases you are alway making sense try to be eating balance diet sho gbo

pocohantas:


Don’t you men remind women of who is older and the captain everyday? So what is wrong with reminding una once in a while?

As for young guys, especially the ones U-33, THEY DON’T HAVE SENSE 99% of the time. It is even worse in this generation.

Ordinary 22yrs old girl would comfortably and easily get a Ned to comport himself and do her bidding.

Women on the average mature emotionally faster than men (redpillers can argue this- their business). So why do you think a younger guy can make sense to an older woman? She is years ahead emotionally and very few guys can meet up. I am sure most women that have been with them would be getting the feeling because many act like they need complan abi pacifier.

On top of that they talk too much! It is like a trophy that an older woman is submitting to them. Everything is an ego trip for men. That's the only reason this one is talking chochocho. The whole Nigeria must know an older woman is coming to cook efo riro for him.

As for his babe, she should get a grip of herself. It is not going to be a secret forever.

Peace!

there are a lot of young guy s getting married to Older ladies everyday..even alot of young black guys getting married to older foreigners everyday.the only reason women mature emotionally quick than guys of their age is because of too much body count.how many young ladies reason well if it's not to be on social media from morning till night thinking of the next maga.we all know most ladies reason like fish brain and the only way you feel they make men submit is just because of sex that can be gotten anywhere nowadays.get your fact right.the same way young ladies are marrying old men is same way young guys marry old women.A man will never see a woman as a trophy but as a sex object.who woman epp.its no biggie.i have 2cousins who married very older ladies and no issues,I have dated older ladies and no issues.same way young ladies handle old men is same way young guys handle old women so why the diss and bitterness.you are always bitter when typing about men.sorry,were you molested?

pocohantas:


Don’t you men remind women of who is older and the captain everyday? So what is wrong with reminding una once in a while?

As for young guys, especially the ones U-33, THEY DON’T HAVE SENSE 99% of the time. It is even worse in this generation.

Ordinary 22yrs old girl would comfortably and easily get a Ned to comport himself and do her bidding.

Women on the average mature emotionally faster than men (redpillers can argue this- their business). So why do you think a younger guy can make sense to an older woman? She is years ahead emotionally and very few guys can meet up. I am sure most women that have been with them would be getting the feeling because many act like they need complan abi pacifier.

On top of that they talk too much! It is like a trophy that an older woman is submitting to them. Everything is an ego trip for men. That's the only reason this one is talking chochocho. The whole Nigeria must know an older woman is coming to cook efo riro for him.

As for his babe, she should get a grip of herself. It is not going to be a secret forever.

Peace!

I guess being a woman is a limitation to a wider horizon, and stop making "younger" a subject of specific age bracket.
Younger denote age differences across all age brackets, maybe gurlz mature faster than guyz buh when gurlz get to certain age like fourty it retrogresses while guyz maturity may stall intially buh it catches up from 3O-35yr, infact from 40yrs a man has adequate maturity to date & handle any woman ranging from evening newspapers to great-grandma.
In otherwords a younger man can make sense to an older woman it all the depends on personality and most especially age range, @ 40 men fit completely into all the maturity details.
From guyz perspective dating a older woman is worth blowing trumpet over within the age bracket of 20's, because your guys stop seeing older women as trophy from age 30 -70yrs, the remarks you will get won't make you want to share except it is obvious, considering your condition you suppose know naw shey yu dey whine us nii