UptownVibes:
Only wise guys understands this fact.. The mumu ones will never know. I dey Benin, if you see wetin my eyes dey see bros.. Devil dey live inside some women abeg

honestly bro the matter tire person....as I broke now if I tell u say none of my female friends dey call me or check up on me again ooo . because no money now man is as broke as broken bottle.....but u see those married ones my God I no wan think am, even for my street I don catch many of Dem for hotel with another man who dear husband's are 100 times better than sometimes I wonder what dey really want

Wizywiz:
honestly bro the matter tire person....as I broke now if I tell u say none of my female friends dey call me or check up on me again ooo . because no money now man is as broke as broken bottle.....but u see those married ones my God I no wan think am, even for my street I don catch many of Dem for hotel with another man who dear husband's are 100 times better than sometimes I wonder what dey really want

My brother,women no dey love man e. Na our money and doings them dey love. If all these things no dey,love don go
Married men dey try o.. Some will even know that their wife is cheating, because they are broke ,them no go bold ask her questions. Bulshit mehn!

UptownVibes:
My brother,women no dey love man e. Na our money and doings them dey love. If all these things no dey,love don go
Married men dey try o.. Some will even know that their wife is cheating, because they are broke ,them no go bold ask her questions. Bulshit mehn!

my brother no be small thing...most times u can't tell what dey want or watin be see wahala....I doubt if I go fit remarry again oooo..because from my experiences and what is happening now bro na just to hustle pray for grace and blessings but u see woman matter I don tire to reason am..even the one wey I give 4 years plus of my life I know how e be....

Eleyi gidi gan! This wan is harddd!! When ure broke its hard, when ure ill it can be frustrating. But nothing breaks a man down like the LOHL cheating on him! Lemme tell u something, hardship is no reason. It’s just an excuse women give to justify a weak disposition. Ask her how much she has gotten since she started cheating, is it enough to change her life?? The spark is gone out of ur marriage and she’s looking for it somewhere else! You’re focused on other things right now, so the light in ur eyes whenever u look at her is fluctuating like our national power grid, and that’s what she’s looking for outside. No doubt she still loves u, as many a cheating spouse profess to do. But you have to ask yourself first, is the foundation of a happy home love?? Can u stand to look at her the same way again?? Before u do something you’ll regret, first take a trip to anywhere far from her and take time to gather your thoughts. Distance always seems to give clarity.

May I suggest a trip to Calabar, those people and their culture will make u understand that no one woman is enough to make u lose ur peace in dis life! And if u see any dark skinned girl with a big behind named Itoro there, just give chase with all ya strength & might.... e get why!!

Let her continue, but stop making love to her. Focus on your kids and don't give her attention.

Don't do anything. At least for like one week.

Deal with yourself first. Take responsibility for any role you may have played in finding yourself in this situation. Be ok with yourself first. Stay busy on your grind.

Try to stay calm and collected during this period. See how she reacts. You will be less emotional and more rational by then. Things will be clearer to you then.

Answer is to hustle hard to take care of her. The economy has not been friendly

jeromestarks:
You should have married a virgin.
Divorce her and "find" a virgin.

You are less than 25 years, I can bet my life on it.

Lastborn0074:
Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

All you pointed out was just an insinuation. Manage the situation and give yourself rest of mind.

MrBrownJay1:


a woman who decides to cheat because you guys are going through hardship is the DEVIL INCARNATE. how is cheating on her husband gonna solve the issue at hand?! even if she didnt cheat, see how she is portraying herself as a wh0re to all these men. who would want a woman like this as their life mates?!



when the TRUST is gone, when DECEIT is creeping in, when DISRESPECFUL behaviors are the norm, then really, you need to ask yourself what are you in it for? this person you called your "wife" has no RESPECT for you nor the marriage you guys are in.

Best response so far.

Lastborn0074:
Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

A whóre will always be a WHORĒ, no matter her condition.
If you want to convince yourself, LET HER STRIPE NAKED TO SWEAR USING THE BIBLE OR TAKE HER TO A SHRINE THAT SINCE YOU'VE MARRIED HER NO OTHER MAN HER SLEPT WITH HER....



THE WORST THING A MAN CAN DO TO HIMSELF IN THIS LIFE IS TO FORGIVE A CHEATING WIFE, ESPECIALLY A SERIAL CHEAT.

THE FEAR OF MOST MEN IN MARRIAGE IS USUALLY THE CHILDREN BUT THIS SHOULD EVEN BE THE LEAST OF YOUR WORRIES.

THE CHILDREN WILL BE FINE CERTAINLY.

Throw her out like the trash she is, take your time to find and good woman and take care of your children.

AGAIN, NEVER FORGIVE HER BECAUSE SHE'LL DO IT AGAIN AND AGAIN.

THEY NEVER CHANGE.

You need to focus on your children. There's nothing you can do. Your financial situation has put you in trouble that only money can solve.

Lastborn0074:
Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

Bruh tell her you give her free hands to continue. You already got kids and look at them for your happiness. You can't control what a woman does outside your house. If it's too much for you, end the marriage and let everyone move on peacefully. Always use protection from now on her. I know in Nigeria pastors will preach shty to you. Goodluck Bruh!

Templee333:
Fast & pray. 6 to 12 can do. Make sure u have her pics when u r praying & repeatedly ask God 2 kill the spirit of adultery in her.

ABI make God kuku kill her..

Game on! Women have overtaken men in the cheating game. Serves all men right!

Lastborn0074:


I wish you explained exactly why I am the cause of her cheating. How would you know? Do you know what I have put into this marriage to make it work? A woman I have done practically everything for? I've established her in businesses, all of which she has failed. What else should I have done that I didn't do?

Gosh what a simp... I'm happy for what you're going through, that way other simps will be having sense small small ... Don't worry very soon she will give you poison and you can go and rest pele

Did you marry her for Love?

Love bears all things.

Confront her, if she apologizes then forgive her.

..... Divorce her ASAP.

Lastborn0074:
Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

devorce the hoe or keep being a living disgrace and shame to yourself and your family.

Baba leave her. She cannot be trusted. For her to lie so adamantly untill you brought proof, means she has no remorse for what she did. Next time she'll cheat but you'll never catch her cheating.

Brother let her go,if you truly wants to leave long

adisabarber:
You need to focus on your children. There's nothing you can do. Your financial situation has put you in trouble that only money can solve.

Even rich people's wives cheat on them. The money may just be a convenient excuse (that kind of puts the blame on the Man) , there might be a deeper issue.

My brother, read the handwriting on the wall. You saw her messenger and the messages sent to her, to the extent that her male friend sends her adult movies and requested for more. The guy now sent her his video of mastubating. The you confronted her male with the hear-says and she agreed that she's not done that yet but contemplating so as to alleviate the economic hardship in your house. I feel sorry for you bro.

The choice is yours..... Meanwhile �

You became vulnerable the moment you allowed her to still keep and make friends with other guys when you newly married her, social or not. You goofed big time here.
As for me, I'm sure she has cheated on you not even once but she used your docile attitude to her advantage to cover it up. Yes, you were very docile and dumb.
Now you are only left with the option of catching her red handed which she will never allow you to. She smart pass you because she knows you are very docile and dumb.
Pray make she no infect ya kids or bring in someone's baby.
You have successfully dug your grave by yourself.
Social kii you and her dia

Lastborn0074:
Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

Hardship made her want to cheat. My dear brother your wife has been cheating all this while. You are just finding out. Now you have the information, set a trap to catch her. That's it.

women love to cheat

OriOko88:
I no jus know why I dont like putting mouth in marriage palava. Naso my neighbor was punching and beating his nursing wife tbis morning..asin heaving pounding that thier door was trembling.. I just kept ma calm feeling un bothered until my other female flat neighbor came shouting at my door calling ma name to come.. I still no answer.. I just dont HV interest. It was later tonight that d guy's family came to scold him,he even received heavy slap from his mother before the wife was taken away..with a heavy face. I just mind my business..even tho the wife is nice to me

Dunno that people like me exists in this Nigeria.

why must cheating topic makes front page? Why must you come online to seek advice?

Lastborn0074:


I wish you explained exactly why I am the cause of her cheating. How would you know? Do you know what I have put into this marriage to make it work? A woman I have done practically everything for? I've established her in businesses, all of which she has failed. What else should I have done that I didn't do?

Never heard promiscuousness brings hard luck? She is the cause of your and her misfortunes. Keep suffering and living in misfortunes because you want to keep your marriage. Leave her and see yourself becoming more prosperous than you imagined. Keep your Thank you.