Nelbless:
24

She's a grown ass adult. Let her be so she can gain experience and get some sense by force

veektor01:
Haba!!

At 24, she is an adult.
If you do anything, she has the right to sue you.

Leave her to live her life.
Hopefully like the prodigal son, she would return someday.

with pregnancy or children.

If you can see this, Let her be!

I have an elder brother whose character is that way, (Black sheep of the Family). from when he was little my parent did all they can to change him, from beaten, praying and talking, begging, counselling and all, still he won't.

He was suppose to graduate 2017 from uni, but we found out he was asked to withdraw year 2, with 0.1 CGPA, but he never told us and he was collecting money for fees, feeding, rent, books, and even lying about other things.

It was when we calculated and saw his colleagues graduating, we asked him and he told us, or rather we figured out. My dad was pained, (mom late now).

But still, my father enrolled him again in the uni, (for the love he had for his son n future); my elder sis took it upon herself to pay his fees. My bro wasn't serious and left year 3 with a poor result 1.5 CGPA, my dad almost had blood pressure.

The worst part was, he stole huge amount of money and ran away. We his other siblings being tired of his character just decided to let him be, Let him go face how life is outside.

All we do is that, We Pray for him and for his safety, but we all stopped calling him, or trying to reach him.

Just pray for her and Pray she learns her lesson and come home by herself. (That what we do.) If you all are trying to lock her in, it will only get worst.

If they go out there to face it by themselves, then they will understand better and come running home with true repentance (like the prodigal son.) Others never return, but we pray ours is safe and return home.

All the Best

Nelbless:
24

OMG
Old woman, Plz plz let her be b4 you lot embarrass yourselves!

Nelbless:
24

SHE IS A GROWN UP BRO. JUST ADVICE HER OCCASSIONALLY AND LET HER DO HER THING.

24yrs old haba not a kid......she will be back

Nelbless:
Good morning house,

I write this with a cloud of confusion over my head.

I have a kid sister, our last born who stays with my parents, she is well taken care of in every possible way, but appear to be the black sheep of the house, as she is extremely sturbbon and rebellious, need i say she is the last born of the family, which places her in the state of not wanting or lacking anything at all.

Anyways I will try my best in making this as brief as I can, my sister is notorious for being too trusty, emotional, a social media maniac ......I mean on several occasions she had been saved from ill fate of being kidnapped by ritualists, these episodes cants be shared here cos they are numerous, we as her family realizing these trend about her, placed a restriction on her movement, which implies she is not allowed seeing anyone we do not know or her making friends or visiting them without our knowing who they are.

Just on Saturday which is two days ago, she told us her girl friend ,(someone about 7 years older than she is, a single mother) is siçk, she seek visiting her, we okayed that, only to find out she had played us in other to visit someone she had met on Facebook far far away, she did came back same Saturday very late though.

Before then my mom had confronted the supposed sick lady only to find out all was a ....

Upon her return she was scolded......only for her to pick few of her stuffs and run away on Sunday, then we discovered , that somehow her girl friend to give us the phone number of the boy she had visited, she tipped us into believing she must have encouraged her to run away or maybe away of the stranger my sister might have ran to.

WE INTEND PICKING THE GIRL THIS MORNING WITH POLICE FOR QUESTIONING, BUT SOME OF MY SIBLINGS ARE INSISTING WE ALLOW MY SISTER BE AS SHE HAVE BEEN SCREAMING FOR FREEDOM FOR LONG, INSISTING SHE WILL RUN AWAY SOMEDAY.

AM CONFUSED PLEASE, COS THIS IS ON THE VERGE OF BEING A DENT ON MY FAMILY

op,its a pity. Your sister is been posses by an evil spirit. She need prayer/deliverance.its the same spirit that is working on Virginia princess.

Nelbless:
Good morning house,

I write this with a cloud of confusion over my head.

I have a kid sister, our last born who stays with my parents, she is well taken care of in every possible way, but appear to be the black sheep of the house, as she is extremely sturbbon and rebellious, need i say she is the last born of the family, which places her in the state of not wanting or lacking anything at all.

Anyways I will try my best in making this as brief as I can, my sister is notorious for being too trusty, emotional, a social media maniac ......I mean on several occasions she had been saved from ill fate of being kidnapped by ritualists, these episodes cants be shared here cos they are numerous, we as her family realizing these trend about her, placed a restriction on her movement, which implies she is not allowed seeing anyone we do not know or her making friends or visiting them without our knowing who they are.

Just on Saturday which is two days ago, she told us her girl friend ,(someone about 7 years older than she is, a single mother) is siçk, she seek visiting her, we okayed that, only to find out she had played us in other to visit someone she had met on Facebook far far away, she did came back same Saturday very late though.

Before then my mom had confronted the supposed sick lady only to find out all was a ....

Upon her return she was scolded......only for her to pick few of her stuffs and run away on Sunday, then we discovered , that somehow her girl friend to give us the phone number of the boy she had visited, she tipped us into believing she must have encouraged her to run away or maybe away of the stranger my sister might have ran to.

WE INTEND PICKING THE GIRL THIS MORNING WITH POLICE FOR QUESTIONING, BUT SOME OF MY SIBLINGS ARE INSISTING WE ALLOW MY SISTER BE AS SHE HAVE BEEN SCREAMING FOR FREEDOM FOR LONG, INSISTING SHE WILL RUN AWAY SOMEDAY.

AM CONFUSED PLEASE, COS THIS IS ON THE VERGE OF BEING A DENT ON MY FAMILY

Leave her the f alone, since she claims she is a big girl now and can make decisions on her own then suffice I say that she should be allowed to make her decisions
You locking her up at that age just develops her to thinking of further ways to deceive you and do what is in her mind... Since she claims to be all Grown up now, allow her leave her life
Shebi na freedom she want, make she get am, by the time life outside shoe her something, she go come calm down and now understand you people wants the best for her.
Note this: YOU CAN'T TAME SOMEONE WHO DON'T WANT TO BE TAMED

TUANKU:
Involve the Police ASAP don't listen to those people asking to let her be. We all do stupid things when we are young. Go get your sister bro.

She claims she's past age to make decisions for herself.
It's advisable to let her make those decisions because she wouldn't stop being a nuisance if she's locked up... She has to experience what she is so longing for and know what's right thereafter ....
Note this: you can't lock an adult up because you claim they can't make decisions for themselves, they would just grow to hate you the more and that definitely isn't good for the growth of a family

Bahamas95:
One of the reasons some men say they don't want female children......When a female child wanna disgrace her family they go the extra mile.

Just seeing the headline alone I know her problem must be gbola related.

Aswear I knew it was dick related. Women are too emotional to be Rational.

AllDModsAreMaad:


I know what I am saying o.

My younger sister been wan tow that line o but thanks to God almighty who gave my parents the wisdom to handle her case well.

Babe dey travel with her female friends and stay for days. Babe wan go into acting, also as a result of friends.
There are nights we embark on search party for her, including midnights and so on.
Coupled with the fact that she was dating one weyrey nigga that was misleading her then.
She is a very social person, I think this is also an entry point of such behavior.

Another thing I noticed is that, it is always pretty i.e beautiful and well endowed ladies that do act that way.

All these behavior stopped when my parents took the decision of taking her along with them using my younger brother as a bait to trick her into traveling with them on their Christmas travel to the villa, because she been no wan go o.

Today, that decision is one of the best thing that has happened to her and by extension my family.


So, you never can tell.

Marriage has a way of changing people's orientation o.

PS: She was in that age range as OP's sister when all these were happening.

Wotoporiously Speaking

Let's not forget individual's differ, so it might work for A and not work for B

Nelbless:
Good morning house,

I write this with a cloud of confusion over my head.

I have a kid sister, our last born who stays with my parents, she is well taken care of in every possible way, but appear to be the black sheep of the house, as she is extremely sturbbon and rebellious, need i say she is the last born of the family, which places her in the state of not wanting or lacking anything at all.

Anyways I will try my best in making this as brief as I can, my sister is notorious for being too trusty, emotional, a social media maniac ......I mean on several occasions she had been saved from ill fate of being kidnapped by ritualists, these episodes cants be shared here cos they are numerous, we as her family realizing these trend about her, placed a restriction on her movement, which implies she is not allowed seeing anyone we do not know or her making friends or visiting them without our knowing who they are.

Just on Saturday which is two days ago, she told us her girl friend ,(someone about 7 years older than she is, a single mother) is siçk, she seek visiting her, we okayed that, only to find out she had played us in other to visit someone she had met on Facebook far far away, she did came back same Saturday very late though.

Before then my mom had confronted the supposed sick lady only to find out all was a ....

Upon her return she was scolded......only for her to pick few of her stuffs and run away on Sunday, then we discovered , that somehow her girl friend to give us the phone number of the boy she had visited, she tipped us into believing she must have encouraged her to run away or maybe away of the stranger my sister might have ran to.

WE INTEND PICKING THE GIRL THIS MORNING WITH POLICE FOR QUESTIONING, BUT SOME OF MY SIBLINGS ARE INSISTING WE ALLOW MY SISTER BE AS SHE HAVE BEEN SCREAMING FOR FREEDOM FOR LONG, INSISTING SHE WILL RUN AWAY SOMEDAY.

AM CONFUSED PLEASE, COS THIS IS ON THE VERGE OF BEING A DENT ON MY FAMILY

..
Get her a husband.
You guys hate your sister and don't want the best for her.
Why should you people cage her?
At 24, she is over riped for marriage.
Don't make the mistake your parents make when you start having kids, especially female ones.
Please your sister is ready for marriage.
What matters now, is her happiness and not your parents or family happiness.
Your papa and mama don live their own life and they are subjecting your lovely sister to emotional trauma.
Ask your mother at what age did she get married?
Your family members should be arrested and charged for putting and subjecting her to emotional trauma and depressions
Know this and have peace.

Rhozabeth:
This case is a serious one! I first want to blane everybody in d family for allowing issues to degenrat to this level. The problem did not start today, this is just the aftermath of some not too good decisions you guys have taken concerning her in d past, needless to say that you guys spoilt her in her formative years. Although you didn't mention how old she is.
My take will be that she needs counselling from this moment on! No scolding, no beating, no harsh words but counselling by a qualified counsellor not from you guys, you guys have failed already.
Note that she is already like a stock fish that cannot be bent so u have to apply caution at this moment. I wish you luck with her and i pray she doesn't get into trouble before she realizes she is taking the wrong path!

She will get into trouble before realizing she is taking the wrong path..
It is inevitable for this kind of people

OP, abeg mk una do everything possible to look 4 una sister o, make una nor leave her say she dey seek freedom, instead she need counselling, that was how we left my cousin, now she's no longer normal, she dey ment now, how e take happen till this day we never know. So if una fit track her phone to find her, better do o before it becomes too late.

Nelbless:
Good morning house,

I write this with a cloud of confusion over my head.

I have a kid sister, our last born who stays with my parents, she is well taken care of in every possible way, but appear to be the black sheep of the house, as she is extremely sturbbon and rebellious, need i say she is the last born of the family, which places her in the state of not wanting or lacking anything at all.

Anyways I will try my best in making this as brief as I can, my sister is notorious for being too trusty, emotional, a social media maniac ......I mean on several occasions she had been saved from ill fate of being kidnapped by ritualists, these episodes cants be shared here cos they are numerous, we as her family realizing these trend about her, placed a restriction on her movement, which implies she is not allowed seeing anyone we do not know or her making friends or visiting them without our knowing who they are.

Just on Saturday which is two days ago, she told us her girl friend ,(someone about 7 years older than she is, a single mother) is siçk, she seek visiting her, we okayed that, only to find out she had played us in other to visit someone she had met on Facebook far far away, she did came back same Saturday very late though.

Before then my mom had confronted the supposed sick lady only to find out all was a ....

Upon her return she was scolded......only for her to pick few of her stuffs and run away on Sunday, then we discovered , that somehow her girl friend to give us the phone number of the boy she had visited, she tipped us into believing she must have encouraged her to run away or maybe away of the stranger my sister might have ran to.

WE INTEND PICKING THE GIRL THIS MORNING WITH POLICE FOR QUESTIONING, BUT SOME OF MY SIBLINGS ARE INSISTING WE ALLOW MY SISTER BE AS SHE HAVE BEEN SCREAMING FOR FREEDOM FOR LONG, INSISTING SHE WILL RUN AWAY SOMEDAY.

AM CONFUSED PLEASE, COS THIS IS ON THE VERGE OF BEING A DENT ON MY FAMILY

You might also take her to see a doctor,specifically ,a psychiatrist.
She's displaying features of manic phase of bipolar disorder(risk taking)

You knew what you guys were doing was wrong. That was why you didn't reveal her age when you first told your sub story.

Do you know that the age of adulthood in Nigeria is 18 years? That means at that age, a person (Male or female) is free to do whatever they want, live where ever they want and with whomsoever they want and make their own decisions. Instead you and your family members caged her, made decisions for her and were directing her choices. In a decent country, you will all be in jail awaiting prison sentences for coercion and controlling behaviour.

The time to train a child is from birth until the age of 18, in Nigeria. If you invest the time required (instead of going about chasing money and fame while your child is being raised by nannies and other strangers), then you hope as an adult, the child will get most decisions right, though there are no guarantees. That boat has sailed for you and your family. Under the law, parents lose their Parental Responsibility when a child gets to the age of 18 years. That responsibility is transferred to the child is now an adult. That is why the former child can then be held accountable under the law for her actions. Your actions towards your sister for the last six years has been illegal under the law. You have contributed to her behaviour by trying to tell her how to live her life. The life is hers to live as she deem best.

If there is any common sense left in you and your family, instead of arresting anyone, use her friends to make an appeal to her. Let her know you NOW understand she is an adult with full responsibility for herself. Let her know you will respect her wishes and decisions. Appeal to her to let you know where she is ONLY for the purposes of knowing.

You must not ever interfere in her life and her decisions. The child has become an adult. She will make mistakes and learn from them. She may even make a mistake that may take her life. But that is her choice.

Learn to respect yourselves as a family. Stop committing crimes simply because you live in the most fantastically corrupt country the earth has ever seen.

When you have your own kids, learn from this experience. Don't go chasing shadows in the name of money and influence, when you should be paying attention to your kids when they are yet children.

Nelbless:
24

aisha1314:


If she's 24 then she has every right to run away if she wants to. At her age it's not even called running away it's called "flying the nest" or leaving home to become independent. There's no need to involve the police. She's an adult she can go wherever she wants whenever she wants. She's not running away because only teenagers run away, not adults, she's simply exercising her right to freedom of movement. I can't imagine a 24 year old has to lying in order to be allowed to go out and then being scolded upon coming back. Just let her go. She's more than old enough to move out and live her own life anyway.

it's may seem like you are right. but base on parenting, you are wrong. if a man is not legally married to a lady, he has no right to house someone daughter. or you'll allow your adult daughter to live with a man who did not pay her bride price ? sorry mam. what you wrote up there is what we call BEAUTIFUL NONSENSE!!!

jessylaurel:


Meaning?? Is she not with a boy as you claim. If the boy is well trained he will not advise her to run away from home.

I am not saying male children are saints, just doing comparism.

Take for instance a girl that has been fvcked by all the guys in the neighborhood and a boy that has fvcked all the girls in the neighborhood. Which of them will the society look down on? Be sincere.

You can't bear the shame that would cause in the neighborhood if the girl is your daughter or sister.

TUANKU:
Involve the Police ASAP don't listen to those people asking to let her be. We all do stupid things when we are young. Go get your sister bro.

She is 24 years old..
That is not young..
Young is 15,16,17 and 18 years old..
This one knows what exactly she is doing..
And it is a matter of time before she disappears indefinitely..

appi.

Just because you could not control your ego and overlook an insult, you have made yourself a candidate for kidnap and created other security problems for yourself.

Now, everyone knows where you work and what your nickname is.

I don't understand why you guys feel the need to validate yourselves to others.

All that a man or woman needs in this life is a bowl, a spoon, a place to lay your head and true love and obedience to your creator by getting an ACCURATE knowledge of Him. Anything else is extra.

appishani1:

I think you should pity your parents.
I am well off my dear.
I have a well paying job in Abuja.
My parents are living in a best flat you can imagine.
The fact that you see me here doesn't mean I am as miserable and poor as you.
If you live in Abuja come to federal ministry of transport headquarters and see the grace of God. Just tell the security at the gate you want to see appi.

aisha1314:


If she's 24 then she has every right to run away if she wants to. At her age it's not even called running away it's called "flying the nest" or leaving home to become independent. There's no need to involve the police. She's an adult she can go wherever she wants whenever she wants. She's not running away because only teenagers run away, not adults, she's simply exercising her right to freedom of movement. I can't imagine a 24 year old has to lying in order to be allowed to go out and then being scolded upon coming back. Just let her go. She's more than old enough to move out and live her own life anyway.

Well said, they are the ones giving themselves hypertension over a minor issue... She is old enough to do whatever suits her, where I will have problem with such peope is coming to burden me with the consequences of their actions, na there kasala go burst dam.

veektor01:
Haba!!

At 24, she is an adult.
If you do anything, she has the right to sue you.

Leave her to live her life.
Hopefully like the prodigal son, she would return someday.

If she comes back with regrets like pregnancy or baby or health related issues, if I was the OP, I will direct her to you. You can have her all to yourself since you love delinquent idiots.

Sureboyy:

She will get into trouble before realizing she is taking the wrong path..
It is inevitable for this kind of people

I quite agree with u. Most of the societal ills actually start from home!

Rhozabeth:

I can only shut up if u can tell ur grandfather to shut up. The children of nowadays are just stupid, senseless and short sighted. What an elder sees sitting down, you can never see evem if u climb Kilimanjaro. Rather than for you to ask me to substantiate or throw more light on my assertion, you are telling me to shut up. Are u sane?

You need to shut up and drink a glass of water.

appishani1:

I think you should pity your parents.
I am well off my dear.
I have a well paying job in Abuja.
My parents are living in a best flat you can imagine.
The fact that you see me here doesn't mean I am as miserable and poor as you.
If you live in Abuja come to federal ministry of transport headquarters and see the grace of God. Just tell the security at the gate you want to see appi.

Now I see that I just wasted my time and data!

I am clapping for you with both hands. Now, that is a mature observation. Well done!

oluwaseyi0:


24?

and you are writing as if she is 15

you people are the problem, she is a fucking adult and you must be ready to admit that

stop been over intrusive

what the f*ck, you people chased her out

if you try any nonsense she will sue your Bleep!ng ass

bring police and you will be the one to sleep in cell

I'm sure in the next 1 or 2 years you people will start disturbing her about husband yet you people don't want to see her with anyone

You deserve all you are getting

Archaic set of family

I wouldn't have said it better. Thank you!

Chosimba:


What kind of immature and Misogynistic comment is this?! Not to mention dumb beyond all reason.

All the ritual killers, armed robbers, kidnappers et al you see on TV, HOW MANY ARE FEMALE?!

You just look for any opportunity to use your ignorance to spew gender based hate.

Terry44:



She is 24 and old enough to make her own decisions. It is hard to control any gender at such age best is to allow them their freedom with certain limits. You guys are choking her with too much restrictions that's why she left home.



Try and communicate with her to come back home cause using force would only worsen the situation.

You failed to see where the op said that the girl have had some terrible experiences like kidnapping. Just last week, two girls from my place who were travelling for reasons best known to them to PH from Bayelsa state were kidnapped, and the two families spent over a million naira before they were released. Nigeria is experiencing a lot of shits right now, that even adults over 30yrs can not afford to live as they pleases irresponsibly. When shit hits the fan, your rights as an adult to freedom of movement and association will not save you.

An adult does not need anyone else's blessing/approval to be with anyone she wants. That is one of the practices that is leading to breakdown of relationships and other bad things in that country.

Once you are an adult, you go out there, find someone suitable for you and get together. You only seek advise from your family. You don't seek their approval before a relationship can be contracted. You alone know what you want and what you like.

Juoflife1:
She is 24. She is an adult. Tell her to introduce the man to the family. Your family should give their blessings if they want to be together. There is nothing you can do about it than guide her to make the right choice. You should be worried if your sis doesn't have a bf at this age. How can you scold a 24yr old woman because she has a bf? Nawaoo.

NemoDatQuod:
I am clapping for you with both hands. Now, that is a mature observation. Well done!

In this same Nigeria or it is another one? Nigeria that people are getting missing and families are posting missing people every day, that you guys are talking as if we live in an ideal world. Her adulthood did not protect her from the near ritual and kidnap experiences.

cayorday89:

Well said, they are the ones giving themselves hypertension over a minor issue... She is old enough to do whatever suits her, where I will have problem with such peope is coming to burden me with the consequences of their actions, na there kasala go burst dam.

Na still una go still lambast the Op if he comes back to say that his sister has come back with a bastard child or a terrible illness, and they refuse to accept her. Una go say the family is unforgiving.

Rhozabeth:

U see, thats why some people never make it in their life, when they open the gutter on their head that they call mouth and spew lava! For this one, i guarantee that u have sawdust in ur head and not brain! I pity ur parents!

Gbam!