Tayorshd2:
Am planning on getting married soon but d few problem is I DONT REALLY LOVE HER
but she loved me 100 % with her life and have tested her in many ways infact she told her elder sister secretly Abt it too and her friend on her chat which she didn't know i saw all of this proclaiming the love she have for me ....

With ur idea can I still marry such a lady ??

let her go if you know you don't love her.. Don't try it if you don't love her it will not last na you go frustrate Las Las you think you're wise!

seanwilliam:


I’m not yet married but I really don’t like sharing my bed , 90% of time if my girl comes around, I’ll stylishly leave the bed when she’s fast asleep, except if we one do the do.


Another thing is I hate make women Dey wear my boxers on come over.
I also hate sharing same toilet .
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One night , I woke up in the middle of night , I looked up to my girl on the bed , if you see the way she take sleep and open mouth , I say shey na wetin I Dey kiss be this
True true I never ready for marriage

this is a clown

theophorus:

1. Your Wife is always right.

2. You will be the one to always apologize.

3. Sex reduces as Children comes in.

4. Outside you are a Lion but inside you are a Cat.

5. Money is good and important

6. Beauty without brain is a Curse.

7. Fine boy without Work is Endemic

8. You will sometimes feel you should never have married.

9. She seems not to want peace.

10. Verbal abuse is a norm

But still on still being married is Bae

Verbal abuse is not and can never be a norm to me.
One party can't keep being right while the other party keeps apologizing. No friendship will even survive that way.
You talk like someone who married a bad woman sorry to say

Helpout12345:
All pretence will end from both parties. You will see each other in 3D.

You will be offended and re-offended. Your tolerance and forgiveness will be tested over and over again.

No marriage is perfect as no one is perfect.

If you marry for the wrong reason or married a wrong person, or if marriage is not for your type of person,
the marriage will be terrible.

If marriage is meant for you, you marry the right person for the right reasons, you have the compatibility, both of you truly love each other, finance is adequate for both of you, you will enjoy the marriage.

Where finance is on one side,you might be living in hell.You will be loosing weight mysteriously.

SMJay:
What is the brutal truth about life after marriage?

Tolerance

jelel6:


This brought back memories and got me hysterical.

I was very recently close to a girl for about a year, not romantically but quite close and good friends. Naturally, we both did help each other out as our capacity permits.

We had a week-long quarrel once and as we both sat down to talk things through, she said with a straight face that I don't ever help her with a particular "issue". worse thing, she said that in passing without any prompt from me. I was so shocked I said goodnight and went to sleep. I just had to pretend that was never said so we could both move on.

Guess what cause our initial quarrel? At the course of me helping her with THAT same particular "issue". Something I've been helping with every now and then for over 8 months. Rude awakening!

I was shocked. I thought I was in cuckooland. I don't easily get flustered but she easily did got me that day. It'd much easier for you to convince me 2 + 2 = 0 than make me understand why she said what she said.

I can only imagine how a married man (woman? hardly) must feel if their loving wife just bloat out "what have you ever done for me?" in the middle of an argument.

Our sisters, and wifeys them, that are guilty of the above in the heat of the moment, why Una dey yarn that talk. I would truly like to know?

My brother! These are the things,that make marriage a painful endurance journey. If you dwell on that you would not move forward. Human beings generally are like that even to God who made them.The children of Israel once attacked God that it would have been better for them to dwell in Egypt than the promised land becos of cucumber?

Only institution, you received certificate before the commencement of school.
Where the wife failure to get pregnancy on time will be suspected. The husband will be wondering, have l entered one chance? Every hidden things on both sides would be exposed.The veils covering their eyes would be wiped out, eyes clear!

GboyegaD:


Love is not just the mushy feelings. There is an intentional part to it and for those who leave each other because of challenges, they are the only ones who can tell why.
In marrying the one who you love and you make your friend, the easiest way to explain it is that "and they were both naked and they were not ashamed." Therefore, there isn't any issue you guys can't talk about and there is that mutual respect that helps guard you and your heart from straying away.

You gerrit,brother!

Mary the person you love most. Mary the person who has proven to be your friend before marriage. Marry the person you can be totally open with. Seek God's guidance also.

Dont marry out of pity
Dont marry because she got pregnant for you
Dont marry because he has been helping you financially
Dont marry because....time is going and he is the only one that approached me..
Dont marry because you need someone to care for youraged parents

Marry tbe person you love most
Mary the person who has proven to be yoir friend.
Marry someone you can be open and ftee with.
Marry someone you laugh with, talk freely and deeply with,
Ask the almighty

Sendero:


It's purely a business relationship between the man and the woman, the kids are the business.

Anyone who works with a different concept of marriage will lose out big time

If that be the case,what would you do where no kids available after years of marriage?

MufasaLion:
If you're not financially buoyant, you will regret it.

This is just the bitter truth

There you will know the real meaning of the word WOMEN .

seanwilliam:


I’m not yet married but I really don’t like sharing my bed , 90% of time if my girl comes around, I’ll stylishly leave the bed when she’s fast asleep, except if we one do the do.


Another thing is I hate make women Dey wear my boxers on come over.
I also hate sharing same toilet .
.



One night , I woke up in the middle of night , I looked up to my girl on the bed , if you see the way she take sleep and open mouth , I say shey na wetin I Dey kiss be this
True true I never ready for marriage

You have a long way to go.These amazing characters of yours baffled me!
There's no way you can avoid these in your relationship with opposite sex.pray hard brother!

Karleb:
People who have been pressuring to marry will not give you shishi.

OgwuEgo:
You are too pretty to be separate from any guyman at any point in time

That's no marriage, but flat mate!

harmony75:
let her go if you know you don't love her.. Don't try it if you don't love her it will not last na you go frustrate Las Las you think you're wise!

But my problem again is those ones have once loved ehn will never stay with me i will b d one chasing them up and down ..so am kind of fedup with such that's why am thinking of giving this a trial maybe i will soon love her as time flies

jelel6:


That's the ultimate fear for a regular man I think. To raise rebellious adult children with their own hands.

Another aspect or sides of marriage. Let it be known to you that marriages has many sides. Rebellion children are sometimes worst than rebellion wives.

Rubbiish:

All these things u are saying happens in the movies. What do u mean by love & be ur friend? In marriage real stuff comes in, school fees, house rent, feeding etc. The word love is pure deception. Didn't u read a story of a guy on this section whose wife left him because he is unable to provide for the home? We should stop deceiving intending couples with love, it is misleading.

Tayorshd2:
Am planning on getting married soon but d few problem is I DONT REALLY LOVE HER
but she loved me 100 % with her life and have tested her in many ways infact she told her elder sister secretly Abt it too and her friend on her chat which she didn't know i saw all of this proclaiming the love she have for me ....

With ur idea can I still marry such a lady ??

Wow,you don't really love her and you're about to marry her despite what you have heard her saying about you?Marriage is a relatioship between two people who are deeply in love with each other.if the love is on one sided love, l doubt if it could work.Where there's a mutual love by both,you would always fall in love with her over and over again, no matter what be tides. Marriage is a life's journey, and lots of things are associated with it.

God bless OP for this! I dey try cry but tears no gree comot! I mean, how can your spouse accuse you of adultery everytme without any evidence? I've been feeling heart pain ever since and I don't know what to do. Am i even safe? No one to talk to. Trouble every Time.

mariahAngel:

You should've reminded her of all the ones you've done for her before.


@bolded, we're naturally entitled beings.

Smh...you shock me atimes with your different way of approach to issues..

Eziokwu eeh, ugbu a ka m huru ihe ufodu ji akpo gi bro ebe a

Well, you see that issue of a woman denying things done for her in the past, Ike gwuru.

Someone I helped get to where she became a sort after, ones told me what uru ka m barala ya..Na mu nwere ike delete her contact ma m cho kwa o such ungrateful gut. Not like as if she has arrived, the pride stench.

Trust me, I did and swore never to cross her part in life again....That act is unforgivable.

It changed my mindset towards her type..And reaffirmed my strong support for a Bro before anyone else..A fellow man will never forget a good gesture.
Sometime last week, a female friend was having little challenge with her ride, and needed small cash to fix it, I was about helping helping her out, When a bro Called to tell me na aguru choro igbu ya, without blinking, I had to come to rescue.

Till now, ajubehu m the babe how far with the ride..Though we still dey gist.

Mgbe ufodu I laugh when kris castigate and voice his hatred here, Ufodu umu Nwaanyi extremely wicked and ungrateful(especially those from struggling homes) may God guide us sha.

Nettybrown:
God bless OP for this! I dey try cry but tears no gree comot! I mean, how can your spouse accuse you of adultery everytme without any evidence? I've been feeling heart pain ever since and I don't know what to do. Am i even safe? No one to talk to. Trouble every Time.

Nawa o.

If truely you aren't, try clarify issues with her and give her your assurance and re-assurance.

We no want hear ugly stories o.

vickydevoka:

Both gender or..

Both. It's ideal for both individuals to have source of income, if possible, multiple, especially the man.

franchasng:
For single unmarried young men, please take this comment seriously.


The number one challenge you will have in marriage of today as a man is financial challenge. If you conquer financial challenge and able to have babies, then I think marriage will never be an issue for you.


So prepare yourself for a hectic financial future after marriage

Exactly! And a sensible unmarried young man should not marry a woman that has no source of income, most especially if you're the first to break out of poverty in your family.

bonnyhope:


What is the percentage of married people that are financially buoyant

The percentage is low because of many reasons and one of them is because many young couples go into marriage due to unwanted pregnancies, peer pressure, no ambitions, etc.

Go and check the financially buoyant ones, they're either from a wealthy/rich family or self-made. I'm not saying people must be wealthy before marriage, my point is that there should be financial stability before going into it.

Many young guys with a studio apartment and good salary always think marriage is the next step, instead of focusing on doubling their hustle. Your comfortability as a single person can become sufferness after marriage, most especially in a country like Nigeria that nothing is certain in terms of the economy.

Men are polygamous by nature. Having sex with one woman for the rest of your life is living a lie.

jelel6:

I can only imagine how a married man (woman? hardly) must feel if their loving wife just bloat out "what have you ever done for me?" in the middle of an argument.

Our sisters, and wifeys them, that are guilty of the above in the heat of the moment, why Una dey yarn that talk. I would truly like to know?

Once You Understand Women, You Understand Life and Once You are Able to Conquer Women, You Conquer Life Economically!

... Most Women Live in Comparison to Other Women thus If She is not the best Women Amongst Her Peers of Women, She would never acquiesced you have done anything Spectacular for Her until You Leaves Her Life and Do more Better off for Yourself than Her ....

That's when She would regret How much she has Missed and the Begging Begins

Also, Most Women Issues are Psychological thus if You can't nib Her in the Bud Emotionally She would never agree within Herself You have helped her no matter how much you have tried Because She ain't Par with Other Women ...... Social Media has now Upped the Game for Her, She is now Competing with Fake Lives of Other Women Online ....

You just have to Manage between Being Emotionally Enslaved By Women and Not Being Labelled Sadistic Yourself ....

If Women never Tried and Test You, You ain't a Man Yet because Women are Meant to Test the Limits and Extents of Your Manliness/Manhood

Be Her Father Figure ... Even if you no get Shingbae, She would still be your girl n crawl up to You !

Love is not enough.

Marry a man that can put food on the table. Don't get carried away with all their verbal dreams and aspirations. Implementing them is the main thing and not just saying them.

MufasaLion:
If you're not financially buoyant, you will regret it.

Very true and this is not for man alone.
As a woman it you don't have money in marriage you go suffer.

My grand father once said;
"nor be to marry be the thing but na to dey continue to bring soup money"

Recent times "SOUP" means "endless billings for the man"

Dey financially stable or else marriage go be like curse for you.