Some men tend to judge women who are aged without marriage. Some of them are being shamed because they are of some age without husband. I have a brief about some.

Let's be realistic here. Not all of them lived a wayward life in their younger age. Not all of them slept around and samankwe with sugar daddies in their younger age.

Some are victims of men too. Not all of them have multiple body counts. Some are faithful to some of us men who deceived them. All their lives, they knew just us.

You are not ready to marry because you don't have the money. You beg her. Roll yourself on the ground to give you time so that you can make some money and marry her. You swear with everything in you that you'll never leave her. Already, both of you are building your future together.

Men are coming for her. They want to date her. They want to marry her. You are scared of losing her. You don't want her to cheat on you. You want her to be faithful. You assure her that comes rain comes shine, you both must end together. That sinks into her head.

You announced everywhere that she is your woman. Even on social media, the world knows she's your woman. Other men stay clear. She's in serious relationship.

Year in year out, you keep promising. Pleading she wait for you. Time is going.

After some years, when the money is coming, you remember she's old for you. You want younger girls. You want ọnụ ọnụ ụgụ. You cannot marry anyone who is 30 or 33+ but deep down, this person waited for you all this years. This person is 30 and 33+ because of you.

This is argument some men make.

"If you tell girls the truth, they will not agree for you to do?"

Must you do? Must you do everyone around you?

Let me go more blunt and raw, so that the message will sink.

If it's sex you want from a woman, spell it out. There are many ways to do that. Let her know her stand. If she wants, she's an adult. Either yes or no. It's never a crime. Morality, it is wrong. Lawfully, it's right. But it's better you go truthfully and receive no or yes than going with fake love, relationship and marriage only to waste her time, chase other men away and leave her with...

"My mother said that....

You are too old for me...

My pastor said that...

I saw a dream that...

My prophet said that...

Ezenwaanyị mmiri said that...

Dibịa said that...

You didn't consult them when you chase away other suitors and make her see you as the most serious person who want to marry her?

It's not a crime that she's exclusively loyal and faithful to you.

There is this statement that churns my stomach some adults use to make: "not every relationship ends in marriage."

In our world today, people enter relationship for just fun. Avenue to be having sex anytime anyday, after all, we are dating. Once you are tired, they break up, next person. Was it defined this way from the beginning? That's the question.

There are kinds of relationship. Open relationship and exclusive relationship.

You want exclusive relationship. Not open. You want someone to build with you. You come with love and marriage The person zeroed her mind. The person chased other suitors away and remain faithful to you, believing that you both have something going on. After years, you wake up and tell her that all relationship must not end in marriage.

I am still not a fan of using relationship and marriage to get a woman laid. There are girls out there who don't even mind. Just say the truth and stand by it. If it's open relationship, spell it out. No strings attached. Just fun. With that, no headache. You both know what you want — just pleasure.

But, you want her all for yourself. You want her loyalty. Other men shouldn't go close.

Now, after wasting their time, after some of them maintained faithlessness to you, you wake up one day and complain that they are too old. You want younger girls.

This is wrong. This action by some men makes it look like it's a crime to be faithful to them. This is also one of the reasons I don't blame women who don't put their eggs in one basket. Women who try other options and put their options open. I think, I like that. Except a man or woman proves with all reasonable doubt, that they are serious and really want something to work, they don't deserve exclusive relationship. You may frown at this, but that's reality.

A friend was in exclusive relationship with a man. They planned to get married this month. Some months ago, I was sceptical about the whole thing. Like, she didn't give other men chance. A month to wedding, it turned out that the man was scam, a blatant liar and selfish sick fellow. The wedding was cancelled. I didn't even know until after she healed from the shock and told me.

You see, reality keeps hitting harder.

I am also not in support of women rushing to marry early and marry wrongly. Marriage is a serious thing. Today is not yesterday. Marry with intention. Because you want to or ready to, and not because you are of age, anything at all you see with pénis, you enter desperately.

Let's always be truthful to ourselves.

I encourage young ones around me, untill you are serious to get married, you have no business with exclusive relationship and promises of marriage. My mother warned me against that as a teenager. The principle lives in me till date.

Define the kind of relationship you want from people. Stop being agada gbachiri ụzọ. You don't want to be serious. You also don't want another man who is serious to have her. You just want her to be there as your object of pleasure. When you are tired, you discard her and look for someone else, because you are the man and you fear no repercussion.

This is bad.

Dear Ladies, before you show any exclusive interest, relationship with any man, I advise you to check very well. If you are ready to marry and a few years pass by, this guy show no serious interest about where the relationship is heading. He only calls when he is hórny. Of course he blesses your account steady but there's nothing else serious, I am advising you as a brother, reconsider your priority.

Time is going. If it's fun you want to have, the decision is yours.

Stop wasting years waiting for a man who is not serious. Anyone who isn't serious shouldn't even enter exclusive relationship with marriage in view.

With this advice, no man will hurt woman, no woman will feel hurt, used and dumped. If both agree on selima nkuli nkuli with no strings attached, nobody will feel used in the end.

Define whatever you want. When it's taking longer than usual, and nothing serious, catapult and find your way. That's, if you want something serious. But if it's just fun, carry go. It's your choice.

Just know that some of these men will come with marriage just to have you, it doesn't matter how long it takes. Once they are tired, they will disappear. Learn to accept the truth and stop feeding on fantasies.

I paused.

Maazi ogbonnaya

This thread really touch me,truely most men are the cause of many unmarried women.

virginprincess:
This thread really touch me,truely most men are the cause of many unmarried women.

When will you and your foolish gender start taking responsibility for your senseless actions? Must you demons always blame men every time? Tueh!

Igwe simp,i greet you sir. How is the family?

So you mean female feel used when slept, and men shouldn't feel used while a leeche extorts money from him in the name of she is a queen and should be taken care of, a graduate o!

Greed and selfishness, have overclouded the mind of many young girls. The ones that have sense are the ones getting married,

If you behave like bitch, you will be treated like one.

We own up to our shit, let the women own up to theirs.

Woman mata go do una sometin one day, woman dis woman dat.
No go find sometin do wit ur time, dy der dy send hu no send u.

See ..I don tire to dey advice people...

Las las everybody destiny go play him role...

If you are destined to chop breakfast...even if you try avoid am like plague...he go still reach you...

Men &Women:
We need each other to compliment each other but listen to me ...we don't complete each other....that your loving hubby/wife go die one day.....and life go still go on....

Find your own joy ...if you believe in God...let God be your joy...make you no go dey put all your joy and happiness in a partner/ person wey their death, separation or drop of interest could knock you off... This goes especially to the ladies...

There was this pretty young lady that committed suicide last year..she was a year ahead in my department back in school... apparently she was served breakfast by her man shes been with for 10 good years...
I understand these things are hard to live with ...but you must find a way around it that the love from fellow humans don't define your level of happiness....let God who never fail be your joy....or if you are not a believer then be your own joy....be a beacon of joy and hope to people around you.....be the main giver of love...so whether people love you in Return or not... doesn't matter...God gat you

Putting your all In the hands of a human like you is not making sense...

I was telling one girl for my dept for office say I no fit fall in love with a woman ....she was shocked...I can love you , care for you...but I won't fall in love with you... meaning....when you are with me, fine!....when you are not with me, I'm fine!!!....
God helped me build this mentality since I was 16... seeing how life was at the time...I knew u needed just God ..others are just actors...

I can't do without you..I can't eat without you are all shit......you must be able to do without people even though you still need people around....you must be self sufficient esp in your head......I can't even date a lady who gives such sign of *I can't do without you*...such signs are indeed red flags for me....

I remember when a girl was telling me on phone....she couldn't eat cos I wasn't present.....I was so mad at her.... Were you not doing fine before we met...he be like craze dey your head..


The only personality you can't do without is Almighty God...He owns all things..the only being who is ever present in your life anywhere anytime whether you are dead or alive...the breath owner...I Hail you Baba God...the only true love...

Moreover,
If there is something you need to learn in life...it's what the English guys call **resilience****/ri'ziliens/.....you must always find a way to bounce back....you can't allow yourself to remain miserable cos somebody left you .....this is life.. Holy spirit made me understand this a long time ago ...and the red pill knowledge is also helpful

Who get ear ...make he hear ooooo

Zonefree:

When will you and your foolish gender start taking responsibility for your senseless actions? Must you demons always blame men every time? Tueh!

Oh!,it here you came to show yourself for me abi ,why didn't you response in the other thread,you shamelessly went there to fool yourself,thanks to the op he gave you a taste of your own medicine,rubbish and yes you men are the cause of many unmarried ladies,stop denying because you know it true.

virginprincess:
Oh!,it here you came to show yourself for me abi ,why didn't you response in the other thread,you shamelessly went there to fool yourself,thanks to the op he gave you a taste of your own medicine,rubbish and yes you men are the cause of many unmarried ladies,stop denying because you know it true.

Senseless as always...no surprises

Zonefree:

Senseless as always...no surprises

I should be telling you that,shameless boy.

virginprincess:
This thread really touch me,truely most men are the cause of many unmarried women.

SHUT UP!!!

benqo01:

SHUT UP!!!

SHUT DOWN!!!

Preach all you want OP
But we know used products, tokunbo and tear rubber
Prove me wrong

Starz825:
See ..I don tire to dey advice people...

Las las everybody destiny go play him role...

If you are destined to chop breakfast...even if you try avoid am like plague...he go still reach you...

Men &Women:
We need each other to compliment each other but listen to me ...we don't complete each other....that your loving hubby/wife go die one day.....and life go still go on....

Find your own joy ...if you believe in God...let God be your joy...make you no go dey put all your joy and happiness in a partner/ person wey their death, separation or drop of interest could knock you off... This goes especially to the ladies...

There is this pretty young lady that committed suicide last year..she is a year older in my department back in school... apparently she was served breakfast by her man shes been with for 10 good years...
I understand these things are hard to live with ...but you must find a way around it that the love from fellow humans don't define your level of happiness....let God who never fail be your joy....or if you are not a believer then be your own joy....be a beacon of joy and hope to people around you.....be the main giver of love...so whether people love you in Return or not... doesn't matter...

Putting your all In the hands of a human like you is not making sense...

Who get ear ...make he hear ooooo

This op look like someone that just escape from psychiatric ward

[quote author=ejitest1 post=119548777]Some men tend to judge women who are aged without marriage. Some of them are being shamed because they are of some age without husband. I have a brief about some.

Let's be realistic here. Not all of them lived a wayward life in their younger age. Not all of them slept around and samankwe with sugar daddies in their younger age.

Some are victims of men too. Not all of them have multiple body counts. Some are faithful to some of us men who deceived them. All their lives, they knew just us.

You are not ready to marry because you don't have the money. You beg her. Roll yourself on the ground to give you time so that you can make some money and marry her. You swear with everything in you that you'll never leave her. Already, both of you are building your future together.

Men are coming for her. They want to date her. They want to marry her. You are scared of losing her. You don't want her to cheat on you. You want her to be faithful. You assure her that comes rain

virginprincess:
SHUT DOWN!!!

KEEP QUIET

benqo01:

KEEP QUIET

KEEP RANTING,mumu.

There is no lady who have not once or several times rejected suitors have genuine intention for them.

If she's not a virgin, then she's a THOT.

Interesting piece there by OP.

OP ?... no vex but you are wrong since you didn’t mention the flaws of the women as well .
Most girls have poor taste in men especially young ones , I have a neighbor, very fine girl , good guys coming around to toast her , but for where ??.... she no gree O!!.... she told me they were not her type , turns out the kind of guys she likes was those spoilt rich kids who only knew how to spend daddies money .. in her mind she’s wise , because if this guys invite her out she’ll ask me to accompany her and act as her brother so that we’ll chop the guys money and the guy won’t suggest anything sexually while me the brother is there .. as a bro I can never escort a girl to chop another bros money .. but one foolish hungry guy always followed her ..
She continued like that jumping from one guy to another , she’s a text book definition of leech , now wey she don Dey cross border (30 years ) she’s now telling me one day “ guy we don Dey old O!” ... I laughed eh ... I told her make you thank God say you manage graduate because handwork you no get ,
My own experience ....
There’s this girl I was liking , the girl no reach my level but I was willing to settle , so we got talking as friends , got her stuffs most times when am coming back from work , then one day I told her my mind , imagine a whole me this girl told me that she doesn’t want relationship, as a guy man I took it as nothing , only for me to discover that this particular girl hangs out with jobless guys that depends on handouts from guys like me so they can smoke , I saw her with them one evening , the way they were all greeting me she felt embarrassed , since that day whenever we cross parts either she change road or she’ll be visibly uncomfortable...
So OP leave women them know Wetin dem they do , that’s why they’ll tell you women are not to be understood but they want you to love them like that ..

MasterShifu010:
OP ?... no vex but you are wrong since you didn’t mention the flaws of the women as well .
Most girls have poor taste in men especially young ones , I have a neighbor, very fine girl , good guys coming around to toast her , but for where ??.... she no gree O!!.... she told me they were not her type , turns out the kind of guys she likes was those spoilt rich kids who only knew how to spend daddies money .. in her mind she’s wise , because if this guys invite her out she’ll ask me to accompany her and act as her brother so that we’ll chop the guys money and the guy won’t suggest anything sexually while me the brother is there .. as a bro I can never escort a girl to chop another bros money .. but one foolish hungry guy always followed her ..
She continued like that jumping from one guy to another , she’s a text book definition of leech , now wey she don Dey cross border (30 years ) she’s now telling me one day “ guy we don Dey old O!” ... I laughed eh ... I told her make you thank God say you manage graduate because handwork you no get , ...

Let me guess, you didn't even bother reading the OP's argument at all?

Kobojunkie:
Let me guess, you didn't even bother reading the OP's argument at all?

No vex make I go read am

Modified:
Just did , he blamed men for the feminine woes , and I put it to him that woman sef Dey overdo sometimes ..

virginprincess:
Oh!,it here you came to show yourself for me abi ,why didn't you response in the other thread,you shamelessly went there to fool yourself,thanks to the op he gave you a taste of your own medicine,rubbish and yes you men are the cause of many unmarried ladies,stop denying because you know it true.