sukkot:
ashes to ashes and dust to dust

sukkot:
yeah lmao . Well no more. So many people would scheme to make you their work chop. Especially security guards. I saw the snake this morning unsolicitedly washing the BMW of the Neighbor. He has transferred to another person. I trust that other guy he is not civilised like me. You can wash his car 7 days a week and he will not drop shishi. Rich people are very stingy

otipoju:


I understand what you are saying totally.

But when you leave home and return...you really want to see childhood friends, go to your childhood church and stuff like that.

Nigeria was not like this 10 years ago.
Now you have ritual killings, kidnapping for Ransom, herdsmen wahala, street cult killings and a lot of desperate people who will do anything for money.

Better safe than sorry men.

Divoc19:
I try to make peace but these people don't change. It's inbuilt. May God help us. Sometimes I just allow things beyond my control be

sukkot:
it is what it is. It's all discretion. Just do it far away from home. As a wise man once said , no dey shit where you dey put head, excuse the vulgarity lol. Give to people you will never see again if there is the need for charity. Charity covers a multitude of sins. It's like penance lol. I strongly believe that

Saifullah01:
You can never be who you are not, and don't try being anything other than yourself- Trust me you'll fail if you try.

If you are a kind hearted don't change, the world need more of your type, being wise shouldn't make you unkind- you were wise in calling out his stalking shenanigans to his face. After a wile you may or may not "find him something", you're doing it because that's who you are and you've called him out on his entitlement mentality. It's left for him to take correction or not. Bottom line Strong men change situation around them, not the otherway round

AngelicBeing:
Dayuummmmmm, welc to Nigeria, abeg walk with wisdom with the guy oo, some security guards are informants to Robbers and Kidnappers, it is a cruel and Wicked world out there, so be wise as the serpent and harmless like the dove, that is why anytime l visit Nigeria, l put on my Ghost Garment 24/ 7, l don't trust most people in Nigeria, l have been taken advantage of several times in my visits to Nigeria, so whenever l land, l am a Ghost to the core although I do help, support and assist as many as I can as led by The celestial forces

sukkot:
guys these numbers are hypothetical figures so dont think i go around giving beggars 5000 naira. i was making a point. the guyman i gave 5000 i am acquainted with in some way. so i aint some guy with money to waste, my dm is crazy right now with 5000 naira requests lol.

Akanniade:

You took him through the 5 steps of dependency:
Appreciation ,Anticipation, Expectations, Entitlement, Dependency.

bdon123:

My own security man i feed n pay 25k per month in d north.Mind u na me pay pass around.d fcker left my house n went back to his wife wen i was out d country on vacation.
He couldnt even jst tell me m leaving.i had to depend on my cctv to monitor my home frm london.
As i heard, even house helps do this alot this days.its really very bad if u not satisfied wit wat i pay quit responsible not to jst disappear

jaxxy:
I already know this is a possible mindset with certain staffs or security personnel's either at home or at some hangout spots so I don't make them feel like I'm giving them cos they act self entitled. Infact I don't give them when they act that way with some level of arrogance or aggressiveness when asking for a tip or favour I immediately locked up and ignore their ass. The next reaction after this is they get the message and get humble or less entitled and then I give them or they act like a duchebag and I show them I'm a bigger duchebag who no send their papa.

There was a day I was driving out and the security man rather than opening the gate walked to me to ask hwfr wetin for boys I just looked at him like has he lost his mind? Is that how u think u can force people to give u tips? I told him nothing for u go and do ur job.

he vexed and me too I vexed. we both vexed. Lol

He later came to his senses and got a tip after doing his work properly after like a week or so.

sukkot:
See at this point I don't understand most Nigerians anymore. Every time I offer a helping hand to Nigerians they turn to your enemy. I don't understand the dynamics behind it. The whole interaction just gets very awkward after that . It's like they hate you for " humbling " them. It never fails.

But the ones who have a pure friendly relationship with you? Are the ones you haven't given anything yet. So in my everyday life person to person I try to do charity because charity covers a multitude of sins and givers never lack.

So this is a recent case study. This young guy , a security guard was sent by the company to guard the house I stay. I would say about 19 years old. One night I went grocery shopping and I was going through the gate he runs over from across the street and told me he was hungry. So I said what does he eat ? He said he likes indomie . So I went to my place and brought out like 5 indomie and 3 soft drinks and 2 sardines and gave it to him. He thanked me.

Every 2 days when I go out I would do small grocery shopping for him. Indomie and biscuits and soft drinks sardine or bread. A few times when I go out to get bottled palmwine for myself I would get him palmwine or orijin beer he likes. But I started noticing his entitlement behaviour like on the days when I don't buy him anything he would time when I Am coming home and sit beside my door when he sees me carrying my own groceries and he would be looking at me like he is depressed. And he would Always be watching me to see if I am going grocery shopping and he would hang around the car to see if I would come out with grocery.

Let's just say this guy got ridiculously stalkerish and so I called him up 4 days ago and asked him has his salary being paid yet? He said yes. Because am thinking all these things he is doing because he is new on the job and has no money and is hungry so I put up with it for like a month.

But once he told me yes that he had being paid, I in a roundabout way told him I don't tolerate the stalking. That he doesn't need to be following me or waiting on me. Anyway since that day this guy just turned into an enemy. Someone who I have been buying groceries for for almost a whole month just turned hostile like that. Now all that time I was buying him grocery he would do ass kissing stuff like when I drop my black trash bag outside my door he would take it to the bin outside for me but since that day the guy just bone my trash bags lol.

Anyway the point here is this ? You create an enemy unknowingly out of those you help - not family members- because I think it is humiliating for them and they despise you for it, so if you are going to offer charity don't offer it to people you have to see on a daily basis. Just find a beggar in the street that you would never see again. Nigerians are funny, they beg you for money but they hate you for giving them that money especially if it is not a life changing amount.

It's like a guy I gave 5000 naira one time and he thought it was an insult, just a regular guy who I don't even know like that, God is my witness, which 5000 is no money but it was just for him to buy beer for the weekend, you can get 15 beers with 5000 when I gave it to him.

So out here on these streets you have to be savage. No more mr nice guy ooo lol. basically if you are not offering guys over 100k just forget it cuz they would hate you. look for a real beggar who would appreciate 5000 or 1000.

sukkot:
i don't know how to describe it but he is very powerless in this environment . It's like gated and then it's a close then next door is some politician so it's alwYs like 6 armed mopol outside . This environment is do anyhow see anyhow. It's not the type of environment where these types of people have any inch of upper hand. So there is no fear . Plus the guy is just a skinny babyface guy. He is weird but he is not dangerous

cayorday89:

The way I see it is this, you actually caused it, humans want free things especially when they see you are more privileged than they are, then they see you as whom God has blessed on their behalf. Next time, just give such person a one time help and not over do it, you made it look easy for him buy giving him things his salary cannot afford him, how do you expect him to sustain that lifestyle if not to keep coming back to you. It's good to help, but help only when it is necessary or critical.

Remember this saying, it's better to teach one how to fish than giving them fish, it's one of the reason I don't appreciate anyone who is okay with giving me handouts always like buying drinks, paying for match viewing for me, or telling me I get babe for you but will not give you money to help with important things in one's life .

sukkot:
See at this point I don't understand most Nigerians anymore. Every time I offer a helping hand to Nigerians they turn to your enemy. I don't understand the dynamics behind it. The whole interaction just gets very awkward after that . It's like they hate you for " humbling " them. It never fails.

But the ones who have a pure friendly relationship with you? Are the ones you haven't given anything yet. So in my everyday life person to person I try to do charity because charity covers a multitude of sins and givers never lack.

So this is a recent case study. This young guy , a security guard was sent by the company to guard the house I stay. I would say about 19 years old. One night I went grocery shopping and I was going through the gate he runs over from across the street and told me he was hungry. So I said what does he eat ? He said he likes indomie . So I went to my place and brought out like 5 indomie and 3 soft drinks and 2 sardines and gave it to him. He thanked me.

Every 2 days when I go out I would do small grocery shopping for him. Indomie and biscuits and soft drinks sardine or bread. A few times when I go out to get bottled palmwine for myself I would get him palmwine or orijin beer he likes. But I started noticing his entitlement behaviour like on the days when I don't buy him anything he would time when I Am coming home and sit beside my door when he sees me carrying my own groceries and he would be looking at me like he is depressed. And he would Always be watching me to see if I am going grocery shopping and he would hang around the car to see if I would come out with grocery.

Let's just say this guy got ridiculously stalkerish and so I called him up 4 days ago and asked him has his salary being paid yet? He said yes. Because am thinking all these things he is doing because he is new on the job and has no money and is hungry so I put up with it for like a month.

But once he told me yes that he had being paid, I in a roundabout way told him I don't tolerate the stalking. That he doesn't need to be following me or waiting on me. Anyway since that day this guy just turned into an enemy. Someone who I have been buying groceries for for almost a whole month just turned hostile like that. Now all that time I was buying him grocery he would do ass kissing stuff like when I drop my black trash bag outside my door he would take it to the bin outside for me but since that day the guy just bone my trash bags lol.

Anyway the point here is this ? You create an enemy unknowingly out of those you help - not family members- because I think it is humiliating for them and they despise you for it, so if you are going to offer charity don't offer it to people you have to see on a daily basis. Just find a beggar in the street that you would never see again. Nigerians are funny, they beg you for money but they hate you for giving them that money especially if it is not a life changing amount.

It's like a guy I gave 5000 naira one time and he thought it was an insult, just a regular guy who I don't even know like that, God is my witness, which 5000 is no money but it was just for him to buy beer for the weekend, you can get 15 beers with 5000 when I gave it to him.

So out here on these streets you have to be savage. No more mr nice guy ooo lol. basically if you are not offering guys over 100k just forget it cuz they would hate you. look for a real beggar who would appreciate 5000 or 1000.

OvertheTop:


Let me Tell You Something:
if Somebody gifts you 2k Daily. You will be Very Grateful the First few days....
But after like 20 days, BELIEVE ME, unconsciously, YOU WOULD HAVE BECOME ENTITLED to the MONEY.
you find yourself asking Questions like:
why hasn't he given me the Money Today?
why is the Money So small...
this Guy is too Stingy...ordinary 2ko

this thing happens to every human.h



the Solution: Never help continuously (do it intermittently)
day 1....day5....i not get today....day 20, day50.....etc.....to avoid that Entitlement Growth in the person

sukkot:
See at this point I don't understand most Nigerians anymore. Every time I offer a helping hand to Nigerians they turn to your enemy. I don't understand the dynamics behind it. The whole interaction just gets very awkward after that . It's like they hate you for " humbling " them. It never fails.

But the ones who have a pure friendly relationship with you? Are the ones you haven't given anything yet. So in my everyday life person to person I try to do charity because charity covers a multitude of sins and givers never lack.

So this is a recent case study. This young guy , a security guard was sent by the company to guard the house I stay. I would say about 19 years old. One night I went grocery shopping and I was going through the gate he runs over from across the street and told me he was hungry. So I said what does he eat ? He said he likes indomie . So I went to my place and brought out like 5 indomie and 3 soft drinks and 2 sardines and gave it to him. He thanked me.

Every 2 days when I go out I would do small grocery shopping for him. Indomie and biscuits and soft drinks sardine or bread. A few times when I go out to get bottled palmwine for myself I would get him palmwine or orijin beer he likes. But I started noticing his entitlement behaviour like on the days when I don't buy him anything he would time when I Am coming home and sit beside my door when he sees me carrying my own groceries and he would be looking at me like he is depressed. And he would Always be watching me to see if I am going grocery shopping and he would hang around the car to see if I would come out with grocery.

Let's just say this guy got ridiculously stalkerish and so I called him up 4 days ago and asked him has his salary being paid yet? He said yes. Because am thinking all these things he is doing because he is new on the job and has no money and is hungry so I put up with it for like a month.

But once he told me yes that he had being paid, I in a roundabout way told him I don't tolerate the stalking. That he doesn't need to be following me or waiting on me. Anyway since that day this guy just turned into an enemy. Someone who I have been buying groceries for for almost a whole month just turned hostile like that. Now all that time I was buying him grocery he would do ass kissing stuff like when I drop my black trash bag outside my door he would take it to the bin outside for me but since that day the guy just bone my trash bags lol.

Anyway the point here is this ? You create an enemy unknowingly out of those you help - not family members- because I think it is humiliating for them and they despise you for it, so if you are going to offer charity don't offer it to people you have to see on a daily basis. Just find a beggar in the street that you would never see again. Nigerians are funny, they beg you for money but they hate you for giving them that money especially if it is not a life changing amount.

It's like a guy I gave 5000 naira one time and he thought it was an insult, just a regular guy who I don't even know like that, God is my witness, which 5000 is no money but it was just for him to buy beer for the weekend, you can get 15 beers with 5000 when I gave it to him.

So out here on these streets you have to be savage. No more mr nice guy ooo lol. basically if you are not offering guys over 100k just forget it cuz they would hate you. look for a real beggar who would appreciate 5000 or 1000.

NoBones:
They are everywhere........I moved into an apartment the landlord was also staying there, the children were schooling somewhere in town very far from our home, so I decided on my own to be helping them to drop the children in School before I proceed to work.

On day I was not feeling fine and decided not to go to the office that's how the children came and were knocking on my door when I opened the door and told them I won't be dropping them because am sick.

The went and told their mother, throughout that day the woman was making face for me, to the extent she went and was telling one of our neighbors that I stopped dropping her children in School because of one of one single lady in our compound who was very good friends with me.
It will even amaze you to know that one day I was lying down inside and the landlord sent the children to come and tell me to give him keys to my car so that he would drop the children in School since I was very busy......some people can be very mean and funny my dear Pastor friend cautioned me against starting what I can't finish

armyofone:


You lock yaself up by force. Mopol for your estate protection? Pack up and come back real new jack city.
Have you seen that movie?

luluosas:
I don't fancy your narration because it speaks of so much arrogance. Who is a beggar in the first place? This is so belittling please. Thank you.

hedonido:


You're much worse than the security man this thread talks about because your own entitlement mentality is on a different level of disdain, arrogance and bitterness. Why do you expect someone to teach you how to fish? Why? Is he your father? Why do you expect someone to give you money to "help with important things in life"? You're an idiot, not sorry to say. Nobody owes you NOTHING.

If you can't appreciate the handouts and free drinks, then you're a terrorist waiting to wreak havoc. I pity the people doing this for you.

Stay there and be waiting for people to teach you how to fish or give you millions to start life with. Because you did what exactly for them to deserve that? Disgusting.

hedonido:


You're much worse than the security man this thread talks about because your own entitlement mentality is on a different level of disdain, arrogance and bitterness. Why do you expect someone to teach you how to fish? Why? Is he your father? Why do you expect someone to give you money to "help with important things in life"? You're an idiot, not sorry to say. Nobody owes you NOTHING.

If you can't appreciate the handouts and free drinks, then you're a terrorist waiting to wreak havoc. I pity the people doing this for you.

Stay there and be waiting for people to teach you how to fish or give you millions to start life with. Because you did what exactly for them to deserve that? Disgusting.

EMREX02:
I enjoy your thread, is lively. Please can you shed more light on Celestial Forces and being Cooked. I await your reply. Thanks

armyofone:
Sigh!!

It is so hard to be a philanthropic to Nigerians.
Almost everyone has that entitled mentality.
Every good you do turns bad.
They don't say thank you from the bottom of the hearts for you doing good to them.


Anyway, I can help you manage ya bank accounts

I will space coming back for free ogoro, sardine, bread and kudi.

hedonido:


You're much worse than the security man this thread talks about because your own entitlement mentality is on a different level of disdain, arrogance and bitterness. Why do you expect someone to teach you how to fish? Why? Is he your father? Why do you expect someone to give you money to "help with important things in life"? You're an idiot, not sorry to say. Nobody owes you NOTHING.

If you can't appreciate the handouts and free drinks, then you're a terrorist waiting to wreak havoc. I pity the people doing this for you.

Stay there and be waiting for people to teach you how to fish or give you millions to start life with. Because you did what exactly for them to deserve that? Disgusting.

sukkot:
we are all beggars. no man is an island. some beg for your money, some beg for your affection, some beg for your time etc

sukkot:
he does absolutely nothing for me. I make sure he does nothing. He tried to wash my car once and I told him never to do it. Bro ? I don't use people. Some of you see people as disposable objects or entities to be used and abused, when I see people I say souls on a journey in the underworld called earth. It's a journey through the pit. A journey of pain and affliction. And I always make sure I am never the one increasing another souls pain and affliction in this journey. And so I make sure this guy does absolutely nothing for me. Even that thrash picking I already told him I do it on my own but he would just sneak and pick it up at night for which I always make sure I reciprocate in kind whenever he picks the thrash

sukkot:
he does absolutely nothing for me. I make sure he does nothing. He tried to wash my car once and I told him never to do it. Bro ? I don't use people. Some of you see people as disposable objects or entities to be used and abused, when I see people I say souls on a journey in the underworld called earth. It's a journey through the pit. A journey of pain and affliction. And I always make sure I am never the one increasing another souls pain and affliction in this journey. And so I make sure this guy does absolutely nothing for me. Even that thrash picking I already told him I do it on my own but he would just sneak and pick it up at night for which I always make sure I reciprocate in kind whenever he picks the thrash

mariahAngel:


Dearest Sukkot,

I have some questions for you:
Why do you feel you have the right to (help) be kind to others, but when they try to return the kindness, you deny them that opportunity?

Also, why do you think of someone trying to help you of their own freewill as you "using" them?
Do you forbid help?
If so, why then do you help people?
If not, why do you not allow them help you?
(Do you know that it makes some people uncomfortable accepting help they need, without giving something back?)

Don't you think you're taking advantage of (by helping) them, since you seem to know things that those you help don't know?
Have you thought about that?

It's almost like someone doing saraa , but the people receiving the saraa don't know that there's a reason behind the saraa .

I await the answers to the above questions. 😌

armyofone:
Sukkot lived in the west at some point. The western ways of life cooked him to be self reliant and not dependent on anyone for what he needs to be done.
If you were hired to do it, great. Otherwise don't do anything unsolicited. It ties one down.
Also, "i can give you help when I can or want but don't depend on me" that's how it is done in the obodo.
Nothing like freewill help o .