Vokallond1:
According to the Nairaland Classification model i built, this news is correctly placed in the FAMILY category. I will be posting the tutorial soon of how I built this with Tensorflow which is a Python deep learning library. Give me a follow

yewit37486:


You simply can't conclude without knowing the full details. What if he decided to live in a cheap place in order to fast track his savings to buy his own place? What if there are family considerations in his choice to live where he lives?

madridguy:
I will go to the US or UK and I will still be controlling her as I want.

SSpeter:
if you earn well and you work for a valuable organisation please don't think like this please 🥺. Look if you work for a valuable organisation you have access to sensitive information I. Your computer, the Outlook or slack on your mobile has sensitive data, you cannot be boarding BRT or bus to work, what if your phone gets stolen or you get robbed? What if your work gadgets get stolen? How about the safety of your life? How can you live in a neighborhood without adequate private security? If you earn well forget about rushing to go build a house think smart and focus what is in front of you. You can buy a duplex for 120m with 60m down payment and get the remaining finance from the bank. Why are you thinking like a civil servant

yewit37486:


You cannot project your assumptions on others, that's the point. How do you know where he lives is unsafe? Did verybadmouth tell you that? Do you know him personally? Live and let live, it is his LIFE, and he made his decision to live where he lives based on factors he knows, respect that.

Btw, he works remotely, so where does entering BRT come in here?!!

madridguy:
Oyinbo country self too get wahala.

You cannot discipline your wife as one can do in Nigeria... Your wife can wake up and call police for you and police will ask you to leave your home.

You cannot scold your kids, if you do so and the authority get to know, they will take away your kids and hand them over to a foster parent.

And this is the place some people are selling their assets to go

My prayer to all Nigeria men suffering under their wives in various oyinbo country.

SSpeter:
Well if you work for a high valued organisation wether in Nigeria or abroad this is the first basic orientation you will be given. When I worked in Nigeria, the coy I worked with will not allow you to enter bike 🚳 let alone bus. Infact how would you even think of it. Well I guess he is working with a mushroom startup abroad. Let me let you know for free no sensible organisation abroad will let you work remotely without thinking about the security and data you have. Before I relocated, the Coy told me point blank we cannot guarantee safety of our data in Nigeria. It is either you relocate or you forget about it. For a 250k apartment in Lagos? Let me allow you rest biko, I cannot stress further.

verybadmouth:
And people are still relocating there with family.
Na men I blame pass. We too mumu

madridguy:
Nigeria is not a joke. How many people those small small taxi dey carry for back? Talk people no go fit enter them

RaptorX:
And you will be paying your bills and cost of living in Naira? Keep converting and be deceiving yourself.

luluman:
NO!! Na you too mumu. Everyone can live his life as he wishes.

verybadmouth:

No shaking my brother.

RaptorX:
And you will be paying your bills and cost of living in Naira? Keep converting and be deceiving yourself.

Unperturbedpota:
Hmmm

Only 1 reason.

Nigerian women are deceitful lying beings whom no one should ever trust

Exceed15:
Invite your wife/ woman over to UK at your peril. Premium tears awaits you.

verybadmouth:

Better o. Even my neighbor that is a well known juju yahoo+ big boy has traveled with his wife and kids. UK has suffered I swear

ogelekpomgam:

Well..if the standard of living like bad road,poor light.. inefficient railway system.. pollution infected vehicles..makes you proud and Nigeria preferable for you and you it as a norm, enjoy my brother.Maybe, suffering looks good on you.

Sheggy13:


Which deep learning algorithm did you use for your model? This is more of a text classification/topic modeling problem. What was your model's accuracy?

I also want to believe you got your dataset (corpus) from Nairaland. How did you scrape for the texts?

madridguy:
Oyinbo country self too get wahala.
You cannot discipline your wife as one can do in Nigeria... Your wife can wake up and call police for you and police will ask you to leave your home.
You cannot scold your kids, if you do so and the authority get to know, they will take away your kids and hand them over to a foster parent.
And this is the place some people are selling their assets to go
My prayer to all Nigeria men suffering under their wives in various oyinbo country.

Angelfrost:


Please, y'all should stop demonizing taxes.

Even after taxes, a financially prudent person can still save enough to make him or her wealthy by Naira and Nigerian standards.


The reasons why you Africans despise and fear taxes (including African Americans) says a lot about why this continent is behind.

pseudonomer:


I don’t have issues with paying tax. I’m just saying there’s usually a big difference from gross pay to net pay.

ogelekpomgam:

But he will earn much closer.
The economy class difference is not much.thats the fact. That's why there is no bigmanism there.You no dey call anybody Oga or Sir.

uche87:
Nigerian Marriages always appear solid and formidable until the union gets a visa. The moment it passes through the UK Point of Entry, it starts to develop cracks until it takes more falls than the Naira under the current Tinubu administration. In this piece, I will be taking a dive into the common reasons why Nigerian marriages struggle on UK soil.

(1). Personal Vendetta:
Marriage as an institution in Nigeria is modeled around patriarchy - a system of male dominance. In this case, the man is the king while the woman is the queen. As you know, the king dominates the queen, and nothing he does is wrong in most cases (especially for the wealthy men). The woman could be forced to endure physical, verbal, psychological, financial abuse, and lots more. She stands to get mocked if her marriage crashes. This creates age-long bitterness and a cold war in the union. Women have a long memory and they hardly forgive. The moment the marriage transits to a society that gives women an upper hand against men, they come for their pound of flesh like Shylock. This destroys the foundation and subsequently brings it to an end.

(2). Level Playing field:
Marriage in Nigeria is a bit lopsided in terms of the professional profiles of the couples. In some cases, the husband might be a doctor while the wife might be selling beauty products or other petty items that cannot sustain her financially. The man steps in, and this gives him an undue edge in the marriage. In the UK where a hard-working bartender can match a nurse financially, and there is a level playing ground, power changes hands. The man who might be an alpha male loses that edge. This kind of equality - an unfamiliar territory for the man, if not well-managed might be the collapse of the marriage.

(3). Cultural Issues:
In the UK, the difference between a man and a woman might be that one menstruates and the other doesn't. In fact, people switch genders according to their moods. In simple terms, there is no duty/responsibility that is totally exclusive to a man or woman. Over here, men go to the market, clean, wash, cook, babysit, run errands, and also fund the home. Local champions who are used to being served like emperors by their wives might struggle to cope with the new environment and could feel short-changed.

(4). Busy Schedules:
It is no longer news that the cost of living in the UK is as high as a COVID-19 patient's temperature. In my previous articles, I have overemphasized how people inevitably work for long hours in order to cope with rising living expenses and financial demands from their families back home. This might affect bonding between young couples and reduce intimacy. Most times, when one party is ready for a "mid-section parley", the other might be unavailable due to conflicting shift patterns, not being in the mood due to mental or physical stress. This gradually takes a negative toll on the marriage.

(5). Women Are Powerful Abroad:
In the West, there are checks to prevent the domination of women by men. This has made women so powerful. In the event of a conflict, the odds are always against the men. The Spanish FA chief, Luis Rubiales learned the hard way for controversially kissing midfielder, Jennifer Hermoso at the recently concluded 2023 Women's World Cup. Also in February 2021, Yoshiro Mori - head of the Tokyo 2020 Olympic Games Organising Committee, was coerced into resigning after saying 'women talk too much in meetings'. Former Manchester United player, Mason Greenwood apparently ruined his career due to struggles with his partner. In marriage, some women mischievously abuse their powers. A colleague lost his marriage of 5 years after his wife reportedly abused him physically multiple times. A behaviour that was never evident in Nigeria according to him.

(6). Cheating:
A randy man who is obsessed with beautiful women would easily make mistakes in the UK. The UK exposes you to numerous women of different shapes, forms, and beauty. If you think you have seen it all, you need to see the Jamaican, Somalian, Pakistani, Iranian, curvy Kenyans, and some pretty Indian women. It is not just how they look alone but what they are wearing. Some of them might fancy you and might be willing to hand you the cookie on a platter of gold. There are also several single mothers who have nothing to lose. They are ready to 'share it' graciously like the Federal Government palliatives across their community. One person's husband might be hooked to the detriment of his marriage.

(7). Finances:
Another area of challenge in a UK home is money. In an informal survey I personally conducted, I realized it is the most common problem around. It is extremely difficult for a man to singlehandedly foot the household bills in the UK. Paying for everything is easily obtainable in Nigeria where the cost of living is lower. A woman who is used to the Nigerian system might be hoarding cash, and under-declaring her finances. This is done to force the man to fill the vacuum. This creates discontentment, and over time, frustration starts to hit the man. He might be tempted to seek solace outside the marriage to boost his mental health.

Osahon George Osayimwen is a Journalist and a Developmental Psychologist. He writes from the South Yorkshire region of England.

Unperturbedpota:
Hmmm

Only 1 reason.

Nigerian women are deceitful lying beings whom no one should ever trust

dealslip:

Be specific!!! When you say Nigerian women, then you have included your Mother, Sisters or Daughter if you have any. I am not insulting you, just following your line of reasoning.

Unperturbedpota:


All Nigerian women , except mi familia 😎they was raised right ...
Something I suspect you may know nothing about with your crude manners.

I didn't insult you oh....

🙄

dealslip:

Raised right - by whose standard!!! You that generalized that all Nigerian women are deceitful. You and crudeness are 5 and 6. Myopia is your middle name 😂😂😂