SSpeter:
For you to be a developer and pay 250k rent, then you must be getting paid badly, when I lived back then in Lagos a decent apartment on the mainland around Ikeja I was paying 750k far back. Saying you will stay in Nigeria and be working for a US firm is myopic, if you have the means of relocating.

I leave in a very affordable area for now. I prefer to leave here coz of their constant power supply. I can actually afford to leave anywhere I want. I just prefer to spend less on rent and focus on other projects

madridguy:
Oyinbo country self too get wahala.

You cannot discipline your wife as one can do in Nigeria... Your wife can wake up and call police for you and police will ask you to leave your home.

You cannot scold your kids, if you do so and the authority get to know, they will take away your kids and hand them over to a foster parent.

And this is the place some people are selling their assets to go

My prayer to all Nigeria men suffering under their wives in various oyinbo country.

Can you mention one or two ways of discipline you can give to a wife
Using Nigeria as a case as you mentioned

Because what you mean discipline can be another thing

This is what we are talking about. With time, you will change your job with better pay sef. I can't imagine what wealth you are gonna accrue in many years to come.
Just dey low key and you will continue enjoying your life in Naija.

I have a friend that used to go for vacation atleast once year from Naija. Neighbors, cowokers don't even know about it. Tell me how the guy will be a victim of kidnapping.

Sadly what most Nigerians are only good at oppressing the poor in society.

verybadmouth:

I no talk sey money no dey there oo. Bill sef no be small thing. As you dey collect, you dey spend. I'm a mobile app developer here in Nigeria and work for a US company remotely. Bro, it pays me here. My rent is just 250k yearly in Lagos. I have people that pay over 1 million monthly in London. They are crying

verybadmouth:

I leave in a very affordable area for now. I prefer to leave here coz of their constant power supply. I can actually afford to leave anywhere I want. I just prefer to spend less on rent and focus on other projects

When you begin to get better pay you will relocate don't worry.

Gokoyer0:
This is what we are talking about. With time, you will change your job with better pay sef. I can't imagine what wealth you are gonna accrue in many years to come.
Just dey low key and you will continue enjoying your life in Naija.

I have a friend that used to go for vacation atleast once year from Naija. Neighbors, cowokerd don't even know about it. Tell me how the guy will be a victim of kidnapping.

Someone told me I must be earning low to be paying that amount in rent. I laffed. Me Dat have plenty plans low key

madridguy:
Oyinbo country self too get wahala.

You cannot discipline your wife as one can do in Nigeria... Your wife can wake up and call police for you and police will ask you to leave your home.

You cannot scold your kids, if you do so and the authority get to know, they will take away your kids and hand them over to a foster parent.

And this is the place some people are selling their assets to go

My prayer to all Nigeria men suffering under their wives in various oyinbo country.

if u know u like controlling ur wife like a glorified housemaid u better not go to the US or UK.

Thank me later.

Bro, don't mind them. You are the type that will afford to pay school fees for your kids anywhere in the world when the time comes. Meanwhile most of their kidsib Youkay are stabbing themselves because the parents have to be on the streets working tirelessly. Many kids will never set foot on Nigerian soils any more. They are lost to western world.

You guys should understand that It's not every Nigerians that are obsessed with Japa. If you move abroad, you can't eat your cake and have it. If you stay in Nigeria, you can't also eat your cake and have it.

I will not reply Japa crusader because my phone is faulty now.

verybadmouth:

Someone told me I must be earning low to be paying that amount in rent. I laffed. Me Dat have plenty plans low key

I will go to the US or UK and I will still be controlling her as I want.

jaxxy:


if u know u like controlling ur wife like a glorified housemaid u better not go to the US or UK.

Thank me later.

madridguy:
I will go to the US or UK and I will still be controlling her as I want.

oyo is ur case. u want to be homeless? lol

Baba, immediately I have the plan to relocate abroad, the first thing I will so is to set up another family. Once the one we travel abroad start misbehaving, I will just quietly carry my bag, leave her with the children and continue my life with my second wife back home.

I will never accept any woman to lord over me as abroad women are use to be doing.

jaxxy:


oyo is ur case. u want to be homeless? lol

LionInZion:
Another UK topic. Hmnnnn

No tpic for Canada abi ..

Adeneeyee84:
Olosho plenty for UK here

Really?

madridguy:
Baba, immediately I have the plan to relocate abroad, the first thing I will so is to set up another family. Once the one we travel abroad start misbehaving, I will just quietly carry my bag, leave her with the children and continue my life with my second wife back home.

I will never accept any woman to lord over me as abroad women are use to be doing.

u don't have to control a woman like a glorified housemaid tho.

Adeneeyee84:
Olosho plenty for UK here

When you say olosho, you mean unmarried Nigerian girls 25 and above, making less than 20,000 pounds ?

I guess you're living in a western country. Well, in my own side, women must be subservant to her husband. I cannot stand a woman challenging my authority.

jaxxy:


u don't have to control a woman like a glorified housemaid tho.

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These are not limited to the UK. It’s applicable to developed countries that actually care about the worth of the female gender. Canada, USA, Russia, it’s everywhere.

It’s only in Africa, the world’s most underdeveloped or least developed continent that don’t respect women.

TemplarLandry:

i hate marriage

uche87:
Nigerian Marriages always appear solid and formidable until the union gets a visa. The moment it passes through the UK Point of Entry, it starts to develop cracks until it takes more falls than the Naira under the current Tinubu administration. In this piece, I will be taking a dive into the common reasons why Nigerian marriages struggle on UK soil.

(1). Personal Vendetta:
Marriage as an institution in Nigeria is modeled around patriarchy - a system of male dominance. In this case, the man is the king while the woman is the queen. As you know, the king dominates the queen, and nothing he does is wrong in most cases (especially for the wealthy men). The woman could be forced to endure physical, verbal, psychological, financial abuse, and lots more. She stands to get mocked if her marriage crashes. This creates age-long bitterness and a cold war in the union. Women have a long memory and they hardly forgive. The moment the marriage transits to a society that gives women an upper hand against men, they come for their pound of flesh like Shylock. This destroys the foundation and subsequently brings it to an end.

(2). Level Playing field:
Marriage in Nigeria is a bit lopsided in terms of the professional profiles of the couples. In some cases, the husband might be a doctor while the wife might be selling beauty products or other petty items that cannot sustain her financially. The man steps in, and this gives him an undue edge in the marriage. In the UK where a hard-working bartender can match a nurse financially, and there is a level playing ground, power changes hands. The man who might be an alpha male loses that edge. This kind of equality - an unfamiliar territory for the man, if not well-managed might be the collapse of the marriage.

(3). Cultural Issues:
In the UK, the difference between a man and a woman might be that one menstruates and the other doesn't. In fact, people switch genders according to their moods. In simple terms, there is no duty/responsibility that is totally exclusive to a man or woman. Over here, men go to the market, clean, wash, cook, babysit, run errands, and also fund the home. Local champions who are used to being served like emperors by their wives might struggle to cope with the new environment and could feel short-changed.

(4). Busy Schedules:
It is no longer news that the cost of living in the UK is as high as a COVID-19 patient's temperature. In my previous articles, I have overemphasized how people inevitably work for long hours in order to cope with rising living expenses and financial demands from their families back home. This might affect bonding between young couples and reduce intimacy. Most times, when one party is ready for a "mid-section parley", the other might be unavailable due to conflicting shift patterns, not being in the mood due to mental or physical stress. This gradually takes a negative toll on the marriage.

(5). Women Are Powerful Abroad:
In the West, there are checks to prevent the domination of women by men. This has made women so powerful. In the event of a conflict, the odds are always against the men. The Spanish FA chief, Luis Rubiales learned the hard way for controversially kissing midfielder, Jennifer Hermoso at the recently concluded 2023 Women's World Cup. Also in February 2021, Yoshiro Mori - head of the Tokyo 2020 Olympic Games Organising Committee, was coerced into resigning after saying 'women talk too much in meetings'. Former Manchester United player, Mason Greenwood apparently ruined his career due to struggles with his partner. In marriage, some women mischievously abuse their powers. A colleague lost his marriage of 5 years after his wife reportedly abused him physically multiple times. A behaviour that was never evident in Nigeria according to him.

(6). Cheating:
A randy man who is obsessed with beautiful women would easily make mistakes in the UK. The UK exposes you to numerous women of different shapes, forms, and beauty. If you think you have seen it all, you need to see the Jamaican, Somalian, Pakistani, Iranian, curvy Kenyans, and some pretty Indian women. It is not just how they look alone but what they are wearing. Some of them might fancy you and might be willing to hand you the cookie on a platter of gold. There are also several single mothers who have nothing to lose. They are ready to 'share it' graciously like the Federal Government palliatives across their community. One person's husband might be hooked to the detriment of his marriage.

(7). Finances:
Another area of challenge in a UK home is money. In an informal survey I personally conducted, I realized it is the most common problem around. It is extremely difficult for a man to singlehandedly foot the household bills in the UK. Paying for everything is easily obtainable in Nigeria where the cost of living is lower. A woman who is used to the Nigerian system might be hoarding cash, and under-declaring her finances. This is done to force the man to fill the vacuum. This creates discontentment, and over time, frustration starts to hit the man. He might be tempted to seek solace outside the marriage to boost his mental health.

Osahon George Osayimwen is a Journalist and a Developmental Psychologist. He writes from the South Yorkshire region of England.

Bini men would see nothing wrong in this. No challenges at all. They are used to women slaving for them.

By the way, watch your own mental health over there. I see you crumbling like an ovulating pussy soon by your write-up.

madridguy:
I guess you're living in a western country. Well, in my own side, women must be subservant to her husband. I cannot stand a woman challenging my authority.

a woman doesn't have to challenge ur authority if ur position is correct on the issue at hand unless she is stupid or ridiculous.

However if ur opinion is wrong she has every right to challenge ur authority if it will affect her or the family.

This is a misogynistic post disguised as journalism, and it's not surprising the writer will be a Nigerian man.

"Women are powerful", because a man forcefully kissed a woman on the mouth, on center stage, without invitation to do so? A lot of Nigerian men are little more than neanderthals and reason like absolute pillocks. You would prefer your wife, daughter or sister accepted such a kiss to prove your version of "equality"?

All this "article" does is whine about undue privileges and reeks of nonsense. "Women have a long memory and they hardly forgive." Really? From a journalist or a red pill mor_on writing through the supposed agony he feels for other men?

The "cheating" point goes further to prove that it is a retard-ed man who authored the so called article. That is the reasoning of backwards men. Men like this.

Now men no too dey marry, are you happy

Ofemini:
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specialmati:
marriage fails because of selfishness.

Nothing more

madridguy:
Oyinbo country self too get wahala.

You cannot discipline your wife as one can do in Nigeria... Your wife can wake up and call police for you and police will ask you to leave your home.

You cannot scold your kids, if you do so and the authority get to know, they will take away your kids and hand them over to a foster parent.

And this is the place some people are selling their assets to go

My prayer to all Nigeria men suffering under their wives in various oyinbo country.

Why should you be disciplining your wife? Is she a child? No healthy marriage entails a husband "disciplining" a wife.

madridguy:
Oyinbo country self too get wahala.

You cannot discipline your wife as one can do in Nigeria... Your wife can wake up and call police for you and police will ask you to leave your home.

You cannot scold your kids, if you do so and the authority get to know, they will take away your kids and hand them over to a foster parent.

And this is the place some people are selling their assets to go

My prayer to all Nigeria men suffering under their wives in various oyinbo country.

It's what they choose ... Many of them know this but just want to Japa to taste Wetin no really special...

Yugoslavia247:
I never go UK.

One thing I know is Nigeria no fit better pass UK. If not why UK citizens no dey write exams and fight and go to church just to come naija.

Abeg.

UK culture be like core northern Muslim culture to an Igbo man.

If an Igbo man can survive in sokoto despite their Islamic nature why not UK.

Omoh. Make u na know say all this na lies full am.

In Nigeria we have many reasons marriage is not working

Poverty poverty

Nobody dey hold anybody

SSpeter:
For you to be a developer and pay 250k rent, then you must be getting paid badly, when I lived back then in Lagos a decent apartment on the mainland around Ikeja I was paying 750k far back. Saying you will stay in Nigeria and be working for a US firm is myopic, if you have the means of relocating.

You simply can't conclude without knowing the full details. What if he decided to live in a cheap place in order to fast track his savings to buy his own place? What if there are family considerations in his choice to live where he lives?

What is "mid-section parley"?