It's really bad just pray for him. And take him to the closest barracks if he continue. We go help am calm him brain

How I wish I can give you a very good advice. This is a serious situation. Very sorry bro!

Kobojunkiee:
But why is your father still housing them when they obviously seek to chart their own path? Why doesn't your father instead kick them out so they can go find their independence on their own terms? Why do parents enable and feed what is an obvious nuisance?

Ironically, they are the ones kicking dad out in his house, sad😢

The consequences of taking drug is too harsh, it doesn't worth taking !

Mk him believe u r the only one supporting him then u can penetrate him.

U know the good corp bad corp thing

Why don't you people use him for Ogbuego aka Money medicine and have peace?


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henrimoto:
...The "Younger brother" the OP meant is the immediate sibling that followed the person the OP is complaining about. Then, the person the OP is complaining about is the OP's sibling.

Chai, this kain English tautology sef.. @mariahangel, I hope you understand the above statement.

You just have to salaye for some people before they can understand basic things😂

Not everyone can be saved tho

ghettochild:
Get him a Job

He's a drop out, what kind of job will that be and obviously, that one can't manage a business.

My 2 cents
Seems something happened to him. Something traumatic. Dats y he is saying his life doesn't have meaning. So he needs a counselor or professional therapist.
He can change. Next, does he go to church? Encourage him to go to church. A good church oo abeg. I no say make him go white garment.
All the best. Don't give up.

Kobojunkiee:
So long as he is 18 and determined to live according to his own way, my advice would be that you leave him be, let him carry his cross on his head until he gets tired of doing it all on his own. You cannot force someone who is determined to do things his way to do it instead of your way. And the worst thing you can do is enable him by giving him money and allowing him to stay in the house and rob everyone else of their peace of mind. He doesn't sleep in the house, good.

As a matter of fact, since he is so grown up and no longer willing to abide by the rules of the home, your mother should ask him to move out to his own place— of course, paid for with his own money too— where he can live by his own rules. Allow him breath and leave him to his fate.

Surprising that he hasn't been kicked out yet at 18. If he's old enough to do drugs, he's old enough to live alone.

BRATISLAVA:
■ Surprising that he hasn't been kicked out yet at 18. If he's old enough to do drugs, he's old enough to live alone.

It's not even the 18 but the if-you-are-old-enough-to-do-drugs for me. If he needs help, I can understand that but since his goal seems to be to make life miserable for everyone else, I wouldn't put up with that at all.

Take him to a cele church, buy new candles,perfume and different types of koboko for the Holy Shepherd, within 3 days, they will flog the nonsense of out his body and he will surely regain his full sanity.

You are right he is out of his senses.

Your brother lost his way and, the family failed him partly, and he is also responsible.

Your father's word reinforce his fate.
He still needs friends, which seems important to him, and he is losing both good and bad friends.

He must be frustrated with himself because almost harmed his parent.

He has lost purpose for living, drugs make it worse, he can escape reality, but its not going anywhere

adaperry25:
We've actually done our best and the way its going..we are left to our fate. I just wanted to share here to get an ideal opinion.

My younger bro has been a thorn in our flesh even before my dad died. My late dad kept complaining about him. Bad friends, taking drugs and living an immoral life. This continued and affected his academics and he dropped out from the university.

As we speak, his younger brother is in his final year and yet my brother remains a prodigal son. Early this year, he wanted to fight my mom and I was very angry and we had to lock him up in the police cell for some days. He came out and became calm. After a month, he went back to his old ways.

We warned off his friends to stay away from him. Right now..my mom is ashamed of him as parents have warned their kids to stay away from my brother.

He doesn't sleep in the house and we threatened to lock him up again and he said we can kill him that his life has no meaning.

I believe he's not with his right senses.

Need your candid opinions. I want to save him.

There is one guy in my area that acts like this....
By the time he went to rehab an came back his head correct....
Drug addict don't know they are addict...
Rehab can fix you brother before it gets out of hand

Emma09:
■ This is a clear issue of bad parenting. Ur brother wasn't brought up properly by ur parents. All the same, with prayers and maybe taking him to a good church for deliverance, he would change. Bad influence and peer pressure could also be a contributing factor to his misbehavior.

Not necessarily bad parenting since in the end, kids will do what they will do.

You forgot to give his age, try and find out what he likes doing passionately to make money and then try to draw him closer to yourself, if he likes smoking weed, give him money to buy it and always correct him with respect with time he will trace a responsible living standard ad a man...
Everything is not prayers and rehab...

Geovanni412:


Not an expert

I heard Mountain of Fire ministries runs one that is ok

If you are in Lagos, you can also check Pastor Tony Rapu's rehab center

I read a story of a lady who was in far worse condition that went there and has since become better
-https://www.google.com/amp/s/pmnewsnigeria.com/2019/06/15/drug-addiction-see-new-pictures-of-lizzy/%3famp=1

The money for Tony Rapu own plenty ooo. Those people he rehabilitated are actually advertisements. If you know the cost of treating drug addiction, you will run away from even smoking cigarette.

Leave him , trust me he’ll come back to his senses if you guys stop giving a damn about him… ignore him. You’ve tried your best , if not,..

It could work, It seems he needs someone friendly to talk sense to him. And the gradually to do something meaningful which will make him realize how useless the former way of life was.

That way his helplessness can be turned to more confidence

Vinex4uba:
You forgot to give his age, try and find out what he likes doing passionately to make money and then try to draw him closer to yourself, if he likes smoking weed, give him money to buy it and always correct him with respect with time he will trace a responsible living standard ad a man...
Everything is not prayers and rehab...

Appropriate care that is not fearful and consistent may be required, although an adult is complex. But I believe he needs a productive community or friends, and he needs help with sex addictions.

seanwilliam:
Leave him , trust me he’ll come back to his senses if you guys stop giving a damn about him… ignore him. You’ve tried your best , if not,..

adaperry25:
We've actually done our best and the way its going..we are left to our fate. I just wanted to share here to get an ideal opinion.

My younger bro has been a thorn in our flesh even before my dad died. My late dad kept complaining about him. Bad friends, taking drugs and living an immoral life. This continued and affected his academics and he dropped out from the university.

As we speak, his younger brother is in his final year and yet my brother remains a prodigal son. Early this year, he wanted to fight my mom and I was very angry and we had to lock him up in the police cell for some days. He came out and became calm. After a month, he went back to his old ways.

We warned off his friends to stay away from him. Right now..my mom is ashamed of him as parents have warned their kids to stay away from my brother.

He doesn't sleep in the house and we threatened to lock him up again and he said we can kill him that his life has no meaning.

I believe he's not with his right senses.

Need your candid opinions. I want to save him.

you cannot save who does not want to be saved but you can try for example if you believe in tradition you can make some sacrifices and rituals that can bring him back,I remember when I was growing up it was just like that until my people did some stuffs that reduced the misbehaviours to the barest minimum,but not all

Les:
Only Jesus can change him. I wish I would have an opportunity to just talk to Him about Jesus and make him experience the life-changing love of the son of God.....casting our cares upon him because he cares for us

Jesus Christ changes those who wish to be changed. Stop shoving Him at people who are not at all interested in what He has to offer.

There are drug rehab centers that do an effective job of rehabilitating drug users who are sincerely looking for an out from the habit.

2goodbobo:
As I speak to you my 2 Brothers are doing just the same thing your brother is doing. From taking drugs to stealing and selling my Father’s properties to dropping out from School. My mum is late and had BP because of them. I have done my best to change them but to no avail. I have decided to since leave them to their fate.

I intend to get a place for my dad where he can stay away from them. He is no longer enjoying his stay in the house he build because of them and I am tired of complain here and there. I pray they change for good.

It's obvious your parents pampered them into destruction. All these Americana "dont bully my child" mentality. You cant grow with me or my dad and end a son of perdition. You're supposed to have straightened their path from a very young age, now they're giving the family and the entire society sleepless nights.

adaperry25:
We've actually done our best and the way its going..we are left to our fate. I just wanted to share here to get an ideal opinion.

My younger bro has been a thorn in our flesh even before my dad died. My late dad kept complaining about him. Bad friends, taking drugs and living an immoral life. This continued and affected his academics and he dropped out from the university.

As we speak, his younger brother is in his final year and yet my brother remains a prodigal son. Early this year, he wanted to fight my mom and I was very angry and we had to lock him up in the police cell for some days. He came out and became calm. After a month, he went back to his old ways.

We warned off his friends to stay away from him. Right now..my mom is ashamed of him as parents have warned their kids to stay away from my brother.

He doesn't sleep in the house and we threatened to lock him up again and he said we can kill him that his life has no meaning.

I believe he's not with his right senses.

Need your candid opinions. I want to save him.

Just let him be, you can only take a horse to the stream, you can't force her to drink water. He has chosen his path

kingthreat:


The money for Tony Rapu own plenty ooo. Those people he rehabilitated are actually advertisements. If you know the cost of treating drug addiction, you will run away from even smoking cigarette.

Chai, I wish op's brother well

But I still think he should reach out to them even if he has no money

He has nothing to lose at this point...

If it’s possible to change his environment please do..His present environment and friends he’s associating with is causing more harm than good.

2goodbobo:
As I speak to you my 2 Brothers are doing just the same thing your brother is doing. From taking drugs to stealing and selling my Father’s properties to dropping out from School. My mum is late and had BP because of them. I have done my best to change them but to no avail. I have decided to since leave them to their fate.

I intend to get a place for my dad where he can stay away from them. He is no longer enjoying his stay in the house he build because of them and I am tired of complain here and there. I pray they change for good.

The issue is that this thing doesn't just start of a sudden. Children always require adequate and proper attention from the early stage so that the parents can have rest in their old days.

adaperry25:
We've actually done our best and the way its going..we are left to our fate. I just wanted to share here to get an ideal opinion.

My younger bro has been a thorn in our flesh even before my dad died. My late dad kept complaining about him. Bad friends, taking drugs and living an immoral life. This continued and affected his academics and he dropped out from the university.

As we speak, his younger brother is in his final year and yet my brother remains a prodigal son. Early this year, he wanted to fight my mom and I was very angry and we had to lock him up in the police cell for some days. He came out and became calm. After a month, he went back to his old ways.

We warned off his friends to stay away from him. Right now..my mom is ashamed of him as parents have warned their kids to stay away from my brother.

He doesn't sleep in the house and we threatened to lock him up again and he said we can kill him that his life has no meaning.

I believe he's not with his right senses.

Need your candid opinions. I want to save him.

I hope say dem no swear for am?

Bro my kindly advise is for you people to check if de problem is not spiritual den take drastic action physically action like fight den seek God intervention

Jatosolo23:
Bro my kindly advise is for you people to check if de problem is not spiritual den take drastic action physically action like fight den seek God intervention

There is nothing spiritual about addiction. Stop using the mentions of God to cover ignorance.