olisaEze:
Dem no grind beans my guy say moi-moi don dey smell, what a mess!

You never marry before, you dey argue symbolism of gifts with your elders, how wise of you! If that is how you intend to argue every step of the way to the altar, just rest now till you're matured enough!

You have spoken wisely

SeriouslySense:
He has to reduce his pride, since its his wife mother. He should treat elderly people with kindness and respect, its good for their health.

Do you think this kind of person will respect his wife?

You say gifts are symbolic but you don't know that the giver of a gift is more important than the gift itself. The heart or intention of giving is more important. You rejecting the gift shows that you'll be a bad son-in-law.... and beside what made you visit your inlaws for the first time without their daughter there with you....all signs of ova sabi

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

Low IQ

You are a one way thinker, I’m so sorry to use those words but let’s call a spade a spade. Bro, you should be happy you were welcomed and even honored enough to be offered some loafs. The mom that gave you bread did you know her purse? Even at that, they didn’t give you those breads to eat on ur way, u were given so you could gift the little lads around ur place as a gift from ur trip, since bread was the gift our parents assumed best when journeying home those years, and people at home accept it with love and joy.

If this is the same orientation you want to keep pls don’t get marry oooo…. Cuz u could end up expecting ur wife to give u heavens because u built her a house, while women ways are just naturally different, far beyond ur imagination.

LadyRosa2:



Me tire fir the Mumu.
Him say short bread and juice, like say na luxury him give the old folks.

Short bread wey my baby dey scatter for ground, then ants go finish the rest

Baba no get money him still dey do big man. Biscuit and juice are given to kids not adult.

You did wrong.

Those days especially amongst our older folks it was common for a traveler to bring bread. In fact when you travel those days you were expected to buy the bread of the place you visited or the bread they sell on the way to your destination back home.

So it is not or was not improper for them to have bought you bread.

On top of that it was indecent for you to have rejected the gift. Are you sure you love this girl?

MyAmericandream:


Baba no get money him still dey do big man.

Na even short cake him buy.
Very poor,immature, over bearing man!

Truly,say hair full yansh no mean say person mature.

PuZZyNegro:


It's not about it being local or little. The Bread was gotten from Market Square super market. I just find it awkward giving bread to your son-in-law to be on the first meeting.

Gifts are symbolic you know.

Let me break it down for you... As you no carry bread go, na so Dem give you the one wey dey house. Next time buy bread and not biscuits

No shame at all.

First time visit to your future in-laws and you gave them biscuits and juice?

They welcomed you, generously giving you food to feed your stomach. They gave you bread to take home and share with your people. You rejected it.

1. Your shortcake and juice showed you as a stingy husband to be.
2. Your shortcake showed you as a hungry man.
3. The lady was very correct.
4. You brought your very personal matter and failure to the social media.
5. Maybe you want to be a social media husband.
6. To you bread was the wrongest gift. Your holier than thou attitude did not let you know that shortcake and juice on the first day was the wrongest ever gift. Did you think you were going to visit school friends?
7. Na people like you dey buy okrika clothes give woman as first gift.

You never ready to marry wife.

LadyRosa2:


Na even short cake him buy.
Very poor,immature, over bearing man!

Truly,say hair full yansh no mean say person mature.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

When a toddler decides to get married.. This is what happens

You are just ill-mannered! Simple!!

I have collected gift severally and discarded it for numerous reasons,if the gift didn't sit well with you,you shld have done same

PuZZyNegro:



Gifts are symbolic you know.

Yaaanyanyaaaaanyan ...gifts are symbolic ... So when you offered your own gifts, your own gifts are not symbolic right? Symbolic to what if I may ask?

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

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Actually, I didn't find the gift (loaf of bread) given to you funny, but the rubbish you packed from the whole of Lagos to P/H. Short cake buscuits? You no see correct assorted wines or stock fish and likes? Probably you didn't inform your parents b4 you left, they would have advised you better on what to take along with you.

Bread,coconut, bisbuits etc. Africans?

Let's set it straight what you did was rude and dismissive to your future in law for that matter. Try to find a way to apologize before the matter get's out of hand. But come to think of it put yourself in there shoes and see how it feels.

You shouldn't have rejected it because in my own Land it shows that they accepted you with all their heart . They expected you to go with that bread as a gift that you will give to your family . Bro you rejected a precious gift that would have shown you those in support and those that doesn't support you from marrying the girl .And in case of next time don't ever try to reject any gift from your in law to be nor matter how awkward it looks to your eyes. Next you visit them try to apologize to them ironically, Unless you don't want to marry the girl again.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

Biscuits Kwa?!
Which tribe are you?

FalseProphet1:
That marriage will not hold.

This I have seen.

😂 😂 😂 😂

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

You are very wrong

Mindlog:


It is not about Africa, even here in Europe a mere visiting a neighbour for the first time, many go with a bottle of wine.

Western world when nor send ppl......Nice, good to know anyway.....but if the guy didn't bring any gift, would it be bad?......how do u think the prospective in-law wud take it?

PuZZyNegro:


I accept I would have collected it. My friend told me that but I needed a broader opinion

No need of any broader opinion... Needing a broader opinion still shows that you are still trying to justify yourself that what you did is right..

You seems to be a man of low intelligence dats one of de major disadvantages of rearing someone like u as a goat in de city.
You have not even gotten married u are dragging over simple issue dat u would have used ur head.
It was very wrong to reject the gift of bread from ur mother in law to be.
No matter how de eat bread on daily basis ur own bread as a gift would have been more respected.
You even have de gods to criticize de bread u cud not afford as de least gift from ur inlaw to be.
What is biscuits and juice? instead of good wine of 5k at least.
You better go and remedy de situation because ur wife to be will confide with her closest siblings about ur nasty comment towards their mother"s gift to you.
You will be seen as a bad choice. some of us have been in dis marriage for almost 15years.
Is better u offend ur parents dan ur inlaws...

Kajaard:
You did not apply emotional intelligence at all.

Yes, you should have collected the bread.

Most African parents/ In laws et al might think you are disrespectful by rejecting their gift.

This is not the western world. You should have collected the bread no matter how local or little it looks. Cheers.

Collect the bread and throw away on your way home. Period..

You are not ready for marriage into that family or into any other family for that matter!
You were given the gift of bread which symbolizes fruitfulness, success and wealth but you 'commonized' the gift. Please go to your village and marry.

PuZZyNegro:


It's not about it being local or little. The Bread was gotten from Market Square super market. I just find it awkward giving bread to your son-in-law to be on the first meeting.

Gifts are symbolic you know.

A gift is a gift. No matter how small it is or what kind of item you're given. You could have just appreciated it even though you don't need it. First impression matters a lot Bro.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

it's a sign that dey don't appreciate your busicut, u self...... How can u go to an African inlaw with busicut...... Where is yam, fish, fruits......... Busicut to inlaw is an insult

Op!

Go and beg them please!

Naa!

Even if na 1 cup of garri dem dash you na love and acceptance.

To show say dem accept you na why dem gift you. As you come reject their gift na to reject you unless you beg!