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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by jaxxy(m): 10:40pm On Nov 27, 2023
BRATISLAVA:


It's the most unnatural process.

do u know female animals give birth? Its only humans thst complain about it and then try to complicate and glamorise it.

it is totally natural, there are women who do surrogacy for money. 18 year old girl don't make a these issues when they give birth..

I think complication are more likely when women give birth at older ages or go to quack doctors.

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by JimD(m): 10:42pm On Nov 27, 2023
Giving birth is a joy of a woman, whether she does it naturally or through CS. She's not doing it for you. Although you must appreciate the sacrifice of carrying a baby for 9 months and delivering. But the joy of it is she's called mummy ****. Your family, her friends, you congratulate her and respect her more. It's an accomplishment every sane woman wants and longs for. It's not a personal sacrifice to you. Your topic is off-context.

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by gare2510(m): 10:43pm On Nov 27, 2023
BRATISLAVA:


Are they not compensated for the risk adequately? What is the compensation for this risk? Since a job is the same as birthing.

Unfortunately the monetary compensation cannot restore your health from radioactivity, carcinogenic chemicals, it is hard to see a rig worker of 15yrs that has not witnessed a death onsite the truma is everlasting.
Finally both parties in a relationship are important and there should be mutual respect and appreciation.

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by mariahAngel(f): 10:46pm On Nov 27, 2023
ZIMDRILL:


their is nothing called SACRIFICE on things that you are meant to be doing, giving birth is not a sacrifice it nature their is no two ways about it if you want a
child

You are a very wicked human being if you can type that trash after reading the post.
Very wicked!

*Spits! 😪

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by id4sho(m): 10:46pm On Nov 27, 2023
Rich4god:
Am lending my voice to this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7922406/wife-why-life-women-complicated#127165126

A couple of days back, my wife put to bed using CS. Initially we had a baby before, I a know how complicated and painful the pregnancy and childbirth was.

Now I was in the theatre during the CS and I saw first hand how someone's abdomen was sliced open and the baby pulled out. I also saw how doctors were putting their hands into someone's abdomen and how they finally stitched her up. It wasn't an easy sight to behold. Right now, she's recovering, but the pain she's passing through is much.

To me, this is the highest form of sacrifice that someone can give for the family.

So to the men and husband out there..... before you ask your wife to be "what she is bringing to table", kindly think about the sacrifice they make in bringing your children to the world.
Rest Abeg, emotional black mail

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by Timtellect: 10:46pm On Nov 27, 2023
Rich4god:
Am lending my voice to this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7922406/wife-why-life-women-complicated#127165126

A couple of days back, my wife put to bed using CS. Initially we had a baby before, I a know how complicated and painful the pregnancy and childbirth was.

Now I was in the theatre during the CS and I saw first hand how someone's abdomen was sliced open and the baby pulled out. I also saw how doctors were putting their hands into someone's abdomen and how they finally stitched her up. It wasn't an easy sight to behold. Right now, she's recovering, but the pain she's passing through is much.

To me, this is the highest form of sacrifice that someone can give for the family.

So to the men and husband out there..... before you ask your wife to be "what she is bringing to table", kindly think about the sacrifice they make in bringing your children to the world.



OP .... It's not put to BED but put to BIRTH
Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by femi4: 10:46pm On Nov 27, 2023
Rich4god:
Am lending my voice to this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7922406/wife-why-life-women-complicated#127165126

A couple of days back, my wife put to bed using CS. Initially we had a baby before, I a know how complicated and painful the pregnancy and childbirth was.

Now I was in the theatre during the CS and I saw first hand how someone's abdomen was sliced open and the baby pulled out. I also saw how doctors were putting their hands into someone's abdomen and how they finally stitched her up. It wasn't an easy sight to behold. Right now, she's recovering, but the pain she's passing through is much.

To me, this is the highest form of sacrifice that someone can give for the family.

So to the men and husband out there..... before you ask your wife to be "what she is bringing to table", kindly think about the sacrifice they make in bringing your children to the world.
Nonsense

So men that put the seed there doesn't deserve to be praised

The pregnancy didn't get there by Bluetooth

We should stop putting women into a box of kitchen or other room material

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by id4sho(m): 10:46pm On Nov 27, 2023
mariahAngel:


You are a very wicked human being if you can type that trash after reading the post.

*Spits! 😪
Emotional black mail

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by JimD(m): 10:47pm On Nov 27, 2023
Op just change your topic to a more suitable one. And congratulations!
Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by id4sho(m): 10:48pm On Nov 27, 2023
JimD:
Giving birth is a joy of a woman, whether she does it naturally or through CS. She's not doing it for you. Although you must appreciate the sacrifice of carrying a baby for 9 months and delivering. But the joy of it is she's called mummy ****. Your family, her friends, you congratulate her and respect her more. It's an accomplishment every sane woman wants and longs for. It's not a personal sacrifice to you. Your topic is off-context.
Forget am, toto water don enter him brain

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by tctrills: 10:49pm On Nov 27, 2023
Rich4god:
Am lending my voice to this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7922406/wife-why-life-women-complicated#127165126

A couple of days back, my wife put to bed using CS. Initially we had a baby before, I a know how complicated and painful the pregnancy and childbirth was.

Now I was in the theatre during the CS and I saw first hand how someone's abdomen was sliced open and the baby pulled out. I also saw how doctors were putting their hands into someone's abdomen and how they finally stitched her up. It wasn't an easy sight to behold. Right now, she's recovering, but the pain she's passing through is much.

To me, this is the highest form of sacrifice that someone can give for the family.

So to the men and husband out there..... before you ask your wife to be "what she is bringing to table", kindly think about the sacrifice they make in bringing your children to the world.
If you are ok with a woman who's only contribution to you is to give birth to your babies, good for you. Some of us want and expect more from our woman. Hope you know that even a mad woman in the village market is capable of giving birth.
I would go for a woman who is wise, a good mother, hard working, creative, kind and virtuous and not just someone who can give birth.

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by BRATISLAVA: 10:49pm On Nov 27, 2023
gare2510:


Unfortunately the monetary compensation cannot restore your health from radioactivity, carcinogenic chemicals, it is hard to see a rig worker of 15yrs that has not witnessed a death onsite the truma is everlasting.
Finally both parties in a relationship are important and there should be mutual respect and appreciation.

The compensation is not enough, but everything comes with risks and prices to be paid. Always interested to see people desirous to work on rigs. Not sure they would like the full measure of what they're getting into. But then, money talks.

Your last line sums up the matter.

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by DDIA: 10:49pm On Nov 27, 2023
Rich4god:
Am lending my voice to this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7922406/wife-why-life-women-complicated#127165126

A couple of days back, my wife put to bed using CS. Initially we had a baby before, I a know how complicated and painful the pregnancy and childbirth was.

Now I was in the theatre during the CS and I saw first hand how someone's abdomen was sliced open and the baby pulled out. I also saw how doctors were putting their hands into someone's abdomen and how they finally stitched her up. It wasn't an easy sight to behold. Right now, she's recovering, but the pain she's passing through is much.

To me, this is the highest form of sacrifice that someone can give for the family.

So to the men and husband out there..... before you ask your wife to be "what she is bringing to table", kindly think about the sacrifice they make in bringing your children to the world.
Don't try to justify your SIMP-licity .

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by id4sho(m): 10:51pm On Nov 27, 2023
jaxxy:


do u know female animals give birth? Its only humans thst complain about it and then try to complicate and glamorise it.

it is totally natural, there are women who do surrogacy for money. 18 year old girl don't make a these issues when they give birth..

I think complication are more likely when women give birth at older ages or go to quack doctors.

Forget them, emotional black mail. It's better to be blunt about it

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by BRATISLAVA: 10:51pm On Nov 27, 2023
jaxxy:


do u know female animals give birth? Its only humans thst complain about it and then try to complicate and glamorise it.

it is totally natural, there are women who do surrogacy for money. 18 year old girl don't make a these issues when they give birth..

I think complication are more likely when women give birth at older ages or go to quack doctors.

Do you have a vagina you used to give birth to conclude that they are complaining? And have you watched an animal give birth, since women are comparable to animals the same way men are to beasts and apes?

You are using people who are paid and desperate to be paid to give birth, at any cost, as comparison for someone in a. . .

You know what? You are right. Quite right about this. You may repeat this for your wife. She will appreciate your post.

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by Lexusgs430: 10:52pm On Nov 27, 2023
Rich4god:
Am lending my voice to this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7922406/wife-why-life-women-complicated#127165126

A couple of days back, my wife put to bed using CS. Initially we had a baby before, I a know how complicated and painful the pregnancy and childbirth was.

Now I was in the theatre during the CS and I saw first hand how someone's abdomen was sliced open and the baby pulled out. I also saw how doctors were putting their hands into someone's abdomen and how they finally stitched her up. It wasn't an easy sight to behold. Right now, she's recovering, but the pain she's passing through is much.

To me, this is the highest form of sacrifice that someone can give for the family.

So to the men and husband out there..... before you ask your wife to be "what she is bringing to table", kindly think about the sacrifice they make in bringing your children to the world.

If you call them ''YOUR'' children....... During divorce/separation process, why do majority of them want to keep "YOUR" children.......🤣😁

It's joint responsibility, left hand washes the right and vice versa......🤔
Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by mariahAngel(f): 10:55pm On Nov 27, 2023
Fahvvy:
If you think a woman giving birth is "sacrifice", then I believe there must be a new meaning to the word "sacrifice" undecided...

I am not trying to downplay the severities surrounding pregnancy, however, it's no news that women are biologically wired to give birth undecided...

So a woman giving birth is just her fulfilling her biological role, nothing much undecided...

With men like you that are abound in this generation, ladies need to be very very careful in choosing their life partners so that they don't enter one chance. undecided

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by mariahAngel(f): 10:59pm On Nov 27, 2023
RingRoadCartel:
OP have you ever been to an oil rig make you see how men dey risk their lives DAILY to put food on the table.

What are the number of men that work in an oil rig compared to the number of women that give birth daily, and some don't even make it out alive?
Na every man dey work for oil rig? 🙄

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by hedonido: 11:00pm On Nov 27, 2023
Don't be a fucking simp. Mad women and poor ghetto/rural dwelling women give birth every day, by themselves even, without the need for a midwife, let alone doctor. Some even give birth and quickly toss the baby into the gutter, and eagerly carry on with their day like nothing happened. Besides, surrogate mothers are numerous who are eager to help you carry and birth a baby for a token fee.

Focus on what's important, man. What a 'good' woman brings to the so-called table is way way beyond these ordinary physical inconveniences that are only natural and inevitable. To live is to experience pain. Men go through a lot worse, physically and mentally. What a 'good' woman brings to the table is essentially the peace of mind, respect, devotion, and complementary home-maker role, while you as the man must hustle to provide - at all costs. That's key. Don't allow quasi feminist gremlins deceive you into beta-ness due to some banal biological bullshit.

I have nothing else to explain to simps who give these manipulative women ammunition and encourage them to feel over entitled because of their bare minimum 'exertion'.

Bleep simps.

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by thomasjoe(m): 11:01pm On Nov 27, 2023
Rich4god:
Am lending my voice to this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7922406/wife-why-life-women-complicated#127165126

A couple of days back, my wife put to bed using CS. Initially we had a baby before, I a know how complicated and painful the pregnancy and childbirth was.

Now I was in the theatre during the CS and I saw first hand how someone's abdomen was sliced open and the baby pulled out. I also saw how doctors were putting their hands into someone's abdomen and how they finally stitched her up. It wasn't an easy sight to behold. Right now, she's recovering, but the pain she's passing through is much.

To me, this is the highest form of sacrifice that someone can give for the family.

So to the men and husband out there..... before you ask your wife to be "what she is bringing to table", kindly think about the sacrifice they make in bringing your children to the world.

If this is your response or defence to "what's been brought to the table" then TRULY You truly don't have anything to bring to the table
.... beyond what you just posted.
Why ?
Because most times these type of questions are asked because one of the partners is already a leech and is now being woken up to the fact of their nuisance value which may be far smaller than their EGO has been deceiving them to think and act like
... It's not at the level of childbirth or other important future milestones that this type of questions are asked - by then it's already clear what's going on.

*If all you have to bring to the table is toto or toto related issues, then pls you should know what to do already*
...
Most Real Men go for Real Women beyond the sex and vice versa!

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by RingRoadCartel: 11:01pm On Nov 27, 2023
mariahAngel:


What are the numbers of men that work in an oil rig compared to the numbers of women that give birth daily, and some don't even make it out alive?
Na every man dey work for oil rig? 🙄

Na every woman dey born pikin?
Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by intruder15(m): 11:04pm On Nov 27, 2023
Rich4god:
Am lending my voice to this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7922406/wife-why-life-women-complicated#127165126

A couple of days back, my wife put to bed using CS. Initially we had a baby before, I a know how complicated and painful the pregnancy and childbirth was.

Now I was in the theatre during the CS and I saw first hand how someone's abdomen was sliced open and the baby pulled out. I also saw how doctors were putting their hands into someone's abdomen and how they finally stitched her up. It wasn't an easy sight to behold. Right now, she's recovering, but the pain she's passing through is much.

To me, this is the highest form of sacrifice that someone can give for the family.

So to the men and husband out there..... before you ask your wife to be "what she is bringing to table", kindly think about the sacrifice they make in bringing your children to the world.

At least your wife brought child birth to the table. What of married women that don't intend to have a child?

That question comes to play when the other party is having high or unrealistic expectation from the man.

Woman whe no de stress you, you no go think about table and chair. grin grin grin
Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by PoliteActivist: 11:07pm On Nov 27, 2023
Wisegeek01:
The phrase what are you brining to the table .. ha grossly been misunderstood, some men that even ask the question don't even know why they are asking the question, while on the other hand some women fly into a fit of rage or keep dodging the question, why they are angry they don't even know, its just a psychological impulse,

first of all it is not mandatory for the lady to actually bring finance into the mix but it helps so that should not be the centre of the question, so the men asking and referring to finance really shouldn't do that, focus on what she is supposed to bring

.. its not her job to bring finance, so if you are referring to that you are asking the wrong contextual question, a lady actually has what she should bring to the table, but sadly not a lot of ladies have taken their time to sit down and think about the question, because the are always offended or defensive, its just a simple question, that you need to understand, its not you mdfkn job to bring finance, that is what the man should bring to the table,

what the lady brings to the table is .. ranges from
great values
Emotional Intelligence
Attention to Detail
Organizational Skills
Nurture and Care
Empathy and Compassion
Collaborative Spirit
Multitasking Abilities
Intuition
Social Skills
Diplomacy

when you list these features and tell the man you posses these traits
now it s your turn to ask him
what does he bring to the table
...
he should have most of these below
finance
protection
security
Leadership
Decision-Making Skills
Stability
Emotional Support
Problem-Solving Abilities
Initiative
Adaptability
Sense of Humor
Integrity
Shared Responsibilities

marriage or relationship is team effort, not competition
the next time i hear that question in the wrong context i fit flog person cool grin

This context only exists in your head.
When NL men and these men of today ask that question, they mean: HOW WILL YOU HELP WITH THE BILLS?!!!

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by Sirianese: 11:07pm On Nov 27, 2023
Rich4god:
Am lending my voice to this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7922406/wife-why-life-women-complicated#127165126

A couple of days back, my wife put to bed using CS. Initially we had a baby before, I a know how complicated and painful the pregnancy and childbirth was.

Now I was in the theatre during the CS and I saw first hand how someone's abdomen was sliced open and the baby pulled out. I also saw how doctors were putting their hands into someone's abdomen and how they finally stitched her up. It wasn't an easy sight to behold. Right now, she's recovering, but the pain she's passing through is much.

To me, this is the highest form of sacrifice that someone can give for the family.

So to the men and husband out there..... before you ask your wife to be "what she is bringing to table", kindly think about the sacrifice they make in bringing your children to the world.

She brings her pussy and her womb.

It's not easy to carry a foetus for nine fúcking months
Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by jaxxy(m): 11:08pm On Nov 27, 2023
BRATISLAVA:


Do you have a vagina you used to give birth to conclude that they are complaining? And have you watched an animal give birth, since women are comparable to animals the same way men are to beasts and apes?

You are using people who are paid and desperate to be paid to give birth, at any cost, as comparison for someone in a. . .

You know what? You are right. Quite right about this. You may repeat this for your wife. She will appreciate your post.

Obviously I appreciate the effort of giving birth but saying that all a woman needs to bring to the table is ridiculous.

I will not repeat such to her because she definitely has more to offer that pushing out babies.

Check out the women who use this child birth as an excuse they hold u hostage with guilt over a natural God given ability. I know women who push baby like its nothing and then some have it more difficult.

it depends on the body and hormones bt it's definitely no excuse to run the man down to the ground with liabilities.
Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by mariahAngel(f): 11:08pm On Nov 27, 2023
RingRoadCartel:


Na every woman dey born pikin?

Compared to the number of men that work in oil rigs, yes.

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by loswhite(m): 11:09pm On Nov 27, 2023
JimD:
Giving birth is a joy of a woman, whether she does it naturally or through CS. She's not doing it for you. Although you must appreciate the sacrifice of carrying a baby for 9 months and delivering. But the joy of it is she's called mummy ****. Your family, her friends, you congratulate her and respect her more. It's an accomplishment every sane woman wants and longs for. It's not a personal sacrifice to you. Your topic is off-context.
Lol the kolo think say na sacrifice for am.....This simp come add madness join...lol
Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by ugodson(m): 11:10pm On Nov 27, 2023
Rich4god:
Am lending my voice to this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7922406/wife-why-life-women-complicated#127165126

A couple of days back, my wife put to bed using CS. Initially we had a baby before, I a know how complicated and painful the pregnancy and childbirth was.

Now I was in the theatre during the CS and I saw first hand how someone's abdomen was sliced open and the baby pulled out. I also saw how doctors were putting their hands into someone's abdomen and how they finally stitched her up. It wasn't an easy sight to behold. Right now, she's recovering, but the pain she's passing through is much.

To me, this is the highest form of sacrifice that someone can give for the family.

So to the men and husband out there..... before you ask your wife to be "what she is bringing to table", kindly think about the sacrifice they make in bringing your children to the world.

The baby is not only my child, they are OUR CHILDREN, they want the kids as bad as we want them
Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by PoliteActivist: 11:12pm On Nov 27, 2023
Sirianese:


She brings her pussy and her womb.

It's not easy to carry a foetus for nine fúcking months

Gbam! Then we have to breastfeed, deal with post Partum, body dismorphia, etc.
But even women who can't have children still bring a lot to the table!

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by loswhite(m): 11:13pm On Nov 27, 2023
mariahAngel:


What are the number of men that work in an oil rig compared to the number of women that give birth daily, and some don't even make it out alive?
Na every man dey work for oil rig? 🙄
Same with men when thrusting...lol. Have you not heard the man died in active service?

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Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by PoliteActivist: 11:14pm On Nov 27, 2023
ugodson:


The baby is not only my child, they are OUR CHILDREN, they want the kids as bad as we want them

Not in Nigeria.. Ok, will you be willing to let them bear her name??
Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by RingRoadCartel: 11:14pm On Nov 27, 2023
mariahAngel:


Compared to the number of men that work in oil rigs, yes.

Oil rigging are not the only life threatening jobs men do, there are thousands of them.

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