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Re: Why Do People Improve Themselves After A Divorce But Not During The Marriage? by MNDY(m): 7:40am On Nov 17, 2021
Beze992:


And you think yours measures up?.........Let me leave you to your delusions

Your gender na pikin brain/sense una get.
Re: Why Do People Improve Themselves After A Divorce But Not During The Marriage? by MNDY(m): 7:51am On Nov 17, 2021
Beze992:


Oh no! I'm not asking about the entire male race, it's just you in particular. Are your reasoning logical or emotional, or does it even measure up? Don't bother answering, I already have my answer up there from your generalization. The truth is that it's really not a gender thing, there's still some men out there that their sense of reasoning will have you shaking your head, same applies to women.......... Word of advice, underestimate most women at your own peril and honestly you still have major work to do before you start having this sense of superiority.................... Enjoy the rest of your day.

Take it or leave it, your gender naturally has the brain/sense of a child. Underestimate your gender at my own peril on what exactly? Because they are more wicked and harmful you mean? It is only those who don't understand how to handle women that fall victim of women's childlike manipulations, tantrums, mischief and hurtful actions that they call wickedness
Re: Why Do People Improve Themselves After A Divorce But Not During The Marriage? by TuFab(f): 9:50am On Nov 18, 2021
Astrid4:



Stop all this emotional bullshits
How on hell will you validate someone's story without knowing the person...do you know the man?, The kind of jobs he does he might be a banker for fvck sake and do you think it is easy to make money legitly go and ask your dad he will explain better or perhaps when you start making you will understand.
This man did the primary duty of a REAL MAN and that is financial security and he was able to provide for a liability who couldn't keep 4 month job and for fvck sake even a maid you pay 25k a month will do a better job without grumbling...have this woman ever appreciated her husband... Do you think it easy to be a head of a family ( the smallest unit of the society) where I get blamed for the silliest sh!t or is it because men don't talk too...Go home and ask your dad he will explain better to you.

And how in hell will you invalidate someone's story too without knowing the person?
He's making money, and so
So many women juggle that same job coupled with pregnancy and other demestic stress.
Or are there no women in his place of work?
My point is that the woman has her reasons for speaking out, so don't try to suppress her voice and feelings, rather go look for her husband who is your fellow monster and listen to his own side of the story.
Re: Why Do People Improve Themselves After A Divorce But Not During The Marriage? by MrCork: 12:07am On Dec 03, 2023
mysticgal:


As a matter of fact there are different and several proofs that people and women over fifty that are single are living more enjoyable and sustainable life without regrets.

Please come off this whole ancient mentality that women need men to survive or else the would be unhappy. Yes humans are insatiable but people, women are coming around living a life they dream of.

Who wants a marriage that sucks life out of you anyway?

how much is it for please?
Re: Why Do People Improve Themselves After A Divorce But Not During The Marriage? by Exceed15: 5:17pm On Dec 03, 2023
holocron:
I put it to you that this is a tissue of lies and fabrication. OP sounds like an ingrate. You are serving/working for your family and instead of appreciating the results of your good works, you are grumbling, complaining and whining. Your husband struggles to do his part in upkeeping the family, you do not appreciate his role but you complain of your own role. You purposely abandoned your family and children for a fake independence and shallow ambitions and now you are regretting. You lost your cherished family for phantom degrees, career and independence. What shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and then lose his soul?

God bless you bro.
Re: Why Do People Improve Themselves After A Divorce But Not During The Marriage? by Exceed15: 5:19pm On Dec 03, 2023



Exactly my thought. You could have waited for the kids to advance more before getting back to your career. You must have nagged this man to the extreme for him to take such action. Probably you allowed bad advisers to deceive you out of your marriage.

I am in the same situation now; taking care of my children and giving my husband time to stand well here, but I am just taking my cool, even when my friends are working and grabbing there dollars daily, I am not moved because at the appointed time, everything will fall into places.

See a wise woman. God bless your marriage.
Re: Why Do People Improve Themselves After A Divorce But Not During The Marriage? by Exceed15: 5:24pm On Dec 03, 2023
I read through and I did not see a woman who appreciated her husband for his efforts in providing for the family. If he didn't provide how do you run the house affairs. Its about complimenting not competition. I m not happy you downside his input while you hype your own sacrifices. I pray for him too that finds peace and a woman that appreciate her.
Re: Why Do People Improve Themselves After A Divorce But Not During The Marriage? by Exceed15: 5:37pm On Dec 03, 2023
Unclebee009:
5kids kilode both of you like tembeh ooo… cheesy

Too many children is a burden of you are not financially stable.
Re: Why Do People Improve Themselves After A Divorce But Not During The Marriage? by Exceed15: 5:39pm On Dec 03, 2023
FutureIsFemale:
Men don't appreciate. I'm glad you left.

Women forget too. I m glad the man ditched her.
Re: Why Do People Improve Themselves After A Divorce But Not During The Marriage? by mysticgal(f): 8:27pm On Dec 03, 2023
MrCork:


how much is it for please?
#happiness
Re: Why Do People Improve Themselves After A Divorce But Not During The Marriage? by MrCork: 9:38pm On Dec 03, 2023
mysticgal:

#happiness


How much is it please?

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