That family will kill you after the church marriage , take it from me.....
They rejecting the dowry for 4times show ring a bell in ya head

Stevenbright:


The very one you have refused to answer and telling people to chat you privately.

honestly I wouldn't want some people to fell bad because I mentioned the state...

But I always try my best to be on a safer side... Am from Anambra State and she is from Enugu eziagu precisely.... Very bad experience...

vinexe:
bro please I opened this page.. not because of u... But if u have nothing to say please stay away... I know that some will say somethings to hurt me.. some will also give advice.. please don't come and add to my pain's... About the English... Was English my language?.. if u can understand my English stay away from my post...

You are trying to force marriage to a woman that is not your wife.
She may be good, beautiful, industrious but she is not your wife.

vinexe:
Sir I don't know how u will feel if I ask u to chat me in privet .. some people may feel bad if I began to call the name of the state and village.. evidence of every thing I say here I have it.. with me

If you are my brother or son I'll poison or kill you and your people. You are an idiot. Passing through all this in the name of fake marriage.

Waybill the girl to her parents house cos you've Dung your grave longer than 6 ft.

tolugar:


If you are my brother or son I'll poison or kill you and your people. You are an idiot. Passing through all this in the name of fake marriage.

Waybill the girl to her parents house cos you've Dung your grave longer than 6 ft.

thank u sir... This is the reason I opened this topic.. to read comments and at the end take a decision...

tolugar:


If you are my brother or son I'll poison or kill you and your people. You are an idiot. Passing through all this in the name of fake marriage.

Waybill the girl to her parents house cos you've Dung your grave longer than 6 ft.

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This girl refused to go back to her parents.. she said she is not going anywhere..

If your wife is this wicked please divorce her! Is your wife from Akwa Ibom state?

vinexe:
The priest and church members told me that this matter is almost 13: years.. that I do separate or divorce and move on with my life...

The priest told me never to go back to her village since they have fight me. That the can do anything to harm me.. some one say I never mentioned that my wife is bad..

Yes I can't say she is bad
but she is a woman that can never take advice from her husband.. or obey her husband.. she take decision by her self.. she is have come to my place of work to insult me because I didn't send her money I suppose to send.. she comes to my office and I received shame of my life...

As am talking u now she goes out on Mondays come back on Friday leaving the kids for me... . She never care for what they eat.. she has push me divorce... Her but

Am so much afraid of doing this as of today none of the in-laws no my house over 13 years of marriage..

You re a weakling. That is why they re pushing you up and down. The fact is that you re not welcome in that family. So it is better you distance yourself from them before they will kill you. Separate or divorce from your wife. That children you born are all yours, you have backing of law.

DavidEsq:

U see that first Uncle, na street guy and OP wey suppose code, no come gree code. Dem say wetin elder see from bench, werey pikin no fit see on top palm tree.

If the uncle saw something & disappeared instead of warning his nephew, he did not do well.

He could have sternly taken over the conversation and told them that they would consider all that was said and provide feedback.

vinexe:
honestly I wouldn't want some people to fell bad because I mentioned the state...

But I always try my best to be on a safer side... Am from Anambra State and she is from Enugu eziagu precisely.... Very bad experience...

I read all your posts and I frankly don't know why you opened this thread. If the story is as you said it, you have two options:

1. If you are interested in the sham of a marriage with cunning in-laws, do their requirements (pay the N2m plus marriage list).

2. If you are no longer interested in the marriage because you want peace, send their daughter back to them/ out of your home. After all, they claim you have not paid dowry.

And please stop saying 'I told her to stay with A, she said no'; 'I told her to leave, she said no'. After 13 years, you should have learnt to be assertive especially under the circumstances.

If she wouldn’t leave the house for you, leave the house for her.

I know this must be Igbo tribe,no shades.
Wickedness is common like that,my brother as a woman I will advise you,life has long past this stage to be unhappy because of any man,some of your age mates are just getting married. This marriage will take your life soon. I don't want to call u a disgrace,but pls let her go. You go and marry again and have more kids

Simp spotted



By their mumu ness we shall know them

November24:
I know this must be Igbo tribe,no shades.
Wickedness is common like that,my brother as a woman I will advise you,life has long past this stage to be unhappy because of any man,some of your age mates are just getting married. This marriage will take your life soon. I don't want to call u a disgrace,but pls let her go. You go and marry again and have more kids

You open your mouth waaaaaaaa!!!!

You ,your uncle ,your wife and her family are all m.ad ppl
The only good advice you've gotten are from the priest and your father.
Even my 6 yr old is very assertive let alone a 24 now 36 yr old .Everybody pushing you around like paper.Weakling! No wonder your wife doesn't respect you.
Iche nà i ka bu obere nwa?Mee ka nwoke I bu.

If your wife and her family won't give you peace,let her go home.Let them keep her for the 2m in-law. You need peace more than the fear of what happened to your father not happening to you.
Store your father in laws Dowry agreement call in cloud and move on.Its your weapon for when her tradition ppl comes.
A dowry has and can never be paid twice.

vinexe:
honestly I wouldn't want some people to fell bad because I mentioned the state...

But I always try my best to be on a safer side... Am from Anambra State and she is from Enugu eziagu precisely.... Very bad experience...

Ok. There are good and bad people everywhere.

Like I said earlier, do the right thing for yourself. She is not a respectful and cooperative wife. That is why it is why the situation is very hard on you. Assuming she is on your side, supportive and cooperative, her family's efforts to make life difficult for you would not have been this difficult a nut to crack.

So, do yourself right by following your father and pastor's advice.

If love is blind, marriage is an eye openerIf love is blind, marriage is an eye opener...

Stevenbright:


Ok. There are good and bad people everywhere.

Like I said earlier, do the right thing for yourself. She is not a respectful and cooperative wife. That is why it is why the situation is very hard on you. Assuming she is on your side, supportive and cooperative, her family's efforts to make life difficult for you would not have been this difficult a nut to crack.

So, do yourself right by following your father and pastor's advice.

thank you sir...

Then leave the house for her! Go and rent another house! She does not want to respect you and she does not want to go! She wants to eat her cake and have! That woman is evil and dangerous! Please be careful!

vinexe:
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This girl refused to go back to her parents.. she said she is not going anywhere..

You married at 24?

vinexe:

please chart me privately I will tell u the state and village...

Ok bro I will send you a DM

That your uncle that left you behind on getting to your in-law place, have u asked him what prompted him to do that ? If u did and not telling us then there's possibility u hiding something from us .
People kept asking you the tribe ,only when it became disturbing you spilled.
I can confidently tell you the advice you need has long been given to you ,but due to foolishness you keep dragging feet.
Please take full custody of those kids that's paramount ,am sure your wife next step will suprise you when she deciphers what's on your mind .

Vinexe, I am never a messenger of bad news, ask the lady if she wants to continue to be married with you, if she say yes, keep her but avoid connectig with her family. but if she says she wants to keep connecting with her family, divorce the lady, let her family keep her. You keep the child.


Sorry that you went thru all these to honor their family and their daughter yet they failed you.

The more time you spend with someone that doesn't love or rate you,

The less time you have to spend with someone who loves you.


For you to type this epistle, the matter long.
Do the needed and live long, Sir.

Psady:
That your uncle that left you behind on getting to your in-law place, have u asked him what prompted him to do that ? If u did and not telling us then there's possibility u hiding something from us .
People kept asking you the tribe ,only when it became disturbing you spilled.
I can confidently tell you the advice you need has long been given to you ,but due to foolishness you keep dragging feet.
Please take full custody of those kids that's paramount ,am sure your wife next step will suprise you when she deciphers what's on your mind .

thank u ..

pocohantas:
The more time you spend with someone that doesn't love or rate you,

The less time you have to spend with someone who loves you.


For you to type this epistle, the matter long.
Do the needed and live long, Sir.

thank u sir I appreciate Ur contribution...

vinexe:
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This girl refused to go back to her parents.. she said she is not going anywhere..

With her attitude towards you I don't think you will last any longer.

My advice at this time is to take your kids to your parents and run away or run away with your kids.

You are not married, so there can't be a divorce.
All these signs, and you are still insisting on going ahead?
I think you have a bigger problem than your written words.

Forget the troublesome in-laws. They don`t have your or your wife`s best interest at heart. You people have two kids and should be working on your marriage so that these kids grow up in a loving home. I don`t understand why you keep travelling to this village. Are you bored and looking for trouble? It`s been 14 years now so what are you trying to achieve there? Do these people feed you or your kids? Do they pay school fees or rent? I don`t understand why someone would go through all this trouble to please people that can`t be pleased. Redirect your energy into more fruitful endeavours. Lastly, you need to put your immediate first and be the head that you are meant to be.

You were not matured enough for marriage when you took the step and unfortunately you found yourself amidst evil in laws.

My advice is not different from what others have been giving, send the lady back to her family and hands off for now. This decision might be temporary or permanent depending on the outcome .

tolugar:


With her attitude towards you I don't think you will last any longer.

My advice at this time is to take your kids to your parents and run away or run away with your kids.

thank u sir...

Sir if u can read all off my post u will notice that my parents is separated. and my mother is late now....

About taken the kids and run away... Remember that this lady know my place of work.. she have onec come to my place of work to disgrace me.. what of if she decides to come to my place of work to harass me... ?

marsup:
You are not married, so there can't be a divorce.
All these signs, and you are still insisting on going ahead?
I think you have a bigger problem than your written words.

He is
The father of the girl received the dowry.What other marriage is there.