udumosam23: At first I thought it was just out of excitement or maybe part of honeymoon experience. But its beginning to piss me off as I'm now almost a month in marriage.
We were into relationship for about two years before marriage, I was in the seminary school, and she was rounding her NCE programme. During the engagement period, I've always wondered whether she can satisfy me (sexually) cos of her attitude to it.
I had hopped to be patient with her until she grew into it and learn to love it. Its barely a month now, I'm getting scared, my wife wants me at least twice a day on everyday except Sundays. Most days when am less busy, she makes me stay at home with her all day.
I tried talking it over with her, she feel sad each time I raise the subject and I don't want her to feel bad. I feel like drawing a time table for sex, to enable space for other activities.
Is this always the case? Is there anything I can do. Sincerely I love my wife, but I believe its just not all about sex.
Pls advice constructively.

EfemenaXY:

Guy, you seriously contradict yourself in this post of yours.

EfemenaXY:
One minute, you complain that pre-marriage, you wondered if your then wife-to-be would be able to satisfy you in bed. Now you've tied the knot, rather than be pleasantly surprised she's all over you, you complain that having sex (during the honeymoon period of your union) is a bit too much

EfemenaXY: What is twice a day? You honestly think making love twice a day is too much??

EfemenaXY:
What do you really want? Or better still, do you even know what you want?

EfemenaXY:
And then reading the last sentence of your post where you mention drawing a timetable for sex (like seriously?!) just proves that you're one stuck-up man. The picture that readily comes to mind is that of your typical uptight village headmaster.

I feel sorry for your new bride of a wife. With that attitude of yours, you'll gradually chip away at her self-esteem till there's nothing left but dissatisfaction and resentment.

You'd better loosen up before you lose her emotionally.

Blebleswag: Eiya! Mr fucker

Tallesty1: No he didn't.

. Read the post again, the gal didn't want the op to know how well she engineers waist until after marriage. She played holy. In all honestly bro can you go twice a day 4 one month
He wants moderation in bedmatics

To be frank bro you are the village headmaster here, a retired one sef.

Ceasar1:
Don't be an ugly bitch_. The last thing he need is names.
So insolent of you!

Blebleswag: are u sure u re OK?

Ceasar1: Wrong Call.

Blebleswag: Bleep u niggar

Ceasar1:
I knew you were insolent, but this damn!

Blebleswag: mitchewwww

Do you really have to quote me to say that?

EfemenaXY:

A supposedly newly wedded, hot-blooded young man complaining that having sex twice a day is beginning to piss him off, barely one month into his marriage and you see nothing wrong with it?

Either he's an old man or he's got an unusually low - near non-existent sex drive. And to make matters worse, his negativity is starting to rub off on his wife who (according to him), now feels sad when he brings it up.

It's absolutely disgraceful. He should realise now they're married that his body belongs to her and hers his to do with as they both please. If she can't get as much sex as she wants from him now, then where should she get it from? This is meant to be the most enjoyable time of their married life where the couple discover and re-discover themselves. But instead, he puts a damper on her spirits.

This is the sort of man that would preach to his wife that:

~ Sex, other than for procreation purposes is bad
~ A married woman expressing her sex.ual needs to her husband is promiscious and should rather strive to live a more conservative life
~ A woman should never make advances to her husband, but should be content waiting for when he, and he only is in the mood. Basically, the man should be the one to initiate sex and never the woman.

Now if this isn't uptight, then I wonder what your definition of being uptight is. I pity her sha. Na this type of man go let his wife shrivel up and die a slow painful death from sex.ual frustration. Imagine young man saying twice a day is too much. I suppose when the kids come and a few years into the marriage, wifey would be lucky to have it once a year from this man.

299: Superman.....twice a day for a month is too much. Abeg leave grammar.

Ceasar1:
Do you really have to quote me to say that?

Tallesty1: No he didn't.

. Read the post again, the gal didn't want the op to know how well she engineers waist until after marriage. She played holy. In all honestly bro can you go twice a day 4 one month
He wants moderation in bedmatics

To be frank bro you are the village headmaster here, a retired one sef.

Blebleswag: because u ve step ma tail

Wow, so now you have a Tail? Evolution must have taken it's toil on you? SMH..

Ceasar1: Wow, so now you have a Tail? Evolution must have taken it's toil on you? SMH..

Blebleswag: oravbwe ochera na

Ceasar1:
I can't read Spanish.

Ceasar1:
I can't read Spanish.

EfemenaXY:
A supposedly newly wedded, hot-blooded young man complaining that having sex twice a day is beginning to piss him off, barely one month into his marriage and you see nothing wrong with it?

EfemenaXY: Either he's an old man or he's got an unusually low - near non-existent sex drive. And to make matters worse, his negativity is starting to rub off on his wife who (according to him), now feels sad when he brings it up.

EfemenaXY: It's absolutely disgraceful.

EfemenaXY: He should realise now they're married that his body belongs to her and hers his to do with as they both please.

EfemenaXY: If she can't get as much sex as she wants from him now, then where should she get it from? This is meant to be the most enjoyable time of their married life where the couple discover and re-discover themselves. But instead, he puts a damper on her spirits.

EfemenaXY: This is the sort of man that would preach to his wife that:
~ Sex, other than for procreation purposes is bad
~ A married woman expressing her sex.ual needs to her husband is promiscious and should rather strive to live a more conservative life
~ A woman should never make advances to her husband, but should be content waiting for when he, and he only is in the mood. Basically, the man should be the one to initiate sex and never the woman.

EfemenaXY: Now if this isn't uptight, then I wonder what your definition of being uptight is. I pity her sha. Na this type of man go let his wife shrivel up and die a slow painful death from sex.ual frustration.

EfemenaXY: Imagine young man saying twice a day is too much. I suppose when the kids come and a few years into the marriage, wifey would be lucky to have it once a year from this man.

Tallesty1: There is absolutely no wrong in it, yhu don't expect everybody to be hyper-sexual because you are, and even if you are, I can bet a million that you can't go twice a day 4 two weeks. Let's not brag. I doubt if you have had sex b4. I mean serious and hot sex not all these spit and go that some alcoholics do..
Moderation is the key, maybe the wife is one these secrete porn-stars in Nigeria that no longer have muffler. Pray yhou don't marry any of them.
To you maybe
Are you married?
And the only thing yhu saw in your dico when you checked the meaning of enjoyment is sex?
Sorry, your assumptions are wrong, atleast nothing in the post suggests that he is this kinda man
Her cup of coffee. That is her punishment for 4ming marry amaka during their courtship. Do you think the op would marry her If she had shown her real collor? No! But she pretended she is a novice just to get married and now she wants him to die atop woman. Trying to please her wll kill the op so let her die of frustration instead, or she can go and sex-toys. It wouldn't be this way if she hadn't been sleeping around before marriage.
It is way too much unless you are an easy cummer.

EfemenaXY:
Apart from your very incomprehensible write-up, all your points are moot, invalid, and embarrassingly without any real depth or substance.
Aren't you capable of holding down a decent conversation without getting all rude, and unnecessarily assumptive on my behalf? You know absolutely zilch about me so kindly stop making it personal. Am I the topic of discussion here or the @OP who created this thread? Anyway, I'm done with you. I see nothing intellectual to be gained from further engaging in this conversation with you.
Let's agree to disagree on this.
Thanks!

udumosam23: At first I thought it was just out of excitement or maybe part of honeymoon experience. But its beginning to piss me off as I'm now almost a month in marriage.

We were into relationship for about two years before marriage, I was in the seminary school, and she was rounding her NCE programme. During the engagement period, I've always wondered whether she can satisfy me (sexually) cos of her attitude to it.

I had hopped to be patient with her until she grew into it and learn to love it. Its barely a month now, I'm getting scared, my wife wants me at least twice a day on everyday except Sundays. Most days when am less busy, she makes me stay at home with her all day.

I tried talking it over with her, she feel sad each time I raise the subject and I don't want her to feel bad. I feel like drawing a time table for sex, to enable space for other activities.

Is this always the case? Is there anything I can do. Sincerely I love my wife, but I believe its just not all about sex.

Pls advice constructively.

EfemenaXY:

On the contrary, it's nowhere near enough.

udumosam23:



I understand your sentiments dear, have been following your line of argument. Its not that I can't do it or I resent her, no. Intact I desire her at every turn, just that I feel that we are abusing the act, I have always considered sex to be special and should be approached respectfully, (my opinion anyway).

But I've heard you, if it will put her in harms way, then I'll brace up, just that atimes her timing conflicts with other activity, and she can will always want me to delegate them and stay at home, and I'm considering that as been lazy for a man of my age. I'll try.

Thanks to you all. Just want to know if my case is different anyway. Would have been glad if I had friends that I can discuss such issues with freely. Thank God for this forum.