aisha2: Standing ovation. I love how you gave practical things to do beyond mere preaching. Bravo bravo bravo.

Bravo

Lamborghini: You women are jokes.
You want independence before marriage then after that what happens?
Will this independence plan extend to marriage or is it temporary? Will you always keep taking care of your needs yourselves and not ask your husbands for house money or shopping money after he pays your bride price like cattle and takes you under his name as his dependant?

Fish brained clowns with their on and off independence.

standd:

Thank you
You are my 'Menthol'

standd:

Thanks for the insult
And did you just refer to ALL the women in your life as fish-brained clowns?

Lamborghini: Rofl, you're welcome . After making all this silly noise about independence get your arssee into the kitchen and make me a sandwich.

aisha2:

Dancing skelewu. You are so blessed. Your future will be so bright. When challenges come and you feel like the easy way would have been easier angels will carry you through.
May your path always be bright
May favor find and overshadow you
May doors of success always open for you
May the world of your hands be rewarded

May you find a man deserving of gold
May time wasters and opportunists be far from your path

datalossvictim1:
However this does not mean that it is compulsory for every lady to be independent. The most important thing in my opinion is that women are able to work like their male counterparts. That's good enough for a society. Now making it compulsory is what I would not prescribe...

datalossvictim1: In the country I live in, children as early as 13 can start work to earn some extra change. This is not even a 3rd world country.

I want to believe there are Ladies in Nigeria who work to support themselves and their families. Beautiful!

However this does not mean that it is compulsory for every lady to be independent. The most important thing in my opinion is that women are able to work like their male counterparts. That's good enough for a society. Now making it compulsory is what I would not prescribe...

Lamborghini: Of course it isn't compulsory for them to be independent. It isn't even ideal. Men go out and fend for the family and provide for them while women depend on their husbands, not the other way round and that's why WE LEAD THE HOUSEHOLD, but the fishbrains can continue lying to themselves on this thread so they can sleep at night. It's allowed.

Lamborghini: Of course it isn't compulsory for them to be independent. It isn't even ideal. Men go out and fend for the family and provide for them while women depend on their husbands, not the other way round and that's why WE LEAD THE HOUSEHOLD, but the fishbrains can continue lying to themselves on this thread so they can sleep at night. It's allowed.

edwife: It is good,but it should not just stop here o,after tomorrow you still go to your boyfriend and ask for recharged card,then tell him if you buy for me once will it kill you?

Your boyfriend should not be your source of income. My dear it's a relationship, not a job opportunity

ITbomb: I will update this comment when I see a Nigerian girl who would see free iPhone 6 for one night stand and rather prefer to work and earn money to buy Tecno M3

BoboYekini: Abi u go come work under me? But that eye wey I dey see for ya dp like awon 'omo get inside', you sure you have the stomach for that kain job?

standd:

This is my opinion.

I used to listen to men whine about Nigerian women being gold-diggers and most times I don't blame the men.
When an entire generation of women do not know the value of hard-work and working with ones hands to make ends meet, then there is a problem somewhere.

Dear Naija woman,
There's no written law that men should buy you recharge cards, buy you sharwamah or take you shopping. Any man that choose to spend on you only does that because he has money to spend in the first place. And last I checked, the freedom to earn money isn't restricted to the male gender alone.
We know how easy it is, to paint your face all day and then dress up to meet a man who will spend on you. But what I don't understand is how we all grew up believing that we can not make our own money. How? Why? Who told you that you can't work to take care of your needs.

Pls, the good men I have met do not want intellectual and physical liabilities.
What happened to the days when our MOTHERS worked hard to care for the family?

Every time you wait for a man to credit your phone, buy your meals, change your wardrobe and cater to your every need.. Then, you have also given them the licence to talk down on you and treat you like a nonentity with nothing to offer.

For those of you who think you can get whatever you want from men without lifting a finger to better your own life. All I can ask is, for how long? How long will you remain brain-dead and dependent.

Get up and find something to do pls, those women out there who engage in petty trade are not silly.
There's actually no pride in being jobless and showing off expensive clothes and items especially if your parents are not wealthy enough to support your life-style.

Whether you are a young school leaver,
An undergraduate or even if you haven't had the chance to study in any school. Just get a job and earn your own money.
Permit me to say this- If you don't find it demeaning to spread your legs in the east and west direction just to get #5,000 from a man, then you shouldn't find any job too demeaning.

*Go to pure water factories and other factories and apply as factory workers.
* Make small chops at home and distribute to Northerners to sell for you.
*There are a zillion small businesses in Lagos alone. Go and apply as sales-person.
*Go and learn a trade.
*Apply at mushroom schools to teach children.
*Study well in school too. So you can get a good job upon graduation.
* Take a walk round your community, you will surely get something to do.
*Apply to learn a trade.

You will not be arrested if you start buying your own recharge cards and paying your own bills.
Thank you.


*N.B: If you find this post offensive, forgive me. There are a lot of women out there working for their upkeep and being responsible.
And there a whole lot of women who think moving from one bar to the other, dressing to kill and getting money from men without lifting a finger to work is the norm.
It is not normal. Pls, if you are in this category, go and find work to do. Even if your salary is not much, at least you can buy little things for yourself.
How can you be proud of using high-end phones and expensive stuffs that your folks can't afford, yet you are jobless and without a source of income.. Pls, what sort of 'invisible' business earn you so much money?

As for me, I find extreme joy in knowing that I can take care of my needs when there's need to do so.
And when men spend on me, they do so out of freewill and not cos I have to beg or pay in kind.
Hard work doesn't kill

patrickdarlins: if GOD nor bless you.....wetin GOD gain??and i know e must bless u....had it been i can write dis thin in a book and begin share give dose yeye girls dem....e for make sense...JOY COMES IN D MORNING WHEN YOU SURVIVE THE NIGHT....AND U ARE ONLY WRONG..WHEN YOU DONT DO IT RIGHT!!!!

standd:

This is my opinion.

I used to listen to men whine about Nigerian women being gold-diggers and most times I don't blame the men.
When an entire generation of women do not know the value of hard-work and working with ones hands to make ends meet, then there is a problem somewhere.

Dear Naija woman,
There's no written law that men should buy you recharge cards, buy you sharwamah or take you shopping. Any man that choose to spend on you only does that because he has money to spend in the first place. And last I checked, the freedom to earn money isn't restricted to the male gender alone.
We know how easy it is, to paint your face all day and then dress up to meet a man who will spend on you. But what I don't understand is how we all grew up believing that we can not make our own money. How? Why? Who told you that you can't work to take care of your needs.

Pls, the good men I have met do not want intellectual and physical liabilities.
What happened to the days when our MOTHERS worked hard to care for the family?

Every time you wait for a man to credit your phone, buy your meals, change your wardrobe and cater to your every need.. Then, you have also given them the licence to talk down on you and treat you like a nonentity with nothing to offer.

For those of you who think you can get whatever you want from men without lifting a finger to better your own life. All I can ask is, for how long? How long will you remain brain-dead and dependent.

Get up and find something to do pls, those women out there who engage in petty trade are not silly.
There's actually no pride in being jobless and showing off expensive clothes and items especially if your parents are not wealthy enough to support your life-style.

Whether you are a young school leaver,
An undergraduate or even if you haven't had the chance to study in any school. Just get a job and earn your own money.
Permit me to say this- If you don't find it demeaning to spread your legs in the east and west direction just to get #5,000 from a man, then you shouldn't find any job too demeaning.

*Go to pure water factories and other factories and apply as factory workers.
* Make small chops at home and distribute to Northerners to sell for you.
*There are a zillion small businesses in Lagos alone. Go and apply as sales-person.
*Go and learn a trade.
*Apply at mushroom schools to teach children.
*Study well in school too. So you can get a good job upon graduation.
* Take a walk round your community, you will surely get something to do.
*Apply to learn a trade.

You will not be arrested if you start buying your own recharge cards and paying your own bills.
Thank you.


*N.B: If you find this post offensive, forgive me. There are a lot of women out there working for their upkeep and being responsible.
And there a whole lot of women who think moving from one bar to the other, dressing to kill and getting money from men without lifting a finger to work is the norm.
It is not normal. Pls, if you are in this category, go and find work to do. Even if your salary is not much, at least you can buy little things for yourself.
How can you be proud of using high-end phones and expensive stuffs that your folks can't afford, yet you are jobless and without a source of income.. Pls, what sort of 'invisible' business earn you so much money?

As for me, I find extreme joy in knowing that I can take care of my needs when there's need to do so.
And when men spend on me, they do so out of freewill and not cos I have to beg or pay in kind.
Hard work doesn't kill

ayobase:


who broke ur heart?

shoefreak: story for the witches!!!

help mates, aint they? so why wont i collect from him. im not a feminist oooo, wetin concern me. his money is mine, his mind too, if i so desire. my body, mine to give. and if you insult me because you gave me something, i go tell you how your papa marry your mama put for house. if you misbehave, i'd gladly arrange schnapp and wraps for guys to re-arrange your manners on how to treat a lady.

standd:


How do I reply without letting your silliness rub off on me ehn! You and the camel that liked your post.

ayobase:


this in not about a silly camel.

we both do know that is it either a guy's/lady's heart is broken when he/she talks as such or he/she is just stating the facts.

I was just asking a question. .....

standd:

......... No one broke my heart.

BananaBender: ..

standd:


Shollypopz, you better re-post your comment before I side-eye you to sambisa

BananaBender:

LoL, it was a diss to some chic but I changed my mind