■ I don’t want my daughter to suffer the
consequences of circumcision like I did –Mum
■ Her circumcision is a must as tradition
demands –Dad’s family
Against the background of a child Rights Law that
guides against harmful cultural practices on
children in Ekiti State, two families: the royal family
of Olaoye in Ushi-Ekiti and the Oyenekan family are
at loggerheads over the circumcision of a 5-year-
old girl. The once rosy relationship between both
families has now turned sour following a
disagreement over the circumcision of their 5-year-
old daughter, (name of baby withheld).
Miss Olufunke Oyenekan, mother of the 5-year old
girl and fiancee to Mr. Emmanuel Olaoye, son of
the Olaoyes, a royal family in Ushi-Ekiti, Ekiti State,
had disagreed with the Olaoyes over their decision
to perform the traditional circumcision rites on her
daughter. The woman, sensing that her husband’s
family wanted to perform the rites by all means,
fled with her child from the Olaoye’s family house
in Ushi Ekiti in 2012 and her whereabouts has since
remain unknown.
Recently, the Olaoye family again raised the alarm
through a representative, identified as Chief Olu
Olaoye over the sudden disappearance of Olufunke
and her daughter. The family said that their son’s
fiancee did not mean well for the family by
preventing them from performing the circumcision
rites on the child. Their explanation is that it is a
mandatory cultural practice to have all their
children circumcised, moreso that theirs is a royal
family whose duty it is to preserve the cultural
heritage of the people of Ushi Ekiti in order to set
an example for the people.
“She (Olufunke) is not helping us, neither is she
helping our daughter she has taken away. There are
certain cultural practices that we adhere to in our
land, some are avoidable while others are not. This
practice of circumcision is part of the unavoidable
ones. Olufunke cannot prevent us from carrying out
cultural and traditional rites on our own blood. It is
a must that we do the circumcision rites for the
girl. Moreso, that the child is a princess, a daughter
from the royal family of Ushi Ekiti and possibly a
future regent!.
“We have told them (Olufunke’s family) that they
must ensure that they produce her because she
cannot prevent us from performing our traditional
duties. She must bring our daughter for the circum­
cision rites, “ he said, fuming with anger.
Meanwhile, Olufunke has vowed not to allow
anyone, even if it is her husband, to carry out any
circumcision rites on her daughter. A member of
her family, who spoke to Sunday Sun on condition
of anonymity because of the sensitive nature of the
matter, said: “As for the Oyenekan family, we have
no problem with whatever the Olaoye family wants
to do with their daughter. In our part of the world,
it is the man who owns the child and has the final
say over him or her. But our daughter, Olufunke is
more western-oriented than many of us. She has
vowed not to allow any circumcision for her
daughter. She says the practice might have an
adverse effect on the girl in the future. We would
have been able to intervene in the matter to ensure
that peace reigns but right now, I can swear to you
that we do not even know the whereabouts of
Olufunke and her child. In fact, we learnt that her
older son has also joined his mum where she was
but we do not have any idea of where that is. There
was a time she took refuge with their pastor in a
church in Abeokuta. The pastor assisted in getting
the human rights group to intervene for peaceful
resolution of the matter, but the fiance’ family
became violent about the matter, they wanted to
get their daughter by all means. We learnt that
Olufunke narrowly escaped the attack on her and
ran off with her daughter. We can only appeal to
our in-laws to exercise patience on this issue till
God makes Olufunke to come back, right now, there
is nothing anyone can do.”, the man said.
Speaking on phone to the Sunday Sun, Mr.
Emmanuel Olaoye, fiancé to Olufunke, narrated how
the trouble over the circumcision rites started, his
words: “My fiancée, Olufunke Oyenekan and I met
in February14,2006 and we love each other but
haven’t married legally. We were co-habitting and
eventually had two kids. A boy and a girl.
“Things went on smoothly between us till I lost my
father who was a traditional ruler in Ushi Ekiti, my
home town. I received the message of the death of
our royal father and was told I had been picked as
his successor. So, I went home for the burial rites
and took my wife-to-be and our children with me,
actually to ensure that my extended family get to
know her. We travelled to Ushi Ekiti in January
1,2012.
“However, we didn’t know that a shocker was
awaiting us at Ushi-Ekiti. My family demanded that
we submit our children for circumcision rites.
Funke, my wife-to-be, didn’t like this arrangement
at all. She didn’t particularly want our daughter,
who was then two years and four months old to be
circumcised as she said she didn’t like what she
experience as a woman who was circumcised by
her parents when she was young.
“But my people won’t be persuaded to spare our
daughter of the treatment because our tradition
forbids any of our blood not being administered the
circumcision rites.
“My fiancée has since fled with our daughter since
the disagreement in Ushi-Ekiti. As I’m going to
succeed my late father as the traditional ruler of
our town, it becomes more mandatory for my
children to be circumcised. Here in our land, it is
part of the prerequisites of a king-to-be to have all
his children circumcised. We really do not have a
choice here. But my fiancee sees the practice as
barbaric and outdated. She won’t have any of it for
our daughter. “ “That is why she ran away with our
daughter. Our son has also joined her where she is.
I want to believe her people arranged her escape
and know her whereabouts but they are claiming
ignorance of it. We once heard she was in a
pastor’s custody in one Bethel Love Church in
Abeokuta, Ogun State. My people went there but
she escaped from them and fled to an unknown
place with the children and hasn’t been seen since
then. I’m just confused about the whole
development, “ Olaoye said, wearing a defeated melancholy look.
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In dz modern tyms, female circumcision? Yuck!!!

Say No To Female Circumcision.

Which kain bush meat baboonish family be that one. Them no go school ni?

Tradition indeed! They should let d girl n her mother be, their tradition didn't demand dt dey get married since, now they want to stress d little girl. And to think dt men are d advocates of these barbaric traditions...they should ask themselves wat purpose female circumcision will serve rather than following a dated traditional dt is even dangerous to d well-being of females hook, line and sinker!

Its a shame this kind of topic wont make frontpage. The MODs are too inhuman to consider them frontpage worthy. Yesterday, a post about female corp member brutalized by a police woman failed to make frontpage. Later they will say it didnt have much comments to warrant frontpage and i'll ask; where lies your consciences?

I thought female genital mutilation doesn't exist anymore. All these villagers sha

Disgusting pigs

djmally:
Its a shame this kind of topic wont make frontpage. The MODs are too inhuman to consider them frontpage worthy. Yesterday, a post about female corp member brutalized by a police woman failed to make frontpage. Later they will say it didnt have much comments to warrant frontpage and i'll ask; where lies your consciences?

when tonto dike, toolz or mercy aigbe new pinshores have not yet made front page na female circumcision by barbarians go make front page. Dey Jones

How can the government stand in the face of this abominable act and do nothing??
In spite of it being cultural, it is dangerous and threatening to the life of a Nigerian, hence, it should be looked into.
The 'surgeons' just don't get tired of groping at little girls' vag1na. Don't be surprised to see them having an erection while circumsizing the girls.
Bloody retards

DesChyko:
How can the government stand in the face of this abominable act and do nothing??
In spite of it being cultural, it is dangerous and threatening to the life of a Nigerian, hence, it should be looked into.
The 'surgeons' just don't get tired of groping at little girls' vag1na. Don't be surprised to see them having an erection while circumsizing the girls.
Bloody retards

let quickly join front page o b4 dey stole my mandate o

Crazy, selfish, self-centered, barbaric family, with an illiterate weak son for an heir.

That woman had better run to the far ends of the earth with her kids to escape them. She's even got a very valid reason to come seek refuge in the West.

Smart, loving, mum with her senses intact. I pray they never find her.

Idíöts.

Mtcheew.

Reading the guy's words got me very pissed.
It's obvious the culture is more important than the wellbeing of the girl in question.

Girls must be suffering in that community.

EfemenaXY:
Crazy, selfish, self-centered, barbaric family, with an illiterate weak son for an heir.

That woman had better run to the far ends of the earth with her kids to escape them. She's even got a very valid reason to come seek refuge in the West.

Smart, loving, mum with her senses intact. I pray they never find her.

Idíöts.

Mtcheew.

out of curiosity does a circumcised woman live with any physical defects or inhibitions?

cococandy:
Reading the guy's words got me very pissed.
It's obvious the culture is more important than the wellbeing of the girl in question.
Girls must be suffering in that community.

And that's precisely why I say he's a weak fööl.

~ Co-habiting for 8 years + two children to show for it and yet, he couldn't put a ring on it - probably because his people said "no".

~ Now they go after her and her kids claiming marriage rights. They don't get what they want so what next? Launch an attack which the poor woman narrowly escapes...and what does the idïöt do about it? Nothing.

~ Read the last sentence. What's his reaction / opinion about the whole issue? Confusion. Defeated. Melancholy.

The guy is a complete fööl. The "fiancé" is so much better off without him. Kids need their parents to protect them. Not subject them to horrific procedures that risk their young, innocent lives.

Imagine this trash coming out of a future king's mouth No wonder, today's kings have mostly lost the past glory. Circumcision is a huge no no now...the earlier they get used to it, the better for the community.

Its no longer the stone age where primitive practices are welcomed . I bet the palace in question has been refurbished to be new age compliance. Iranu

My RESPECT GOES TO THE MOTHER OF THIS CHILD. WELL DONE!


Ignorant people calling themselves royal.
This is what happens when people use tradition instead of their brains to "reason".

troy20:
out of curiosity does a circumcised woman live with any physical defects or inhibitions?

You mean apart from the myriad of infections and blood poisoning that would most likely occur, using knives and tools that are not sterilised, the serious bleeding that could occur - God help that the child won't have haemophilia and bleed to death. Most of them suffer mild to severe obstetric and gynaecological problems in future.

Depending on the degree or extent of circumcision, no circumcised female will enjoy sexual pleasure as the clitoris has been cut.

Read extensively on this subject while studying traditional medical methods and I believe no right thinking human will subject a child to this! Heck, after cutting they drop the slime from a snail on to the wound! #yuck

troy20:
out of curiosity does a circumcised woman live with any physical defects or inhibitions?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HkDuzLA8T9w

Anyone who sees nothing wrong with this must be insánė. A simple Google Image search of the phrase female genitál mutilation should answer any questions one might have of this evil practice.

Chei!
Still in 2014?

My prayer has always been that me and my family will never have anything to do with cowards all tru our lives. Both past and future generations,Amiiiiiiin!

EfemenaXY:
Anyone who sees nothing wrong with this must be insánė. A simple Google Image search of the phrase female genitál mutilation should answer any questions one might have of this evil practice.

it shocks me beyond words how some nigerians live and behave like they are living in 1820 with no form of finesse and civilization. Thinking and acting like primitive cave peeps


disgusting!

carefreewannabe:



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HkDuzLA8T9w

Sweet Jesus!

I Love that mother already

This is the definition of a mother!

The Olufunke did well to disappear with her children. And she shouldn't show face untill that her daughter is an adult.

RESPECT.
I don't know how some mothers allow such barbarity to be practiced on their children. I truly hope they're OK.

carefreewannabe:



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HkDuzLA8T9w

I got goose bumps watching this.

Dem still dey cut toto for this day and age?
Ndi 'Ekitty Kat' di kwa egwu o!

She is not even a 'wife'. . . but a 'fiancee'?
Royal BUSH family indeed!

“She (Olufunke) is not helping us, neither is she
helping our daughter she has taken away. There are
certain cultural practices that we adhere to in our
land, some are avoidable while others are not. This
practice of circumcision is part of the unavoidable
ones. Olufunke cannot prevent us from carrying out
cultural and traditional rites on our own blood. It is
a must that we do the circumcision rites for the
girl. Moreso, that the child is a princess, a daughter
from the royal family of Ushi Ekiti and possibly a
future regent!.

Local tinz!
Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeew!!!

After watching that video and seeing the very graphic images of FGM on google, I feel so traumatized, I just want to never stop hugging my daughter, much less letting her out of my sight!

She probably thinks mum's bonkers anyway...

The family shld be reported to law enforcement bodies

... not to even talk of generational curses and negative covenants that the child may inherit through the 'act'. I'm pissed off already.