som1 actually took his time to write this long story, instead of looking for the perfect woman, why not be the perfect man.

Shirley07:

You can't be serious, their views of african men are even worse and I'm not talking of the black americans.
For your info, no classy woman wants a cave man because such man adds no meaning to her life.

LMFAO he really thinks other races are checking for him? Let him study the statistics. Interracial marriages with black female partners far exceed ones with a black male! Like, it's not even close. Since the very beginning. What a joker. If he really cares so much about what non-African people think, he should know that they think African women are "exotic" and African men are... look, I don't even want to say it. He and his buddy are both clowns. When you see them, just swerve.

When a man's sales pitch to you is: "You don't have a choice," you know he's a ________.

OP, this list is not enough now. We need more.

Please give us tips 1001-2000.

Tenk u.

Men shld just be realistic. No woman wants a proud ass as husband. Most guys mouthing here will definitely fall into hands of the wrong woman. U can't mess up with an African Woman and I mean typical African woman. Some guys here talk as if na only women need kids. Get all the wealth in this world without just one child of yours and see what become of ur ppties.

I am utterly confused by what is going on in the minds of young Nigerian men and women. If someone had the time to write this lengthy list and expect everyone to agree, fully insult people with different opinions, we should have more young people at the fore fighting for a better Nigeria with the same passion.

I am a mother & wife and what many young men on this forum would call a feminist due to my beliefs, unfortunately a lot of us do not even know the difference between a feminist and an obnoxious woman. Apparently, to the nairaland man once you have a differing opinion, you are a feminist that will die a lonely spinster with 30 cats.
I have a very happy family and a Sig. Other who respects who I am and I in turn worship the ground he walks on because he does not try to stifle my voice and he knows his place as the head of our home, he does not need me to do a special dance, walk on egg shells etc to proof it to him. I feel very sad because we, the mothers have raised entitled men who do not know that their place is at the top and when the family structure is broken or breaking, it is due in part to the heads being slack in their duties. I am not a fan of the uptick trend in divorces and single motherhood but SirShymex, these women that you look down on are not divorcing themselves or reproducing by themselves. There are some (a small number by the way) who enjoy the fantasy of having babies but as a man, as a potential head of a household, you should be mindful of the women you lay with. Yes, the woman bears the brunt of an unwanted pregnancy and she should also be careful but I am addressing my young men because y'all are screaming we are the heads, we are superior and you are acting otherwise.

Our "Heads" are failing woefully and I do not know if it is pride, ego what you might call it but nothing is being done to correct this problem. You pass out these lists to women and what are the men doing to prepare to be better husbands and fathers...nothing. What are you doing to prepare yourselves to pick compatible spouses? Instead, you are steady picking women that are not ready to fill the roles you so badly want them to fill.

Please do not get me wrong, there are some misled, downright horrible women out there but the rate at which some of you complain on here, one would think all Nigerian women are neck twisting, man bashing, control freaks. Gentlemen, if you are running into "unfit" women time and time again, check yourself.
If I was not married and I did not know other married couples, I would be scared of what this upcoming generation of husbands will look like. Rants and rants, threads shouting down anyone that dares speak up for herself(are some of the ladies going about it the wrong way...yea) but please talk to happily married men, let them tell you what they are doing right. Don't be a man that is quick to call a woman out by all kinds of names...wow. A good woman still embarrasses the tenets of marriage but you will get kickback if you continue to hold an oppressive mentality (afterall, you can only hold a person down for so long).

When people complain about Naija, they do not blame anyone but the "Head", the blame does not go first to the 2nd in command. Young Men, you need to take your place as the heads and stop being so whiny (no offense). The breakdown in the family structure is not solely the woman's fault.

As for the list, I thank goodness most men are not walking around wielding To Do's in the faces of women. Look, find a woman that is compatible to your vision and goals in life. If both of you are on the same page, you will grow together in love and raise a family of champions. All these lists smack of a whole lot of something bad. I am truly worried for some of my young brothers on this forum.

Forgive the length, I tend to be wordy.

Sophyrocks:


Hhahahaha. Is that a threat? So you wan theaten women because of what? are you gonna force people to agree with you? Abeg go and find better things to do and work on your self esteem. Its too low for our liking. Your type chases away good women. We love men who are real men not babies like you. Any small thing, you start crying so that we can pet you. is that a real man? No. so go and work on yourself.

You sabi cry well well!! If I were your husband, I would have forgotten my cain in ur p*u*ssy a million times. Who told you that women have a say? So you self know say women are too emotional.
Women are like babies, they need to be seldomly cained in order to reason like a man. If it were in my power, I will give men the ability to give birth then I will command the entire inFErior males to be fed to the lions. It is better being an im..becile to being the only animal that bleeds for the most valuabe part of its life.NEANDERTHAL!!!

jumbotron:
I am utterly confused by what is going on in the minds of young Nigerian men and women. If someone had the time to write this lengthy list and expect everyone to agree, fully insult people with different opinions, we should have more young people at the fore fighting for a better Nigeria with the same passion.

I am a mother & wife and what many young men on this forum would call a feminist due to my beliefs, unfortunately a lot of us do not even know the difference between a feminist and an obnoxious woman. Apparently, to the nairaland man once you have a differing opinion, you are a feminist that will die a lonely spinster with 30 cats.
I have a very happy family and a Sig. Other who respects who I am and I in turn worship the ground he walks on because he does not try to stifle my voice and he knows his place as the head of our home, he does not need me to do a special dance, walk on egg shells etc to proof it to him. I feel very sad because we, the mothers have raised entitled men who do not know that their place is at the top and when the family structure is broken or breaking, it is due in part to the heads being slack in their duties. I am not a fan of the uptick trend in divorces and single motherhood but SirShymex, these women that you look down on are not divorcing themselves or reproducing by themselves. There are some (a small number by the way) who enjoy the fantasy of having babies but as a man, as a potential head of a household, you should be mindful of the women you lay with. Yes, the woman bears the brunt of an unwanted pregnancy and she should also be careful but I am addressing my young men because y'all are screaming we are the heads, we are superior and you are acting otherwise.

Our "Heads" are failing woefully and I do not know if it is pride, ego what you might call it but nothing is being done to correct this problem. You pass out these lists to women and what are the men doing to prepare to be better husbands and fathers...nothing. What are you doing to prepare yourselves to pick compatible spouses? Instead, you are steady picking women that are not ready to fill the roles you so badly want them to fill.

Please do not get me wrong, there are some misled, downright horrible women out there but the rate at which some of you complain on here, one would think all Nigerian women are neck twisting, man bashing, control freaks. Gentlemen, if you are running into "unfit" women time and time again, check yourself.
If I was not married and I did not know other married couples, I would be scared of what this upcoming generation of husbands will look like. Rants and rants, threads shouting down anyone that dares speak up for herself(are some of the ladies going about it the wrong way...yea) but please talk to happily married men, let them tell you what they are doing right. Don't be a man that is quick to call a woman out by all kinds of names...wow. A good woman still embarrasses the tenets of marriage but you will get kickback if you continue to hold an oppressive mentality (afterall, you can only hold a person down for so long).

When people complain about Naija, they do not blame anyone but the "Head", the blame does not go first to the 2nd in command. Young Men, you need to take your place as the heads and stop being so whiny (no offense). The breakdown in the family structure is not solely the woman's fault.

As for the list, I thank goodness most men are not walking around wielding To Do's in the faces of women. Look, find a woman that is compatible to your vision and goals in life. If both of you are on the same page, you will grow together in love and raise a family of champions. All these lists smack of a whole lot of something bad. I am truly worried for some of my young brothers on this forum.

Forgive the length, I tend to be wordy.

Story for the gods! Guys out there, if your wife is rude to you, cain her until she submits, Allah doesn't forbid it. Marry as many woMEN as you can afford, never give your power to these girls. Women actually think they have a say. Woe betide a woman that does not submit, divorce her and send her back to her father's house. Nincompoops!!!








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Huh,see story,is that all,cos I was thinking it was an endless list of ways African women can die Prematurely. bro,u try,I will support d woman u will marry with prayer

Misogynist2014:
Story for the gods! Guys out there, if your wife is rude to you, cain her until she submits, Allah doesn't forbid it. Marry as many woMEN as you can afford, never give your power to these girls. Women actually think they have a say. Woe betide a woman that does not submit, divorce her and send her back to her father's house. Nincompoops!!!








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u must have learnt this ur caining habits from someone; ur forefathers. No sane and matured man will cain his wife. If a man cains ur daughter, will u praise him for that. You say sen woman back to her father. Who will ur daughterls husband send her back to? No be u?. Men u shld have strive to have honour too nt just ego.

holahmihdeh:

You say sen woman back to her father. Who will ur daughterls husband send her back to? No be u?. Men u shld have strive to have honour too nt just ego.

You should know he'll train his daughter up proper. Only mumu women get returned to sender.

jumbotron:
I am utterly confused by what is going on in the minds of young Nigerian men and women. If someone had the time to write this lengthy list and expect everyone to agree, fully insult people with different opinions, we should have more young people at the fore fighting for a better Nigeria with the same passion.

I am a mother & wife and what many young men on this forum would call a feminist due to my beliefs, unfortunately a lot of us do not even know the difference between a feminist and an obnoxious woman. Apparently, to the nairaland man once you have a differing opinion, you are a feminist that will die a lonely spinster with 30 cats.
I have a very happy family and a Sig. Other who respects who I am and I in turn worship the ground he walks on because he does not try to stifle my voice and he knows his place as the head of our home, he does not need me to do a special dance, walk on egg shells etc to proof it to him. I feel very sad because we, the mothers have raised entitled men who do not know that their place is at the top and when the family structure is broken or breaking, it is due in part to the heads being slack in their duties. I am not a fan of the uptick trend in divorces and single motherhood but SirShymex, these women that you look down on are not divorcing themselves or reproducing by themselves. There are some (a small number by the way) who enjoy the fantasy of having babies but as a man, as a potential head of a household, you should be mindful of the women you lay with. Yes, the woman bears the brunt of an unwanted pregnancy and she should also be careful but I am addressing my young men because y'all are screaming we are the heads, we are superior and you are acting otherwise.

Our "Heads" are failing woefully and I do not know if it is pride, ego what you might call it but nothing is being done to correct this problem. You pass out these lists to women and what are the men doing to prepare to be better husbands and fathers...nothing. What are you doing to prepare yourselves to pick compatible spouses? Instead, you are steady picking women that are not ready to fill the roles you so badly want them to fill.

Please do not get me wrong, there are some misled, downright horrible women out there but the rate at which some of you complain on here, one would think all Nigerian women are neck twisting, man bashing, control freaks. Gentlemen, if you are running into "unfit" women time and time again, check yourself.
If I was not married and I did not know other married couples, I would be scared of what this upcoming generation of husbands will look like. Rants and rants, threads shouting down anyone that dares speak up for herself(are some of the ladies going about it the wrong way...yea) but please talk to happily married men, let them tell you what they are doing right. Don't be a man that is quick to call a woman out by all kinds of names...wow. A good woman still embarrasses the tenets of marriage but you will get kickback if you continue to hold an oppressive mentality (afterall, you can only hold a person down for so long).

When people complain about Naija, they do not blame anyone but the "Head", the blame does not go first to the 2nd in command. Young Men, you need to take your place as the heads and stop being so whiny (no offense). The breakdown in the family structure is not solely the woman's fault.

As for the list, I thank goodness most men are not walking around wielding To Do's in the faces of women. Look, find a woman that is compatible to your vision and goals in life. If both of you are on the same page, you will grow together in love and raise a family of champions. All these lists smack of a whole lot of something bad. I am truly worried for some of my young brothers on this forum.

Forgive the length, I tend to be wordy.

Ma'am, in as much as I think the women are largely to blame for single mum households in the UK (men are also complicit in it but to a lesser extent) because the law favours them, and they always use it to their own advantage. I think most of the clowning we do on here are about scandalous biitches, and not good women. And like I've always said, there are two types of women: scandalous biitches and good women.

Also, whenever you see 50calibre and I doing our normal banter. It's just basically guys' chat, with no holds barred and no filter. The same way guys do whenever they're together talking about different topics: from sports, to career, to life, to movies, to women etc.. Hence we always drift from one subject-matter to the other. Thus derailing the threads most times in the process. We're just brash with no manners, and that comes with the territory, especially when you're assertive. It also comes with being real and not trying to protect a fictitious image, on a faceless forum. We just say it as it's, and damn the consequences. And if folks want to catch feelings on that, that's their prerogative.

However, whatever we say isn't about all women. We know there are tons of great women out there. Even as fvcked up as this forum is with all kinds of weirdos and obnoxious duffers, who always want to push their insecurities and self-esteem on you for saying it as it's. I'd say I can sift through all the airheads, and impulsive weirdos - and cite four female posters on here that are decent based on our conversations. Also, I know loads of decent chics offline. And I'll never disrespect and malign folks like that. They're queens.

Regardless, don't fret, we're high fliers with good heads on our shoulders. And a lot of black men who don't always go out of their way to appease scandalous women like white knights - the non-conformists to stupid trends - are achieving greatness. We're old school and we see the world through our pops' eyes, coupled with our uniqueness of our experiences. So, you should know we've got the skill-set to exert authority as the head of the family. Hence we're always keen to maintain a certain standard of what a virtuous woman should be, while putting the scandalous ones in check. And when we're in a mental space to select the right partners, we'll always go for women who would complement, and inspire us - with the same outlook to life.

Anyway, thanks for the post and may God bless ya marriage. However, I wouldn't call you a feminist because you're family oriented, and you asserted that you also worship the floor your husband walks on. Also, you believe he's the ordained/natural head of the family. I think you're a womanist, and I like that.

Shalom black queen!

This is the most misogynistic thread I have ever seen on Nairaland ...

And to think I read one or two racist comments from a fellow black man is most shocking!!!

Vivipop:
And this everlasting epistle just to satisfy and keep an African man?. You are either A very weird individual or your heart has been shattered beyond repair by a very wicked woman.(NO offence). You could have just summarised these in two or three sentences instead of making it look like a whole day job. Love and respect should be the burning fuel of every relationship. I fear who no fear you o!

I love your comment, tell them

freshdude2:
You should know he'll train his daughter up proper. Only mum women get returned to sender.

And tell me any gud training a wife beater will give to his daughter(s). Funny!!

Sophyrocks:
Look at this list. Too many unrealistic expectations. More like fantasies of the typical african man living in the stone age forgetting the world is constantly changing everyday. Wake up!! You think real life is all about lists? woman wey go attempt all these ones go die off like chicken and surprisingly her typical african husband go marry woman wey no fit do 5 in this list.

There is nothing unrealistic about that list, my sister. The list may be long, but the watchword there is sincerity, openness,submissiveness, respect, and regard for her man. Long life and happy marriage is not a Stone Age phenomenon;it is everlasting and timeless, and these are the ingredients. The problem is that we have been to ingrained and imbroiled in too much Westernisation. That's the truth. And what's more, these are the simple tips to a successful marriage. The op is helping ladies out.

freshdude2:
Aisha2, what's your problem with this list? Objectively speaking, that is. Would appreciate a reply.

Most of the men i know about 70 percent put thier families first and dont go acting like babies who need 24 hours watching.

Being a man in Africa especially Nigeria is not easy abeg. Traffic, work, and family i also hail those who keep it all together and their sanity. No light, no water, poor security etc. Yet they work hard to keep it all together. These men are different from those published on that list who are made to look like spoilt helpless babies, we are adults, we make choices and live with the consequences. Having a home is a choice, men have responsibility and women have responsibility, men should love their wives unconditionally and protect them just as Christ did for us.

Women should submit to that love and not take it for granted. Being a head is not just about benefits but about responsibility, if it goes well the head takes the glory if it goes bad head takes the blame but what we do these days ia just highlight benefits of headship then lay the responsibility of making a marriage work on the womans feet.

I have seen so many changes in recent years, African men moving from what has been the norm, before it was a taboo for a man to be seen near the kitchen these days its even a thing of pride as they show off on social media. I have so many male friends who now write wills as soon as they marry or have kids, i see men shopping for thier families and carrying kids which if it was years ago the men would be asked to go for deliverance from his wifes juju.

I gre up with a great father who supported my mom by raising us while she was at the peak of her career, i have seen my in laws sacrfice so much for their wives and kids even when their wives may be far from perfect and i have a husband who has literally laid his life down for me. Just After we met i feel ill, it wasnt moi moi sickness, one would expect a man just getting to know a woman to run after all we were not even that serious then but the level and extent he went to keep me healthy and alive still shocks me.

Hence i have a problem with a list that presents men to young impressionable young men and women as almost senseless babies to be waited on hands on foot before they can give you any love or respect.

SirShymex:


Most of these folks just don't understand what being western is and the mentality. They only follow what they see on TV and jump on useless bandwagon everywhere. I'd say a lot of educated white folks prefer the so-called "primitive" African culture, to the fraudulent chaos these folks are creating for "modern" Africa. That's why a top white lawyer in the city can leave his high paying job, and move all the way to South Africa, to live among the Zulu villagers. A lot of them are out there in Kenya with the Masai warriors etc..

Hence they're the ones discovering all the buried treasures of Africa and its history...and are also the ones telling African people their own story the way they want it to be told.

Tell them!! Africans are the only ones who see their culture as more of a burden so they strive to dissociate themselves from it in a bid to appear more civilised. That's not civilisation, it's inferiority complex, the number of Nigerians adopting fake accents these days, attests to this fact.

It's really pathetic, Africa is entering a new age of enslavement, self-enslavement if you will. Looks at its entertainment industry, you'd see a continent fast losing its originality.

Damn! I slept of real early yesterday, after a long summer, my body is trying to adapt to the cold.

aisha2:


Most of the men i know about 70 percent put thier families first and dont go acting like babies who need 24 hours watching.

Being a man in Africa especially Nigeria is not easy abeg. Traffic, work, and family i also hail those who keep it all together and their sanity. No light, no water, poor security etc. Yet they work hard to keep it all together. These men are different from those published on that list who are made to look like spoilt helpless babies, we are adults, we make choices and live with the consequences. Having a home is a choice, men have responsibility and women have responsibility, men should love their wives unconditionally and protect them just as Christ did for us.

Women should submit to that love and not take it for granted. Being a head is not just about benefits but about responsibility, if it goes well the head takes the glory if it goes bad head takes the blame but what we do these days ia just highlight benefits of headship then lay the responsibility of making a marriage work on the womans feet.

I have seen so many changes in recent years, African men moving from what has been the norm, before it was a taboo for a man to be seen near the kitchen these days its even a thing of pride as they show off on social media. I have so many male friends who now write wills as soon as they marry or have kids, i see men shopping for thier families and carrying kids which if it was years ago the men would be asked to go for deliverance from his wifes juju.

I gre up with a great father who supported my mom by raising us while she was at the peak of her career, i have seen my in laws sacrfice so much for their wives and kids even when their wives may be far from perfect and i have a husband who has literally laid his life down for me. Just After we met i feel ill, it wasnt moi moi sickness, one would expect a man just getting to know a woman to run after all we were not even that serious then but the level and extent he went to keep me healthy and alive still shocks me.

Hence i have a problem with a list that presents men to young impressionable young men and women as almost senseless babies to be waited on hands on foot before they can give you any love or respect.

Spot on. It would have made perfect sense if this your comment was the post itself. Please teach them sense!!! The Op himself has a lot of work to do on his dying self esteem. He has serious issues. thats for sure.

poik:



There is nothing unrealistic about that list, my sister. The list may be long, but the watchword there is sincerity, openness,submissiveness, respect, and regard for her man. Long life and happy marriage is not a Stone Age phenomenon;it is everlasting and timeless, and these are the ingredients. The problem is that we have been to ingrained and imbroiled in too much Westernisation. That's the truth. And what's more, these are the simple tips to a successful marriage. The op is helping ladies out.

Helping who out? he is fantasizing. Goodluck in his searrch for perfection. he has a lot of work to do on himself. he has issues. women have dealt with him. He strikes me as an emotionally and physically abusive person

Williamso:
This is the most misogynistic thread I have ever seen on Nairaland ...

And to think I read one or two racist comments from a fellow black man is most shocking!!!

Wonderful thouht you have. you see why most of the ladies here are against the Op. Its wonderful thhat a male like you can see what we are seeing. You must have been properly trained by your parents.

Callfubu:
som1 actually took his time to write this long story, instead of looking for the perfect woman, why not be the perfect man.

Thank you. he is looking a perfect wife that will do all of the above when he cannot even do 3! Fantasy no ni!!

Nmeri17:
OP please. please and please. visit the jobs/vacancy section of nairaland. You need to be gainfully employed and occupied with some something meaningful. get an occupation mbok

Haahahahahahahaha.

ebdib:
Trash thread by a misogynistic pig.

Spits on thread.

OP. Please get married to a doll. That doll will fulfill all these useless requirements.

Spot on!! And this is coming from a male? Halleluuuuuuuuuyah!!!!

jumbotron:
I am utterly confused by what is going on in the minds of young Nigerian men and women. If someone had the time to write this lengthy list and expect everyone to agree, fully insult people with different opinions, we should have more young people at the fore fighting for a better Nigeria with the same passion.

I am a mother & wife and what many young men on this forum would call a feminist due to my beliefs, unfortunately a lot of us do not even know the difference between a feminist and an obnoxious woman. Apparently, to the nairaland man once you have a differing opinion, you are a feminist that will die a lonely spinster with 30 cats.
I have a very happy family and a Sig. Other who respects who I am and I in turn worship the ground he walks on because he does not try to stifle my voice and he knows his place as the head of our home, he does not need me to do a special dance, walk on egg shells etc to proof it to him. I feel very sad because we, the mothers have raised entitled men who do not know that their place is at the top and when the family structure is broken or breaking, it is due in part to the heads being slack in their duties. I am not a fan of the uptick trend in divorces and single motherhood but SirShymex, these women that you look down on are not divorcing themselves or reproducing by themselves. There are some (a small number by the way) who enjoy the fantasy of having babies but as a man, as a potential head of a household, you should be mindful of the women you lay with. Yes, the woman bears the brunt of an unwanted pregnancy and she should also be careful but I am addressing my young men because y'all are screaming we are the heads, we are superior and you are acting otherwise.

Our "Heads" are failing woefully and I do not know if it is pride, ego what you might call it but nothing is being done to correct this problem. You pass out these lists to women and what are the men doing to prepare to be better husbands and fathers...nothing. What are you doing to prepare yourselves to pick compatible spouses? Instead, you are steady picking women that are not ready to fill the roles you so badly want them to fill.

Please do not get me wrong, there are some misled, downright horrible women out there but the rate at which some of you complain on here, one would think all Nigerian women are neck twisting, man bashing, control freaks. Gentlemen, if you are running into "unfit" women time and time again, check yourself.
If I was not married and I did not know other married couples, I would be scared of what this upcoming generation of husbands will look like. Rants and rants, threads shouting down anyone that dares speak up for herself(are some of the ladies going about it the wrong way...yea) but please talk to happily married men, let them tell you what they are doing right. Don't be a man that is quick to call a woman out by all kinds of names...wow. A good woman still embarrasses the tenets of marriage but you will get kickback if you continue to hold an oppressive mentality (afterall, you can only hold a person down for so long).

When people complain about Naija, they do not blame anyone but the "Head", the blame does not go first to the 2nd in command. Young Men, you need to take your place as the heads and stop being so whiny (no offense). The breakdown in the family structure is not solely the woman's fault.

As for the list, I thank goodness most men are not walking around wielding To Do's in the faces of women. Look, find a woman that is compatible to your vision and goals in life. If both of you are on the same page, you will grow together in love and raise a family of champions. All these lists smack of a whole lot of something bad. I am truly worried for some of my young brothers on this forum.

Forgive the length, I tend to be wordy.

GBAM. Your observations of Nairaland are absolutely correct. I have said it that the nagging by the so called men in this site is tooooooo much that i am begining to doubt their manhood sef. Whining and whining 24/7. it beats me. seriously i have told the Op to work on himself. he has a lot of unresolved issues and he would transfer his garbage to his marriage if care isnt taken. just look at his list one more time. RIDICULOUS!!! Instead of the babies here crying to go and look for real men to learn one or two things they are doing right, they are here whiniing, trying all they can to force their insecuritiees down our throats just as the Op was trying to do!!

God will continue bless you and your family. You husband must be a wonderful man, a true african man not all these babies claiming to be men.

that list makes me sick. sounds like a holy list for stone age woman, who haven't seen further her village.
to be honest if man needs everything in that list- he is p*ssy! and i would really consider to take him into marriage or not. after all everything depends on woman- she will marry u or not, she will give u children or not. so males shouldn't overestimate themselves! what i can give-i can easily take back!
P.S. will never ever respect woman who is dependent on her husband. there must be partnership and equal rights. woman who relies solely on man is not person at all. after he dies she's learning how to live again like 5 year old

SirShymex:


Lol, she is just trolling. European women love Masai warriors to death. A lot them travel to Kenya to get hitched with them. Ditto the Zulus with spears.

All she has to do is use google. I have read tons of stories on UK dailies about beautiful British women travelling all the way to Kenya to find Masai warriors to hook up with loooooool.

beautiful british women?? where have u seen them? for me, as european, uk and ie women are most unattractive females in europe

3cycle:
The scripture said "wife submit to your husband" just one instruction and mere dust is giving me a list?
Funny

carries anointing oil and pours on 3cycle's head, murmurs prayers and blessings on 3cycle for this comment. May you have a perfect for this comment.

"mere dust"

Sophyrocks:


Wonderful thouht you have. you see why most of the ladies here are against the Op. Its wonderful thhat a male like you can see what we are seeing. You must have been properly trained by your parents.

I am not on your side!!! Inasmuch as I detest feminism (granted, a lot of nairalanders being labelled as feminists by the male folk are NOT feminists, but merely advocate better treatment from the society, which I actually support), I WILL NEVER SUPPORT MISOGYNY AND MALE CHAUVINISM!!!

Williamso:


I am not on your side!!! Inasmuch as I detest feminism (granted, a lot of nairalanders being labelled as feminists by the male folk are NOT feminists, but merely advocate better treatment from the society, which I actually support), I WILL NEVER SUPPORT MISOGYNY AND MALE CHAUVINISM!!!

You not supporting misogyny and male chauvinism has made you on my side already.

Nice comment though.

jumbotron:
I am utterly confused by what is going on in the minds of young Nigerian men and women. If someone had the time to write this lengthy list and expect everyone to agree, fully insult people with different opinions, we should have more young people at the fore fighting for a better Nigeria with the same passion.

I am a mother & wife and what many young men on this forum would call a feminist due to my beliefs, unfortunately a lot of us do not even know the difference between a feminist and an obnoxious woman. Apparently, to the nairaland man once you have a differing opinion, you are a feminist that will die a lonely spinster with 30 cats.
I have a very happy family and a Sig. Other who respects who I am and I in turn worship the ground he walks on because he does not try to stifle my voice and he knows his place as the head of our home, he does not need me to do a special dance, walk on egg shells etc to proof it to him. I feel very sad because we, the mothers have raised entitled men who do not know that their place is at the top and when the family structure is broken or breaking, it is due in part to the heads being slack in their duties. I am not a fan of the uptick trend in divorces and single motherhood but SirShymex, these women that you look down on are not divorcing themselves or reproducing by themselves. There are some (a small number by the way) who enjoy the fantasy of having babies but as a man, as a potential head of a household, you should be mindful of the women you lay with. Yes, the woman bears the brunt of an unwanted pregnancy and she should also be careful but I am addressing my young men because y'all are screaming we are the heads, we are superior and you are acting otherwise.

Our "Heads" are failing woefully and I do not know if it is pride, ego what you might call it but nothing is being done to correct this problem. You pass out these lists to women and what are the men doing to prepare to be better husbands and fathers...nothing. What are you doing to prepare yourselves to pick compatible spouses? Instead, you are steady picking women that are not ready to fill the roles you so badly want them to fill.

Please do not get me wrong, there are some misled, downright horrible women out there but the rate at which some of you complain on here, one would think all Nigerian women are neck twisting, man bashing, control freaks. Gentlemen, if you are running into "unfit" women time and time again, check yourself.
If I was not married and I did not know other married couples, I would be scared of what this upcoming generation of husbands will look like. Rants and rants, threads shouting down anyone that dares speak up for herself(are some of the ladies going about it the wrong way...yea) but please talk to happily married men, let them tell you what they are doing right. Don't be a man that is quick to call a woman out by all kinds of names...wow. A good woman still embarrasses the tenets of marriage but you will get kickback if you continue to hold an oppressive mentality (afterall, you can only hold a person down for so long).

When people complain about Naija, they do not blame anyone but the "Head", the blame does not go first to the 2nd in command. Young Men, you need to take your place as the heads and stop being so whiny (no offense). The breakdown in the family structure is not solely the woman's fault.

As for the list, I thank goodness most men are not walking around wielding To Do's in the faces of women. Look, find a woman that is compatible to your vision and goals in life. If both of you are on the same page, you will grow together in love and raise a family of champions. All these lists smack of a whole lot of something bad. I am truly worried for some of my young brothers on this forum.

Forgive the length, I tend to be wordy.

God bless you. I read your post and I realised that you just wrote everything in my mind. Thank you. Badly behaved men want well behaved women. An insultive man wants a lady without a voice because when you have a voice, you are a feminist. A head usually gets the blame when things go wrong but some men now want to be the head while the woman gets the blame when things go wrong. These men want a happy home but don't want to work for it instead as usuall, only the woman should work for it. Married men in happy homes know that they work hard on their marriage too. Honestly our generation is actually beginning to see the effect of men brought up in dysfunctional families.

jumbotron:
I am utterly confused by what is going on in the minds of young Nigerian men and women. If someone had the time to write this lengthy list and expect everyone to agree, fully insult people with different opinions, we should have more young people at the fore fighting for a better Nigeria with the same passion.

I am a mother & wife and what many young men on this forum would call a feminist due to my beliefs, unfortunately a lot of us do not even know the difference between a feminist and an obnoxious woman. Apparently, to the nairaland man once you have a differing opinion, you are a feminist that will die a lonely spinster with 30 cats.
I have a very happy family and a Sig. Other who respects who I am and I in turn worship the ground he walks on because he does not try to stifle my voice and he knows his place as the head of our home, he does not need me to do a special dance, walk on egg shells etc to proof it to him. I feel very sad because we, the mothers have raised entitled men who do not know that their place is at the top and when the family structure is broken or breaking, it is due in part to the heads being slack in their duties. I am not a fan of the uptick trend in divorces and single motherhood but SirShymex, these women that you look down on are not divorcing themselves or reproducing by themselves. There are some (a small number by the way) who enjoy the fantasy of having babies but as a man, as a potential head of a household, you should be mindful of the women you lay with. Yes, the woman bears the brunt of an unwanted pregnancy and she should also be careful but I am addressing my young men because y'all are screaming we are the heads, we are superior and you are acting otherwise.

Our "Heads" are failing woefully and I do not know if it is pride, ego what you might call it but nothing is being done to correct this problem. You pass out these lists to women and what are the men doing to prepare to be better husbands and fathers...nothing. What are you doing to prepare yourselves to pick compatible spouses? Instead, you are steady picking women that are not ready to fill the roles you so badly want them to fill.

Please do not get me wrong, there are some misled, downright horrible women out there but the rate at which some of you complain on here, one would think all Nigerian women are neck twisting, man bashing, control freaks. Gentlemen, if you are running into "unfit" women time and time again, check yourself.
If I was not married and I did not know other married couples, I would be scared of what this upcoming generation of husbands will look like. Rants and rants, threads shouting down anyone that dares speak up for herself(are some of the ladies going about it the wrong way...yea) but please talk to happily married men, let them tell you what they are doing right. Don't be a man that is quick to call a woman out by all kinds of names...wow. A good woman still embarrasses the tenets of marriage but you will get kickback if you continue to hold an oppressive mentality (afterall, you can only hold a person down for so long).

When people complain about Naija, they do not blame anyone but the "Head", the blame does not go first to the 2nd in command. Young Men, you need to take your place as the heads and stop being so whiny (no offense). The breakdown in the family structure is not solely the woman's fault.

As for the list, I thank goodness most men are not walking around wielding To Do's in the faces of women. Look, find a woman that is compatible to your vision and goals in life. If both of you are on the same page, you will grow together in love and raise a family of champions. All these lists smack of a whole lot of something bad. I am truly worried for some of my young brothers on this forum.

Forgive the length, I tend to be wordy.

May I get to know you in real life? Please I may be settling down soon and gosh I need people like you in my life. Nigerian marriages sound terrifying, nightmarishly bad and horrible, especially when you read NL and the men commenting on it. You, on the other hand, are mature and calm and have respect and are respected by your spouse. So I need to come and learn from good example.

babygirlfl:


God bless you. I read your post and I realised that you just wrote everything in my mind. Thank you. Badly behaved men want well behaved women. An insultive man wants a lady without a voice because when you have a voice, you are a feminist. A head usually gets the blame when things go wrong but some men now want to be the head while the woman gets the blame when things go wrong. These men want a happy home but don't want to work for it instead as usuall, only the woman should work for it. Married men in happy homes know that they work hard on their marriage too. Honestly our generation is actually beginning to see the effect of men brought up in dysfunctional families.

Exactly my thoughts.