marieolae:
earn what? This is your wife, not your street girlfriend darling.

There lies the reason why some "good" men sometimes misbehave.
A wife must earn the love and respect of her husband. It is not a right.
As a man is expected to love and cherish his wife, she has to love and honour her man.
If she doesn't, how can he love and cherish her? How can one cherish a source of dishonour, disrespect, anger or shame?

To put this in perspective; the bible set an extremely high standard for a husband, to love his wife as Christ loved the church and gave his life for her (Heb 5:25) - which means to love her more than himself hence the ability to give his life for her if need be.
This is a higher demand than the instruction to love your neighbor as yourself.

However, keep in mind that even though Christ died for us all even when we were/are still in sin, it is ONLY THOSE WHO ACCEPT HIS SACRIFICE THAT WILL BE SAVED. The act of acceptance = repentance = earning the right to be called a child of God.
If God's love was just given to the deserving and undeserving alike, then Hell would be completely vacant. Rather it is offered to all alike and ONLY those who accept and work to earn that love that will actually receive it.

So even if we are expected to love our wives unconditionally and selflessly, remember that it is only those who love us back and accept us that will earn that love. Not just someone who is a wife by title/ring/name and not by submission and deeds.

Same goes for men who go about cheating. You don't earn a woman's love and heart by breaking it at every opportunity you get. If you dishonour her and expect respect and honour from her; You will get none and probably get a just punishment instead.

For the 'no long thing version':
We reap what we sow......

ireneony:
if only men will abide to this rules this life would have been very easy

lol hear talk o.

afamgod:
My dear, any serious minded man can keep to these rules and even much more. It does not necessarily need a perfect man.

Thank you so much!

If she do me No.2,i wil do her No.1, if she do me No.4 i wil do her No.3,if she do me No.8,i wil do her No.6 and 7,if she do me No.9,i wil do her No.5 and 10...na she go determine wetin happen.

Mynd44:
Does any guy need to be told these? They go without saying jare

Bros, u still dey alive? I think say u don kpai even b4 world war II?

Lilamartedi:

I see.
You believed me.

ireneony:
if only men will abide to this rules this life would have been very easy

abi oo

clevvermind:
These are ten things you should never do to your wife.

1. Never cheat on your wife.

2. Never deny your wife sex.

3. Never beat your wife. Whether slap or blows.

4. Never call your wife names such as witch, whor'e, b'itch, fool etc.

5. Never hate your wife. Only love your wife.

6. Never cease to buy your wife good gifts.

7. Never cease to give your wife money for market and her upkeep.

8. Never cease to pray for your wife.

9. Never cease to call your sweet names. Always tell her sweet words.

10. Never cease to defend and protect your wife.

So help us God.

Life itself is no bed of roses, so you cant possibly/literally do all the above just to pls a soul. Do your best and take what life gives to you and move on.

coolsix:
When you are irresponsible as a man.. You don't expect your wife to show you so much love and respect. Anything that goes between a man and a woman is started by the man.. Reading the previous comments made me ashamed of those young men who would be husbands tomorrow.

Someone saying what does the husband get in return... Is a stupid question.. So you are loving the wife for something in return? Means you don't love her.. Let her go back to her father's house

Do it first.. And leave the rest... Your wife does not need to earn anything.. She deserves everything. It is when she does not reciprocate the love, leave her for God or file for divorce.. But waiting for her to earn it is disappointing and shameful of a man.. It irresponsibility

Forget long story abeg. Nothing wrong for a man to love his wife but life itself does not give maximum pleasure. She cant get all well going for her.

Mynd44:
Does any guy need to be told these? They go without saying jare

emmh' are you taken? i like you walahi....you will make a good husband....but

Mutuwa:


If only women will try to make men abide to this rules,this life would have been very easy.

LMAO

Rules, rules, everywhere....all it takes is a little common sense and plenty of love. If u truly love your partner, u don't need these rules, u will behave responsibly.
My humble submission

Hmmmmmm.......,utopia! 'If she fights for me den i ll fight for us' kpichikom

clevvermind:
These are ten things you should never do to your wife.

1. Never cheat on your wife.

2. Never deny your wife sex.

3. Never beat your wife. Whether slap or blows.

4. Never call your wife names such as witch, whor'e, b'itch, fool etc.

5. Never hate your wife. Only love your wife.

6. Never cease to buy your wife good gifts.

7. Never cease to give your wife money for market and her upkeep.

8. Never cease to pray for your wife.

9. Never cease to call your sweet names. Always tell her sweet words.

10. Never cease to defend and protect your wife.

So help us God.

Nothing new here though and as for me , she has to earn it and she is getting there by the day so its not a big deal

AMEN : SIGNED FUTURE FAITHFUL LOYAL HUSBANDS

Only mumu will keep to all this rules. A lady once told me she enjoys receiving beating from her boy friend.

RedBenson:


Forget long story abeg. Nothing wrong for a man to love his wife but life itself does not give maximum pleasure. She cant get all well going for her.

In short,best post so far on the thread,even Baba God wont grant 100% our desires talkless of a mere human.
#memory saved

RedBenson:

Forget long story abeg. Nothing wrong for a man to love his wife but life itself does not give maximum pleasure. She cant get all well going for her.

Seconded.

As usual. I know I will never read anything reasonable from the men. How typical. Looking at the 5th page alone makes me wonder whether these people have mothers at all.tufiaaaaaa

marieolae:
earn what? This is your wife, not your street girlfriend darling.

Jesus said; men love your wife as Christ loved the church, and women respect your husbands as church respect Christ.

So play your owner part if you want to earn your man's love.

And if they don't ? Heaven will not fall. The fact remains some will adhere to it while some will not due to the wife's inadequacies

@Clevvermind you are a very good man.

Egomah:
Sounds nice, but...she has to earn it

For christsakes she's your wife , she deserves it

What do you mean by unconditional love? Are you Jesus? Or you don't the meaning of unconditional love? Can you love a cheat, disrespectful, disloyal woman unconditionally?
You have to earn something in life to have it. You can love someone who doesn't have your best interest at heart.

KLand:


If she has to earn it, then your love for her is conditional. Whatever happened to UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?

Nothing is impossible

touchmeder:
@Clevvermind you are a very good man.

thanks.

And she should never again compare with papa Bose, our neighbour

And she should never again compare me with papa Bose - her friend's husband, who are our neighbours

ireneony:
why must u reply me get likes

Ah na so I see am o Ma..but u know two things in life that destroys a man sharply are:

Money, and
Women...respectively.

fairlyisabel:

emmh' are you taken? i like you walahi....you will make a good husband....but

If i hear!

SAMBARRY:
As usual. I know I will never read anything reasonable from the men. How typical. Looking at the 5th page alone makes me wonder whether these people have mothers at all.tufiaaaaaa

Of course we have mothers, and they (our mothers) cannot be said to have all from our dads. So why then should we (the young ones) change the modus operandi to be giving all to our own wives? Life itself is hard o...incase you didnt know.

RedBenson:


Of course we have mothers, and they (our mothers) cannot be said to have all from our dads. So why then should we (the young ones) change the modus operandi to be giving all to our own wives? Life itself is hard o...incase you didnt know.

then keep winning eternally and begging women to be submissive and or loyal