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Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by tinyanosa(f): 2:16pm On Jan 07, 2015
Total abstainer from every thing that the body want and total submission to him.,when you do this,your mind is open for God to speak your mind is the door way to your inner man(your spirit) remember God talks to your spirit.
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by bundur(m): 2:27pm On Jan 07, 2015
robosky02:

with the new year around. lots of churches seem to be holding fasting programme. raging from 7 days to as much as 100 days fasting. a question that was put to me by a newly wedded woman is this:

"What scriptures teach that fasting and/or refraining from sex during a fast, and/or denying oneself lovemaking to your spouse? I am a newlywed and my husband told me that when a person fasts he/she cannot have sexual relationships. You must deny your flesh of all pleasures. Is it true? What scriptures back this up?"

thus my question to the house

it is proper to have sex during fasting period?
or
what level of intimacy is ok?
or
how should one behave is is total abstannace eg for those doing 100 days?

note this is very seroius. so your contribution is vital

thanks
is d op making a statement or asking a question
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by Larga(m): 2:34pm On Jan 07, 2015
Normally, eating food is Not a sin. But you doN't eat food during sex.
Same way... Couples sex is Not a sin; but you doN't need sex, when you fast/pray. ( Just like you deny food 4d fast/prayer).
The significance of Fast/prayer is to separate your body from the "normal" satisfactions

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Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by Rapture4real(m): 2:36pm On Jan 07, 2015
Have sex after you break 'your fast in the night and continue the fast next day.Paul said it must be consentual and don't refrain to avoid temptation.God can still answer your prayer without fasting as for the newlywed.
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by Medinat20(f): 2:37pm On Jan 07, 2015
Am not married ..I am not sure smiley
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by thrillmedear(m): 2:47pm On Jan 07, 2015
U fast to connect spirituall and leave d body aside but if u must have sex with ur hubby, pls dont fast
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by buccunmie(m): 2:58pm On Jan 07, 2015
No, I don't think its ok. I feel you must be pure all thru the period of fast.
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by donPhill(m): 3:09pm On Jan 07, 2015
bross na question abi na statement?...ur topic is confusing...
Bt if na question bross e no make sense make u kwambe during fastin na
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by emiye(m): 3:09pm On Jan 07, 2015
The answer to the question can be found in this question: Is it proper to eat during fasting period?

I guess during 40 day, 100day, etc fasting, people undergoing fasting have cause to eat during this period, don't they?
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by egbose(m): 3:09pm On Jan 07, 2015
You can have limited sex when fasting. Because it will be a sin on your part , if you don't met the sexual need of your spouse when fasting i.e when you are married. These things can break a home and it has broken many home. As a Christian having sex during fasting is allowed , if you are married because GOD ordain the institution of marriege.

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Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by SegzyJoe(m): 3:16pm On Jan 07, 2015
@post Food and sex are meant to replenish the body. When you break your fasting in the evening, you eat food, drink water, soft drinks or wine, why can't you have sex? Sex is allowed when you have broken your fasting, but caution should be applied to avoid serious health risk.

secondly, according to the book of Corinthians, the decision must be taken by both parties. In order words, if one of the party disagree on no sex, they other should comply and have sex with their spouse.

Thirdly, Sex in marriage is not a SIN. Sex in marriage is HOLY and is an act of WORSHIP to God. Many marriages experiencing storms in today's society is directly or indirectly related to sexual problems in marriage. Any religious practice that reaches against sex in marriage during period of extended fasting will be contributing to an already worst situation.

I participated in the 100 days fasting, this question was raised, we researched views of many ministers of God and found out that sex is allowed during fasting, as it is an act of worship and holy before the Lord. One may abstain from sex during the active fasting period as in morning to evening, but after breaking and eating of food, if couples intend to have sex, they are free to do so. Fasting essentially is to deny one of pleasure (food) in order to seek the fact of God. But when we eat after daily fasting, nothing should also stop us from having sex.

My advise to young couples and those looking for the fruit of the womb is not to stay away from sex even during fasting, but should be done as appropriate.

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Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by berepiki(m): 3:22pm On Jan 07, 2015
rittyben:
For married people, there is nothing wrong with it. Except u have and agreement or understanding with ur spouse. But if u don't, well u have to give it to him or her if they want it. The bible says that.
.. 1COR7:5... Avoiding sex during fasting is good n helpful buh both MUST Agree, 1COR7 :6.
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by robosky02(m): 3:50pm On Jan 07, 2015
SegzyJoe:
@post Food and sex are meant to replenish the body. When you break your fasting in the evening, you eat food, drink water, soft drinks or wine, why can't you have sex? Sex is allowed when you have broken your fasting, but caution should be applied to avoid serious health risk.

secondly, according to the book of Corinthians, the decision must be taken by both parties. In order words, if one of the party disagree on no sex, they other should comply and have sex with their spouse.

Thirdly, Sex in marriage is not a SIN. Sex in marriage is HOLY and is an act of WORSHIP to God. Many marriages experiencing storms in today's society is directly or indirectly related to sexual problems in marriage. Any religious practice that reaches against sex in marriage during period of extended fasting will be contributing to an already worst situation.

I participated in the 100 days fasting, this question was raised, we researched views of many ministers of God and found out that sex is allowed during fasting, as it is an act of worship and holy before the Lord. One may abstain from sex during the active fasting period as in morning to evening, but after breaking and eating of food, if couples intend to have sex, they are free to do so. Fasting essentially is to deny one of pleasure (food) in order to seek the fact of God. But when we eat after daily fasting, nothing should also stop us from having sex.

My advise to young couples and those looking for the fruit of the womb is not to stay away from sex even during fasting, but should be done as appropriate.

nice ............well spoken

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Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by Khodex: 4:04pm On Jan 07, 2015
Nice One.. Kudos.....
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by airex(m): 4:24pm On Jan 07, 2015
robosky02:

with the new year around. lots of churches seem to be holding fasting programme. raging from 7 days to as much as 100 days fasting. a question that was put to me by a newly wedded woman is this:

"What scriptures teach that fasting and/or refraining from sex during a fast, and/or denying oneself lovemaking to your spouse? I am a newlywed and my husband told me that when a person fasts he/she cannot have sexual relationships. You must deny your flesh of all pleasures. Is it true? What scriptures back this up?"

thus my question to the house

it is proper to have sex during fasting period?
or
what level of intimacy is ok?
or
how should one behave is is total abstannace eg for those doing 100 days?

note this is very seroius. so your contribution is vital

thanks
It is important to remember that fasting involved denying oneself only food and sometimes water.
Avoiding Sexual Relations. In both the Old and New Testaments, God never commands couples to avoid sexual relations. It is amazing that God has warned us to not do certain things, but He never warns nor commands married couples to stop having sex. In fact, the apostle Paul warns couples to do just the opposite. God wants couples to have sex.
Apparently, some Christians in the city of Corinth thought there was virtue in avoiding sexual relations with one' spouse. One of the spouses or maybe both thought it was good to regularly avoid sexual relations. God did not see this as being a good thing. Listen to what Paul had to say.
But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband. The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (NASB) 1 Corinthians 7:2-5

Notice that Paul says there is only one reason to not have sexual relations. It is for the purpose of prayer - for a short period of time. God does not want wives or husbands to regularly refuse to have sexual relations, and Paul says stop it! That is sin! God's message through Paul does not sit well with many today. The message is simple. Your body belongs to your spouse! You do not have control of it when it comes to sex. Today many talk about the right of doing with their bodies as they want, but God does not agree when it comes to sexual relations within marriage. A spouse does not have "authority" over his/her body. It belongs to his/her spouse. Now Paul does not mean that a husband or a wife can demand that the spouse "make love" from morning until evening or at anytime he or she wants. Paul is establishing a principle - an attitude of cooperation when it comes to sex. There is no place for sexual abuse, nor is there any room for excuses between spouses to avoid sexual relations. If one spouse is "not up to it" then that spouse needs to say when he/she will be ready for "love making." The other spouse needs to be understanding.
The Desire. Many believe that only men have a strong desire for sexual relations, but that is not true. Generally men do have the greater desire, but both men and women crave sex - some more than others and to greater degrees at different times in life.
When a man does not want sexual relationships, there is usually something medically wrong with him or there is an emotional situation with his wife. If a medical reason is suspected, your husband may want to see a doctor for a check-up, consultation, and help. Sometimes the issue is an emotional problem between the man and his wife. He may not enjoy sexual relations with his wife for one or more reasons. An open and frank discussion or a written letter between the spouses may help to bring understanding as to why he is struggling. This is a difficult subject for many couples to talk about and so it should be done with love, kindness, compassion, and tenderness. The goal needs to be, "Is there a reason you do not want to make love with me?" The answer can be difficult to accept. But both spouses need to be ready to change. Married couples need to remember that it is a sin to avoid sexual relations.
Conclusion:God wants married couples to have healthy, enjoyable, and satisfying sexual relations on a regular basis. He has told us in 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 that couples may avoid having sexual relations for the purpose of prayer but only for a brief period of time. Any spouse who frequently wants to "fast" or avoid sexual relations is disobeying God. Does God mean that a couple should ignore medical advice about having sexual relations or not avoid relations when one of them is sick? The answer is no. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 is about abuse in marriage. To deny your spouse sexual relations without a biblical reason is another form of sexual abuse. God has said that a spouse does not own his/her body; it belongs to your partner! God designed marital sex!

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Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by buccunmie(m): 4:26pm On Jan 07, 2015
SegzyJoe:
@post Food and sex are meant to replenish the body. When you break your fasting in the evening, you eat food, drink water, soft drinks or wine, why can't you have sex? Sex is allowed when you have broken your fasting, but caution should be applied to avoid serious health risk.

secondly, according to the book of Corinthians, the decision must be taken by both parties. In order words, if one of the party disagree on no sex, they other should comply and have sex with their spouse.

Thirdly, Sex in marriage is not a SIN. Sex in marriage is HOLY and is an act of WORSHIP to God. Many marriages experiencing storms in today's society is directly or indirectly related to sexual problems in marriage. Any religious practice that reaches against sex in marriage during period of extended fasting will be contributing to an already worst situation.

I participated in the 100 days fasting, this question was raised, we researched views of many ministers of God and found out that sex is allowed during fasting, as it is an act of worship and holy before the Lord. One may abstain from sex during the active fasting period as in morning to evening, but after breaking and eating of food, if couples intend to have sex, they are free to do so. Fasting essentially is to deny one of pleasure (food) in order to seek the fact of God. But when we eat after daily fasting, nothing should also stop us from having sex.

My advise to young couples and those looking for the fruit of the womb is not to stay away from sex even during fasting, but should be done as appropriate.
bros, fasting is a period of self denial. b it sex or food, u'v got to deny yourself in order for stuffs you want from God to come to pass.
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by almujahidy: 4:43pm On Jan 07, 2015
robosky02:

3.The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.
5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satano will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

1 Corinthians 7:3–5

how does this apply
The crux of the matter is that you Christians don't have guiding principles of such sensitive situations. Islam will put you through, it's very comprehensive and complete. Islam left no stone unturned.
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by alllffy(m): 4:48pm On Jan 07, 2015
Thank you jare, how about if your fasting is on fruit of the womb... Wisdom is profitable to direct
faithfulwife:
I personally don't think there is anything wrong in having sex while fasting. Sex is a sin if done outside marriage but is holy if done in marriage. I can only say d frequency of sex during fasting should be limited but not totally stopped.
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by dankofa: 5:10pm On Jan 07, 2015
Once you break your fast by 6pm or whenever you want to, it is okay to have sex until your fast recommences by 12midnight again. When you've broken your fast to eat you can also have sex as sex is not "a bigger criminal" than the food that you eat.

Except in cases of absolute fast which is 24hours and no break, then you cant have sex just as you cant eat.

Its that simple without complications.

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Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by Orikinla(m): 6:46pm On Jan 07, 2015
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EVEN MARRIED COUPLE MUST NOT HAVE SEX DURING FASTING.[/size]
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by iampartyboy(m): 7:27pm On Jan 07, 2015
robosky02:

with the new year around. lots of churches seem to be holding fasting programme. raging from 7 days to as much as 100 days fasting. a question that was put to me by a newly wedded woman is this:

"What scriptures teach that fasting and/or refraining from sex during a fast, and/or denying oneself lovemaking to your spouse? I am a newlywed and my husband told me that when a person fasts he/she cannot have sexual relationships. You must deny your flesh of all pleasures. Is it true? What scriptures back this up?"

thus my question to the house

it is proper to have sex during fasting period?
or
what level of intimacy is ok?
or
how should one behave is is total abstannace eg for those doing 100 days?

note this is very seroius. so your contribution is vital

thanks
what if to say na babies dem dey find? make dem no kpansh? how d baby wan take come nah?
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by EUGENE4GOO(m): 7:29pm On Jan 07, 2015
Sex between husband and wife is sin. Therefore, they should not deny themselves of having sex after the break of the fast. But you can't have sex when you are fasting.
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by rittyben(f): 8:39pm On Jan 07, 2015
Did I say something different?
berepiki:
.. 1COR7:5... Avoiding sex during fasting is good n helpful buh both MUST Agree, 1COR7 :6.
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by victorkc(m): 9:44pm On Jan 07, 2015
I think not having sex while fasting is encouraging, it means you can sacrifice anything for God,but the question is can't you do when you break d fast for d day? Above all, what if the essence of the fasting is for fruit of d womb, will d couples also abstain??
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by fctboy: 10:37pm On Jan 07, 2015
It all depend on the type of fasting
Christian have three types of fasting:
1. Normal fast which span from 12 midnight to 6p.m.. When break at 6p.m. you eat as much as you can before 12 midnight.. During the eating hours, you can also have sex.
2. Complete fast which entails living on water with little or no fruit juice for the period earmarked. Sex is not allowed in this type of fasting.
3. Absolute or dry fasting which you do not take even water for the period earmarked. Sex is also not allowed in this type of fasting.

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Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by ehismofy(m): 11:35pm On Jan 07, 2015
Same question came up between my wife n I just last night. Her view was that its wrong and the question I put 2 her was simple! How about couple who fast and pray 4 the fruit of the womb? If they dont av sex at that period how do they become the next candidates for testimony? smiley

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Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by fromnigeria(m): 6:34am On Jan 08, 2015
yes
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by LordReed(m): 8:43am On Jan 08, 2015
elantraceey:
Hmmmmm , this one pass me.


There's no scripture backing that up sha but i kind of agree with her husband.

This is the scripture you are looking for

1 Corinthians 7:5 KJV

Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

By mutual Agreement man and wife can leave out sex for fasting and prayer.
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by LordReed(m): 8:44am On Jan 08, 2015
ehismofy:
Same question came up between my wife n I just last night. Her view was that its wrong and the question I put 2 her was simple! How about couple who fast and pray 4 the fruit of the womb? If they dont av sex at that period how do they become the next candidates for testimony? smiley

During the period of fasting and prayer your focus should be on the prayers. After you have fasted and prayed have all the sex you want.
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by jonathanjo75: 8:54am On Jan 08, 2015
The scriptures is 1Corinthians 7:5. If the fast is a dry fast, then no sex at all for the agreed period of fast. If it's to be broken each day then you can have sex when you have broken the fast. You only don't have sex when you are not eating. As soon as you break the fast you can have sex, except if both agree but if you no fit hold body abeg grab your wife or husband it's not sin
Re: It Is Proper To Have Sex During Fasting Period? by speedy4u(m): 10:38am On Jan 08, 2015
My opinion:
Many of us are used to whole day fasts of 24 hours or part-day fasts of few hours eg 6am to 6pm fasts. The healthy human body can naturally go without food, liquid (or sex) for up to 24 hours. However, fasting for prolonged periods of like 3 days, 21 days, 40 days, 100 etc is where the real challenge comes. I shall use 21 days as a general example all through. Personal conviction and planning are very necessary before anyone starts such a fast. Prolonged Fasts can be categorized into:
(1) Prolonged 21 Dry fast (No breaking of fast daily). No food, liquids or sex is taken throughout the 21 day period of fast. The person resumes having food, liquids and sex only after he/she has completed the total number of days fast. (ie he doesnt break his fast daily but at the end of the entire fasting exercise). Quite a few people have embarked on this kind of pass and the must have a strong conviction from God before embarking on this type of fast.
(2). Prolonged Dry fast (breaking fast daily). The person may decide to fast for eg 21 days but only from 6am to 6pm. This means he would break his fast everyday of the 21 days fast by 6pm. In this scenario He/She is free to have food, water or sex anyday during the 21 days fast so long as it is within the period of 6pm to 6am. However, no food, liquid or sex is to be had during the time frame of the fast ie 6am to 6pm.
(3) Flexible fast. The fast as the name goes is flexible. He/she could go without food or some classes of foods, fruits or strictly liquids. the person could have sex at flexible times depending on the way he has committed himself to God to observe the fast.

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