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| Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by sheddyboy: 8:15am On Jan 09, 2015 |
STRICTLY FOR MATURED MINDS 5 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by DesChyko: 8:22am On Jan 09, 2015 |
Who owns this story?  19 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 8:26am On Jan 09, 2015 |
Lol. He's not a sex freak while you are... Thank your stars, that he's not a cheat. Don't cheat on him. HIV is real! 34 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 8:34am On Jan 09, 2015 |
Lol rape him... Den open ur bible and read to him d part whr it says husbands shouldn't deny dr wives dr bodies.... 70 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Drmaverick: 8:41am On Jan 09, 2015 |
10 Reasons Why People Cheat A sad reality that many must face in relationships is that we can’t control what our mates do. Even though you might do your best to fulfill their needs, ultimately it’s up to them if they’re going to be faithful. But, if fidelity is simple as it seems? Is it merely just a choice, or are some people more prone to infidelity? Is there a science behind it? 1. The “I DIDN’T SEE IT LIKE THAT” Mindset 2. THEY HAVE AN ADDICTION 3. PEOPLE FIND THEM DESIRABLE (DEPENDING ON GENDER) 4. DISAPPOINTMENT complete article: http://targetdex..com/2015/01/10-reasons-why-peoplecheat.html 6 Likes 2 Shares
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| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by bennygreat1(m): 8:42am On Jan 09, 2015 |
Madam.. Give it time!!! He'll come to understand yuh and what yuh want.. Don't divorce Or self service.. Or better still.. Yuh both visit a counsellor.. Let them make him understand while he should take up the responsibilities of man in the marriage! Thanks. Stay blessed. 9 Likes |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Beamborla(f): 8:56am On Jan 09, 2015 |
I think it all started from your courtship. some counselors are doctors and pastors as well... they should be able to work some magic. God help your marriage 1 Like |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 9:07am On Jan 09, 2015 |
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| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 9:12am On Jan 09, 2015 |
If you keep waiting and assuming things will get better maybe with time, I'm pretty sure you'd hit fifty before doing the right thing. As a couple, see a marriage counsellor ASAP. Or you can just get a lawyer. It's your call. 11 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by sheddyboy: 9:30am On Jan 09, 2015 |
i have a strong feeling that the husband is going through some hurdles in life, i want the woman to run a check to see if her husband is happy.. if he isn't happy, stress/depression could set in, where there is stress, certainly, there is lack of love.. and when the love is not there you will no longer find joy in anything you see or do, stress is good at sapping you dry of your energy.. she should concentrate on building a happy home through hard-work & everything will get back to normal.. she should also learn to encourage him, encouraging words might just be the medication he needs to recover. Modified.. All thanks to God & a nice appreciation to nairaland moderators, sign of a better year.. i'm happy i made fp. 16 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by naijaboiy: 9:36am On Jan 09, 2015 |
Lol,,i cant believe this. So some men deprive their wives of sex too  I think the problem is from his religious root. They have made him look at sex in a bad light and so he doesn't see it as his duty to satisfy his wife. If this woman cheats now,,what will the society say? Priscaoge come and see one of the traits you didn't mention on that your thread o! 13 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by ireneony(f): 9:40am On Jan 09, 2015 |
Sorry  1 Like |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by SeverusSnape(m): 9:48am On Jan 09, 2015 |
Some men see sex as a means to procreation alone. 7 Likes |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 9:49am On Jan 09, 2015 |
Dis is d main reason why some of us are scared of marrying under d "no-sex-before-marriage" umbrella. I can barely handle d frustrations of sexual incompatibility in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Na for marriage way I want come manage am? OP, ur hubby has a very very low libido and very very little interest in sex, plus he is very very selfish. Howeva, u shd find a way to make him stop being selfish and try to satisfy u, at least with his fingers and tongue. On d oda hand are u sure u have not grown too fat dat ur present chubby state could be irritating him? Maybe he does not know how to say it or he's saying ur too fat via his actions but ur not listening. Have u even considered dis at all? Also, how can u live with a man for four years and ur yet to learn how to put him in d mood? Me thinks u still hav a lot of homework to do. How can u not know how to seduce ya hubby? Some men are easily aroused, odas are difficult to get aroused. But most men have a sexual breaking point, and I think ur yet to discover dat of ur hubby's. His own my not be via bum-shots and skimpy clothes, but u still gotta find it. Meanwhile if u can successfully put some viagra or konji-stimulating agents into his food or tea without him noticing, I advice u give it a try. When konji hold am, in go find u come. Divorce shd only be considered afta all options have been explored and der has been no improvement. Madam, u made a big mistake by talking to ur mom and sister abt dis, d fact dat ur close to dem does not mean day will give u right counsel. Na only correct pastor and sex therapist way u fit tell dis kind tin. 130 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by easy4beno(m): 10:11am On Jan 09, 2015 |
I do not want to doubt if the story is real or not from the poster's moniker but at least whichever way it will definitely meet someone's need somewhere. The first thing I want you to know is that what you are going through is quite normal and you have a hope of brighter end, every marriage would go through its own challenges at a time or the other, it is what I call REALITY and those challenges if managed well strengthens a marriage. Now the next thing for you to do is to stay away from that your aunty that's planting a seed of divorce in you, early withdrawal from her will stop such seed from germinating in you, and you will be happy for it at the end, these kind of wrong advices are what crushes a home beyond repairs and jeopardizes hope of reconciliation, and pls don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you should fight your aunty, all you need do is just keep a distance and DO NOT seek advice of this kind from her again. Then to the main issue, I believe all your husband needs is just further understanding about both of you and how often he needs to satisfy his wife sexually, he needs to know that its not a sin or bad to be doing his wife every now and then, my dear, it is God ordained, its a basic thing in the home, for a marriage to work, it is a machine that needs to be greased often. This is how I would advise you to go about it, you should know that its not a bad thing for you to have such urge every now and then, its better for you to have it often than not to be having the urge. Please you need to be closer to your husband, you need to show him extra care, be involved in almost all his endeavours, I emphasize again that you should show extra care and be open to each other, he might just be going through some things, and trust me sometimes when things don't go well especially financially our di. cks may not be hard, because its a psychological state of mind and once its not balanced its not also balanced down there. Lastly I would urge you to pray about the situation and pray for him also, in however language and religion that you can, it is a fact that life is spiritual, so to tackle a problem, sometimes we need to explore all possible angles to it, and if it remains as status quo which is likely not, I can tell you that you both should see a marriage counsellor, everybody needs help, there's nothing like a perfect person, so one way or the other we need to seek for further knowledge and guidance in handling some issues, they say a tree does not make a forest, so in other words, we may not live a fulfilled life if we don't help one another, I believe if you try this, they would definitely work for you and just be positive minded. I hope this piece helps a great deal. Bless! 24 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by sheddyboy: 10:23am On Jan 09, 2015 |
Where are the moderators seun mukina mynd44 ishilove can we have lots of ideas on these pls. 1 Like |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Clemzy16(m): 10:35am On Jan 09, 2015 |
This is the main reason why I must test-drive before buying, my wife must be sexually active and not a virgin. 4 Likes |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by jadelyn007(f): 10:48am On Jan 09, 2015 |
 my dear just cheat on him. Make sure you are really discreet about it and still give attention to your marriage. You can't live life constantly being starved of sex. Have a side guy  Wishing you the best.MODIFIED For those of you who felt the righteous indignation to call me out with insults while foaming in the mouth, your brothers are on the "married men patronize prostitutes thread" waiting for you. Go and join them in celebrating their uncouth perversion or better still channel your grieve in setting them straight not me. Bloody hypocritical fooooooools forming saints on nigerian girls 13 Likes |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Chuukwudi(m): 11:11am On Jan 09, 2015 |
jadelyn007: You will suffer!!! 24 Likes |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 11:22am On Jan 09, 2015 |
Chuukwudi: Lmao!   . Just yesterday on the front page prostitute thread, some men were justifying married men patronising prostitutes because their wives refused(intentionally and unintentionally) to satisfy them sexually, in other words, blaming their wives for their wandering diicks. How do we help women who are not sexually satisfied like the character in this story.  35 Likes |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by priscaoge(f): 12:04pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
naijaboiy: Lolest Thanks for bringing me here @Bolded really amaze me. What could be their reason? I think this is one of the reasons why some married women cheat on their husband with younger guys  1 Like |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 12:11pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
Clemzy16:If she is nko  |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Chuukwudi(m): 1:25pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
cytochromeC: Fornication and Adultery are both wrong, although most people justify the former with reasons such as the OP's palaver as narrated above. Religion aside, Divorce is better and more honourable than Adultery. Although the existence of a child would make things more difficult. I therefore agree with the fact that every solution must be tried and explored first before any thing like Adultery or Divorce should be thought of. 2 Likes |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by phunmielomo(f): 1:28pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
That isnt enough reason for you to divorce you husband.your marriage is still young.You guys really need to communicate and probably if you can involve a counselor maybe a pastor to counsel both of you.My dear please and please remove divorce from your mind. 5 Likes |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Clemzy16(m): 1:58pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
chimkaire:Hmmm... Simply impossible... I can't marry a virgin... |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Clemzy16(m): 1:59pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
cytochromeC:They should patronise man hoes... 2 Likes |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by steppin: 2:00pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
VickyyB:Out of point! Na by force to comment? @op, Madam, it's so sad. Some people can never value what they have. If your husband cared enough, he would have put in more effort. Sex between a husband and wife is no sin. Read 1 Corinthians Chapter 7 vs 1-7. Denying you sex is a sin. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 2:28pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
this is a clear reason why dating, and everything involve in dating,and courting should be allowed. it makes intending couple know each other. this is a good example of incompatibility sexually. talk to him to see reasons, after all,he was once your friend before being an husband. 3 Likes |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by gracile(f): 2:41pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
oh dear, I feel ur pains.. especially due to d fact that you it's d same thing u deprived urself from enjoying in ur youthful days full of d hope that you'll enjoy it for a lifetime I'll advise you both meet a counselor and if he doesn't oblige then you should tell it your pastor.. someone needs to talk sense into him and change that archaic mentality of his. Good luck.. 6 Likes |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 2:55pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
steppin:You've been noticed.  1 Like |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by 5minsmadness: 2:57pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
VickyyB:Chai! Babe you r fine! |
| Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by drisatasarr: 2:59pm On Jan 09, 2015 |
Dear Ola: You are a good girl and now a good wife based on your story. Your husband has serious issues concerning intimacy. It can range from Sex abuse on him as a child, Stress from a number of issues, Depression and anxiety. Performance issues or at the other end of the spectrum he is cheating on you. I suspect the latter. I once dated a guy who refused to perform MouthAction but does not mind me doing to him. Each time he will refuse and tell me that he cannot use the mouth that he will PRAY with to do MouthAction. How stupid is that. Come to find out that he was dating another lady who said he loves MouthAction. You are very young and sounds like you are a decent human being. This marriage wont work. Leave him and find your soul mate. Isata 5 Likes 1 Share |
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