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Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 2:59pm On Jan 09, 2015
5minsmadness:

Chai! Babe you r fine!
Thanks cheesy smiley
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by 5minsmadness: 3:11pm On Jan 09, 2015
Man harasses woman for sex. Woman complains.
Man does not ask woman for sex. Woman complains.

What do women really want?

Op, sexual incompatibility is not enough to divorce your husband; if not a lot of guys would have left their wives since.

You have been in this relationship for 4yrs, is it that you have been bearing it since or something changed?
In those four years you should have known the kind of things that turn him on. Use them on him more often.

Draw up a timetable for sex. Discuss with him about where the bible says your body is for him and his is for you(since he is a godly man) and tell him that you need this sex so you wont give in to temptation of the flesh. Use his lingo.

Also make yourself sexualIy appealing. Look at yourself honestly; are you overfat? Do you have your bath each night before going to bed? When last did you change your fragrance of perfume?

Don't lie naked on the bed. Most men aren't seduced by that, they prefer a little clothing on. Also don't announce sex to him(except on the timetable days). Men respond to touch a lot so make sure you touch him at every opportunity. An innocent brush of your hand against his manhood and frequent hugging for 'no apparent reason' will stimulate him and make him think naughty thoughts.

Don't nag him about sex. It is a super turn off. Don't tell him things like 'you are not a man!' You are not helping your mission if you do.

When sex does happen on that rare occasion, massage his ego. Tell him he finished work. Greet him in your native language for a job well done. Hug him after and tell him you love him and he satisfies you. All this will egg him on to try it again.

Keep a smile as much as possible around the house. Don't be gloomy. Married men don't do well with gloomy wives.

Finally don't talk to that your aunt/sister again. She doesn't mean well for you. When your children ask you why you divorced when they grow up will you tell them is because you were not getting enough sex? Keep away from bad counsel.

All the best.

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Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by IamforGod: 3:18pm On Jan 09, 2015
My dear that man is cheating. Those kind of men have deeper secrets than you think. Pls becareful and dnt divorce or self service.

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Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 3:29pm On Jan 09, 2015
WHAT
DO

WOMEN

REALLY
WANT..

Now HE IS NOT A SEX freak nor CHEATs...yet
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by MizMyColi(f): 4:23pm On Jan 09, 2015

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Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by juliusocean(m): 4:23pm On Jan 09, 2015
well that's how I read one post d other day d guy turned out to be gay after 6yrs of marriage ..so if u can't divorce him get a s6x toy.....sorry to say

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Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by princemillla(m): 4:28pm On Jan 09, 2015
If truly the story is real and you the subject is reading..... I am saying it bodly you are mumu.... How can you base your marriage on sex? Nairalanders, pls advice this illicit fated fellow..
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 4:28pm On Jan 09, 2015
go buy a vibrator.
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Misogynist2014(m): 4:28pm On Jan 09, 2015
She can buy a dildö to fück herself.

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Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by dre11(m): 4:29pm On Jan 09, 2015
jadelyn007:
cry my dear just cheat on him. Make sure you are really discreet about it an still give attention to you marriage. You can't live life constantly being starved of sex. Have a side guy Wishing you the best.

Did you mean what you just posted or nah joke.....

Is cutting someone head the remedy for headache

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Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by siegfried99(m): 4:29pm On Jan 09, 2015
lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by KingAdeOluomo1(m): 4:30pm On Jan 09, 2015
what dose teaches us. now someone please tell me ooll
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by veraiyke(m): 4:30pm On Jan 09, 2015
Eiyaaaa I feel for u. Bt if ur hubby hz bn faithful to u plz bear with him n do self service if need be. But if u cnt my sister I advice u to divorce now instead of vin xtra marital affairs in marriage. Bt first find d soft prt of ur hobby n cry out to him n tel him wat ur goin tru n wat u need.
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by steve308(m): 4:31pm On Jan 09, 2015
lol God is ur strength
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by tobaflexy(m): 4:31pm On Jan 09, 2015
Mrs ola wht u can do is dat kip on praying and d lord will change him for u,becus sex is for enjoyment
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by siegfried99(m): 4:31pm On Jan 09, 2015
VickyyB:

Thanks cheesy smiley

Wow u are beautiful wink
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Chrishandsome(m): 4:32pm On Jan 09, 2015
try sumting nasty..,masturbate in his present.

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Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Drone007: 4:32pm On Jan 09, 2015
[quote author=sheddyboy post=29627995][/quote]
Your senior sister advised you to divorce straightaway, just like that?
Senior suster?
More like SENIOR DEVIL!
Don't listen to her!

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Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Misogynist2014(m): 4:33pm On Jan 09, 2015
VickyyB:

Thanks cheesy smiley
Camera things.

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Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by KingAdeOluomo1(m): 4:34pm On Jan 09, 2015
jadelyn007:
cry my dear just cheat on him. Make sure you are really discreet about it an still give attention to you marriage. You can't live life constantly being starved of sex. Have a side guy Wishing you the best.
Wasted Generation
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by brightisodje(m): 4:34pm On Jan 09, 2015
plsssss sister I don't kn dis kind of man or so how will a person HV sex once in a month its very improper but just stay because its a life duty for me I can't stay a day without sex its a food to me n my girlfriend keep loveing me for it sex is life sister but just endure u don enter u don enter ;Dplsssss sister I don't kn dis kind of man or so how will a person HV sex once in a month its very improper but just stay because its a life duty for me I can't stay a day without sex its a food to me n my girlfriend keep loveing me for it sex is life sister but just endure u don enter u don enter
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by kalybaly: 4:35pm On Jan 09, 2015
For God's sake you have a baby.. make it work. You can't lose it cos of that.
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Tomson992000: 4:35pm On Jan 09, 2015
sheddyboy:
i have a strong feeling that the husband is going through some hurdles in life, i want the woman to run a check to see if her husband is happy.. if he isn't happy, stress/depression could set in, where there is stress, certainly, there is lack of love.. and when the love is not there you will no longer find joy in anything you see or do, stress is good at sapping you dry of your energy.. she should concentrate on building a happy home through hard-work & everything will get back to normal.. she should also learn to encourage him, encouraging words might just be the medication he needs to recover.
nice suggestion keep it up.
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by kay29000(m): 4:37pm On Jan 09, 2015
This is one of the problems causes...demonizing sex and making it seem as if u should only have sex when a couple want to have a baby. Sex should be enjoyed by married couples.

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Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 4:37pm On Jan 09, 2015
Have tried sucking him? Whenever you need him, just grab his dick and start sucking. He may put up an initial resistance, but just keep the pressure and see him give in. My girlfriend tried it on me and it worked for her.

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Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by veraiyke(m): 4:38pm On Jan 09, 2015
princemillla:
If truly the story is real and you the subject is reading..... I am saying it bodly you are mumu.... How can you base your marriage on sex? Nairalanders, pls advice this illicit fated fellow..
this is not illicit. She is in her right. Since she hasn't experienced sex n nw xperiencing it. In fact d best solution is for d man to sex her every day in a mnt n den she will definitly reduce her urge.
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by gudluckgreat(m): 4:40pm On Jan 09, 2015
VickyyB:
Lol. He's not a sex freak while you are...
Thank your stars, that he's not a cheat.

Don't cheat on him. HIV is real!



Is That All? How Does what U say Help Her situation? undecided
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 4:41pm On Jan 09, 2015
You see.. When we tell u that pre marital sex is good..
Una no go listen.. See your life now wey u don marry guy wey no fit perform..
Like you test him before marriage now, u for don know sey the guy na otubante.

I will advise you to buy séx tóys to help your situation, or try seducing your hubby..

This a lesson to all you single ladies out there.. Bonk that guy wella before you marry him.. It is very important grin
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 4:41pm On Jan 09, 2015
If you don't want to divorce him, then get a younger guy to make you happier in bed.

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Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by Nobody: 4:42pm On Jan 09, 2015
VickyyB:
Lol. He's not a sex freak while you are...
Thank your stars, that he's not a cheat.

Don't cheat on him. HIV is real!
as much as I like you,you comment do give me some kind thoughts...you said no sex until marriage,she agreed hoping that she is gonna enjoy sex one day.if pre marital sex is a sin,is sex after marriage a sin?

Let me believe you a virgin for the 1st time,how would feel if you husband that behaves like this?
Re: Help.. My 4 Years Old Marriage Is Gradually Crashing Out. by uzolexis(f): 4:42pm On Jan 09, 2015
obongproff:
Dis is d main reason why some of us are scared of marrying under d "no-sex-before-marriage" umbrella. I can barely handle d frustrations of sexual incompatibility in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Na for marriage way I want come manage am?

OP, ur hubby has a very very low libido and very very little interest in sex, plus he is very very selfish. Howeva, u shd find a way to make him stop being selfish and try to satisfy u, at least with his fingers and tongue.

On d oda hand are u sure u have not grown too fat dat ur present chubby state could be irritating him? Maybe he does not know how to say it or he's saying ur too fat via his actions but ur not listening. Have u even considered dis at all?

Also, how can u live with a man for four years and ur yet to learn how to put him in d mood? Me thinks u still hav a lot of homework to do. How can u not know how to seduce ya hubby? Some men are easily aroused, odas are difficult to get aroused. But most men have a sexual breaking point, and I think ur yet to discover dat of ur hubby's. His own my not be via bum-shots and skimpy clothes, but u still gotta find it.

Meanwhile if u can successfully put some viagra or konji-stimulating agents into his food or tea without him noticing, I advice u give it a try. When konji hold am, in go find u come.

Divorce shd only be considered afta all options have been explored and der has been no improvement. Madam, u made a big mistake by talking to ur mom and sister abt dis, d fact dat ur close to dem does not mean day will give u right counsel. Na only correct pastor and sex therapist way u fit tell dis kind tin.

@the bolded, she can't talk to her mum about her marriage but she can talk to her Pastor shocked shocked shocked Nigerians never cease to amaze me with their over christianity

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