jimmy4x:

are u from Mbaise too??

Lol. No. I doubt.
But i'm from Imo state sha.

InZA:



You want to marry someone from there?

Lol...Noo, not ready for marriage yet, I'm dating one nd I date to marry.

VickyyB:

Lol. No. I doubt.
But i'm from Imo state sha.

hehehe....second Imo girl I know.
You girls are beautiful, my gf is from Mbaise, I'm a Yoruba guy :-D

veekid:
ahdonbilivit, where d Yoruba Yoruba pple dem?

Dont be surprised that Yoruba isnt mentioned. Dont forget that the thread is about 'the most expensive tribe to marry from' and not the most intelligent and resourceful tribe to marry from D;

Aigipan:
And most of this girls you are going to pay the millions for would have Fuvcked tom, dick and harry before they want to settle down.

dem go don smash their punnie scatter.

Why pay millions for a lady with a crater between her legs? i dey mad?

I swear, I won't pay that kinda high price when I know she's been seriously knacked, infact, she must be a virgin for me to pay such an amount.

ayindejimmy:

The best things in life are free. You name it... Air... Water.. Salvation... Miracles.. Beauty...
Just saying

By Amaka Igwe



I had followed CFFK’s (Femi Fani-Kayode) thread before it was edited and I was tagged. I did not know whether to feel complimented or humbled for being listed with such great women. I was evaluating the criteria for being listed and was particularly tickled by the ‘almost messianic’ one and wondered whether that was a compliment. My worry was further heightened when FFK proceeded in listing the great women with very many firsts of Yoruba extraction and wondered whether FFK was up to some ‘mischief’. Well mischief or not, I thank you CFFK for recognizing women. Nigerian women!!!

I must say that your thoughtful document with great compliments for women buttresses my earlier argument that Nigerian women are not all ‘dumb blondes’ and docile marginalized people as some will make them out to be. Historically, Nigerian women have been ‘Messianic’ Checkers – Queen Amina of Zaria, Moremi, Iyoba, Emotan, The Aba women… That was why I created Anne Haatrope, the all conquering hero in  ‘Checkmate’ as a type of Nigerian women who would rise up to fight and defend their people when the need arises. The important thing here is that in the masculine society that we claim we have, the men have always supported and ‘allowed’ the women do what they had to do without feeling any less a man.

As per the Igbo woman, I might only try to define her in the context of her history. The Igbo girl is an ‘ADA’ and that is a revered position in Igbo land. The family kindred will usually have an ‘UMUADA’ society, which is a congregation of all ADA’s from a clan. This group is extremely powerful and often determines cases in the families that make up the kindred. Being a member of this esteemed group gives every Igbo girl a revered position, which gives her a say in how things are done. She is thus second to none in her family and has a voice even where men are. In her husband’s house, he joins the ‘Ndi iyom’ (Wives of the house). Here she has a voice too.

Traditionally and historically, the Igbo woman is taught how to be a wife and mother but more importantly a homemaker. That includes how to ‘wilfully’ submit to one’s husband – ‘Di bu ugwu nwanyi’ – A husband is the pride of a woman.

Igbos lived in a purely agrarian society. While the man plants and owns the king crop ‘Yam’; the woman plants the rest of the crops – cassava, cocoyam, corn, vegetables etc. She makes the palm oil, soap, palm kernel oil etc.

While the yam is available for eating by September, the woman feeds the family with the other foods all the year round without making it appear like she is the one feeding everyone.

It is ironic therefore that the woman is called the ‘Oriaku’ (Chopper of wealth) and the man the ‘Odoziaku’ (Maker of wealth). Why not? The man ‘owns’ the land and the woman!!!

Educating the girl child in Igbo land probably started later than the Yoruba’s, but once it started, it has been full steam ahead with great schools like Elelenwa, Queens school Enugu, St. Catharine’s Nkwere, etc producing great women who are too much for me to list.

The Nigerian Civil war decimated two generations of Igbo men. It left women mostly in charge of the destinies of their and family and race. Women had to do what they had to do. That generation put down the foundation for the growth of the crop of women that we have today. Women who are single minded, full of purpose and belief. The likes Stella Okoli of Emzor pharmaceuticals, Stella Mbubaegbu (CBE) CEO Highbury College, Arunma Oteh of SEC, Flora Nwapa, Dr. Victoria Eze-Okoli, Prof. Chinyere Okunna…  all those you wrote and a lot I cannot remember right now.

I guess that what I am trying to say is that historically and traditionally, the Igbo woman has always been a non-effacing, quiet, hardworking, manager of resources, who has a voice in important places. With tenacity and patience, she strives to play her role with candour and pride, making the best of her situation and striving to be better every day. Doing what she has to do is what the Igbo woman does.

If people are beginning to see them as whom they really are then it is a great plus for all women. Nigerian women!!!

I am not a feminist oh!!!

Igwe is CEO of Best of the Best Television (BOBTV) and Amaka Igwe Studios

CFCfan:

It's pure hypocrisy. The 6-page lists are usually handed to suitors who have 'office jobs' or run a business.
There is no way in hell that an okada rider would spend upwards of N100,000 on traditional marriage rites.

An okada man will definitely get married to a girl of his level na, he wouldn't dare marry a university graduate who studied Medicine for example.

jimmy4x:

Lol...Noo, not ready for marriage yet, I'm dating one nd I date to marry.

Abeg I no wan spoil anybody ministry oo

If you love her and she loves you, then forever I hold my peace

Agrika:

Are u sure? Igbo men hardly marry outside thier tribe, inshort thier women marry outside more than d men

You're half right, but that was then. At the moment, the trend has changed, many igbo men are happily married to other tribes. Despite that, I think the east should try to civilize some of their marital traditions, because south-easthern women are one of the most beautiful women in the world, tradition shouldn't be a hindrance in marrying these damsels.

InZA:




Abeg I no wan spoil anybody ministry oo

If you love her and she loves you, then forever I hold my peace

lool....ur words or criticism can't change my love for her one bit, u have no idea what my mom has been telling me about marrying an ibo girl.... u no spoil any market, I'm just being inquisitive.
I wan dey enlightened

Shhhhhhh, let me tell you the secret to escaping this list. Get her pregnant, they will beg you to take her for free.

Donbrig:


You're half right, but that was then. At the moment, the trend has changed, many igbo men are happily married to other tribes. Despite that, I think the east should try to civilize some of their marital traditions, because south-easthern women are one of the most beautiful women in the world, tradition shouldn't be a hindrance in marrying these damsels.

U are right sha, but hv ever asked if ideally these so called igbo damsels want to be married outside thier tribe...it is a common belief among igbo spinsters that no man can "care" for them like an igbo man...so what am trying to say is that even if the bride price of igbo ladies is increased to 10million tomorrow, somebody go still marry them.

Jayne2014:

Wow! Bros, Akwa ibom are not Igbo. Imo is Igbo.

Oh kk but Imo was also listed na...
BTW are you from Akwa Ibom or Imo?

as expected!

ireneony:
that's me on my profile pix

you look good. *auctioning my plot of land*

Yusphull:


Oh kk but Imo was also listed na...
BTW are you from Akwa Ibom or Imo?

Neither

biafranqueen:
MY GUY!!! Lost and found.
Anambra people don't practice that one, we see better business to do

I'll most likely marry a Yoruba lady

CFCfan:

I'll most likely marry a Yoruba lady

Sharp guy. Chop knuckle

Use the money you want to use to marry igbo girl to buy land.
You get a good wife PLUS land, as opposed to only getting a wife. Terrible deal otherwise.

Women are the same, and great women abound everywhere... so only someone that has no respect for his hussle will allow himself to get scammed by these pranksters all in the name of marriage.

Honestly it would be hard for me to respect a woman the way 21st century women want nowadays when I "buy" her as a wife. Marriage should be about receiving a new (independent) son or daughter, not about selling your child to them. Big difference in mentality. Because that way you would not be focused on "getting paid", but on making sure they start out their lives as best as possible.

The only benefit in marrying an igbo woman vs from another tribe is for the propagation and understanding of igbo culture/language in the home.
As I no kon be igbo man, I see no value in that. I no even understand their language sef.

After all these list, please tell me any cultural group in Igbo land that is less expensive.


Just say Igbo's wedding is expensive.

The list is not complete without the kalabari people of rivers state.

Proudly igbo! Ada Imo state.

Op are u from the west?

No wonder. Na imo girls de rock ashawo industry.

richardjemedafe1:
apc are party of thugs,jihadist,mafia and rejected pdp
cabals,frm d onset i knew apc are desperate 4 power
if u guys are nt mindfull of this party nigeria go enter
one chance,bcus they knew they are bond to failure i
said it dt they is no smoke wtout fire apc are up to
smtn,hmm our vote is 4 gej,formally i hate pdp wt my
last breath bt d party has manage to flush sm bad
eggs out to apc dt bring me into dt party ,gej is still d
most credible man 4 dt post.

Man go back to school!! what has your statement above got to do with the topic under discussion?

Jayne2014:
A friend told me his wife's list included drilling of borehole, 2 bride prices, one for father and one for the mother amongst others. Akwa ibom state.

serious??

praise010:


Fallacy!!!

I dont know the tribe you are from but if I may ask, is marriage guaranteed for all the women in your tribe?
There is hardly a marriage that fails to materialise today because the Husband cannot perform Traditional Wedding.
it is nt compulsory to perform traditional wedding ceremony. You may choose to pay the dowry and go on with your white wedding.

You also fail to realise that Ibo culture varies from tribe to tribe. Some pays dowry below #1000. Some have restrictions on the number of guests (from both parties). Some limits the food to be cooked and the drinks to be consumed _ allin a bid to cut cost.
There are over 5000 igbo communities with different cultures, so you may need to be specific when you say "Igbos" cos the culture varies

i may be wrong, but that has been my observation while in nigeria, compared o yorubas and hausas, igbos marry late, on the average. . . . and yes i am igbo

Jayne2014:

Neither

which tribe are you from ??

Kellygold:
Shhhhhhh, let me tell you the secret to escaping this list. Get her pregnant, they will beg you to take her for free.

Where will be your dignity then

Let me tell you in igbo even if u get her pregnant those kids are not yours and if she dies you will do all the rites

So our omen and women are not Yoruba that you can pregnate and live with them

We value marriage

Would people from such cultural backgrounds prefer their daughters being single and, maybe, having you-know-what with men all over the place? SMH

What about Kalabari and Nembe in Rivers and Bayelsa States? I believe Kalabari 3 stage marriage might surpass Mbaise.

what about nsukka culture, pls comment.

Eluwilussit:
Before we start shouting Igbo this and Igbo that, has anyone ever seen these exhaustive lists? If it is that exorbitant, how do the poor igbo men get married?

I think people should appreciate other people's culture instead of crriticizing it. Some people get flogged over a hundred strokes of the cane, just to prove that the groom is man enough.

If you love your woman, you will go to any length to get her. Nothing is handed out freely in life. We pay with our blood to go to school and to be successful, but we want to pick our life partners on the street. Women have worth. They are very worthy of anything we pay or do, to get them.

I know some people are greedy. That's life. But to say that your wife doesn't cost you much, you really need to check what you are getting.

My friend got married to a Yoruba girl last xmas. He wanted a simple and quiet ceremony but his in-laws insisted that it must be loud, as this is their first daughter. The good news is that the in-laws are loaded. So 75% of the cost was borne by them. Great.

Human beings like good things. Good things cost money. They don't come cheap. If you want a free wife, go for it. Wives get levels. Mine cost me cash and I didn't even blink. Honestly, I bought twice whatever they asked for. That's how much I love my wife and appreciate the great job her parents did.

So in your opinion paying a huge bride price directly translates into getting a good wife. So character, humility, honesty, love, loyalty etc do not count anymore. The best way a man can know he is getting a good wife is by looking at the amount he paid as 'bride price.' As if paying a huge bride price, is a guarantee of future happiness! Hehehehe...wonders shall never cease!