cococandy:
Where there is understanding, it shouldn't be a big deal.
Even if the man can afford everything . If she can find a way to take on some of the list requirements,then no harm in it.

At least it sends across the message that the girl and her family aren't out to milk him but are doing it because they can't side step that's process of the traditional marriage.

Seun:
If that happens then there is a problem of immaturity with both of them already, because they should know that bride price is not actually being paid to buy the bride. That it's just a way for the wife's extended family to extract money from the unfortunate bridegroom's family.

jorlons:
Babe na God go bless.....infact thinking wuh kill me even though I never come see ur parents buh now my mind don hold ground...

BreezyRita:
I'm not sure where to post this. Mods help me out please

She's about to be married. The marriage requirements or 'lists' have been given to the husband to-be. Of course, he must have prepared for this. But the list is somewhat exorbitant and paying all these things will mean a less posh wedding........

My question: Should a woman who's financially stable assist her to-be with money for payment of the bride price or completion of the rites??

Is it advisable??

listenersky:
Pls no matter how nice the Lady might be,pls dont let her pay her own bride price,Because bride price is symbolic.You can only tell her to talk with her people if they can reduce the bride price for you.I know your bride must be an ibo chick,We all know that Ibo parents demand a lot from their future inlaw,so just like I advised a friend of mine,Impregnate the girl as soon as possible and see if they wont reduce the bride price.infact they will even beg you to come and take her for free.Do this and you will thank me later.Dont waste time o.

safarigirl:
...this is in the events that pre-marital sex is being practiced....

Even at that, this is a low blow for a woman you claim to love so much that you want to marry her. If the bride price is too exorbitant either plead for a reduction or put it on hold....in fact, you can pay the bride price and the chic will fund the trad proper

ttmacoy:
Personally I think bride price should be abolished. It is archaic and puts down women by suggesting the man is buying them.

In my opinion a young man and woman get married to move forward together as one, not to impress the girls family with outrageous demands especially where he has to borrow for it. They then start their married life with debt just to please uncles and aunties in the village.

in this situation, if they are unable to bring down the bride price cost, then I see no reason why she cannot help him as they both know what they are working towards. I see it more as pride and mentality when people say they cannot allow. How then do you explain in India where it is the woman who pays bride or should I say groom price to the man? Does that mean the man paying is right in Nigeria and wrong in India? No it's just culture and mentality holding people in bondage.

listenersky:
Pls no matter how nice the Lady might be,pls dont let her pay her own bride price,Because bride price is symbolic.You can only tell her to talk with her people if they can reduce the bride price for you.I know your bride must be an ibo chick,We all know that Ibo parents demand a lot from their future inlaw,so just like I advised a friend of mine ,Impregnate the girl as soon as possible and see if they wont reduce the bride price.infact they will even beg you to come and take her for free.Do this and you will thank me later.Dont waste time o.

elantraceey:
I think he should use what he has to pay the bride price and then she can cover the rest expenses.

machi25:
that is rather unfair, if u love her,u would rather suffer to pay the money than do that.

crazyinlove:

I supported my husband during our traditional marriage but I made sure the bride price and all the traditional rites, he paid for them with his money. I don't see anything wrong with a woman assisting the husband but please it will wise if you allow him to pay the bride price with his money. That shows how responsible he is and how he will value you in the future
So my advice, allow the guy to pay the bride price and handle everything in the list. If you want to assist him, you can take care of any of the other expenses.
Biko, you shouldn't pay your bride price yourself.

safarigirl:
shey you know they pay groom price in India, is that also 'belittling' of men?

Nobody should scrap bride price, how you go just waka enter pesin house, carry wife comot, for wetin? Her parents must be sure that they're giving their daughter to someone who can take care of her in their absence.

Guys just keep abusing the fact that women work and contribute to the family, in normal climes this your suggestion should not even be brought up and the OP's question as well

BreezyRita:
I'm not sure where to post this. Mods help me out please

She's about to be married. The marriage requirements or 'lists' have been given to the husband to-be. Of course, he must have prepared for this. But the list is somewhat exorbitant and paying all these things will mean a less posh wedding........

My question: Should a woman who's financially stable assist her to-be with money for payment of the bride price or completion of the rites??

Is it advisable??

listenersky:
Pls no matter how nice the Lady might be,pls dont let her pay her own bride price,Because bride price is symbolic.You can only tell her to talk with her people if they can reduce the bride price for you.I know your bride must be an ibo chick,We all know that Ibo parents demand a lot from their future inlaw,so just like I advised a friend of mine,Impregnate the girl as soon as possible and see if they wont reduce the bride price.infact they will even beg you to come and take her for free.Do this and you will thank me later.Dont waste time o.

sandiyke:
Its a no-no for me. If he can't afford it now, he could pay it bid by bid after negotiations with the brides family.

No matter how matured they may think they are, misunderstandings that might warrant them to use it against each other could arise according to@mutter.

Let's just leave this culture the way we met it.

BreezyRita:
I'm not sure where to post this. Mods help me out please

She's about to be married. The marriage requirements or 'lists' have been given to the husband to-be. Of course, he must have prepared for this. But the list is somewhat exorbitant and paying all these things will mean a less posh wedding........

My question: Should a woman who's financially stable assist her to-be with money for payment of the bride price or completion of the rites??

Is it advisable??

listenersky:
Pls no matter how nice the Lady might be,pls dont let her pay her own bride price,Because bride price is symbolic.You can only tell her to talk with her people if they can reduce the bride price for you.I know your bride must be an ibo chick,We all know that Ibo parents demand a lot from their future inlaw,so just like I advised a friend of mine,Impregnate the girl as soon as possible and see if they wont reduce the bride price.infact they will even beg you to come and take her for free.Do this and you will thank me later.Dont waste time o.

BreezyRita:
I'm not sure where to post this. Mods help me out please

She's about to be married. The marriage requirements or 'lists' have been given to the husband to-be. Of course, he must have prepared for this. But the list is somewhat exorbitant and paying all these things will mean a less posh wedding........

My question: Should a woman who's financially stable assist her to-be with money for payment of the bride price or completion of the rites??

Is it advisable??

BigVeinyDick:
There can't be any woman that dumb in 2015.A man who cannot afford bride price should not be allowed to marry.Na who daughter e wan carry go dey suffer?

Karleb:
Just tell your father to reduce the list or become his second wife at age 40.

BreezyRita:
I'm not sure where to post this. Mods help me out please

She's about to be married. The marriage requirements or 'lists' have been given to the husband to-be. Of course, he must have prepared for this. But the list is somewhat exorbitant and paying all these things will mean a less posh wedding........

My question: Should a woman who's financially stable assist her to-be with money for payment of the bride price or completion of the rites??

Is it advisable??

Seun:
Tactfully let him know that you think the demands are outrageous and you're interested in helping but only if he wants you to help. If he requests your help, help, and make sure that you never ever mention it during any future quarrel with him. This is extremely important.