GraciousGod190:
https://www.nairaland.com/7080619/father-dragging-moms-property-me



Reading all the abuses I got from nairaland, from fellow nairalanders calling me a bastard, ungrateful son all because I was fighting for what was right and not material things.

My mom before she left us, the properties were passed down to her from her parents,(which some they inherited from their Grandparents) she didn't really have to do nothing a full time house wife.. because only the house rents alone she receives from tenants a year from different buildings kept her okay.... some were used for my education, I was made to understand here on nairaland that those properties belong more to my dad, so he can sell it out any way he deem fit... since he married her,. Even though they are ancestral properties.



But, I still don't agree....


So I reported my father to the most senior man in my mother's kindreds, from her father side. I went there on Saturday evening and narrated everything to him...the first thing he said was


YOUR FATHER NOR FIT (in our native language)

He was so angry that he had to call another man and told him everything on the phone, I went back to my house..... and got a call Sunday afternoon to come back around, to my surprise I saw my father there with lots of extended family members and they gave him a stern warning not to try anything funny with those lands.

That our trybe don't sell family lands, house.. inherited property.. that what even gave him the right to think about doing something like that in law for that matter... while my mom has a son...they even said I as the son can't even sell those lands talkless my father.

They ask him, if it was financial issue that gave him that thinking, at first he wanted to deny about selling before he admitted it...my father is not poor, a retired nnpc staff receiving his pension steadily.....he just likes having a lot of money to spend anyhow.... and seeing those lands available he thought he could sell them... but the family proved him wrong and there's nothing he can do about it.

I haven't called my mother kindreds from my my mother side, still observing.. while we Left the meeting, my dad was cold all through..I know he must have narrated to some of his educated friends..let's see if he will take this to court.

This doesn't have nothing to do with me again, but with my mothers kindreds.

Cc
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Seun

immortalcrown:
I have been vindicated once again. The kindred only cautioned your father not to sell the property because the kindred's tradition does not permit the selling of such property. But the kindred did not say you have more right than your father over the property.

Your argument was the property is your right. I told you your father owns the property. I said he owns the property despite the fact that his attempt to sell the property is bad. Fools disagreed with me.

GraciousGod190:
Do you read at all? They said I as a son can't even sell those land, talkless my father. What does that mean to you?

Mindlog:
I still sense your dad is furious for being denied free money.

Richy4:
U have succeeded in scaring your dad away from the land... What about you buddy? Have you not also handed them (family members) the right to decide on what happens to your mum's properties? Just asking .. if you wanna develop it tomorrow will they have a say?

immortalcrown:
You are the one who did not read at all. Your argument in your first post is the property belongs to you and not to your father. I said here that the kindred did not say the property belongs to you.

immortalcrown:
I have been vindicated once again. The kindred only cautioned your father not to sell the property because the kindred's tradition does not permit the selling of such property. But the kindred did not say you have more right than your father over the property.

Your argument was the property is your right. I told you your father owns the property. I said he owns the property despite the fact that his attempt to sell the property is bad. Fools disagreed with me.

Richy4:
U have succeeded in scaring your dad away from the land... What about you buddy? Have you not also handed them (family members) the right to decide on what happens to your mum's properties? Just asking .. if you wanna develop it tomorrow will they have a say?

Efewestern:


The Father has no single right over such property. The moment he makes any funny move, the properties will be seized by the woman's family in collaboration with the OP.

These are inhiritance not something built during the course of their marriage. Only a direct offspring like the OP has legitimate claim to theses lands and properties.

Had OP's mother never given birth, the woman's family will repossess those properties.

GraciousGod190 kudos for standing up. May God give you more wisdom.

GraciousGod190:

Scared you say, keep the abuse coming like the other time.

So I should allow him to sell my mother's ancestral home for cheap cash... just like that. Then tommorow when my children ask me to take them where they are from, I won't have a roof to shoe them.
Funny set of individuals we have on this site.

Abuse Hmmmm!!!
I will suggest u calm down a little and read slowly so that you can understand and comprehend before jumping in to reply...

If you can bring where I abused u in your previous post,.. I Richy will apologize... I challenge u...
But if you cannot provide any prove, then u will do what I ask which is " Reading first, comprehend, before commenting'

GraciousGod190:
So tell me where does my first and second post, shows my mother kindreds said the inheritance belongs to my father? You should have been there yesterday, the shame on his face was there...he wasn't told while he was called before he came to the meeting. You just be there typing anyhow.. no more response to you .

GraciousGod190:


Do you read at all?
They said I as a son can't even sell those land, talkless my father.

What does that mean to you?

He doesn't own any property there, according to our tradition.
In-law has no right whatsoever to decide his wife inheritance... except the children.

GraciousGod190:

Oniovo, emo

Efewestern:


You are even a brother, no wonder you have this fierce spirit.

Don't let anyone bend or blackmail you. You are on the right path and I believe our ancestors are solidly behind you. Never have I seen in our land where an in-law has a say over inherited properties of his wife. It has never happened anywhere.

Such properties are normally passed to her offspring(s). These things are even tabled during the burial of the woman.

Isn't your dad Urhobo too?

GraciousGod190:

No bro, if not I won't be here.

princeeze1:

It does not change the fact that your father and yourself lawfully owns the properties in question. If he chooses to pursue legally, the disposition of your maternal family will take back seat with respect to the law. He is the surviving partner where a spouse died intestate. If your mother died testate, all this would have been avoided. In a reverse scenario if your mother survived your dad, and your dad left an estate behind, who owns the estates in the absence of a valid will? Answer this and find the answer to your riddle.
Now, to your issue, morally(not legally) it is wrong for your dad to want to sell off the properties not due to a heavy pressing financial/health challenge, but rather for frivolities. Where parents are thinking of how to ensure the security of the future of their kids and grandchildren, he is busy trying to deplete the one he did not even personally plant.

Efewestern:


His father doesn't own a pin. This is an ancestral property and quite different from properties acquired during the course of their marriage. Also, it will be near impossible to trade off such properties because they are generally managed and looked upon by the Ekru (Family) of which OP is a part of. Family properties are not your typical 100*100 piece of land.

The OP's father is no even regarded as a member of that family, how then does he have access to such property?

Mariangeles:
So, what will happen to those lands/properties eventually?
Will you return them to your mother's ancestral home, or will you become part of your mother's family to keep them?
Wouldn't you have to bear your mother's family name to keep them (in the family)?

Efewestern:


His father doesn't own a pin. This is an ancestral property and quite different from properties acquired during the course of their marriage. Also, it will be near impossible to trade off such properties because they are generally managed and looked upon by the Ekru (Family) of which OP is a part of. Family properties are not your typical 100*100 piece of land.

The OP's father is no even regarded as a member of that family, how then does he have access to such property?

KiNg0G:

What a stupid question, sometimes I wonder the kind of people we have on this forum.
So those people who made it through their mother inheritance, disown their father side and take their mother surname just to have access to such inheritance?

Once again, what a stupid question

Mariangeles:
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God forbid that I do this with a characterless element like you!

Now flee from me! Flee!!!

Mariangeles:
So, what will happen to those lands/properties eventually?
Will you return them to your mother's ancestral home, or will you become part of your mother's family to keep them?
Wouldn't you have to bear your mother's family name to keep them (in the family)?

GraciousGod190:

I think king0g is right madam, this one of the most stupid question have ever come acrossed.