Fhemmmy:


Yes, i am male my dear sister.

carefreewannabe:


A sane woman knows that a father has RIGHTS and DUTIES and she grants him his RIGHTS and demands that he fulfills his DUTIES.

bukatyne:


@bold

DidN'T your uncle have any serious relationship when he was abroad?

Fhemmmy:


Child support . . .
If she is a woman that had to put her life on hold to take care of the home and husband and the kids, Spousal support.

raumdeuter:


This is pure laziness. Many kids stay with baby sitters from 2 months and nothing happens to them. Single mothers put their kids with baby sitters and they dont eat the children before they return

The fatherly duties include provision and the men take care of this and after divorce never ask to be refunded the money they spent feeding the family or paying the rent. Its the greedy party who seeks these.

Most Nigerian women dont pay for things in their own household. How many times have we seen women who would write an expense sheet and submit to the husband to be refunded. WHere does the saying "My money is my money, your money is our money" come from?

How many Nigerian women spend on their family. A woman spends a kobo the whole world would hear

Nobody should stop their career, let everyone works, So we wont stop all o them from being Alakija in their workplace.

Nonso23:


Nature is patriarchal. You choose either your family or your career. Your decision. No one forced you. Simple.

babyosisi:


Jehova I di egwu o
Jehova I di egwu o
Jehova

raumdeuter:


ANy sane man would provide money to take care of his child, WOmen asking to be rewarded for having their own babies is the appearance of insanity here

bukatyne:


Mutter,

I do not think you are hypocritical anymore...

I think you think different rules apply to you only and another set apply to everyone else (maybe every woman else).

If you think some women are extreme in supporting women, you go the other extreme to support men.

You will deal terribly with anyone who abuses your child yet you advice another woman to hush about hers and send the boy packing; you would not accept a man marrying you for papers/marrying another wife behind you yet you advise the woman to forgive and take the man back. A man cheats on his wife and has two kids with his gf yet you do not see why the wife should not accept polygamy...

You teach your sons men and women are equal yet most of your posts regard women as second class citizens

You had a terrible ex (even while you were good) yet you do not realize that some women might be in your shoes too.

Of course, you would have supporters as long as your posts suit them.

Why you think different rules apply to you is What I do not understand.

bukatyne:


And all the women killed had bastards?

Having bastards is an excuse to kill?

So much for those who say murder was not justified in This thread

soulglo:


Yes, really. I want to see it. Where anybody mocked her. It is very important to me

Nonso23:



And fulfilling those duties involves stealing his properties under the guise of payment for taking care of her responsibilities?

carefreewannabe:

Laziness? I will rather work extra hours for my boss than take care of a baby 24 / 7. I am serious.
I love kids but I also love my job and even though I don't have kids yet, I think that looking after a baby is harder than what I do for a living.
Some people hire maids, babysitters, nannies, whatever, and it works and in some cases, these kids are abused. I won't jeopardize my kids' life.
No strangers until s/he can speak.
The money he spends during marriage can be considered in the calculations.
And I can comfortably tell you that if it was me in the scenario, who will share the bills with the money I get on maternity leave, and we would consider what I lost when staying at home and after divorce for not having taken the chance to be promoted because I stayed at home, a middle class man will not be able to compensate me for the sacrifice.
Most is not all. Like I said, it can all be calculated and in some cases, the men will be happy that it is 50 / 50 and shut up.
True but we are talking about the "unjust" Western laws here, aren't we? And in the West MOST women don't reason like our Naija sisters. It must be considered when discussing these "unjust" laws.
You must also consider that in the West kids stay with the mother after divorce. Most men are perfectly ok with it. Why? Because it is comfortable. They can work full time, they don't have to work part time because they don'T pick the kids from school during the week, don't take them to sports club and wait there for them, don't cook for them every day, don't take them to doctors .......
They have their kids every second weekend. Convenient, isn't it?
It's not always possible and not necessarily advisable but it would go a long way if fathers understood that it takes more to be a parent than just provide food and shelter.

Fhemmmy:


So cos it doesnt favor them, they should put up with abuse and allow their kids to see that on a daily basis? only for the kids to now think it is normal for MOM to slave for papa?

raumdeuter:
Black American men, African men, Arabian men, Hispanic men white men have never been to Nigeria before and they dont have Nigerian mentality

How come majority of Nigerian women in DIaspora still dont marry them

Soon you would see a thread by a diaspora Nigerian female then Nigerian men are leaving them to marry non Nigerians

FriedPlantain:
My bitterleaf , how is you day going ma'am?

raumdeuter:
@ carefreewannabe, You last post was very sensible.

raumdeuter:


Child support I fully support.

spousal support I disagree, then who would pay or refund the man for money he has spent on the family while the woman had no contribution

babyosisi:


People tend to stick to their kind that's why
The same reason majority of married Igbo women are married to Igbo men and majority of married Yoruba women are married to Yoruba men
Is that hard to understand why nigerian women prefer nigerian men

bukatyne:


Mutter,

I do not think you are hypocritical anymore...

I think you think different rules apply to you only and another set apply to everyone else (maybe every woman else).

If you think some women are extreme in supporting women, you go the other extreme to support men.

You will deal terribly with anyone who abuses your child yet you advice another woman to hush about hers and send the boy packing; you would not accept a man marrying you for papers/marrying another wife behind you yet you advise the woman to forgive and take the man back. A man cheats on his wife and has two kids with his gf yet you do not see why the wife should not accept polygamy...

You teach your sons men and women are equal yet most of your posts regard women as second class citizens

You had a terrible ex (even while you were good) yet you do not realize that some women might be in your shoes too.

Of course, you would have supporters as long as your posts suit them.

Why you think different rules apply to you is What I do not understand.

raumdeuter:
Black American men, African men, Arabian men, Hispanic men white men have never been to Nigeria before and they dont have Nigerian mentality

How come majority of Nigerian women in DIaspora still dont marry them

Soon you would see a thread by a diaspora Nigerian female then Nigerian men are leaving them to marry non Nigerians

Dragonking:


My brother stop saying what you don't know ..men abuse women and women abuse men...the only difference is that a man feels ashamed to report such issue becos people might make jest of him instead of treating the issue as a serious offence...read this and stop trying hard to win sympathy from the ladies here..


https://www.nairaland.com/2132096/woman-allegedly-kills-husband-stabbing

carefreewannabe:


I am not asking to be rewarded. I am asking for fairness.

2sExy1:
he had one but the Nigerian whom was a problem. They even had a son. The one he came to Nigeria to marry was his second due to the problem that one caused there was no issue. The 3rd one is in Nigeria. Dude has marked his boundaries and that one is going to remain in naija from look of things. Once bitten twice shy I guess.

babyosisi:


People tend to stick to their kind that's why
The same reason majority of married Igbo women are married to Igbo men and majority of married Yoruba women are married to Yoruba men
Is that hard to understand why nigerian women in the diaspora would prefer nigerian men

Fhemmmy:


Please come again, did you just said she had no contribution?
Cooking for him - He could as well hire a chef (Imagine in western world - 1000$ per month)
Taking care of the kids - He could as well hire a Nanny ( Another 1000$ per month)
And while the man was gone, she take care of the home, and mind you, lots of these ladies are ready to work, BUT hubby told her to quit and be a "Stay home" Mom , , , , Now when wahala happen, it means she has to go back to work and do you know how long before she will get something cos she has been out of work for probably a while?
Go figure.
Contribution is NOT always about MONEY . . . Houston's daughter has money right now, but an emotional wreck . . . AGAIN no one could reward a woman for all she has contributed.

coogar:


but according to this thread, nigerian men are....

criminals
beasts
unruly
monsters
wife murderers
abusers
drug addicts
fraudsters
priggish
obnoxious

leave them alone, try the caucasian males or the highly polygynous carribbean men. that's what the ever-innocent nigerian men deserve.