A friend of my need advice

Its all about the girl he wants to marry...The girls dad gave him period to come foward so that they will set the date for the marriage but he is not ready yet..The girl truly luvs him
**Note: many suitors have been asking her hand in marriage but she kips turning down the offer..now the pressure is too much
PLS ADVICE HIM ON WHAT TO DO

kkkp:
A friend of my need advice

Its all about the girl he wants to marry...The girls dad gave him period to come foward so that they will set the date for the marriage but he is not ready yet..The girl truly luvs him
**Note: many suitors have been asking her hand in marriage but she kips turning down the offer..now the pressure is too much
PLS ADVICE HIM ON WHAT TO DO

He shouldn't agree to such ultimatum. He should take his time and do it when he is ready. Hope the lady is not by her father's side tho.

But why is the girl's dad being so cavalier and insensitive to the guy's situation?
Or is there something else we don't know?

PoisonedOne:
He shouldn't agree to such ultimatum. He should take his time and do it when he is ready. Hope the lady is not by her father's side tho.

But why is the girl's dad being so cavalier and insensitive to the guy's situation?
Or is there something else we don't know?

nutin but I think d girl is supporting the father

kkkp:
nutin but I think d girl is supporting the father

Why is he not ready

How long is d relationship

How old.is he and the lady

PoisonedOne:
He shouldn't agree to such ultimatum. He should take his time and do it when he is ready. Hope the lady is not by her father's side tho.

But why is the girl's dad being so cavalier and insensitive to the guy's situation?
Or is there something else we don't know?

are you for real? Well, since it is obvious you are a loooong way from being a father in the real sense of the world, let me ask you this, if your sister were in the same position, how would you handle it?

Op, the girl is the one who needs advice here. If her goal is to settle down in the nearest future and that goal is not shared with the boy she is with, then she better be wise and get a man who is on the same page with her, before she wakes up one day with no suitor!

pickabeau1:


Why is he not ready

How long is d relationship

How old.is he and the lady

almost 3 years.. He is not ready cuz he is not financially stable

kkkp:
almost 3 years.. He is not ready cuz he is not financially stable

What is his plan
When will he be ready

pickabeau1:


What is his plan
When will he be ready

atleast a year

kkkp:
atleast a year

At least.... Not good

If u said at most

How old are they

pickabeau1:


At least.... Not good

If u said at most

How old are they

the girl is a little bit young

kkkp:
the girl is a little bit young

The girl no get age?

Yea but it should be the girl asking him that not her father.
It makes it look like her family is putting pressure on him.

Evina:


are you for real? Well, since it is obvious you are a loooong way from being a father in the real sense of the world, let me ask you this, if your sister were in the same position, how would you handle it?

Op, the girl is the one who needs advice here. If her goal is to settle down in the nearest future and that goal is not shared with the boy she is with, then she better be wise and get a man who is on the same page with her, before she wakes up one day with no suitor!

pickabeau1:


The girl no get age?

19

kkkp:
19

She's too young to be considering marriage

cococandy:
Yea but it should be the girl asking him that not her father.
It makes it look like her family is putting pressure on him.

If a girl is adamant about sticking to a guy whose future plans for her is obscure, it is well within her father's right to have "the talk" with the guy.

Obviously, she has talked with him and he has stated he isn't ready because even the friend points that out.

Evina:


are you for real? Well, since it is obvious you are a loooong way from being a father in the real sense of the world, let me ask you this, if your sister were in the same position, how would you handle it?

Op, the girl is the one who needs advice here. If her goal is to settle down in the nearest future and that goal is not shared with the boy she is with, then she better be wise and get a man who is on the same page with her, before she wakes up one day with no suitor!

her goal is to settle down with d guy dats y she is rejecting suitors

kkkp:
19

Why is her father interested in marrying her off so soon?

Is you friend sure they don't want to dump her education and their responsibilities on him?

kkkp:
her goal is to settle down with d guy dats y she is rejecting suitors

Of course that is her goal. But is that his goal?

Evina:


If a girl is adamant about sticking to a guy whose future plans for her is obscure, it is well within her father's right to have "the talk" with the guy.

Obviously, she has talked with him and he has stated he isn't ready because even the friend points that out.

Well she's only 19 according to the OP

Which sane father will be all about bundling her off at that age?
How do we know there are other suitors?
Classic tale used to stampede some guys into hasty commitment because they are made to believe they might lose her if they don't hurry.

pickabeau1:


She's too young to be considering marriage

yeah..she is even desperate to get married dats y d father

cococandy:


Why is her father interested in marrying her off so soon?

Is you friend sure they don't want to dump her education and their responsibilities on him?

As the op pointed out, other suitors are coming to fish in that lake. So, the dad is even considerate and respectful of the guys feelings to ask about his intentions. Some men would have compared and contrasted and banned the girl from seeing the dude.

Evina:


As the op pointed out, other suitors are coming to fish in that lake. So, the dad is even considerate and respectful of the guys feelings to ask about his intentions. Some men would have compared and contrasted and banned the girl from seeing the dude.

hmm. Ok

kkkp:
yeah..she is even desperate to get married dats y d father

Is she a graduate

cococandy:


Why is her father interested in marrying her off so soon?

Is you friend sure they don't want to dump her education and their responsibilities on him?

er father wants her to finish skul..but to her she just want to get married

cococandy:


Well she's only 19 according to the OP

Which sane father will be all about bundling her off at that age?
How do we know there are other suitors?
Classic tale used to stampede some guys into hasty commitment because they are made to believe they might lose her if they don't hurry.

That age may be young to you but ripe enough for some others. You don't know where they are from and their cultural practises.

cococandy:


Well she's only 19 according to the OP

Which sane father will be all about bundling her off at that age?
How do we know there are other suitors?
Classic tale used to stampede some guys into hasty commitment because they are made to believe they might lose her if they don't hurry.

I'm sure of dat cuz she is very beautiful with all d curvz

kkkp:
er father wants her to finish skul..but to her she just want to get married

Cococandy, you don see am now.

pickabeau1:


Is she a graduate

no

kkkp:
er father wants her to finish skul..but to her she just want to get married

If the father wants her to finish school first, why is he the one on the guy's neck?

Anyway na their matter be that.

So what do you your friend want us to help you with?
How to tell the father to wait that you're not ready?

Just say it na. If they can't wait, they will marry the next suitor that comes.
Gives your time to plan your life and not be rushed into anything.

kkkp:
no

OK...I wish fada n daughter n son in law d best

Evina:


Cococandy, you don see am now.

i don see am

cococandy:


If the father wants her to finish school first, why is he the one on the guy's neck?

Anyway na their matter be that.

So what do you your friend want us to help you with?
How to tell the father to wait that you're not ready?

Just say it na. If they can't wait, they will marry the next suitor that comes.
Gives your time to plan your life and not be rushed into anything.

I'm not the one o! But I will take your last sentence to him