I know this sounds like an easy answer but it's not.
I was having this discussion with a friend today.

Supposing a Christian man and woman falls in love and gets married vowing to love each other till death.
They have a healthy, explosive sex life but somewhere along the line the man left her for another woman.
He flies for divorce goes on to marry the new woman

The woman remains single and shares custody of the kids woth the husband.
But they continue to have sex ocassionally.
It may be immoral but is it sinful especially since the Bible [b]for the most part is against divorce ?[/b]
And the woman in this case never stopped loving the husband despite what he did to her and would like him back.

I know this sounds like an easy answer but it's not.
I was having this discussion with a friend today.

Supposing a Christian man and woman fall in love and get married vowing to love each other till death.
They have a healthy, explosive sex life but somewhere along the line the man left her for another woman.
He flies for divorce goes on to marry the new woman

The woman remains single and shares custody of the kids with the husband.
But they continue to have sex ocassionally.
It may be immoral but is it sinful especially since the Bible [b]for the most part is against divorce ?[/b]
And the woman in this case never stopped loving the husband despite what he did to her and would like him back.

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From the man's part = sin.
On the part of the woman . . . i cant say, its her husband anyway.

ummm, why is she eating left over?

davidylan:

From the man's part = sin.
On the part of the woman . . . i cant say, its her husband anyway.

That was my thought also.
I thought the woman could chop the man if she wanted to and he was up for it.

*Hauwa*:

ummm, why is she eating left over?

Hmm
If I told you how this whole discussion started you would call me a crazy woman.

Why cant they remarry at least for the sake of free, legalised sex and the kids?

the man commits adultery . . .

the woman commits fornication . . .

I feel the dude is being very selfish.

Fornication? The woman has done nothing wrong, she's simply having sex with her husband . . .

davidylan:

Fornication? The woman has done nothing wrong, she's simply having sex with her husband . . .

Gbam!

So what you are saying is that no sin is being commited against the new wife?

and what kind of retarded woman would STILL sleep with a guy that left her for another woman?

1. the new wife shld not have married a divorcee anyway if she were a true christian so she is living in sin herself.

2. I dont blame the wife . . . she has only 2 options - remain celibate (since she doesnt want to sin) or sleep with the man she married and still loves.

DeReloaded:

So what you are saying is that no sin is being commited against the new wife?

and what kind of retarded woman would STILL sleep with a guy that left her for another woman?

The Bible calls the new wife an adulteress,that opens up a whole 'nother dimension to this discussion

davidylan:

1. the new wife shld not have married a divorcee anyway if she were a true christian so she is living in sin herself.

and if she's not a Christian?

Rules of Christianity aside, the whole situation is pathetic. Woman should move on. He comes for sex and then leaves and sleeps with someone else. That's disgusting

DeReloaded:

and if she's not a Christian?

Rules of Christianity aside, the whole situation is pathetic. Woman should move on. He comes for sex and then leaves and sleeps with someone else. That's disgusting

The scenario of this discussion is that the woman is a Christian.
That is the main crux of the matter.

davidylan:

1. the new wife shld not have married a divorcee anyway if she were a true christian so she is living in sin herself.

2. I dont blame the wife . . . she has only 2 options - remain celibate (since she doesnt want to sin) or sleep with the man she married and still loves.

Actually the Bible says that if the unbelieving man leaves his spouse (this man obviously would qualify),she's not bound.
She could remarry isn't it so?

DeReloaded:



Rules of Christianity aside, the whole situation is pathetic. Woman should move on. He comes for sex and then leaves and sleeps with someone else. That's disgusting

Very true
But what if she dooesn't want to go dating and sampling other men
should she just buy some gadgets to help her out and forget men when she still loves and believes her man will come back

good question Dereloaded. i wonder why too. maybe he does it real good   the man is enjoying himself. dinner served with dessert.

is he a nigerian?  

yeah she should get those gadget better than disobeying the bible she believes in.

*Hauwa*:

good question Dereloaded. i wonder why too. maybe he does it real good   the man is enjoying himself. dinner served with dessert.

is he a nigerian?  

It's just a hypothetical situation

*Hauwa*:

yeah she should get those gadget better than disobeying the bible she believes in.

How is she disobeying he Bible?

**osisi:

Actually the Bible says that if the unbelieving man leaves his spouse (this man obviously would qualify),she's not bound.
She could remarry isn't it so?

she could remarry true but the bible also says if she be willing to stay with him then she is free to do so. Its tough but the woman shld remarry for the sake of her sanity, the dude is simply eating from two pots.

sleeping with a married man, isn't that wrong?

now she is not married but shagging right?

*Hauwa*:

sleeping with a married man, isn't that wrong?

now she is not married but shagging right?

she still sees him as her husband.Biblically,she's still his wife and so has done no wrong.

davidylan:

she could remarry true but the bible also says if she be willing to stay with him then she is free to do so. Its tough but the woman shld remarry for the sake of her sanity, the dude is simply eating from two pots.

True.
Maybe rather than commiting adultery
If the thing hungry her she can chop the small till she marries
This is I speaking,not the Lord

**osisi:

True.
Maybe rather than commiting adultery
If the thing hungry her she can chop the small till she marries
This is I speaking,not the Lord

your husband na apostle paul?

For clarity's sake, i'm assuming the woman is a true christian and the husband is not?

was divorce between them finalised in court and was she a signatory to it?

this is a made up scenario David

The scenario of this discussion is that the woman is a Christian.
That is the main crux of the matter.

I meant what if the new wife isnt Christian.

Either way the woman should remarry, this scenerios makes them no better than the Muslims. It's pretty much polygamy.

The gadgets are also frowned at I think?

It amounts to masturbation doesnt it and remember the guy that was killed in the bible cos he spilled the semen on the floor.

Is there a correlation in my argument

Karmamod/Dereloaded,

When would you reinstate that picture na? Abeg