maldox:


Lol @ bolded.
It is not an attitude ish,cos I relate very well with colleagues and clients. Chats ,jokes etc,sometimes go for lunch in the company of two to three pple.

But the problem is actually taken it beyond office or work environment. Also,I'm not the talking type of person.

Now i get you, well real friends are hard to come by don't just put pressure on yourself u just need to study people know what you exactly want indue time you will be fine trust me plus you not going out does'nt mean your social life is dead its just that you have'nt met the right people to juice it up for you

1. Make friends from work, hang out a bit on Friday and Saturday nights... You don't necessarily have to go to clubs or parties. It could be for drinks or watching soccer games.

2. Try out new things. Look for places you can visit, new restaurants you can try out. Sightseeing, fishing, hiking... Anything to keep you from just sitting at home alone.

3. Go to church or family gatherings more often.

4. Go to the gym or join a sports club.

You will meet interesting people in the process

nobilis:
I would have opted to be your friend but I'm an introvert and since you're seeking to resurrect your social life, I'm wondering if an introvert is what you need at this stage.

Lol.

amokeme:
this is a perfect life style, except for the no friend part (which I don't want to believe anyways) Why would you want to change it??

Perfect life style?.
Please kindly explain.

Cutehector:
sorry abt my "harsh comment" is dah d number u use for whatsapp? My whatsapp no is 08120345214. Saved urs already

No hard feelings bro.

That's my WhatsApp number, chat you up later.

maldox:


No hard feelings bro.

That's my WhatsApp number, chat you up later.

wow, hws work today

Cutehector:
wow, hws work today

Work was fine, yours?

maldox:


Work was fine, yours?

not workin presently sha.. Job huntin

Special thanks to everyone that commented on this thread especially those that proferred some solutions to my problem. I really appreciate your kind suggestions.
Thank you.

More suggestions are welcomed.

Cutehector:
not workin presently sha.. Job huntin

Its well bro,chat you up on WhatsApp.

maldox:


Its well bro,chat you up on WhatsApp.

alryt

maldox:


Perfect life style?.
Please kindly explain.

to me, it is.. I cant explain

amokeme:
to me, it is.. I cant explain

Lol,thanks for your suggestion.

Op, u know i do understand u very well.

Especially, if u are based in Abuja. u will always feel lonely and bored. No friends. Ur collagues are ur friends, but, which automatically ends after close of work.

I am talking from experience too. In my own case, I have to beg my friend to come and start staying with me.


That helped a little, because, right now, she is nt even at home. And, i am alone as usual. with nl my companion.

missbronze:
Op, u know i do understand u very well.

Especially, if u are based in Abuja. u will always feel lonely and bored. No friends. Ur collagues are ur friends, but, which automatically ends after close of work.

I am talking from experience too. In my own case, I have to beg my friend to come and start staying with me.


That helped a little, because, right now, she is nt even at home. And, i am alone as usual. with nl my companion.

dnt worry am cumin over

maldox:
My social life is dead.I hardly go out,spends my time after work alone. I don't even have any friend.
Kindly suggest ways to change the status quo.

Thank you.

Welcome to the club, I usually go swimming but sadly I have jobs I do weekends that put money in my pocket so its always between money or hanging out. If you get answers share with me.

maldox:
My social life is dead.I hardly go out,spends my time after work alone. I don't even have any friend.
Kindly suggest ways to change the status quo.

Thank you.

Call a Mord Sith

maldox:


Thanks bro, I attend church gatherings but finds it difficult to make friends or interact outside such gathering.

Dont just be a seat warmer churchgoer bro.

Begin to actively participate in your church's activities especially mid-week services like your Bible study program (which is a good avenue for your church brethren to really get to know you and where you can closely interact with each other about the Bible).


Also join the Youth fellowship of your church and be an active member there too. This means that you will have to be regularly attending their meetings as well.


And I assure you that when you do all the above, you will soon have enough godly friends to last you a lifetime; lol.

missbronze:
Op, u know i do understand u very well.

Especially, if u are based in Abuja. u will always feel lonely and bored. No friends. Ur collagues are ur friends, but, which automatically ends after close of work.

I am talking from experience too. In my own case, I have to beg my friend to come and start staying with me.


That helped a little, because, right now, she is nt even at home. And, i am alone as usual. with nl my companion.

Wow,you hit the nail on the head.
Are you in Abuja too?.

pcguru1:


Welcome to the club, I usually go swimming but sadly I have jobs I do weekends that put money in my pocket so its always between money or hanging out. If you get answers share with me.

Mehn,I'm eager to leave this club . Are you in Abuja?.

limamintruth:


Dont just be a seat warmer churchgoer bro.

Begin to actively participate in your church's activities especially mid-week services like your Bible study program (which is a good avenue for your church brethren to really get to know you and where you can closely interact with each other about the Bible).


Also join the Youth fellowship of your church and be an active member there too. This means that you will have to be regularly attending their meetings as well.


And I assure you that when you do all the above, you will soon have enough godly friends to last you a lifetime; lol.

Ok

maldox:


Mehn,I'm eager to leave this club . Are you in Abuja?.

Lagos.

limamintruth:


Dont just be a seat warmer churchgoer bro.

Begin to actively participate in your church's activities especially mid-week services like your Bible study program (which is a good avenue for your church brethren to really get to know you and where you can closely interact with each other about the Bible).


Also join the Youth fellowship of your church and be an active member there too. This means that you will have to be regularly attending their meetings as well.


And I assure you that when you do all the above, you will soon have enough godly friends to last you a lifetime; lol.

this sound boring it's almost the same as work.

maldox:


Wow,you hit the nail on the head.
Are you in Abuja too?.

Yes. that's why i am able to understand what u are passing tru.

pcguru1:
this sound boring it's almost the same as work.

Work how?

All he needs to do is to actively join his church youth fellowship and also regularly participate in the church's Bible study meetings; dats all.


Making new friends is his best bet to reinvigorating his comatose social life cos he doesnt have anyone to hangout with in the first place. And as far as the truth is concerned, the church is the best avenue to meet & make good friends.

Op u r just my twin, I hv d same problem but it seems dt mine is even worst bcoz anytime my colleague dt promised to help me out of dis situation I found myself as an introvert takes me out it will look as if he is forcing me to live abnormal life. No friends except my colleagues n after work everyone will go his or her separate way, it's well sha God knows the reason.

Sleekbaby:
Op u r just my twin, I hv d same problem but it seems dt mine is even worst bcoz anytime my colleague dt promised to help me out of dis situation I found myself as an introvert takes me out it will look as if he is forcing me to live abnormal life. No friends except my colleagues n after work everyone will go his or her separate way, it's well sha God knows the reason.

Hmmmm, so what efforts are you making to change the situation?.

maldox Hmmmm, so what efforts are you making to change the situation?

A colleague of mine promised to help me out but I don't feel like going out n I find it very hard to interact with d friends he introduced me to

pcguru1:


Lagos.

Ok

Sleekbaby:
maldox Hmmmm, so what efforts are you making to change the situation?

A colleague of mine promised to help me out but I don't feel like going out n I find it very hard to interact with d friends he introduced me to

Well,I think y'd have to help yourself too.

=maldox Well,I think y'd have to help yourself too.

Yeah I know is necessary but how is what I don't know but I will keep trying sha.

OnyeEgo1:
I have only two pple in my life... My family and ''people i know'' as 4 friends i can do alot without them, i don't even need dem....

So i ask; what do u want a friend for??

lol.I can feel ur pain