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tearoses:
Marriage has been turned into worse than the Syrian war
Plots, firepower, secret service, weapons, spys, war crimes, surface to air missles and prisoners everywhere.
I am 101% sure that this is not what God intened for marriage
It is well.

Desperate times call for desperate measures.

SonOfEl:


and let's see who hurts the most eventually.....

who knows...?

Ilekeh:
Had this incident with someone. Told me to serve him food. Walahi he's too afraid to ask me again.

@all the desperate girls/wives tweeting "serve him", at the end of the day, if he wants to divorce you, he will.

And what did you do to him?
Insult the living daylight out of him abi?

raayah:


*clap*clap*clap*clap*

if plating food is an issue in marriage, there is no love in that marriage shikena.

man: Honey why didnt you plate my food.
wife: I'm a little busy, help yourself.
man: NO, you must serve me. I need complete service

This does not make sense at all.

the man asks you lovingly as in 'honey', you responded coldly, then he gets challenged and lashes back..... see how you ladies of today scatter your home.

Joy1706:
Please I will want to know the opinion of people.
My husband insists I dish his food. For instance, if I set the food on the table with plates and cutlery, he prefers I dish onto his plate, that it shows complete service.i think otherwise because I might be busy attending to other chores. This morning he almost left for work without taking breakfast and when i asked why he was leaving, he said the service was not complete. So I had to leave what I was doing to dish food for him.

What are your views on this?
*culled from facebook*

Sister. Do all you can to make him happy even if he ask you to feed him, failure to render such simple task will attract potential husband snatchers!
So watch out!!!

Why would you even post something like this here, you now need an opinion on dishing food for your husband.

Sometimes, even when I cook, I ask my wife to go dish the food. ..

Sister. Do all you can to make him happy even if he ask you to feed him, failure to render such simple task will attract potential husband snatchers!
So watch out!!!

bukatyne:


I hope she is kneeling while serving you with her face tilted downwards...

We won't except her to be rude enough to look you directly in the eyes... not so

And she will also rub your back so after food so you will bulch

Ahhhhhhh.....ahhhhhhh....ahhhhhh! abeg make una leave person for this thread o! Ahhhhh......ahhhhhh!!!

CSTR2:
You are a nitwit.
I have no problem with the woman finding it hard to serve her husband. That is her own business as long as she can live with the consequences.
But you calling a Man ''wretched'' because he wants his own wife to serve him food that he most likely provided with his own money is a very stupidd thing.
Grow up son/ daughter.

Don't you get it , your father in his right sense of mind will not dare join issues with you least of you . Vamoose and never quote me again !Idiot .

Servitude doesn't mean Loyalty . A sane and morally sound man will never demand for servitude from his wife or any other human being at that . Loyalty is earned not given , just as trust and respect are earned not given too . Once more , I say , I don't join issues with " too clever by half " people like you ! Slowpoke .

@bold, possibly.

If she is more out of the house and busy with other stuff outside the home, he will graduate from serving the food in front of him onto his plate to making dinner before she gets home sometimes.

The pouting and tantrums is because he's seeing her available all the time to attend to him.

I think it's unnecessary bringing such a trivial matter to the social media. For me she didn't try but I'm surprised some people don't think there's something wrong with the man's behavior.

Even rejecting food because it was in front of you and not put on your plate? That's abnormal.
Why can't we just call a spade a spade.
His behavior isn't normal.

babygirlfl:
Did I read it right? Are we talking about Oga dishing food that is in front of him?

It seems the wife is a housewife. I don't see the man asking the wife to dish food that is already served if she too was getting ready for work at the same time. It does not make Oga right but at least he will have an excuse.

From the fb replies, it is clear most women don't pamper their husband because they love and adore him but because they are scared another woman will take their place. Yet the said men still jump from one woman to another claiming men are polygamous. Just how these women live their life like that beats me. So sad.

pretydiva:
D man is just being immature imo

with this kinda friends around u, i swear ur marriage no go last 6months. Mtchew





Lazy gals who are not ready to do dere duty as wifes. When u clock 35 without husband dem dey wait for u here

byvan03:



Most women mistake the gift bearer as a friend, you look at the content of a man's heart. I realised that when you see a Man/woman whining on how terrible and beastly their spouse is, know that he/she knows exactly where the rain started beating them.

Any woman that claims she doesn't know who she married is either a liar or chose to stick her head into the sand.

Word!!!!

Serve him food or you go your papa house

Adaeze003:


In other words, if oyibos have no problem doing do it why SHOULD the Nigerian girls. I have no problem with your opinion but the comparison makes it look like "una no even be oyibo and una dey form" like they're better off or something. I might have interpreted wrong but...

Truth be told, some blacks will always be slaves to white men...

Are you better than any oyibo woman. Give instances in which you are superior so I can believe.

Bevista:
Even as a man, I could not disagree with any of the points you raised. The man is not making it easy for the woman. With such pettiness, I fear the woman may just be 'tolerating' the marriage and not 'enjoying' it.

Did it occur to you to ask if the man was enjoying the marriage or tolerating it? Did it occur to you that he may have addressed this issue before now? Or is the woman the only one with legitimate rights to enjoyment?

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My views?

The wife is in serious dereliction of her duty. The expectation is;

1. She prepares all meals fresh in direct accord with his taste and preferences
2. She sets-up and serves him accordingly
3. She waits on him while he eats - being proactive in ensuring he has all he needs
4. She clears up at his prompting - although she should learn to take non-verbal cues here.
5. She presents warm soapy water for washing hands, followed by a scented towel for drying - he may prefer you to dry, verify this.
6. She should thank him for allowing her to be of service
7. She should make enquiry as to how she could have improved the service

I also think he's a bit slack for permitting this slovenly approach - give 'em an inch and they'll take a mile. As for "having other chores to attend to", what could take priority over serving your husband .

Arrant nonsense. A woman that loves and is committed to you will love to serve you. All these side-chicks masquerading as wives. Next she'll be asking for you to consider her needs during intimacy .



What if she has a new born to attend to ..I don't see anything wrong in the man dishing out his own food, it's the same man that will tell her the food is cold if she dishes it..do you know if she has a help? They should both try and compromise.

is this really an issue?

Timbuktou:


Are you better than any oyibo woman. Give instances in which you are superior so I can believe.

I'm not better and they ain't better.(period)

panegyrics:
If that's wat he want, u dnt av choice, U MUST ALWAYS DISH FOR HIM. He owns the final say in the house as the head of the family. Our men always want us(women) to be pampering them like baby and that's wat they are in our hand. At least after breast feeding the baby during the day, we breast feed them in the night....

WHAAAAAAAAAAAATTTTTTTTTT?!!!

byvan03:
Until women learn to marry their friends and not some psychologically stuck up old stick in the mud, woe shall continue to be their tales. Marry your friend and lover, period!

In order words your friend and lover cannot stop being ur friend and lover after marriage... it's only God that gives us grace everything can change just pray it wont.

I agree with you on this. But for peace let her do it and I believe discuss with him about this issue. Well maybe the wife does something shes not telling us. Cos I dont believe a reasonable man will do this. Very very very very immature.

MarvellousGod:
He's not only being immature, he's being very very silly. .. rejecting your wife's food cos of a petty issue? What will now happen if the food isn't cooked well? Pour it on her? I suspect he has another place he goes to eat and just uses this as an excuse. ..

My dear, this is marriage. Some things are supposed to be overlooked. . Do you think the marriage will survive if the woman picks on small stuffs the husband does? How do they handle bigger issues if they see this as a problem? The woman has cooked the food (definitely alone), she has served also, to dish out is the only problem. Maybe she should also feed the man after dishing out.. so laughable, ... The man does it even when the woman is busy with other things. . As I said hunger never catch am or he doesn't enjoy the wife's food hence giving unreasonable excuses. ...

In HIS own house abi? Where's the woman's house? Maybe the corridor? .. this is what spoils marriage, selfishness, instead of doing things as "ours", you do as 'mine'

I may advice the woman to start doing as the husband wishes to avoid irreparable problems but that doesn't make the man's whining reasonable. ....

4C2215131:


Desperate times call for desperate measures.

True and correct.

Timbuktou:
Did it occur to you to ask if the man was enjoying the marriage or tolerating it? Did it occur to you that he may have addressed this issue before now? Or is the woman the only one with legitimate rights to enjoyment?

Fair points raised. I guess without more information, one would have to reserve further judgment. It's a family affair, so I'm backing off now.

Empero1:


Don't you get it , your father in his right sense of mind will not dare join issues with you least of you . Vamoose and never quote me again !Idiot .

Servitude doesn't mean Loyalty . A sane and morally sound man will never demand for servitude from his wife or any other human being at that . Loyalty is earned not given , just as trust and respect are earned not given too . Once more , I say , I don't join issues with " too clever by half " people like you ! Slowpoke .

You are a nitwit.
Servitude is a service bereft of choice. The marriage in question is not bereft of choice. She is free to leave the marriage.
You must be a mad to think you are sane in the first place.
Ill-educated slowpoke parading half witted opinion gotten from half-witted sources.
A full-blown suffering nincompoop telling a man what to do in his own house and how to treat his own wife.
Get lost.

urheme:


True and correct.

I wonder o. Different strokes for different folks.

Ngokafor:






....My dear how do you 'try and talk' to a supposed adult to dish his food placed right in front of him instead of quarreling like a shrew and sulking like he apparantly loves to do.Is he a toddler?the man is sick upstairs and is tired of that marriage,trust me..

..And the woman too is a case,why she wont simply dish his own portion of food on his prefered plate,cover and place it in front and then proceeds to do other things beats me..if she is smart she should cut out any elaborate setting of table or whatever and just dish his portion straight from the pot into his plate from the get-go.

I think the woman doesn't want the food to get cold. That's y she puts it in dishing plates that don't conduct heat maybe??

I really wonder how she's with him. she should have noticed some traits while they courted or probably arranged marriage

About the tired of the marriage part, I thought so too or maybe he paid too much on her head and it's the only way to justify it.

All the same I just advised her in a way that it'll not cause more problems...

zeeblamj:
Hello to u Madam.
I might not be married long enough (six months) but I've been with him long enough to know that a woman is not a maid.
Why is ur husband disrespecting u this much? It all depends on how u started the relationship. He got used to u being his maid and now he wants u to be his maid for the rest of ur lives.
The problem with us women is that while dating we pretend to be the ultimate by cleaning cooking and washing his butt when needs be. After marriage we then expect him to suddenly grow out of it??
Grab urself back up. U are are woman. His wife! Not his maid. Communication is the best thing here. In my opinion coming back here to ask doesn't help cause people's opinions differ and u might get confused in the end and maybe ruin. Ur marriage.
Let me give u an example. I once was in a long distance relationship because of schooling and working and when we got engaged I had gone to visit him for a few days. It was the worst experience of my life cause he needed a maid. Not a wife. He had no respect for me and expected me to cook him breakfast, lunch, dinner, clean and do the laundry without him helping one bit . I couldn't take that disrespect from a man and I broke off the whole thing.
My dear, talk to ur husband about this when he's in the right mood, explain to him how much u have to do around the house. With ur love and patience he will come to understand and help u do chores when he has the time. Communication is key. I have seven years with thesame man to prove it.
Please ladies, don't start the relationship by being his slave otherwise u will be that forever. Marriage is a 50/50 affair and don't let anyone tell u a man is ur lord. Man of the house? What about the woman of the house?
My husband (then fiancé) came home earlier from work and he used to cook dinner before I was back. Did that make him less of a man? I also do things for him and we make sacrifices for eachother. That's what love is.

Thread softly now...real gently now.

Bevista:
Fair points raised. I guess without more information, one would have to reserve further comments. It's a family affair, so I'm backing off now.

And I believe the point most men are making is why is this matter in public at all? Why isn't she talking to her husband. This woman seems mentally unbalanced posting this on facebook. This isn't the business of anybody but theirs.

MrKontrovErsy:
uv already known d right thing to do from ur facebook frnds
or are u looking for single soul to tell u dont do it?
and den ull hold on to that?

dey dere na until a bad gal gets to kno.
den we'll see another topic here
help i think my man is eating outside

ur head dey there,u spoke da words outta our mouth..........misskiffy must not only..wetin she call am again,ok dish out my ojéun,she must feed me as well..o yes..or else.....