Happy birthday to me..... Guys appreciate me.... Its only God that can do it....today is my day

shndy:
They are both very good friends of mine, their trouble started few months after their wedding.
When they got married they both had plans to wait like a year before raising kids. Then d wife made d mistake of telling her MIL about d plan and we know how naija mamas are, immediately after wedding they want to c u preggy.
So d mother with d husband's sister instigated d wife and schemed with her to get pregnant without telling him.
She got pregnant and didnt tell her husband till 2months later, when she told him he first thought it was a mistake so he begged her to abort but she insistently told him she's keeping it. D husband kneeled n begged countless times, this isn't d kind of life he planned for his family especially his kids, he just wants to be more balanced but d wife with d backing of d husband's family insisted it's for keep. They all blamed him he should have used a condom if he's not ready, this hurt him more cos he believed d wife was on d pills.
This issue caused a lot of ruckus and later d husband had no choice but to accept as he still love d wife.
Little did we know something has snapped in him that'll torture d wife for months to come.
He started philandering and on two occasions has even slept outside.
D wife has apologised countless times, they'll settle it,move on, only for him to go cheat again.
He told her he can never trust her again, and he's even doubting her love for him, she don't care all she wants is a baby.
D wife has since regretted her action but d husband see her differently now.
Will he ever forgive her totally? Is there some advices u can give d wife pls

shndy:
They are both very good friends of mine, their trouble started few months after their wedding.
When they got married they both had plans to wait like a year before raising kids. Then d wife made d mistake of telling her MIL about d plan and we know how naija mamas are, immediately after wedding they want to c u preggy.
So d mother with d husband's sister instigated d wife and schemed with her to get pregnant without telling him.
She got pregnant and didnt tell her husband till 2months later, when she told him he first thought it was a mistake so he begged her to abort but she insistently told him she's keeping it. D husband kneeled n begged countless times, this isn't d kind of life he planned for his family especially his kids, he just wants to be more balanced but d wife with d backing of d husband's family insisted it's for keep. They all blamed him he should have used a condom if he's not ready, this hurt him more cos he believed d wife was on d pills.
This issue caused a lot of ruckus and later d husband had no choice but to accept as he still love d wife.
Little did we know something has snapped in him that'll torture d wife for months to come.
He started philandering and on two occasions has even slept outside.
D wife has apologised countless times, they'll settle it,move on, only for him to go cheat again.
He told her he can never trust her again, and he's even doubting her love for him, she don't care all she wants is a baby.
D wife has since regretted her action but d husband see her differently now.
Will he ever forgive her totally? Is there some advices u can give d wife pls

eyinjuege:


Too bad. Because his wife got pregnant isn't really an excuse to start sleeping around. The man should grow up. Advice to the wife, she should get ready to start nursing two babies since she's already nursing a big one already.

shndy:
They are both very good friends of mine, their trouble started few months after their wedding.
When they got married they both had plans to wait like a year before raising kids. Then d wife made d mistake of telling her MIL about d plan and we know how naija mamas are, immediately after wedding they want to c u preggy.
So d mother with d husband's sister instigated d wife and schemed with her to get pregnant without telling him.
She got pregnant and didnt tell her husband till 2months later, when she told him he first thought it was a mistake so he begged her to abort but she insistently told him she's keeping it. D husband kneeled n begged countless times, this isn't d kind of life he planned for his family especially his kids, he just wants to be more balanced but d wife with d backing of d husband's family insisted it's for keep. They all blamed him he should have used a condom if he's not ready, this hurt him more cos he believed d wife was on d pills.
This issue caused a lot of ruckus and later d husband had no choice but to accept as he still love d wife.
Little did we know something has snapped in him that'll torture d wife for months to come.
He started philandering and on two occasions has even slept outside.
D wife has apologised countless times, they'll settle it,move on, only for him to go cheat again.
He told her he can never trust her again, and he's even doubting her love for him, she don't care all she wants is a baby.
D wife has since regretted her action but d husband see her differently now.
Will he ever forgive her totally? Is there some advices u can give d wife pls

veave:
Why do people marry then want to wait for a period of time before giving birth. Eh op?...

Both you and your husband should have as well stayed apart until you are both financially okay before getting married.

Why Marry then start waiting?

Two of una sef no serious....

Mei kunu!!! Mei kunu!!!!....

Kawo mun kwalba daya zem sha...

DonTim1:
Wherever 2 women or more are gethered, evil lurks and awaits its unleashing

Kimoni:


njokusboy - is this your brother?

Una 2 just dey para today o

yomi007k:


Its easier said than done.

When u don't trust someone, u lose respect for them n u don't really care about their feelings anymore.

They had an aggreement and she DELIBERATELY broke it. The man had good plans for the future but selfishness won't let it mature.

*The wife shud accept whatever comes her way*

Period!

Mindfulness:
The wife and the husband had an agreement. The wife didn't stick to it. The opinion of her MIL and sister were more important than that of her husband so she should seek advice there now. She should also ask her MIL and the sister for financial and emotional support during and after pregnancy and also to help her raise the child.

She apologized to her husband and there is nothing else she can do in this respect. It is up to him to forgive her. Nobody can blame him if he is not able to. She didn't respect his choice and decision before so she should at least respect his feelings NOW.

DonTim1:
Wherever 2 women or more are gethered, evil lurks and awaits its unleashing

PresVA:
Really? What's the essence of forgiveness in marriage then? Is the husband perfect? Doesnt he annoy the wife too? If we keep getting back at our spouses when they err, marriage will be a battle ground. ..

Yes, the wife is wrong but cheating on her is way overboard. ..
What happens when a bigger issue comes?

Sorry, but I think the man had always wanted to cheat!

prettysassygirl:
useless man,looking for excuse to cheat since,ode buruku,oloshi omo.empty coccnut husband.

Ewuro4:
Veave , as presva articulately explained , people delay childbirth for many reasons. Once those precious ones start rolling, you barely have time to execute other important plans on time. I understand some people see it lightly but a big deal to vast majority of people nowadays.

So, when couples make plans, the onus is on both party to stick with it. It's not a joke. Bringing a child to the world is a decision made by BOTH not one.

She made the wrong decision. He went overboard. They should sit down and talk about the next plan, how to raise that child.

Happy Sunday.