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Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by Nobody: 3:07pm On Jan 31, 2016

MizMyColi:
Don't get bored just yet.

People who have drawn wealth into their lives used The Secret, whether consciously or unconsciously. They think thoughts of abundance and wealth, and they do not allow any contradictory thoughts to take root in their minds. Their predominant thoughts are of wealth. They only know wealth, and nothing else exists in their minds. Whether they are aware of it or not, their predominant thoughts of wealth are what brought wealth to them. It is the law of attraction in action. (Kazna69...asides wealth, what do you need in your life? This could also apply.)

Our job as humans is to hold on to the thoughts of what we want, make it absolutely clear in our minds what we want, and from that we start to invoke one of the greatest laws in the Universe, and that's the law of attraction. You become what you think about most but you also attract what you think about most.

thinking that thought over and over and over again, if you're imagining in your mind having that brand new car, having the money that you need, building that company, finding your soul mate... if you're imagining what that looks like, you're emitting that frequency on a consistent basis.

If you see it in your mind, you're going to hold it in your hand. If you can think about what you want in your mind, and make that your dominant thought, you will bring it into your life.

If we want to see different pictures on our television, we change the channel and rune into a new frequency. You are a human transmission tower, and you are more powerful than any television tower created on earth. You are the most powerful transmission tower in the Universe. Your transmission creates your life and it creates the world. The frequency you transmit reaches beyond cities, beyond countries, beyond the world. It reverberates throughout the entire Universe. And you are transmitting that frequency with your thoughts! The pictures you receive from the transmission of your thoughts are not on a television screen in your living room, they are the pic-tures of your life! Your thoughts create the frequency, they attract like things on that frequency, and then they are broadcast back to you as your life pictures. If you want to change anything in your life, change the channel and change the frequency by changing your thoughts.

If you don't understand the law that doesn't mean you should reject it. You may not understand electricity, and yet you enjoy the benefits of it. I don't know how it works. But I do knew this: You can cook a man's dinner with electricity, and you can also cook the man!

Deeply insightful. You have a mini library of Congress don't you? I'll consider all you've shared. No guarantees but I'll do what I can in the NOW. Thank you so much

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Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by Nobody: 3:13pm On Jan 31, 2016

Kazna69:

Hi mom

Hi son!

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by Nobody: 3:14pm On Jan 31, 2016

MizMyColi:
@Kazna69
Speaking more practically now about your life's
purpose...

Maybe you should focus more on living in this moment.
I mean I understand the lure of wanting to know where you're headed even when you've barely set out.

I do think we should take things bit by bit

This is a particular time period in your existence, what do you need to be doing now? Y'know....

I believe that purpose changes with time...

When I was a member of the youth corps, my life purpose was to become A woman of prayer, one with deep fellowship with her God. I believe that had a lot to do with my reality then....and as far as I can tell, I did fulfil purpose in Kebbi State.
Fast forward to this time, a lot has changed.
My purpose now is to become a minister of reconciliation. I want to be that bridge that connects polar worlds, to be that light that shines so people can see, be blessed, and get better.

I haven't always been this clearly defined purposeful person.
At a time in the past, I suffered depression heavily. I threw tantrums and made a fuss about almost everything. Mood swings and this feeling of directionlessness.
I kept looking forward to a future where i'd be fine and all my desires fulfulled.

Guess what dearie.
I ditched the future.
I said bye bye to past.
I began to allow NOW define me.

I said to myself...
"The past was not to cool, bad maybe...
The future? I don't know what it holds, but NOW? Now is all I got
What is it about me Now, this moment?
In this moment, I realize that I desire to be better, therefore I am better. In this moment, I desire to be Joyful, therefore, I am joyful!
Just like Father Abraham, I am calling forth those things that be not as though they were!
And believe you me, it's happening. It is happening.

This ^^^ is you too Kazna.

What is your personality like.
What are those things that gives you immense joy, things that you will gladly leave everything in the world for, just to attend to?
Are there certain events that make you feel cringes and downright angry? Like me now, my own is oppression, and inequity and injustice.

These could be pointers to you on what you're meant to be doing here.

In my case, whether my purpose changes again tomorrow or not, I have come to realize that I am a relationships person. My life is centred around that.
More like a central theme.

Dear
I didn't realize this in 2 years o. in other words, it might take time, but just show yourself patience. Give yourself Love. Learn what you need to without being judgemental on yourself.
E hear?‎

I know you will help the guy

Kazna69, she is going to be your e-mummy

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by Nobody: 3:23pm On Jan 31, 2016

daretodiffer:

Hi son!

Oooohh mom stop you're embarrassing me. I feel all mushy inside, yuck.

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by MizMyColi(f): 3:38pm On Jan 31, 2016

Kazna69:

Deeply insightful. You have a mini library of Congress don't you? I'll consider all you've shared. No guarantees but I'll do what I can in the NOW. Thank you so much

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by FullOfShame: 11:36am On Feb 09, 2016

thorpido:
Yea.You can give me a feedback on how it went.

andromida

I finally talked to my mother today. She almost gave up on me. So far, it hasn't gotten better yet but I'm sure I'll become a very responsible person from now. Thanks for the encouragement

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by thorpido(m): 12:41pm On Feb 09, 2016

FullOfShame:

andromida

I finally talked to my mother today. She almost gave up on me. So far, it hasn't gotten better yet but I'm sure I'll become a very responsible person from now. Thanks for the encouragement

They are definitely not going to be pleased with you but I want you to know you have set yourself on the path for a positive change.
Your parents may threaten or even decide they are hands off your education but give it time,they may still support you.
Look at what you can do about your education presently.Can you defer your studies?Find out what can work.
I also feel you don't move with the right type of friends and you will need to change that.Cut yourself off people who are not focused and are not driven.Begin to look for people who are focused and driven and acquaint yourself with such people.

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by Nobody: 11:12am On Feb 11, 2016

FullOfShame:

andromida

I finally talked to my mother today. She almost gave up on me. So far, it hasn't gotten better yet but I'm sure I'll become a very responsible person from now. Thanks for the encouragement

Happy for you and hope you are alright. Hopefully everything turns out fine for you.

thorpido:

Look at what you can do about your education presently.Can you defer your studies?Find out what can work.

Yes this just in case your parents aren't so willing anymore.

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by miquelon(m): 6:38pm On Feb 18, 2016

I'm tired, I never in my life thought I would consider ending it. But for the past couple of months ive considered it.
Most people get a bad year here and there, I've had 3 in a row. Was in my 3rd yr in uni, my dad got sick, had to come to naija cos it seemed dire
Thankfully he's better but since then everything I plan fails.
Tried going back to school here/there all fell through. Everyone around me seems to be moving forward but I'm just stuck.
The one positive that kept me from the edge is gone. I'm the last person to speak my feelings out,rather just bottle it in.

But im just done

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by kaziblake(f): 9:36pm On Feb 18, 2016

miquelon:
I'm tired, I never in my life thought I would consider ending it. But for the past couple of months ive considered it.
Most people get a bad year here and there, I've had 3 in a row. Was in my 3rd yr in uni, my dad got sick, had to come to naija cos it seemed dire
Thankfully he's better but since then everything I plan fails.
Tried going back to school here/there all fell through. Everyone around me seems to be moving forward but I'm just stuck.
The one positive that kept me from the edge is gone. I'm the last person to speak my feelings out,rather just bottle it in.

But im just done

Death won't relieve the pain.
Killing yourself is never. Solution to your problems.
When you're dead,you're nothing,You no longer exist.
Remember there is a light at the end of every tunnels

There is hope and things will get better.
You give everybody around you hope.
I promise it's will get better.

I always remember 18th of febuary because its was the day I told myself that I was done...But i'm greatful to God everyday that I was rescued and saved.
Be positive in life.
Be a goal getter.
Always strive to achieve success.

God help you

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by thorpido(m): 7:44am On Feb 19, 2016

miquelon:
I'm tired, I never in my life thought I would consider ending it. But for the past couple of months ive considered it.
Most people get a bad year here and there, I've had 3 in a row. Was in my 3rd yr in uni, my dad got sick, had to come to naija cos it seemed dire
Thankfully he's better but since then everything I plan fails.
Tried going back to school here/there all fell through. Everyone around me seems to be moving forward but I'm just stuck.
The one positive that kept me from the edge is gone. I'm the last person to speak my feelings out,rather just bottle it in.

But im just done

I don't see you done.
If going back to school is not working out,how about acquiring a skill?Not everyone will make something with a certificate anyway.There must be an area that interests you and I think you should acquire a skill in that area.

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by miquelon(m): 8:38am On Feb 19, 2016

thorpido:
I don't see you done.
If going back to school is not working out,how about acquiring a skill?Not everyone will make something with a certificate anyway.There must be an area that interests you and I think you should acquire a skill in that area.

I've tried but one can't exactly learn a skill.the thing is I had a plan for my life down to the detail and its been jus ripped up.
The plan was to get a bsc in business then go to law school. It's not even the delay that gets to me but just being stagnant

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by HaneefahRN(f): 10:25am On Feb 19, 2016

miquelon:

I've tried but one can't exactly learn a skill.the thing is I had a plan for my life down to the detail and its been jus ripped up.
The plan was to get a bsc in business then go to law school. It's not even the delay that gets to me but just being stagnant

Yh, u can learn a skill, alot to chose from, just look for one u av interest in unless u ain't just inetrested. That way u av something doing while planning for the next step of action. And u can always try out Open University if it interests u and u av a sponsor. I dnt knw much about their system tho. I get d feeling of having plans dashed not everything works out d way we plan but u make use of the little opportunities u av.

Be strong pls, all the best

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by thorpido(m): 12:35pm On Feb 19, 2016

miquelon:

I've tried but one can't exactly learn a skill.the thing is I had a plan for my life down to the detail and its been jus ripped up.
The plan was to get a bsc in business then go to law school. It's not even the delay that gets to me but just being stagnant

If you don't mind,can you provide more details?Is the problem finance or you have not been able to get admission into any school?

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by Tgirl4real(f): 1:44pm On Feb 27, 2016

Nubian113:

Just wanted to bring this to your attention. Is it genuine please?

Hello,

It may be qenuine but I do not know anything about it.

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by Fatherherokay(m): 10:51pm On Mar 12, 2016

“I’m tired of this situation, I have written different entrance exams yet my admission has not been granted…”
“It’s like this relationship issue is not meant for someone like me. All the guys I have ever been with cheated on me…”
“I don’t think I can pass this course this time because I have tried so many times but I just keep failing…”
“I have been seeking for a good job ever since I graduated yet…”

Are you battling with these
kinds of thoughts? Have these thoughts made you concluded that the best thing to do is to GIVE UP AND FORGET THE WHOLE DRAMA? Who says you can’t make it in life? What makes you feel you can’t find someone better than that guy or lady that jilted you? What makes you feel people who are making it are better than you?

It’s time for you to wipe away those tears and erase those negative thought, for IT’S NOT YET OVER. You need to believe that despite your shortcomings it’s not yet over for you. Life has given you a present called “today”, and you can only make use of the present if you give yourself the chance to. Don’t deprive yourself a chance to try things when you still have strength because, whether you like it or not, a time will come when you would love to do something but wouldn’t be able due to old age and lack of strength. At that stage, you can only enjoy satisfaction by reflecting on the right things you have done during your youthful age.

People who gave up at one point in life ended up http://ishopealive..com.ng/2016/03/topic-48-its-not-yet-over.html

cc: lalasticlala

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by ib4uakpele: 12:41pm On Mar 15, 2016

FIGHTING FOR EXCELLENCE
Excellence is a spirit that refuses to settle with the status quo and ‘what is available’ – it goes for what it desires and deserves.
Excellence is the cure to mediocre and complacency. To excel, fight has no substitute. Life may not be fair to you, but you can still fare well.
Excellence is not a gift! To achieve and attain to it, it calls for a strive. Excellence is the preserve of fighters. Excellence is the factor that makes a man restless and uncomfortable, always reacts against what is existing for what should come in existence.
David was against Goliath. Samson stood against the Lion. Daniel and his companions refused to worship the idol of Babylon...the list is endless.
Jesus came to set a new other. Reactions, revolutions and realization are actions leading to excellence.
Go contrary, stand out, don’t blend! Then you are on your way to excellence.
Shalom!

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by jobyyjob: 3:51pm On Mar 16, 2016

Thanks a lot for this tread. I'm really grateful. I am being stigmatized because of what people presume I've injested. It's not something fetish or health threatening, but it makes me feel unworthy and well a bit suicidal. Let me start from the beginning...

I am the last child in a family of 7. My mom died when I was 8 years old. Knowing the issues with step families, my dad didn't bother to marry until we were all grown up.

Fast forward 8 years, I was 16 now. My dad married his second wife. I didn't quiet take a liking to her but we coexisted nonetheless.

Still fast forward 14 more years, I've now graduated from the University for about 4 years without a job, so I basically depend on my dad and step mom for shelter and food.

Why I'm writing this is to give a proper background so you all can understand where I'm coming from. My step mom is a dubious character - she has a very uncertain personality.

One day, we had a quarrel which didn't end well. So, while handling me my breakfast, she said "here's your food. I don't even know if I put catgher (running nose) in it." I was shocked. I was picky throughout the meal and uncomfortably left it after a while.

Since then, I have been very cautious about my food. Sometimes, when I'm eating, she seems to be a bit uncomfortable as if something wrong is going on. It happened severally and I had to ask if she was putting foreign bodies in my food. Her answer was not satisfactory. I had to ask others, confront her in front of others and generally make a fool of myself without still getting any serious answer from her.

I know I've made a fool of myself. Many people around my area who here the episode quickly tell others and before long, people start looking at you strangely. Some start feeling sorry for me for having eaten saliva or whatever. Some girls that heard the story start avoiding me. The funny thing is that I'm not even sure it's what happened and from all indications, it didn't happen.

I've made a nasty reputation as someone who has injested foreign saliva whatever into his body. Not that it's harmful or causes diseases. No. But, I still feel a kind of stigma from people who know about this.

What do I do about this stupid problem. Please, any reasonable responses will be appreciated.

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by thorpido(m): 8:18am On Mar 17, 2016

Jobyyjob,do you believe in God?Seek Him and He will cleanse you and make you whole.
Don't bother what people think in your area.Develop a thick skin to it all.Since you are a graduate,it is imminent that you will soon move out of the house and area.I want you to actively seek out a job- learn a trade or acquire some skills.Stop waiting for an office job.
By the time you are out of that house,all you are bothered about now won't matter.

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by Nobody: 5:01pm On Mar 18, 2016

@jobyyjob

I don't think you made a fool of yourself you were just worried you were eating nasty body fluids. Lol to put an end to these suspicions if you can cook your meals do so this way she doesn't needle you again until you feel comfortable eating what she cooks.

Its such a silly problem you can't be bothered about what anyone is thinking and really people are not going to avoid you because you mistakenly ingested your stepmom's mucus or whatever the stigma is all in your head if something else is going on with you please relax and focus on important areas of your life like getting a source of income so you can be independent.

Even if she did put some nasty stuff in your food how can that make you unworthy seeing as she is not your creator besides which we eat out and we can't be certain what we ingest and if you feel you made a fool of yourself by confronting her its still ok sometimes I lose it too I believe its human so cheer up and enjoy your life.

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Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by naijathings(m): 6:33am On Mar 20, 2016

miquelon:

I've tried but one can't exactly learn a skill.the thing is I had a plan for my life down to the detail and its been jus ripped up.
The plan was to get a bsc in business then go to law school. It's not even the delay that gets to me but just being stagnant

is it the stagnancy or have you given up ?

No great journey is void of stagnancy caused by obstacles that can come from anywhere in various forms.

But if your eyes are STILL FIXED on the prize, then you will surely catch your moment to rise.

There is a big difference between a boxer and a fighter. Has the fight in you been washed up already ?

patience my friend.

3 years, 4, 5 years will all be like a day when you find your chance again. believe me sir, I have experienced this in the worst ways till I nearly lost my mind but I don't remember those days no more cos my life vehicle is out of the mud and I am moving.

so what are you gonna do ?
dump your life vehicle cos it is stuck in the mud or keep pushing till it comes out ?

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Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by Noneed77: 4:32pm On Mar 21, 2016

I feel so dejected and unhappy with myself right now. It feels like a mystery to me that these things keep happening to me at the same period over the years.

It started way back in 2013 February to be precise, i felt sick and got admitted in the hospital. No body could detect what the problem was as i was placed on typhoid and malaria drugs. The sickness came with severe cough. The doctors had to discharge me even without recovery. It was later around April i discovered i had TB (that was after my three weeks orientation camp) let me say it was by the Grace of God that i survived it. I did test and it was confirmed that i had the virus. It took me some time before i recovered after taking the drugs for months.

In February again 2014 towards the end of my youth service, i met this girl (youth Corper also) and we started dating. Though it didn't last long but i must confess through out the duration of our dating i had no peace of mind. Its always one problem or the other. I can't say if the girl actually duped me or not but i spent alot for her out of my small allowance. There this guy that she was dating before we met i even had a little clash with him over her. She told me so many things about him that it's me she wanted. That the guy had connection and frozen her nysc account. That was what made me fell to the extent of spending for her. I spent roughly about 30k on her. Everything later ended.
Few months later God helped me to secured a contract job which i saved about 600k. After the contract i bought a car for business purposes. Though my family were against it but i didn't listen to them. I used few months to learn it.

Around January 2015 i started the work but i discovered it wasn't what i wanted. The business wasn't moving fine so i made up my mind to sell it.

In February 2015 when i was about selling it, i got involved in an accident that condemned the Car, i even had to use the remaining money left with me to pay the car i damaged because i was at fault (that was after police intervention)

I lost everything and back to square zero.

I went into sports journalism and seems to be doing well and even earning from it.

So i made up my mind to start living alone. I rented an apartment but before parking in, my family kicked against it saying why should i start living alone when i have sister that we have being living together for long. That it doesn't make sense but i didn't listen to them i went ahead and bought everything and parked it. The very day i finished everything that was when my eyes opened after calculating the money i spent (roughly about 30k because i paid half of the rent . I became angry with myself. Now i am thinking of renting out the room and sell everything that can be sold then return to my sister.

Why i am i taking the wrong decisions even when i advised not to? Why sad events keeps happening to me around February and March every year. Must i be involve in one thing or the other that make my life unhappy? Is it because i am still jobless? I am just confused about everything. I don't feel happy

Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! (part 2) by Glaxx(m): 7:13pm On Mar 21, 2016

Na wah sha. It is well

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