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@Zelexo

.... Brother,the Lord is ur strength. Funny nuff,I used to feel this way.i felt extremely terrible bout myself,I felt I was no good. A very good friend once called me a sadist in public (God punish her a million times)..though,it was truth but It was too much for me to handle. I made so many mistakes in pursuit of Happyness.It's not something I like to remember but my brother,life was tough.. I'm not gonna advise U cos what worked for me might not work for U. Music gave me strength particularly at a point when Mary J Blige released her no more drama,I drew courage from so many songs. God bless Kirk Franklin for singing "imagine me"..Thank God for every album I ever collected. Drug played a significant role in helping me too,relied heavily on weed to help me emotionally(pls don't try this,as I'm fighting addiction ATM).i hardly conversate in person except there's the need to or if I have to talk about my business,I feel best alone.my sorrows,my pains,my joy,my laughter,I share them alone(that's the effect of weed)..I sometimes crave to be touched or held but this I try to buy with money(calling a peddler),but it doesn't go beyond the point of hugging,sometimes talking and many times smoking(I had a better way of satisfying sexual urge)...hmmm...my brova,I know how U feel,try open up to someone better who can help U .. Stay off drugs.. Try meeting people at random and BE VERY CAREFUL OF WHO U TALK TO AND MIND WHAT U SAY...

GOD HELP U.. He's ur strength

greatgod2012: Thanks @op, hopefully, this is going to help.

What is suicide attempt?
Suicide attempt simply means an attempt to kill oneself or to take one's life.
Being suicidal means to have the feeling of taking one's life.
What can make one feel suicidal?
1. Frustration, when one is frustrated, whether at home, in the family, at workplace, in one's marriage, among friends, one may be tempted to commit suicide, if there is no one to support or encourage.

2. Depression, when one is depressed, it means one's spirit is down or not lifted, and if care is not taken, such a person can be suicidal. Feeling depressed is a psychological problem, hence counselling and psychariatric treatment is advisable, before it degenerates to being suicidal.

3. Self pity, the feeling that you are the only one in a particular problem and that everyone has to sympathise with you can lead one to being suicidal, especially, when there is no one to sympathise with you.
4. Disappointment, when one is dissapointed by a very trusted friend, partner, relative or child, one may feel suicidal in order to permanently prevent repeat of such occurence.
5. Feeling unloved, when one feel unloved by those whom he really loves, its a feeling of rejection, it can make one feel suicidal.
6. Rejection/abandonment by one's folks/friends can also be a cause.
7. Admittance/acceptance of failure, many people dont really understand the concept of failure before they admit or accept that they are failure, and once that acceptability is there, it may degenerate to being suicidal.
And many others.

Solutions/preventive measures to eliminating suicide attempt.
1. Never compare yourself to anyone, we are distinct/different as individuals, with different capacity, ability and purpose.
2. Remember that everything happens in its time, ie, God's time is the best, some are to make it in the morning of their lives, while some, at noon and some at dusk time of their lives.
3. Always remember that, no matter what you are passing through, some other people must have also passed through it before you, and some others will still pass through it after you, the world celebrates the winner, not considering what the winner might have passed through before he becomes the winner, so, winners dont quit, if you want to be remembered as a winner, dont kill yourself, because you can never win in the grave.
4. Never put all your trust in a fellow human being, it is only God who never disappoint, anyone, regardless of who they are can disappoint.
When you feel depressed, sad, unhappy or disappointed or at a crossroad of life., talk out, talk to people, seek advise, seek counselling, meet with people, read about great people who have passed through similar situations.
5. Never think that without someone, you cant make it, no human being is indispensable, its only God that is as strong and reliable as a rock, believe in Him and believe in yourself, think positive about yourself, because, as a man thinks, so is he. If you believe you can, you can.
Above all, remember that God can NEVER tempt us beyond what we can bear, and when we are tempted, He will make a way of escape for us(1cor 10:13).
God bless us all.
It is well with all of us.

chaircover:

@cest, I find listening to music and watching comedy is lifting. After watching 3 episodes of Everyone hates Chris will get you laughing

Also always try and be round positive people. You know that some people emit negative vibes. . . stay clear from them no matter how close they are to you.

If you are religious then search out positive scriptures and memorize them and say them back to yourself always

Find a hobby that you like and you find relaxing . . .even if its only knitting

dont be too hard on yourself. These things take time and we are all unique. I am not a people person but my husband is. I have turned down many many friendships in the past but over time and I mean plenty time have I just started to see the beauty in relationships. Now I will go up to people and extend a hand of friendship but it took a long time. You are who you are.

For the sleep thing, you have to train your body to sleep at a certain time and wake up at a certain time. I wake up at 5am every morning 7 days a week. I have never used an alarm clock in my life and I mentally swtich off at 9.30 pm. I may not go to bed at 9.30pm but im not firing on all cylinders mentally at that point.

and please please please, seek medical help if you cant do it alone. The brave thing is actually knowing that you need help and doing something about it. **hugs**

C'est moi:

im going thru no 1-7 bt d tot of committing suicide is out of it.once i sense my thinking mood is getting deep and i cry.i jst start praying in my hrt or surf d net or read a book or watch tv or listen to music,dis helps and has helped me alot.slp is out of it cos i practically force myslf to slp and migraine h/ache is my enemy's bestfrnd.may God help us all.amen.

Tgirl4real:

I have come to realise that life is not about 'up' 'up'. We have a lot of down moments too. One thing that keeps me going is hope. I am not hopeless in this world. I have Christ and I know my future is secured in him.

Just like CC pointed out, doing what you love doing helps a lot. For me, it's movies at the cinemas and surfing the net.

Les: I skimmed through this topic and I express my opinion as a once suicidal-thought victim. It all started back then in my junior finalist outta post traumatic effect of betrayal by my friend, though didn't cost me my life but cost my family days of sleeplessness night and hbp to ma lovely dad...
well, I'm not saying it won't work for others but all I know is it didn't work for me. I rose in my own terms after my mom gave me the shouting of my life. I might want to hurt myself then but never wanna see those I love, hurt.

poco a poco, I came out from my depression starting with the church. Though it took a long time for me to start socializing..

how to help depressed guys::::: simply give them what they want and let them know it is not worth the precious life God gave them.


I still feel depressed from time to time... And did I mention that I once took indocid but thankfully it wasn't in a fatal quantity....


effect of my depression:;;: I don't get emotionally attached to people.,.. I know it's a big lie when I tell my gf that I love her but I gata do it for the game.... Don't leave me, Vivian cos you bring out the humanity in me..

bknight: I was anti-social, a sadist, moody, wasn't confident in social cycles etc.

1. A changing encounter was when I heard d story of ketekete, baba ati omo (the donkey, the man and his son). Ebenezer Obey sang it.

2. I noticed people who drank beer were less prone to be sadists

3. I realized mundane religious topics had a root in me.

4. I realized how unconciously this behavior built up over years.

So, I joined a new church. I made sure it was a church with a pastor who was taught practical ways of living. I noticed d different approach to the same topics, only this time didn't sound mundane.

Then I sought to liberate my thinking and boost my mental capacity to get more analytic.

Then I realized Star beer made me sleep a lot. I made sure to set 200naira aside everyday for a bottle. I'd sit in bars, quietly enjoying d gists. I found out beer bars had a lot of carefree, outgoing extroverts. I wld sit with only one bottle for hours. But there was a subtle effect. I thought less.
I noted that it was all my 'insecurities' that manifested in different ways. Inferiority complex had to be dealt with. It took me a while to analyze a lot about me. Now, with a clearer, refreshed mind I began to work on myself. Soon, I realized the world was only waiting for mw to take charge!

This is but a summary, can't really type much. All these took about 2yrs. I really had to work on myself. Now? Hahahahahaha! I am a better man. I wondered how I would have headed a homee being that kind of person I was then.
Anyways, I hv had to retrace drinking beer. Now, I don't anymore. I now shun social gatherings with pride, not out of depression.
Oh! I forgot to add that I intentionally became a troublesome person at a time, in fact did what ppl never saw, expected nor believed me do.

Confidence oozes out now. I enjoy good belly laughs now, friends want to hv me around now + I didn't change physique nor do plastic surgery but more female friends now find me attractive. How's that for a change!

bknight: I was anti-social, a sadist, moody, wasn't confident in social cycles etc.

1. A changing encounter was when I heard d story of ketekete, baba ati omo (the donkey, the man and his son). Ebenezer Obey sang it. I gave it a critical thought.

2. I noticed people who drank beer were less prone to be sadists

3. I realized mundane religious topics had a root in me.

4. I realized how unconciously this behavior built up over years.

So, I joined a new church. I made sure it was a church with a pastor who was taught practical ways of living. I noticed d different approach to the same topics, only this time didn't sound mundane.

Then I sought to liberate my thinking and boost my mental capacity to get more analytic.

Then I realized Star beer made me sleep a lot. I made sure to set 200naira aside everyday for a bottle. I'd sit in bars, quietly enjoying d gists. I found out beer bars had a lot of carefree, outgoing extroverts. I wld sit with only one bottle for hours. But there was a subtle effect. I thought less about those things I'd normally hole up in my room thinking.
I noted that it was all my 'insecurities' that manifested in different ways. Inferiority complex had to be dealt with. It took me a while to analyze a lot about me. Now, with a clearer, refreshed mind I began to work on myself. Soon, I realized the world was only waiting for mw to take charge!

This is but a summary, can't really type much. All these took about 2yrs. I really had to work on myself. Now? Hahahahahaha! I am a better man. I wondered how I would have headed a home (raising a family) being that kind of person I was then. That wld hv been pathetic!
Anyways, I hv had to retrace drinking beer at beer bars. I drink in my room now. I now shun social gatherings with pride, not out of depression.

I got a basketball kit. Jog in d morning, go to d court later. My aim was to relate more with people in d court esp on saturday mornings.
Oh! I forgot to add that I intentionally became a carefree person at a time, in fact did what ppl never saw, expected nor believed me do.

Confidence oozes out now. I enjoy good belly laughs now, friends want to hv me around now + I didn't change physique nor do plastic surgery but more female friends now find me attractive. How's that for a change!

Let me quickly add that nairaland helped a bit too. I don't think listening to music when u're moody will help in d long run. Yes, it might help u get over it now but are u looking to just overcome an immediate moment of self pity, depression etc or u want a total overhaul? Do more outdoor activities!!!
Oh! Yes!!! I intentionally took a job that was strictly marketing. Needless to say I performed less sales but my intentions were different! It was part of my transformation. It made a profound effect!

There were couple of other things I did. Even when I craved to listen to mild love songs, I restrained. No slow music! I did more of these useless naija beats. Having a deep knowledge of music, I loathed these naija artist but I was on my mission...I wanted a change! ...

And I got a change!

bknight: Thanks! But its nothing really if peeps think less with their emotions and think more logically, as I realized.

To overcome depression, self pity etc goes beyond prayer. In fact, I actually prayed less .
I don't know anything abt being suicidal though, but the only thing nice abt being an introvert is the word itself. Its a fancy word, but too expensive a life: I just couldn't afford being so.

Roland17: I am soooo proud of everyone who has taken the time to keep this thread alive, many do not understand the burden threads like this take off on people, especially since its an anonymous site where people can read and write without loosing their privacy.

married2awizard: yes I recently started thinking of ending it all
I have 3kids and I am married,my husband hits me,hates me,tells me I am bad in bed,and my food is tasteless,same food and sex he enjoyed before married has become bad to him.He is broke now so I spend for the home.
I have an embarrassing issues healthwise that seems to have no cure.
How long can I continue to love a man that hates me?everyone says you have to stay in your marriage for the kids.ibo men are the most heartless men ever,no sympathy or empathy in their dictionary just their dirty ego and empty pride,their wife means nothing and their family means evertyhing.

I cant go on

married2awizard: yes I recently started thinking of ending it all
I have 3kids and I am married,my husband hits me,hates me,tells me I am bad in bed,and my food is tasteless,same food and sex he enjoyed before married has become bad to him.He is broke now so I spend for the home.
I have an embarrassing issues healthwise that seems to have no cure.
How long can I continue to love a man that hates me?everyone says you have to stay in your marriage for the kids.ibo men are the most heartless men ever,no sympathy or empathy in their dictionary just their dirty ego and empty pride,their wife means nothing and their family means evertyhing.

I cant go on

married2awizard: yes I recently started thinking of ending it all
I have 3kids and I am married,my husband hits me,hates me,tells me I am bad in bed,and my food is tasteless,same food and sex he enjoyed before married has become bad to him.He is broke now so I spend for the home.
I have an embarrassing issues healthwise that seems to have no cure.
How long can I continue to love a man that hates me?everyone says you have to stay in your marriage for the kids.ibo men are the most heartless men ever,no sympathy or empathy in their dictionary just their dirty ego and empty pride,their wife means nothing and their family means evertyhing.
I cant go on

married2awizard: yes I recently started thinking of ending it all
I have 3kids and I am married,my husband hits me,hates me,tells me I am bad in bed,and my food is tasteless,same food and sex he enjoyed before married has become bad to him.He is broke now so I spend for the home.
I have an embarrassing issues healthwise that seems to have no cure.
How long can I continue to love a man that hates me?everyone says you have to stay in your marriage for the kids.--- men are the most heartless men ever,no sympathy or empathy in their dictionary just their dirty ego and empty pride,their wife means nothing and their family means evertyhing.

I cant go on

ibkaye: I've been at the lowest of lows but never contemplated suicide, it's sad what life's struggles can drive a person to do, nice topic

sanniemoe: Not until last year, I was very suicidal. As a matter of fact,I feel God somehow just kept me alive by mistake cos I was real a depressed and pessimistic person. After 2 failed attempts,It didn't matter how I died but I just wanted to die,the only reason i think im still alive prolly cos i wasnt strong enough 2 stab myself..Thank God I'm getting better now but I pray I get over this totally someday soon...

zele---:
Ooosh!! I would have been a better person had i known this nairaland forum prior this time. This ain't funny but for me here i'm just living to die. My heart is heavy for many years and it's been saddened. Saddened? Dat is understatement. My steppy has even called me a saddist which i concurred but what do i do? Even though never believe in existence of God. I see every religious as old history in which we are just using to hold societies in peace. My issue is as a normal story but i dont know why it turnout on me to this extent sha. Who to trust? Love to pour out everything here but i dont know how it will turn to be. I just finished service and exactly a month today,it is as if the whole world is against me. I think my weakness has always been self pity, self hatred and shyness. I always look into mirror and any form of such 1000 times in a day. Funny enough all attributes/factors you've all mentioned are at work with me. Need help atleast

married2awizard: yes I recently started thinking of ending it all
I have 3kids and I am married,my husband hits me,hates me,tells me I am bad in bed,and my food is tasteless,same food and sex he enjoyed before married has become bad to him.He is broke now so I spend for the home.
I have an embarrassing issues healthwise that seems to have no cure.
How long can I continue to love a man that hates me?everyone says you have to stay in your marriage for the kids.ibo men are the most heartless men ever,no sympathy or empathy in their dictionary just their dirty ego and empty pride,their wife means nothing and their family means evertyhing.

I cant go on

Kirinwa: I need help.I feel suicidal.

C'est moi:

erase that thot right now,pls.share your problems with us.

Kirinwa: I have always wanted to be a netpreneur.Am in forex and I keep losing all my money.I still want to be an online business man.I have no true love .I want to stand on my own but no capital.