Hey guys, as much as this Tiwa- Teebliz fiasco is becoming over emphasized, there are few thing we can learn from it.

1. When it comes to marriage, understanding your partner is more important than love/emotions. There are basic differences between males and females which include the way they think and what makes them feel important in a marriage setting.

2. A successful marriage requires daily 'working at it'. For a long time Tiwa and Tunji had just been coping rather sorting out their differences bit by bit.

3. You need to be knowledgeable about marriage and family before jumping into one. It amazes me how folks don't make effort to read and learn about relationships and even marriage for that matter and expect to get the best out of it. If you wanna do well in any venture you need to go for knowledge.

4.An elaborate wedding doesn't translate to a great home/marriage

5.Before you get married to your partner you need to discuss what you want and you both reach a consensus. Apparently Tunji didn't expect 'married Tiwa' to still invest such amount of time, money and effort in her esteemed career while Tiwa on the other hand expected Tunji to 'just' understand with her and somehow sort himself out raking millions in for the family.

6. Everyone need to know that it requires conscious and deliberate effort to keep a home and make it work.

7. Furthermore, y'all need to know marriage is a great institution! Its so good to be married to your best friend. Don't let the alarming rate of failed celebrity marriage give you a distorted view.


oya add other lesson you learnt too

people change, no matter how much you know some body, you don't really know. jus pray

May God order the steps of all singles , n may they never ignore warning signs b4 they get down

Nice write-up

Nice write up. But seriously there is nothing to learn from that union.

It shouldn't have degenerated into this if the couple had turned deaf ears to the world.

In showbiz, everyone tries to keep up with the joneses. Not all those Range Rovers, expensive watches or bags were bought with physical cash. Most are as a result of credits especially bank loans!

With Tiwa's status on the entertainment scene, one can't blame Teebillz. He's like Annie Idibia is to 2Baba. He must look smart and be seen as flexing

Tiwa on the other hand should never have given that interview. Bad as it may seem or hurting as the tweets from Teebillz may have been, she should have managed the suitation better.

The world now knows the following aboutTeebillz

1. He is a womanizer (not that he's the first)
2. He is huge debt (not the first either)
3. He sniffs cocaine (not the first either.... almost all celebs do)
4. He beats Tiwa up (not the first either)

Tiwa on the other hand has shown to the world the following about her person

1. She cherishes her career over family values (all those raunchy dances on stage tho)
2. She allows the world to dictate to her
3. She's not too calculating to know this interview will come back to haunt her

I wish then and others alike the best sha. It's not easy it's only by God's grace.

bigtt76:
It shouldn't have degenerated into this if the couple had turned deaf ears to the world.

In showbiz, everyone tries to keep up with the joneses. Not all those Range Rovers, expensive watches or bags were bought with physical cash. Most are as a result of credits especially bank loans!

With Tiwa's status on the entertainment scene, one can't blame Teebillz. He's like Annie Idibia is to 2Baba. He must look smart and be seen as flexing

Tiwa on the other hand should never have given that interview. Bad as it may seem or hurting as the tweets from Teebillz may have been, she should have managed the suitation better.

The world now knows the following aboutTeebillz

1. He is a womanizer (not that he's the first)
2. He is huge debt (not the first either)
3. He sniffs cocaine (not the first either.... almost all celebs do)
4. He beats Tiwa up (not the first either)

Tiwa on the other hand has shown to the world the following about her person

1. She cherishes her career over family values (all those raunchy dances on stage tho)
2. She allows the world to dictate to her
3. She's not too calculating to know this interview will come back to haunt her

I wish then and others alike the best sha. It's not easy it's only by God's grace.

She should ONLY give the interview for a HUGE SUM of money, not Naira - preferably Dollars, Pounds or Euros - Swiss Francs are ok too.

Classical15, the lessons learned are re-cycled lessons put in a new context.

Lol

Mindfulness:


She should ONLY give the interview for a HUGE SUM of money, not Naira - preferably Dollars, Pounds or Euros - Swiss Francs are ok too.

Reading marriage books? There is no manual, you go in there and create your own manual.

cassidy1996:
people change, no matter how much you know some body, you don't really know. jus pray

sure people do but that why we're advocating for couples to work at it daily. No true/genuine partner will wanna pull his/her home down.

bigtt76:
It shouldn't have degenerated into this if the couple had turned deaf ears to the world.

In showbiz, everyone tries to keep up with the joneses. Not all those Range Rovers, expensive watches or bags were bought with physical cash. Most are as a result of credits especially bank loans!

With Tiwa's status on the entertainment scene, one can't blame Teebillz. He's like Annie Idibia is to 2Baba. He must look smart and be seen as flexing

Tiwa on the other hand should never have given that interview. Bad as it may seem or hurting as the tweets from Teebillz may have been, she should have managed the suitation better.

The world now knows the following aboutTeebillz

1. He is a womanizer (not that he's the first)
2. He is huge debt (not the first either)
3. He sniffs cocaine (not the first either.... almost all celebs do)
4. He beats Tiwa up (not the first either)

Tiwa on the other hand has shown to the world the following about her person

1. She cherishes her career over family values (all those raunchy dances on stage tho)
2. She allows the world to dictate to her
3. She's not too calculating to know this interview will come back to haunt her

I wish then and others alike the best sha. It's not easy it's only by God's grace.

Quite true. But Tiwa was trying to get back at Teebliz, thus granting that interview was her best bet. Since both party had forsaken 'chill pill' a long time ago, they wouldn't care about who is hurting.

Mindfulness:
Classical15, the lessons learned are re-cycled lessons put in a new context.

Yeah. Common things occur commonly but how come we still have folks stumbling on the same stone, having to learn same lesson twice? We just have to keep stating the obvious.... someone might just turn a new leaf.

classical15:

Yeah. Common things occur commonly but how come we still have folks stumbling on the same stone, having to learn same lesson twice? We just have to keep stating the obvious.... someone might just turn a new leaf.

You can tell people whatever you want about marriage but every relationship is different and so there is no universal recipe for a successful marriage. What works for one couple, may not work for another.

People want to believe that they have control over how their marriages turn out but the truth is that you need some luck too. I guess, TV01 will disagree with me on this.

bigtt76:
It shouldn't have degenerated into this if the couple had turned deaf ears to the world.

In showbiz, everyone tries to keep up with the joneses. Not all those Range Rovers, expensive watches or bags were bought with physical cash. Most are as a result of credits especially bank loans!

With Tiwa's status on the entertainment scene, one can't blame Teebillz. He's like Annie Idibia is to 2Baba. He must look smart and be seen as flexing

Tiwa on the other hand should never have given that interview. Bad as it may seem or hurting as the tweets from Teebillz may have been, she should have managed the suitation better.

The world now knows the following aboutTeebillz

1. He is a womanizer (not that he's the first)
2. He is huge debt (not the first either)
3. He sniffs cocaine (not the first either.... almost all celebs do)
4. He beats Tiwa up (not the first either)

Tiwa on the other hand has shown to the world the following about her person

1. She cherishes her career over family values (all those raunchy dances on stage tho)
2. She allows the world to dictate to her
3. She's not too calculating to know this interview will come back to haunt her

I wish then and others alike the best sha. It's not easy it's only by God's grace.

So what should she have done?

If she had come to NL with her greviances, some of you would have advised her to focus on her job and children and leave her husband alone, he will come to his senses #ensure. She did that and the husband disgraced her and jeopardized her career (or do you think album sales make money in Nigeria? It's her endorsements and private gigs which do). So she did an interview to save her job. And you're still not happy.

Some of you would have advised her to divorce him. After all, she's paying the bills, he had slapped her around (even when she denied it, people saw her swollen face). His cheating is public (pretty girls on the island who go clubbing and are insecure enough to date a married man have been saying so for at least 2 years and they had pictures of him in bed to prove it. Or did you think her friendship with Linda Ikeji wasn't because she wanted something in return?). So she had divorced him. And you're still not happy.

So, what should she have done?

To anyone who has marital problems, the only lesson you can take away is this: please decide what you want to do and live with it. Because the world will judge and support alternatively. You may as well please yourself.

When will all this tiwa and tee billz brouhahaha stop To be couples, the number one rule is never marry someone that would make you commit adultery

Mindfulness:


She should ONLY give the interview for a HUGE SUM of money, not Naira - preferably Dollars, Pounds or Euros - Swiss Francs are ok too.

Materialistic you.

But yeah, she should have made money from it - preferably in the highlighted, bold, green currency.

bigtt76:
It shouldn't have degenerated into this if the couple had turned deaf ears to the world.

In showbiz, everyone tries to keep up with the joneses. Not all those Range Rovers, expensive watches or bags were bought with physical cash. Most are as a result of credits especially bank loans!

With Tiwa's status on the entertainment scene, one can't blame Teebillz. He's like Annie Idibia is to 2Baba. He must look smart and be seen as flexing

Tiwa on the other hand should never have given that interview. Bad as it may seem or hurting as the tweets from Teebillz may have been, she should have managed the suitation better.

The world now knows the following aboutTeebillz

1. He is a womanizer (not that he's the first)
2. He is huge debt (not the first either)
3. He sniffs cocaine (not the first either.... almost all celebs do)
4. He beats Tiwa up (not the first either)

Tiwa on the other hand has shown to the world the following about her person

1. She cherishes her career over family values (all those raunchy dances on stage tho)
2. She allows the world to dictate to her
3. She's not too calculating to know this interview will come back to haunt her

I wish then and others alike the best sha. It's not easy it's only by God's grace.

Does that interview look like she's coming back to the marriage, seriously tee billz is reckless; cocaine, living a fake life , he's clearly not ready for marriage. not saying she's perfect Cocaine is a rich man's drug you are going to wreck yourself just to get a fix. He's already done, let's not encourage couples to stay in marriages that's already endangered, better this than for her to suffer in silence.

Onegai:


So what should she have done?

If she had come to NL with her greviances, some of you would have advised her to focus on her job and children and leave her husband alone, he will come to his senses #ensure. She did that and the husband disgraced her and jeopardized her career (or do you think album sales make money in Nigeria? It's her endorsements and private gigs which do). So she did an interview to save her job. And you're still not happy.

Some of you would have advised her to divorce him. After all, she's paying the bills, he had slapped her around (even when she denied it, people saw her swollen face). His cheating is public (pretty girls on the island who go clubbing and are insecure enough to date a married man have been saying so for at least 2 years and they had pictures of him in bed to prove it. Or did you think her friendship with Linda Ikeji wasn't because she wanted something in return?). So she had divorced him. And you're still not happy.

So, what should she have done?

To anyone who has marital problems, the only lesson you can take away is this: please decide what you want to do and live with it. Because the world will judge and support alternatively. You may as well please yourself.

Thank you very much, the only reason this interview is happening is because of what he opened, seriously TeeBill is a kid, i will never envy celebrities i was thinking wow such power couples, I thank God for my simple life at least it's more sane than this

Onegai:


So what should she have done?

If she had come to NL with her greviances, some of you would have advised her to focus on her job and children and leave her husband alone, he will come to his senses #ensure. She did that and the husband disgraced her and jeopardized her career (or do you think album sales make money in Nigeria? It's her endorsements and private gigs which do). So she did an interview to save her job. And you're still not happy.

Some of you would have advised her to divorce him. After all, she's paying the bills, he had slapped her around (even when she denied it, people saw her swollen face). His cheating is public (pretty girls on the island who go clubbing and are insecure enough to date a married man have been saying so for at least 2 years and they had pictures of him in bed to prove it. Or did you think her friendship with Linda Ikeji wasn't because she wanted something in return?). So she had divorced him. And you're still not happy.

So, what should she have done?

To anyone who has marital problems, the only lesson you can take away is this: please decide what you want to do and live with it. Because the world will judge and support alternatively. You may as well please yourself.

Well said.

I am curious though - what did he borrow N45m for?

To fund his cocaine habit? Or keeping up with the Joneses?

I think she's made the right choice - but what matters most is that she is happy with her decision.

I feel so sorry for Tiwa though....I've been there...where the man doesn't care if you go to blazes and always being the pity party. One thing I have learnt however is that a relationship/marriage, you can never give enough to a man who is willing to take everything from you.
“Some men are just takers. They don’t
understand that a relationship is about giving and
taking...it’s about balance. To these men, it’s
always about them. Being able to compromise, in
the name of moving the relationship forward, is a
concept they cannot grasp. It’s this type of man
who, after you’ve done everything for him, still
comes to the door of the relationship with his
hand out expecting more. Then, he has the
audacity to try to make you feel bad when you
finally say, “enough!”

Finally, I feel Tiwa shouldn't have brought her husband's dirty linen outside even if he did...that would have made her more matured.. she has a son for him...an everlasting bond...bad as it is, there are things I don't say about my ex-husband cos we've once shared something together and one should always think about the possibility of a reconciliation...couples fight for what seems like years unending but you never can tell.

Dear Tiwa, may God heal you and me too.
all the best

[color=#990000][/color] [b][/b] Gbam! YOU SAID IT ALL!

I am not married and therefore have no locus standi to discuss marriage.

However, as long as relationships goes, a lazy, unsuccessful and insecure man is as deadly as a ticking time bomb. Teebills should have seen this coming, and make plans to financially stabilise himself. The interminable dependence on a woman for livelihood doesn't only rob one of their respect and masculinity but cudgel their self esteem and spiral insecurities.

Women, go for a man that you naturally would submit to and whom you do not need to be told he is your Managing Partner. Even among the managing teams of companies and law firms, among directors there is a chairman, among partners there is a managing partner.

If respecting your partner, both ways now, does not come to you automatically, you are not in the right relationship and should quit. Likewise guys.

EfemenaXY:




Materialistic you.

But yeah, she should have made money from it - preferably in the highlighted, bold, green currency.

Honestly, I wonder how much she got. I hope she played it smart.
I would have made several TV channels and magazines fight for this interview. I know they would be willing to pay a huge amount to be the first ones to get this interview.

Mindfulness:




Honestly, I wonder how much she got. I hope she played it smart.
I would have made several TV channels and magazines fight for this interview. I know they would be willing to pay a huge amount to be the first ones to get this interview.

Yep. I don't think she played her cards very well.

I mean she more or less admitted their marriage is over. So, she should have used that opportunity to tell her story to the highest bidder in juicy bits (like a cliff hanger series) to the tune of nothing less than N45million.

EfemenaXY:


Yep. I don't think she played her cards very well.

I mean she more or less admitted their marriage is over. So, she should have used that opportunity to tell her story to the highest bidder in juicy bits (like a cliff hanger series) to the tune of nothing less than N45million.

Exactly! I love it when people know how to turn the worst of situations to their advantage.

And this one could have been turned easily into lots of cash.




I am afraid she overreacted and gave everything out for free.

Mindfulness:


Exactly! I love it when people know how to turn the worst of situations to their advantage.

And this one could have been turned easily into lots of cash.




I am afraid she overreacted and gave everything out for free.

Yep, a good Public Relations firm should have projected her as the long suffering, but understanding spouse pushed to the limit, whilst preserving her image (and reputation) and at the same time raking in lots of cash from the affair. That N45m mark, would have been her making a solid point.

Kind of like the Jordan (Katie) and Peter Andre saga. They've been divorced and remarried several times over to different spouses, but yet the media still manage to make those two interesting enough for the public to want to read up on them.

I agree she was impulsive and over-reacted as a result. What a waste.

ronald4lif:
I am not married and therefore have no locus standi to discuss marriage.

However, as long as relationships goes, a lazy, unsuccessful and insecure man is as deadly as a ticking time bomb. Teebills should have seen this coming, and make plans to financially stabilise himself. The interminable dependence on a woman for livelihood doesn't only rob one of their respect and masculinity but cudgel their self esteem and spiral insecurities.

Women, go for a man that you naturally would submit to and whom you do not need to be told he is your Managing Partner. Even among the managing teams of companies and law firms, among directors there is a chairman, among partners there is a managing partner.

If respecting your partner, both ways now, does not come to you automatically, you are not in the right relationship and should quit. Likewise guys.

Makes sense!
I concur with the emboldened, 100%

I think that interview was a sham.

I noticed her wearing scarf like an SU.

I had to go online to check some of her photos, especially where she was dancing on stage holding on to a guy, three-quarters of her butt a public display, and revealing her panties or the lack thereof.

it's difficult to pity them.

I look at newly wedded couples swooning over themselves and going ecstatic and I am always like "ki lo n s'awon eleyi, really?

it was when I saw a marriage of about 42years crash that I knew the devil must be working overtime.

wedding ceremonies should be solemn as far as I am concerned.

Marriage is not a destination, its a journey to a land nobody knows.

and wedding is the start of that journey. the more prayers you can heap on it the better.