Dear Bunmi,

I’m 23, a graduate and currently looking for a job. I’m in a relationship which is six months old. We stay in the same state but different towns. I’m also keeping an open mind about the relationship since I don’t know if he is serious or not. (Please correct me if I’m wrong). There’s this guy who has been asking me out. He’s 30.I met him in 2014 where I was working before I left for national youth service though we were not close. In March this year, my former boss called me to help her out with some work. He was was actually heading the team though the work lasted for five days. That’s when we got talking and eventually became close. He’s very eloquent, open and fun to be with. I told him I’m seeing someone and he said he doesn’t care. Apart from that, I’ve heard the way he talks about his past girlfriends among his colleagues at work, making jest of their features, and so on. I don’t have that ‘tall, slim, big, breasts’ feature of his ideal girl. I told him I wasn’t his type of girl though he didn’t understand what I meant, so we should keep things the way they are. He also has a six years old son. He had him when he was in his first year. He says he doesn’t plan to have further relationship with his baby mama, said they are incompatible. Presently, he says he doesn’t have any girlfriend. I’m writing you because, in as much as I’m afraid of getting intimate with him, I’m also afraid I might be falling for him. We see everyday except he travels. I’ve been to his house a couple of times and when he attempts to kiss me, I refused. The last time I was at his place, he asked me to sleep over but I refused. What if he’s a player and the whole thing is a bet among his colleagues? I’m saying this because I’m not the first person he’s trying to date from the workplace. I don’t want to make a fool of myself.

Amie,

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Dear Amie,

From your observation, it is obvious you really know he isn’t the type of man you should be jumping into bed with, but you really want a reaffirmation that you are making the right choice.

Despite keeping an open mind with whoever you think might be a good fit to be in a relationship with, it is really important to remind yourself that people don’t change overnight. It’s a process and from what you have said about him, that man hasn’t begun that process. You have a long and bright future ahead of you, focus right now on building yourself by finding your next job and your love life with the man you’re currently with. This guy is trouble… Steer clear!

Bunmi


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DEAR AMIE its obvious that he is after your body and he dont love you, for the fact that he made several attempts to have sex with you is enough clue that he is not a husband material, a gentle man that loves and respect a lady that he really wants to get married to will not make several attempt to sleep with her, let the sex urge come from the lady herself.

run for your dear life o!!!

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