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Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by iamauxin(m): 2:11pm On Jun 24, 2016
Bollinger:


Our laws need serious revision.
lolz
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by Nobody: 2:12pm On Jun 24, 2016
Na Play he be
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by Peritus(m): 2:13pm On Jun 24, 2016
shaybebaby:

I really hope no one votes for you after this display of stupidity. Your lack of humanity and robot-like thinking does NOT need further validation. I am addressing you and not the men on here because you are an example of someone who will probably raise sons in future. Is this what you will teach them, to violate your own sex?
My sister, it is not lack of humanity, blame it on our laws. Such is not called rape but assault. As a lawyer, i regret to say that legally a man is not capable of being rapped. But we all know it can happen anally. Such can come under sodomy or assault, but not rape. A woman is not capable of committing rape, but in actual sense, women do. Pls relax ur nerves.

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Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by satuma10: 2:19pm On Jun 24, 2016
Well the answer is in two ways.from law perspective, many will say forcing ones wife on sex is rape but on the other way,why should a good wife who is legally married resist her husband sex that will lead him forcing her to sex knowing fully well that denying him his rights is a sin before God and if it is agreed that denials of sex to her husband is a sin then her actions leading the husband forcing her to sex should nt be rape if he can not bear it REMEMBER before this man went to this extent I guess he has endured it for long
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by Nobody: 2:24pm On Jun 24, 2016
Hmmm... After they will tell u to wait till u take them to the alter, yet will still say no when ya wanna do....


As for me if u tell me to wait till marriage cos u think it's bad or ur pastor tells u not to.. Omo you're on your own... Simple
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by Gooci(m): 2:29pm On Jun 24, 2016
BeastAmbition:


Do a man has the right to have sex with his wife by force when she is disinterested? yes he won't enjoy it, she won't too, so what's the joy in forcing her to.
this man don kill me..... lol
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by Gracito(f): 2:30pm On Jun 24, 2016
XketchDesigns:

it is not.. he already paid for it why should she deny him?
nawao, she's not a LovePeddler. They should be able to understand themselves as adults. She would have a reason for denying him that
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by satuma10: 2:32pm On Jun 24, 2016
With this kind of issues, it is wise to consult God when making a choice so you will not end up marrying a total stranger as your wife because if you get a bone of your bone there is no way she will starve you of sex and even if situations warrants that, the way of her approach to her husband will reduce the sexual urge of the husband because its only lack of moral that will derive joy forcing his legally married beloved wife to sex.Well only the matured are meant for marriage not kids
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by suco01(m): 2:33pm On Jun 24, 2016
It is called MARRITAL RAPE It is called MARRITAL RAPE It is called MARRITAL RAPE
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by RaeMystix: 2:37pm On Jun 24, 2016
100%. Sex without a mutual agreement means rape.

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Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by Nobody: 2:39pm On Jun 24, 2016
rape but it's funny how someone will be charged to court for raping."who?"his wife" lol
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by paris10: 2:40pm On Jun 24, 2016
Bunch of teenagers ranting it is rape. Thats what you signed up for when you were both joined together. Enough of the Western ideas playing on your minds. It is not rape period.

Bible admonish that wives should never deny their husbands sex except if she's fasting. Women now have alot on their minds than sex. They fantasized about material things that would take ages to acquire. In a nutshell, if you want regular sex with your wife, give her all she needs.

Here in Africa, its called deprivation. In Western world, it's called rape.

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Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by oodua1stson: 2:42pm On Jun 24, 2016
I know some foreign countries have no sense




But in Nigeria it's not rape
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by kanmifad(m): 2:43pm On Jun 24, 2016
I think it is better called sexual assault and if the wife report such an issue doubt. although, from the bible view of point it should be mutual understanding and wife should be treated with respect.

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Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by joe4real12: 2:45pm On Jun 24, 2016
Sermwell:
stop displaying your ignorance on social media! There no nigerian law that provides that a man can rape his wife!
You sound like a marital rapist. Are you
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by joe4real12: 2:49pm On Jun 24, 2016
joe4real12:
Yes it's Rape as its without her consent.
We don't need to be told by the Law not to have forced sex with our wives. Applying common sense, we should know it's wrong.

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Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by UuzbaGuuzba: 2:50pm On Jun 24, 2016
paschu:
Personally, any attempt by my wife to resist my sexual advances would turn OFF every atom of sexual urge in me at once. I refuse to accept the norm of begging or manipulating one's way into sex.

But come to think of it...

Since sex is STRICTLY for marriage, why then should a man be accused of rape when he INSISTS on having sex with his own wife? Does that not sound hypocritical to you?

I think a (Christian) woman has no business getting married in the first place if she ever brings herself to the point where her own husband will have to force her to have sex wirh him. That's absurd.

You cannot be a wife and still refuse to have sex with your husband when he wants it.

You also cannot be a husband and still refuse to have sex with your wife when she wants it.


Both are purely unscriptural.


The issue here is that SEX is a physical action. Every animal does it and Animal man does it too. That's why animals form no bond after the sex. And animal man also forms no bond after the sex. The roam about from from one mate to another, Lizards, chickens and all unmarried runs men and women.

But marriage is a spiritual union that draws you both closer to God.
So in marriage what happens is called Love making.

It physically looks like sex. But it is a moment of strengthening the love between both spouses.

A man FORCING .... That you even forced, makes the possibility of love nonexistent. After your deed, the woman will hate you more.
If a woman can also force a man to have sex by forcefully stimulating him, the man will hate the woman because she will just be behaving EXACTLY like a prostitute, Kpom, Runs girl. ( The guy will think , " So I married an ashawo. If I travel, what will she do behind me?) No matter how he yeilds, he will hate her more.

Make Love NOT sex. If either of you force yourself on the other one, think what you will do, when the other one travels. You will quite easily commit any type of adultery, masturbation and scandal due to your lack of control.

People that do this, - No heaven for you.

Control your self. Marriage isn't easy. That's another reason why we respect our parents.

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Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by ooshinibos: 2:53pm On Jun 24, 2016
what about if a woman forces her husband to have sex , is it a rape as well

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Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by austinmusa(m): 2:55pm On Jun 24, 2016
Make I use question answer ur question, if a woman refuses to have sex with the husband and d man goes out to seek another to satisfy his adultery inside his own house and under his roof, is it adultery or wickedness
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by Nobody: 2:57pm On Jun 24, 2016
joe4real12:
Yes it's Rape as its without her consent.
if on health ground, and the wife politely tell her huby and the husband still force her, its a rape and babaric, but otherwise, the wife is called foolish woman, she even violate God's constitution, it shows the Man who rape the wife even love the wife sef! To have force her where many girls out there waiting for who will just sex them.

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Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by joe4real12: 2:57pm On Jun 24, 2016
Bollinger:


Our laws need serious revision.
Seriously, the law on Rape in Nigeria is inadequate.
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by Nobody: 3:00pm On Jun 24, 2016
joe4real12:

Seriously, the law on Rape in Nigeria is inadequate.
are u kiding me? No law will frown at soom1 forcing his wife, there is nothing like husband forcing wife! It is husband and wife having misunderstanding.

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Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by Sleekyshuga(f): 3:01pm On Jun 24, 2016
emmaak2:
lol i bought her with my money she have 2 b humble
Which of the property is she undecided?
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by UuzbaGuuzba: 3:01pm On Jun 24, 2016
ooshinibos:
what about if a woman forces her husband to have sex , is it a rape as well

See my post above.

If you are a spiritual man, praying and fasting for whatever to God, and your wife comes to forcefully have sex on you, it will be like distracting you from your prayers. She will just be like devil dragging you away from the presence of God.

Most men are not all that prayerful. They are always thinking about sex. A problem for this generation and a great joy to Devil.

You do owe your wife sexual satisfaction.

But you also owe God spiritual satisfaction. Balance the two.

Check out the guys in the Bible. Sheybe you know Moses had a wife Ziphora and Kids. And he was blessed enough to discuss with God "Face to Face.. as a man talks to his friend.

All your fasting a prayer, have you ever reached the level of seeing God face to face and discussing? Did moses wife complain?
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by joe4real12: 3:04pm On Jun 24, 2016
UuzbaGuuzba:


The issue here is that SEX is a physical action. Every animal does it and Animal man does it too. That's why animals form no bond after the sex. And animal man also forms no bond after the sex. The roam about from from one mate to another, Lizards, chickens and all unmarried runs men and women.

But marriage is a spiritual union that draws you both closer to God.
So in marriage what happens is called Love making.

It physically looks like sex. But it is a moment of strengthening the love between both spouses.

A man FORCING .... That you even forced, makes the possibility of love nonexistent. After your deed, the woman will hate you more.
If a woman can also force a man to have sex by forcefully stimulating him, the man will hate the woman because she will just be behaving EXACTLY like a prostitute, Kpom, Runs girl. ( The guy will think , " So I married an ashawo. If I travel, what will she do behind me?) No matter how he yeilds, he will hate her more.

Make Love NOT sex. If either of you force yourself on the other one, think what you will do, when the other one travels. You will quite easily commit any type of adultery, masturbation and scandal due to your lack of control.

People that do this, - No heaven for you.

Control your self. Marriage isn't easy. That's another reason why we respect our parents.
You've said it all.
No responsible man will ever force his wife he loves.
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by Ifebazz(m): 3:04pm On Jun 24, 2016
BeastAmbition:
When a man force his wife for sex is it a rape?

Firstly, if it results to force before sex, then they are not married but cohabiting.
Secondly if she says no, respect her.
Ashawo dey if e too hold you.

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Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by paris10: 3:06pm On Jun 24, 2016
Time without number, my woman forced me to have s.ex with her. Do I call it rape too?
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by ooshinibos: 3:09pm On Jun 24, 2016
UuzbaGuuzba:


See my post above.

If you are a spiritual man, praying and fasting for whatever to God, and your wife comes to forcefully have sex on you, it will be like distracting you from your prayers. She will just be like devil dragging you away from the presence of God.

Most men are not all that prayerful. They are always thinking about sex. A problem for this generation and a great joy to Devil.

You do owe your wife sexual satisfaction.

But you also owe God spiritual satisfaction. Balance the two.
wow you must be some serious religious Nigerian ...who told you sex in a marriage is a distraction to God , God created sex ,it cannot be a distraction , God is bigger than sex , Nigerians have made God small ..and that's why there is little or no prosperity in the country ..see the state of your roads and electricity supply , even non religious have done better , prove me wrong ..what Nigerian call spiritual is not spiritual at its laziness and docile ..wake up and do something with the intelligence God gave you

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Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by Nobody: 3:13pm On Jun 24, 2016
Not rape in Africa.
We paid for it.
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by aalangel(f): 3:14pm On Jun 24, 2016
BeastAmbition:
When a man force his wife for sex is it a rape?


After watching a Mexican soap yesterday, I almost posted this question. In this case, the marriage was contractual and the guy was a beast. He lost his patience and raped the "wife". I'll watch today to see how it plays out. But really, if it's forceful and without consent, wife or of course no wife, IT IS RAPE!!!
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by Perfectionist11: 3:15pm On Jun 24, 2016
Some guys self..shey na food..??..U dey stay under d same roof 2geda..U go just multiply d knack**ng d next tym..

Any sex without consent na rape.
Re: When A Man Forces His Wife For Sex, Is It A Rape? by W3irDo: 3:17pm On Jun 24, 2016
No, itz play

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